A tamed animal is a lame animal!
Ok, bad way to start off an article by drawing a reference between men and beast.
What I wanna share with you guys today are some very powerful insights when it comes to relationship management.
If you’re not in a relationship now- still read on!
You will eventually find yourself in 1, so it’s best you take heed ahead of time to avoid bawling your eyes out later.
What is a chick’s # 1 goal after she gets her man (whether she’s aware of this goal or not)?
To tame him!
Getting tamed doesn’t necessarily means that you as a man were once a wild-fucking animal off the leash before you met your girlfriend (or wife).
Merely being a super-cool guy, outspoken and sociable, would classify you as someone who needs to be tamed…that’s according to the modus operandi of most girlfriends.
Would girls in general fess up to wanting to tame their boyfriends?
Of course not!
Therefore, it’d be very stupid to ask your girlfriend if she’s trying to tame or change you in some way or fashion.
She won’t say yes (as you’ve already figured).
This really boils down to survival, preservation and a little craziness.
She will obviously scheme to tame you so as to keep you off the dating and mating market as much as possible in order to have you for herself.
This isn’t bad in theory!
I mean, it’s actually what every woman should do in order to try to keep their mates around.
However, it gets deeper and more sinister 😈 .
The thing you should realize as a guy is that being “Tamed” is synonymous with the following adjectives and states:
I can ramble the fuck on and on with a day’s worth of negative connotations associated with being “Tamed”: but I’ll stop there.
Now, does any of those adjectives describe someone a woman would find attractive, sexy and relationship material?
I don’t have to be a woman to bet on this 1.
Those are all negative qualities when attributed to a man. And men displaying those qualities are often shunned by hot chicks and tossed into the dreaded pit of courtship better know as “the friendzone”.
To draw a reference, if you were standing at a bar brimming with the above qualities while hoping to get laid or find a girlfriend: you will have been disqualified within the first 2 seconds of being in the venue.
You wouldn’t have a real shot with quality women [not even the ugly ones].
On the flip side, let’s say that some of the following qualities were oozing out your frikkin’ pores like sweat after a grueling workout:
Now you’ll begin to look attractive, desired and very much like boyfriend material.
The problem this guy will encounter whenever he gets into a relationship, is the 1st. order of the day on his new girlfriend’s agenda: to actively try to strip away those positive qualities and turn him into the guy who has the 1st. set of qualities (negatives) highlighted above in pink.
She will do whatever she has to in order to reform you.
As put by the Pickup gurus, it’s her gender role to get the man domesticated and tamed.
Whether it’s her job by nature or something she’s adopted is up for debate. But the fact of the matter is: she will try to change and chip away at the guy she was once super attracted to, who had all the qualities she truly desires [the ones in blue].
Sounds pretty backwards when you think about it.
Some guys, even women, reading this may say: “What’s wrong with change and reformation and trying to get the boyfriend or husband to be more subdued”?
There’s nothing wrong with reformation and being tamed in this sense.
However, the repercussion comes next.
I won’t beat around the bush on this 1.
If she manages to tame you and strip away your attractive qualities which led her to you in the first place: She will dump you!!!
Either that or she’ll use you, drive your ass nuts, cheat on you…then dump you anyways.
It’s pretty much that simple.
If you allow her to have her way in the sense of introducing you to her likes, her desires, her hobbies, her taste in music, fashion, her lifestyle, her ideal type: She will fucking ditch you!
If she can literally shape you into her ideal man (excluding the physical aspect), 9 in 10 times, it’d be someone completely different than who you are and she’ll begin to have regrets.
Hey guys, ever been dumped or had your girlfriend wanting to take a break/space from the relationship, even when things were going ok?
Well the culprit just might be your taming (perpetrated by her).
Whenever a girl requests a break/space or some time to clear her head and so forth; she’s obviously bored, jaded, fed up or a combination of the 3.
Her feelings stem from the lack of attractive stimulation after she was able to subdue and change you from the once attractive Alpha guy to the now passive, go-with-the-flow, non-confrontation Beta male.
She now resents you as a fucking man!
She can’t believe she’s with you!
Albeit she was the 1 who insisted on changing and taming you 😆 😆 !!!
It is mostly subtle and flies beneath the radar like stealth bombers!
