The Dreaded 1-Worders + Going 90-10 With (Shy) Girls

Sometimes a girl won’t give you much (verbally or textually), largely because she’s shy, or just doesn’t know how to process your novel approach (in this case, my approach). 

Most guys make the blunder of thinking that the girl isn’t interested because she only gives 1-liners and 1-worders. That is very true…but only if your game sucks.

Most times however, when a girl hits me with very little in reciprocation, I interpret that to mean that she isn’t warmed up to me…AS YET!

In that case; I plow a with more self-amusement shit that doesn’t make logical sense, but is funny anyway. 

Hence, that’s what I do whenever a girl replies with very little: I keep plowing with nonsense until she eventually opens up.

Nine in ten times, the girl eventually opens up within days or weeks of me intermittently inboxing her.

Also, you have girls who are naturally on the shier side. So you won’t get much either way out of such girls. So you have to plow with your stuff, regardless.

Additionally, as long as the girl’s responding, it is always the best sign!

Doesn’t matter if it’s 1 worders. The fact that she invests and expends energy and time into replying, means that there’s some level of engagement there.

Moreover, your chances are only doomed when the girl isn’t responding at all. As you will see in the chat log here between this total stranger (a pastry chef) and me, her replies are 1-worders for the most part.

However, I kept doing my stuff because I know she loves it [women in general dig lighthearted nonsense 🙂 ], but she doesn’t know how to mentally process my unorthodox approach which she finds very amusing.

All in all, don’t become discombobulated by minimal replies from the girl.

Keep amusing yourself, and keep amusing her, and eventually, the needle will tilt to a more balanced interaction which will lead to a pickup.

On a related note, in the old school Pick-up world, there’s something dubbed the 90-10 rule: the beleaguered 90-10 rule.

It essentially says that the guy is expected to do 90% of the talking (initially) as you’d seen in the screenshots above.

I did the bulk of the contribution: 90% of it.

If you can’t do 90% of the talking/texting on the initial pickup, then it’ll be real difficult for you to game, pick up and bang shy girls [total strangers primarily], or any girl for that matter, since it’s incumbent upon the guy to attract, woe, court and seduce (not the other way around).

As the girl begins to open up, things will have shifted to a more balanced flow.

Don’t Be So Fast On Pulling The “Delete” Trigger [Online-Game Pointers]

Less than a month ago, I added this random HB8 to Facebook (the chick pictured above), with the intention of hitting her up, charm her a bit, and set up a rendezvous in the hopes of sex.
Thus, I threw my opener at her back on August 25th.
[My messages in blue]

[Above] She replied 3 days later about being a hustler, which is why she’s so busy.

Weeks go by without a response from her, to my question (above) about her availability to chitchat.

This morning [Tuesday], I noticed that she was online, so I felt as though she was blatantly ignoring me for some unknown reason.

I decided to hit her up again via inbox (this morning) before 7 AM about slowing the hell down if she’s always busy and hustling.

[My messages in blue]

[Above] A very ballsy opener on my part, since at that point, she could’ve basically blocked me for being obnoxious. But that’s a gamble I took, knowing that women respond to guys who are cocky, dominant, assholish, etc. As you could see, by doing that, I was able to get a response from her again after weeks. Although I was being somewhat pushy, I wasn’t coming across as needy.

I absolutely didn’t buy her story about not having Messenger and so forth. I think she flat-out ignored me because women tend to go into auto-piloted mode once some guy inboxes them- since chances are- the guy is likely some AFC Beta-Male ready to ass kiss them.

Hence, she had all reasons to surmise that I was just another pussified chode flooding her inbox.

However, my hunch told me that she’d scanned my profile and seen how high value I was, and then she decided to engage me, upon realizing that I was Alpha. 😉

Sensing that if this girl’s story was genuine, I had no time to waste, so I acted swiftly on trying to #-close. She basically asking me “how’s eveything”, was my cue to act now before some more weeks go by without a response!

[My messages in blue]

[Above] Here’s the thing: I currently reside in the Caribbean islands, in a 2-island state next-door to each other. I work and reside on 1 island, but hop the ferry or plane to the other island virtually every weekend to date, party and get laid.

Kenny ferrying to the neighboring island about 30 minutes away

Either way, the reception was great as you seen when the girl mentioned, “looking forward to meeting you”…meaning me.

When going for a fast phone number because of stringent time-constraints, what I usually do is tell the girl that I want her # in order to hit her up (on Whatsapp or otherwise) later in the week. Why do I ensure to say “later in the week”? You want to give the girl a sense of assurance that you won’t be bombarding her on day 1 with texts and calls, upon getting her phone number. Thus, you allay the girl’s fear of that happening, by telling her that you want to hit her up later in the week, or even next week. Additionally, it sub-communicates to the girl that you aren’t needy and desperate, but high value, with other shit going on for yourself.

No need to say, but the #-close was successful…as expected.

Although I was being insistent on gaining her attention, was I needy about it? No! I was dominant but not needy.

It is very clear that this chick is up for seeing me whenever I decide to organize the meetup for drinks…which is code language for, “Let’s have sex”.

Also, what did I do at the very end upon securing her #?

One of my usual routines: I SAY BYE!!!

I told her I’ll hit her up near the weekend.

Not only does this make me appear high value and important in her eyes [telling her bye before she does it to me], but it shows her that I am socially intelligent enough to not try to keep her there messaging back and forth as if I had nothing better to do.

On a final note, another concept that I revolutionized and pioneered in the PUA community in regards to social-media game, is the concept of “waiting before nexting/deleting the girl”!

Most guys in pickup are so hawkishly dogmatic about certain theories and concepts of the game, that they fail to become malleable and flexible in their approach to the game.

I come across tons of PUA’s running Facebook Game, who routinely delete/unfriend or block girls for not replying promptly or at all.

Admittedly; I was the same! If a chick on Facebook didn’t reply to my message(s) within 1 hour, I would either block or delete her.

By doing this, I was losing a decent portion of girls whom I could’ve picked up.

That’s when I hit the proverbial laboratory and began analyzing this whole arbitrary nexting thing.

Wha I’m about to tell you will strike you as utterly contradicting on all fronts…but here goes: Women are never busy, and surely never too busy to reply to your messages! on the other hand, women have so much shit going on (online) that it is almost impossible for them to get back to you in prompt fashion!

Sheer contradiction!

Here’s the deal though: sure women get hundreds of messages on a weekly basis and there is no way possible for them to check them all. However, the messages that a girl likely ignores are the ones from Beta-Males who are kissing her ass.

Women read every message! But they only respond to the ones they find as valuable.

With this girl here, by all means, she thought that I was 1 such guy: a loser and a kiss-ass looking to scoop her poop on Messenger. However, she found out otherwise, likely via my Facebook status updates.

Again- this is another instance where posting the right shit to social media will attract women- just as I taught you in a recently published post.

Also, your messages must come off as non-needy!

When that is all said and done, it is well worth it to exercise some patience and keep those girls in the loop, even though they’ve been ignoring your messages.

There could exist a genuine reason as to why they couldn’t get back to you! But if you take premature actions towards deleting them (or blocking), then all hope is lost!

Therefore, before nexting another girl whom you suspect is intentionally blowing you off, you may want to keep her around just in case she comes around to replying.

With this girl here, it was a great example of just that. I’d messaged her since last month with just 1 reply in return which could’ve been deemed a brush off.

As usual, I went on to gaming other girls, then decided to give her another shot weeks later. Lo and behold: she engaged me earlier today.

That’s how you want to work it!

Lastly, by no means am I telling you to just wait around on this 1 girl to reply and engage you textually!

Game on! Game other girls!

You’ll be amazed when your inbox goes off and it’s a message from the girl who hadn’t gotten back to you in days, weeks or months.

Also, perhaps it was an oversight! The girl might have just missed your message, or it somehow got lost in the rubble of messages she receives on a daily basis. So hit her up again days or weeks later as I did, just to somewhat ping her again and to keep your message at the top of the pile.

Are there instances where I just flat out dismiss and defriend girls on Facebook?


However, those are situations where the girl might have made some snarky, bitch remark towards me on her post, which turned me off royally! Because of her attitude, compounded by the fact that she’s been ignoring my inbox messages, I would likely unfriend her and move on!

Apart from that, I keep girls around and try to charm then on their posts until they either reply, or I hit them up again just to see what gives.

I leave you with these 2 videos of mines (related to the topic at hand).

Getting Very Shy Girl To Open Up By…

Some girls take a while to open up; especially shy girls.

This girl here is absolutely the most shy girl I ever met in my life: bar fucking NONE!!