Fortunately for you, having read this article, you will see it all coming and know from whence it came and the purpose.
Ok, some quick template scenarios of a girlfriend or wife attempting to tame you for the proverbial kill (albeit unintentional):
* She tries to get you to watch the programs that she watches on TV (granted they are lame programs).
* She insists that you cut your hair or shave a certain way…although the haircut you had when you first met her, was sufficient enough to attract her then.
* Tries to get you to ditch the boys by demanding or requesting more of your time.
* Demands more explanations from you when it comes to trivial matters.
* Wants you to lose weight while simultaneously altering your diet by introducing you to fatty foods.
* Gets you to take her out more often.
Those are just the tips of the iceberg, and you can probably come up with some other ones you might be familiar with.
Now, don’t mistake these signs for simple suggestions and recommendations from your girlfriend.
There’s a thin line between the 2 [trying to tame and simply recommending something]. But you’ll be able to sense the subtle innuendos beneath the surface.
In essence, taking suggestions and sharing ideas, thoughts and so forth are great things for peer bonding.
However, you as a man, will have to sift through what is genuine, risky or disingenuous.
On a deeper level, what I’m about to say may come off as very sexist and disturbing to many. And without a doubt, the feminist machine will be out to crucify me once and for all due to such declaration- but it must be said.
Women aren’t meant to lead!
They aren’t meant to be leaders.
That isn’t their role and never has been at any point in history: pre or modern.
A man who allows a woman to lead, for instance in an LTR (relationship or marriage), is essentially handing the wheels over to a blind, deaf and mute person on a freeway…going 90 MPH.
If you’re looking to careen off that bridge to a crashing death: then fine!
However, if you want to live, or in this case, preserve the relationship while maintaining your testicles: then you must take the steering wheel back which you shouldn’t have given her in the 1st. place!
A woman leading or dominating a relationship or the man in the relationship, is the most expedient way to bring it to a premature end!
Most men not being privy to this nor to the female nature, when faced with such situations, will shrug their shoulders in agreement to allowing the women to maneuver the relationship, under the impression that he’s being relieved of responsibility, duties, calls, decision-making, etc.
He can sleep while at the wheel (so he thinks).
Little does he know, ceding power over to the woman will be the biggest relationship mistake he’s ever made.
The only 2 likely outcomes to a woman taming you and having more leverage in the relationship are as follow:
1.) You will have become a giant pussy of a man with no say in the relationship, reduced to a role of passively accepting everything.
2.) She will cheat on you then dump you. If she has an ounce of heart in the reserve tank: she’ll dump you without cheating.
Take your pick!
There’s no greater teacher than personal-reference experience and looking at the examples of others around you.
I have an older-male cousin who’s about 40’ish [in retrospect: we laugh about it to this day].
He’s been with his girlfriend (now wife) for about 18 years. Just as with any relationship: ups, downs, splits, reconciliation, bla, bla, bla…
Now the thing is, prior to meeting her, he was a local-rockstar Reggae DJ throughout New York City. As a kid, he would take me on the road with him to perform at YMCA’s, PAL events, clubs, Caribbean-theme weddings, etc.
I mean- he was the fucking man!
He was getting so much pussy and groupie-loving that I actually almost lost my virginity to 1 of his groupies who was just too much for him to handle.
She virtually tried to rape me but I got let off the hook due to situational-erectile dysfunction 😆 !
Anyway, ironically enough, his girlfriend (now wife) happened to have been 1 of his groupies whom he met at a Hip-Hop DJ event in Manhattan.
He seen something in her which set her apart from the other fans, and vice versa…I guess.
As expected; she was in love with the hype, the gloss and glitter, wild lifestyle, women, aura, music, lights, club-hopping, etc.
My cousin, the DJ, was her ideal man!
Fast forward nearly 2 decades; he no longer DJ’s, no longer goes out, gave up his social life practically, has no other women in his life…
He was essentially domesticated.
He didn’t give up his life passion of DJ’ing because he wanted to. Nor because he felt he was getting too old and wanted to quit to do something less hectic (he’s only about 40 years old currently).
He quit because she suggested he do something more productive and laid-back which didn’t draw so much women and attention.
He wrestled with the suggestion then decided to quit.