I mean, this girl is so shy that although we know each other for about a year now, I’ve only gotten about 50 words out of her to this day LOL!

She’s shy over text and in personal!

We actually never spoke over the phone.

This leads me to Friday, I decided to finally call her.

She purposely ignored my call. Not because she didn’t want to talk, but because she’s so shy.

Here’s the thing too: whenever a girl sends just 1 worders and keeps her messages very short, it usually boils down to 3 things:

1.) Very busy

2.) Very shy

3.) Not interested at all

With this girl; I already know she’s into me because we met up once…in which she virtually ran off due to the social pressure. But either way, from my vast experience, I’ve learned that to get a very shy girl to open up via text, you can say/text far out and ridiculous shit which forces her to have to respond with more than just an “okay, good, yes, no”.

Here’s an example from earlier today (Sunday) of me doing just that with the most shiest girl I ever met!

[My texts in green]

Through my Facebook page, a guy opined that he would never use such a strategy because it virtually looks like chasing and too much investing.

I’ve addressed this point years back, that when it comes to shy girls, you have to over-invest in texting or else you run a risk of losing the girl altogether.

Bear in mind that a shy girl isn’t socially, nor internally, equipped with the goods to make or carry conversation on their own.

For crying out loud: most women cannot spark and carry a conversation (via text especially), let alone to put such a burden of expectation on an introverted lass!

If you relax on your laurels and hope that out of thing air- a shy girl is going to (actively) pursue you- you are fucking kidding yourself!

With that being said, it is incumbent upon the pickup artist to have to triple his textual investments in order to make something happen.

Therefore, you cannot afford to play this, “I don’t wanna look needy” game with the shy types, by expecting to trade 1-for-1 text messages.

It is usually terrible text game to send a girl 2, 3 or 4 messages to every 1 she sends. But with a shy chick; this rule goes out the window, simply because she isn’t going to exchange text for text of any substance that would lead to places…such as heightened attraction or a meetup.

Thus, if you’re 1 of those guys who’s adamantly against sending barrage of texts under any circumstance, then you may want to revise that, with this case being an exception.

Moreover, and let’s get real here, what kind of conversation could possibly be generated if both parties aren’t investing meaningfully?

The Pussy Will Not Just Jump On Your Dick + The Many Ways You Fail To Be A Proactive Man In To Getting Laid

Men have a tendency to let laziness reign in relation to courtship and trying to hook up.

In fact, laziness may be an overstatement here. Perhaps it’s more like inactivity, too much comfort and mis-expectations.

I call this the curse of the technological age.

Since the advent and boom of the mobile phone over the last 12 years in particular, people no longer feel an urgency for face-to-face and direct communication.

Chicks got lazy and complacent to where the bulk of their communication is done over text.

Guys also got lazy and complacent and followed the technological trend and the trajectory of women.

Prior to 2012, a great portion of men [of the Alphas] still harbored the go-getter spirit and couldn’t actually sit back on their laurels and rely on text messages to facilitate hooking up.

They had to act or get left behind as far as getting laid was concerned.

Nowadays, with the curse and blessing of technological advancements, “why the fuck should I [as the guy] have to go get laid”!?

This is why online-dating has been so popular!

It’s the lazy man’s way of getting laid without having to put in any work.

Don’t get me wrong: I am all for online dating!

I love it! And a great percentage of the girls I sleep with is facilitated through online-dating sites or Facebook.

However, if the internet were to crash tomorrow and rendered every online-dating site downed, I can still hit the streets or the malls and pull asses.

Does the average guy who owns an online-dating profile, equip himself in such a way that if every online-dating website were to be disbanded, he’ll still put up decent dating numbers?

Unlike…which is why he has an online-dating profile to begin with [an alternative to actual and real interaction].

Hence, most of us guys nowadays [in the Americas and Europe] are playing armchair quarterbacks, and attempting to expend the least amount of time and energy with maximum returns via women crawling into our beds.

Now, granted in other aspects of pickup, seduction and life in general, the Pareto’s Law is applicable [that is where you do less and get max returns].

However, when it comes to actually getting chicks into the sack, least effort and being lazy and non-proactive about it, is a recipe for continued nights of fapping yourself to sleep.

You can only do less and get more ‘AFTER’ you will have picked up the girl, and gotten her attracted to your vibe to the point where you can just do shit and allow her to chase you…but even that has its limitations.

Evidently, even if you picked up a girl online, it doesn’t at all mean the sex is inevitable…as you’ve come to learn.

You are still required to execute some activity [the bulk of it].

Be as it may, technology has been a great contributor to the Beta-ization of men [Beta-ization meaning the weakening of men from Alpha to Beta-Males].

With that, we’ve created a situation where men are no longer proactive courters.

I can’t even begin to count how many nights [over the course of a decade actually] I’ve been in the club and witnessed guys faced-down in their smartphones thumbing away while women idly sit by.

Surely this plagues women way more than men [smartphone addiction]. But that is still no excuse for a guy to justify to himself why he shouldn’t be proactive.

The reality still remains the same yesterday as today: women are the courtees and not the courters!

Therefore, it is the woman’s gender role to play passive and inactive in courtship. So you as a man cannot be so foolish as to want to believe that women in the nightclubs or bars should be approaching you.

That is NOT a part of her gender role [to approach, chat up and court men]…unless she’s an astute prostitute or exotic dancer.

Hence, you should expect to see many girls faced-down in their smartphones and waiting for some brave-ballsy guy to approach them.

It is her role to be passive!

Examples of where and how guys show a lack of pro-activity

I intended for this post to be a very long one, but in the interest of time, I will shorten it up.

Let’s proceed with a few examples of where and how guys drop the ball and fail to be proactive in getting ass.

Guy texts girl, doesn’t get a reply. Instead of following up with a phone call at some point [perhaps half hour to an hour later], he aborts it all in trying to preserve value in order to not look desperate.

Listen- thing is- most girls have tons of guys texting them.

Your text may have just genuinely gone unnoticed in the fray.

It doesn’t hurt to either send another 1 or call!

You also should take into consideration that there do exist some women who aren’t fond of texting.

The British MILF I picked up days ago was 1 such chick.

Therefore, a follow-up call following your unanswered text is warranted.

You only appear desperate based on the content of your text messages.

For instance: you text the girl a rather decent text, she doesn’t reply. You text her again saying, “Hey Jenny, why aren’t you answering my last text”?

Now you become the needy, annoying and desperate guy because of such text. It isn’t the fact that you had texted her back to back without reciprocation.

With that, you have some guys who aren’t persistent because they don’t want to look desperate.

They wait, wait and wait and the girl inadvertently loses interest or the initial flame naturally dies out.

You’re better off risking it than not taking chances at all.

The girl isn’t just going to spread her legs and say “fuck me”!

You have to push the envelope, take risks and go for what you want!

Another fumbled opportunity I see lots of guys fall prey to are situations where girl has in earphones, listening to music or talking on the phone.

You may want to approach her but lose faith as you realize she has ear buds stuffed in her ears.

Again- women are passive beings.

She sitting, standing or walking listening to music is no reason why you as the guy shouldn’t approach and shouldn’t proactively try to state your case.

Women will do everything within their powers to stay as passive and inactive as possible where it relates to attraction and courtship.

It is her job to just dress the past, put on something attractive and hope for the best.

As the man, it is your gender role to pursue and court.

Addressing the Player Community

Please, please, please, I would love to address those guys out there who hold fast to the notion that “chasing ass” is beneath them and it is the wrong strategy.

You hear this quite often among black men, particularly the ones who subscribe to the player lifestyle as promoted through the internet by guys such as the Player Supreme whom I’ve had issues with a few years back over Youtube.

The Player Supreme is on board with 95% of what the pick-up community teaches, barring his wavering opinion on cold approaching.

He thinks that cold approaching women on the streets or anywhere for that matter, is a desperate and low-value act. For those who aren’t privy to pick-up jargon, “Cold Approaching” would mean approaching a random stranger [a girl] in order to pick her up.

Guys like my nemesis, the Player Supreme, believes that cold approaching is weak and for pussies.

The irony is really laughable when you think about it since approaching a random hottie on the streets requires balls of steel for most men on the globe. So how is cold approach for weak men?

Be as it may, such is the perception by the player society of men such as PUA’s who approach women.

However, there is no way in the world that actively pursuing women should be deemed desperate, “thirsty” or weak.

“Hoe-chasing” as guys like Player Supreme like to call it, is said by them to be a thirsty and desperate way to get women.

Again- I ask- how and when did it become desperate and weak for a man to perform his manly duties to approach women?

That is the most Alpha and manly thing for a man to do!

It’s no wonder why lots of guys out there are so passive in their approach to women.