Eventually got a cushy job at **********.
With that, he was no longer the “cool DJ”.
He was so much on autopilot mode that he didn’t even question anything or changes she recommended.
She felt he was a bit too heavy, started feeding him what she liked: his diet changed.
Now bear in mind the likely 2 outcomes I’d mentioned above which culminate after a woman tames a guy:
1.) He will have become a giant pussy of a man with no say in the relationship, reduced to a role of passively accepting everything.
2.) She will cheat on him then dump him. If she has an ounce of heart in the reserve tank: she’ll dump him without cheating.
Seventy five percent of the time: she will dump the guy [that’s if the relationship hadn’t reached marriage].
If it’s a marriage, there’s more social pressure on her to stay, plus she might not want to go through a drawn-out divorce, so she’ll stay but dominate, eat away at the guy’s soul, and periodically enjoy some extramarital affairs 😉 .
In fewer cases of relationships [25%], she will stay with the guy once he has been tamed, neutralized and conformed and no longer considered a threat to her well-being and survival since she doesn’t have to worry about competing women and so forth.
Anyway, so the girl decided to stay with my DJ cousin, but she since has sole control of the relationship (now marriage).
She wears the pants. She calls the shots.
Nowadays, he’s virtually friend-less while she still has her male and female friends. She has her cake [being in a relationship where she dominates] and is eating it too [still has a social-circle of friends and options in men].
My cousin’s situation isn’t unique by far.
It’s actually the norm.
This is the classic case of the no-lifer boyfriend turned husband who’s reduced to playing in-house poker with the husbands of his wife’s friends.
You see it potrayed in sitcoms all the time.
This is your typical-marriage dynamic: the wife remains jovial, elegant and social. The husband is restricted to a work-to-home routine while life blows by him. Has no meaningful hobbies but watching men grind on men [the NFL] once a week.
He become a specialist in arguing sports with the other Beta-ized husbands who’ve been castrated.
We all know lots of men like this!
More than 50% of your male coworkers fit this criterion, or will once they get into serious relationships or marriages.
You have uncles like this.
Your father is or was probably 1 😉 !
The downfall of these men [most men for that matter] came about once they passively allowed their girlfriends and wives to tame them, reform and remodel them into new men with new outlooks on life.
Think Adam and Eve for those who subscribe to Biblical stories. She expedited his downfall by suggesting (subtly leading) that he consume a certain-forbidden food.
The unsuspecting men in these situations never thought anything of it, just as most of us wouldn’t.
To really hammer home the point with some icing and cherry on the cake: the twisted irony of everything I’d written in this article is, once she remodels the guy by stripping away all of his perceived coolness which had attracted her in the first place, instead of being content with the new man she’s made, this new-tamed and controlled man, she begins to resent him and her attraction for him dies.
Also guys, please don’t get the impression that I’m only referring to marriages or long-term relationships here.
The mission of looking to tame and subtly dominate you will commence from the very instance your cock penetrates her vaj!
This can be as early as a One-Night Stand.
The day after; you will be fucking tested!
This is all assuming that she sees you as possible-relationship material.
By the way, I am no exception to any of this. My girlfriend has been covertly trying to tame me and sway the relationship since we met 🙂 .
When I first met my current girlfriend 4 years ago at a wedding party, we eventually hooked up.
Bear in mind- I owe this girl nothing at all- and vice versa.
We obviously weren’t dating. Just a one off!
The day after hooking up for the first time, she calls me over to her place and we hang out a bit.
She says to me:
“I smell cigarette on your breath. Didn’t know you smoke”.
Me: “I don’t smoke at all. Never have”.
GF: “How come I smell cigarette on your breath though”?
Now, she wasn’t questioning me in a controlling-contentious manner since technically she had no right to even question me.
This was all subtle-innocent chitchat in a semi-sarcastic joking manner.
Lots of guys would see this as charming and flattering:
“Yes! I got her hooked now. She’s dick-whipped! She’s mines”!!!
I didn’t read much of anything into it.
Oh, the reason I had cigarette scent on my breath was because I was making out with a girl who smokes whom I was just banging prior to stopping by my near-future girlfriend 😉 .