You have guys wanting to get laid but afraid to be demonized and shamed by society and other men, while being called desperate and thirsty for playing their biological role in approaching women.

With all this in mind, you have 99% of men in nightlife venues such as clubs and bars, petrified to step to women.

Guy thinks, “If I make a move, I’ll be called desperate by the boys”. So he elects to not approach altogether, blowing his chance because of what other men may think.

There are endless reasons why men are encouraged and forced to become passive and not pursue women.

In light of those reasons, you either have to say “fuck it” and man up or scratch and sniff for some crumbs off of the next man’s table.

All in all, you have to step up to the plate and pursue women!

Just getting a phone number, though a step along the way to getting into her panties, it is just a first step along the way.

You cannot afford to just relax all because you got a phone number somehow!

What if the girl genuinely lost her phone or the dog ate it 😉 ? Would you go to her job site or pop up at her home in order to see her?

Or would that be too desperate of an act for your taste?

Hypothetically, what if you had no way to contact this whom you desire?

Why would you not show up at her place of work in order to secure that contact information through a pickup attempt?

There are many girls in retail whom I had fancied over the years. But because of time constraint, I wasn’t able to chat them up initially in order to get their number.

Knowing where they work [this could be a cash-register girl at the mall or 1 of those shop-attendants], I would go back the following day just to pick them up.

If some clowns see this as thirsty and desperate; then so fucking be it!

I do this to get laid and not to please and try to impress men!

The half-ass approach

Half-ass approaches are also a plague for most men.

I don’t only mean this in a literal sense, but we are all familiar with the guy who approaches women, gets a lukewarm response then throw in the towel under the guise that the girl didn’t jump on his dick with full-on interest.

Dude- not every time the girl you approach will do back flips because you’d approached her.

In fact, she will rarely ever do proverbial back-flips.

Shit- if I took every lukewarm or indifferent response from chicks as a sign of disinterest [an SOD], I would probably be a poor-ass excuse for a seductionist!

A lukewarm reception upon approaching some women is often a test to see how interested you are.

If you exit stage left as she gives you the initial-meanish reception, then she’ll just surmise that you’re a giant-inept pussy who wasn’t worthy of her time anyway! So persisting is a no-brainer.

I’ve carried quite many of girls home who initially gave me the “WTH do you want” vibe.

The “I have money, fancy car and or good looks”, so women should just approach me” mentality

This is a very entitled mentality for any guy to have.

An entitled mentality is great to have! But not when it conflicts with nature and human evolution.

Money, possessions and good looks were never factored into the equation of getting laid in pre-historic times.

The boldest men got fucking laid!


Women hundreds, thousands to millions of years ago, were not choosing to mate with men because of what those men had [perhaps a fancy spear, gold-plated chest armour 😉 🙂 ] .

They passively presented themselves to the males who were most fearless, bravest and risk-worthy.

Since humans yesterday [millions of years of evolving] are still the same as today [mating and courtship-wise to be specific], the courtship and mating ritual remains the same at the core of it all.

It has just been spruced up somewhat, due to things such as fashion and cosmetics.

However, what attracted a girl yesterday [at the core], still stands correct today.

Having loads of money, driving a fancy-ass vehicle, possessing Brad Pitt looks, aren’t nearly enough to grant you the luxury of just propping up the bar and having random-hot bitches approach you, begging for their turn to suck your cock.

I mean, how many guys hit the bar, flash cash and spend like their middle name was Dinero, yet they go home alone pretty much every weekend out?

I know a handful and they are regulars at the spots I frequent.

The only thing flashing money and wealth will have accomplished you in the dating-market place, is to attract gold-diggers [the wrong type of women].

In light of all that, even if you do attract women by spending big, looking great and driving the priciest car: it isn’t game in the bag!

You have to shove dick into vagina for it to be considered a lay!

Most guys, no matter their perception of how to attract women, still suffer from the curses of passivity, inaction and failure to persist.

Hopefully from reading this article you will have learned the errors of your ways [being a social wussy] and how to correct them by simply doing the opposite of what you’ve always done.

You give up too fast?

Don’t anymore!

You get turned off or turned down by the slightest bump in the road; push through the uncomfortable feeling!

Girl doesn’t respond to your text messages? After you would have exhausted every strategic avenue, from freezeouts to waiting and baiting yet no reciprocation; throw the kitchen sink at her!

What’s there to lose with going all out in the end?

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