Refer to an article I wrote in reference to the year 2009 as being the year in which I slept with the most women in my life as my Pickup/Seduction skills were at their peak: My fuck-tank is on empty.
In that year alone, I had about 30 One-Night Stand pulls from the nightclub, which is mainly why I’d always dubbed myself The king of nightclub pickup!!!
Anyway, so my GF knew that I was a Pick-Up Artist/lady’s man, and it was in her best interest + her gender role to tame that beast…or cut it out of me if she could!
Therefore, when she coyly questioned me about the cigarette scent, it was her 1st. play in the game to tame me or test the waters to see how pliable and bendable I was.
Saying all that to say, the girl will try to tame you from the instance she senses that she could see herself with you in a relationship. So before she’s even your girlfriend; she’s already scheming to soften you up, test you and reform you.
Irony is, my girlfriend had managed to subdue and tamed me 😆 !
I’m man enough to admit; she had me by the fucking balls!
About the 2nd. year into the relationship (early 2011), I was virtually neutered, castrated and whipped.
My pick-up skills were shitty due to the lack of gaming other women since I was so bogged down in this imbalanced relationship where I was the lap-dog and she the master.
I was literally on the verge of being dumped so I sought some relationship advice from the Pickup gurus (Chief PUA, Madal & Kasabi) on the Master Pick-Up Artist forum. I wanted to learn how to regain dominance to possibly save the relationship before being dumped.
Some of that advice I’ll be sharing with you guys right now: scenarios on how not to get tamed and how to free yourself before you get dumped [that’s if you want to save the relationship].
You’re now well aware as to why you shouldn’t allow the girl to tame or change you (for the worst).
Oh- before proceeding, lemme share another quick anecdote.
On a more recent occasion, I’d gotten a mini Mohawk haircut as I like to call it [can’t anymore since my hair is thinning 😦 ].
At first, my GF sorta liked it, warmed up to the idea then loved it!
A week later: wanted me to cut it because she thought it made me look too “out there”.
Another occasion, I got my eyebrow pierced. She was pissed as hell and insinuated I remove it because of a potential-job interview and I should want to make a good impression at job fairs.
That made sense when I thought about it!
However, I knew beneath the surface, it was an attempt to further strip away my independence/individuality to further mold me into a passive pussy.
To counter this, I advise you to: Do it on your own time and terms!!!
Therefore, I fucking procrastinated like hell with removing my brow ring.
Just to do it on my term and my time; not when she wanted it done!
For clarification sake guys, it’s not like my GF, nor any other girl for that matter, would be all confrontational and controlling about it.
They merely suggest or hint at it.
You rob her of power and control by procrastinating on whatever it is she requests of you to handle or change.
The moment you immediately give in or instantly agree with her suggestion, it’s 1 step further out of the relationship door she’s taking…or she’ll stay just to relish in the power-trip while cheating on you since she basically fucking owns you SON!!!
If she manages to get herself into hot water over suspected cheating; she’ll just take the easy way out by flat dumping you or giving you a soft landing by saying:
“I think we need a break or space for a while”.
Quick note: if she suggests you stop doing something, and if it’s really practical for you to desist [let’s say that you’ve been spending too much cash on unnecessary stuff], then you should stop or let up but just not on her time.
She insinuates that you cease drinking by Wednesday because of her mother’s birthday party on Saturday, and she wants you to show up sober: You either cease drinking on Friday instead, or simply show up hammered just to prove a point of not conforming when she wishes or implies on the drop of a dime.
She complains that her coworkers’ boyfriends always call them 5 times a day and you only call once, basically insinuating that you should call her more; you ignore it!
Sure- talk about it! But don’t start calling her 5 times per day starting from the following day because she requests or bitches about it.
If you personally feel that you should call her more than 1 time daily, then do it on your own time and not right away, nor the following day!
Use social intelligence to gauge when is the right time.
A quick tangent, if she suggest something positive, fun, cool, rad, adventurous, sexual, etc. then by all mean you should jump on it!!!
If she suggests you get a nice shirt which will accentuate your pecks or forearms: then do it- NOW!
If she’s encouraging you to do something that would make you a more attractive man and enhance your lifestyle: then you should do it!
It’s only when she’s trying to get you to desist from, or start doing something that will make you look like a fucking Beta and less attractive to women: like calling her more, or joining a book club (that’s if it’s not your original idea), then that’s when you should drop the fucking hammer!
To illustrate how often this happens, just last week, my GF said to me:
“My girlfriend’s boyfriend brings her lunch almost everyday to work. You rarely do that for me”.
We wrestled with it: subject dropped. A week went by and I stuck to my customary 1 lunch meal delivery per week for her.
Had I immediately expressed inadequacy as a man that another man was providing more than I am for his girl, and I acknowledged it as a shortcoming so I doubled down the next day…as positive as that sounds, it would’ve been a negative for me, and a plus for her in that she gains more control and leverage, while the attraction fades and I become less than a man and more like a submissive follower without his own path.
Another scenario: she met you as a guy who had numerous chicks in his life. She knew this and seen this but didn’t have the authority to bitch about it.
Y’all become exclusive then she suggests in whatever manner chosen, that you cut off those other girls and knock off your tendency to flirt with other chicks.
The moment you do as she says (or suggests): the attraction she’d felt for you, including the chemistry will have sunken tremendously!
The # 1 factor that keeps a girl around and keeps her in check, is if she knows or at least senses that you have the option to go fuck other women or dump her for another girl!
Fuck all the hype about having a bigger cock, more $$$, cuter face, defined 6 pac abs…
Those things cannot keep a woman around, nor can they keep her from cheating, simply because those things are material child’s play!
As the NLP seduction saying goes: “If you want a girl to madly fall in love with you: seduce her mind then her body will follow”.
In other words, the mind (perception) is more powerful than the body (material/reality).
We all can attest to that.
Just as if you have someone under hypnosis: their body is rendered disabled because the mind is captured or captivated.
However, if you capture someone’s body yet their mind is free, then he or she can still devise a way to escape physically…like a prison break.
Likewise with a girl in a relationship scenario: if she knows or senses (through perception) that you can have other women, hotter, smarter younger and more fertile than she is, she will be kept in line, kept intrigued, kept attracted and kept in the relationship.
She only has to sense that you can dump her any minute for another woman (preferably better but that doesn’t matter).
Saying all that to say, if your girlfriend or wife tries to get you to stop flirting with other women (within bounds), stop being as sociable or to cut off other women: DO NOT LISTEN TO HER!!!
It’s a trick and a preemptive mechanism in order to tame you and secure you from other men-snatching women.
Incidentally, as she gains psychological security because you’d alienated yourself from other women as she suggested, she will begin to see you as a Beta-Male (a lesser man) who is unable to present her with any challenge: she will rebel and start a plethora of unnecessary drama just to force a breakup (she dumping you).
This happens everyday!
Most men have been in this predicament at least once or twice, where he cuts off all his options then subsequently gets dumped unceremoniously (where he’s left with no options).
Weeks later, he then finds himself phoning Jackie whom he’d cut off cold a while back.
Jackie feels betrayed and is uninterested that she was cut off due to this guy’s girlfriend (now ex) suggesting he cuts all ties with other women.
I’ve been there; and most men who get laid have been there also 🙂 !!!
Having options with women will be your biggest card to play in your relationship: your trump card…and she know it!
It will be the only thing that can keep her around, especially after your $$ has depleted, your cock gets tiring, the sex becomes monotonous and good conversation dries up.
I’ve learned this the hard way. And if you allow a girl, or your girlfriend to tame you in anyway, especially by having you sever ties with other chicks, you might as well hire some comedians early ’cause you’ll be the laughingstock of your own show.
You should only cut ties with women if it’s something you yourself felt necessary. But it’s still taking a huge risk since women want what other women want.
If you’re left without other women in your life, then your girlfriend’s attraction for you will naturally diminish since she doesn’t have the competing element keeping her on her toes.
The overall theme is, you do what you want on your time without coercion from her.
I’m also not saying that a guy should always put up a fake front and show of masculinity. Showing some vulnerability is a plus, but you have to know when and how to balance them all within your relationship in order to maintain leadership and your manhood.
Don’t let her change you unless it’s change that you personally wanted.
And if you don’t have a score of other chicks in your life: go meet other women!
I’ll leave you with a solid video from the Pickup coach, RSD Julien, as he shed some light on the same concept spoken of in this article.