“A thinking-woman is a dangerous woman”!
If you allow her to think; she will think her way out of having sex with you.
Foreword: You will find this article to be very contradicting in nature. But see it for what it is and learn to dissect abstract theories of seduction and dating.
In my previous article, I wrote:
“You want to afford women the least amount of time to think rationally.
When a new girl thinks (rationally), or is given the (ample) time to think (rationally), she will almost always decide to not have sex and not go on that date.
She has all the time in the world to “think” while not in your presence, hence she will say to herself: “What does he want? Does he think I’m some kinda easy bitch? What if he’s a rapist? I don’t know this guy at all! I should call Sharon about this. What if I look fat in that dress? My hair is in shambles”! 😯
When a girl is allowed to think; those are snippets of what run through her mind when faced with the decision of meeting a new guy as for a date.
With randomly showing up at her workplace, she doesn’t have time to think or consequences or think of anything for that matter besides what is taking place in the moment with you: the new guy.
Moreover, this is why girls drink and do drugs. The intoxicants put their rational minds, thinking-ability and inhibitions to bed.
You want to, and must cause the same effect on the girl as an intoxicant or date-rape drug do.
This is a widely accepted concept in seduction whenever seducing a girl, that the less she’s allowed to think, the greater chance that you’ll have to sleep with her.
You want to take away her power to think by jamming her decision-making processor like a rocket-propelled grenade blowing a hole through a poorly fortified Humvee.
Again- this is why and how One-Night Stands are possible; you’re allowing the girl no time to think rationally, giving her no space to flake while simultaneously rendering her logical brain disabled.
Taking a stranger on a random insta-date, is the same psychological procedure as structuring a One-Night Stand “.
Pretty nasty stuff, huh?
In this article, I will guide you step by step through this seduction method of mines with real-world examples (field reports) including hidden-cam videos of myself illustrating the processes for greater understanding.
Ultimately, I hope to propel you into taking action.
“If you allow a woman to think (rationally); she will think her way out of having sex with you”.
Make mental note of that statement for future reference.
Ok, how do you keep a girl from not thinking?
You keep her from not thinking by overwhelming her thought process with words, questions, lights, colors, actions…anything.
Your job is to essentially distract her thought process.
In the most basic sense and for starters, you keep the girl from not thinking by you- the guy- always talking, allowing her to engage in the dialogue by having her talk also, then further distract her thought process by strategically asking her questions which are weird enough to make her have to think deeply.
Sounds like a grand contradiction when the idea is to not have her think.
It’s not that you don’t want the girl to think at all.
Regardless, it’s almost impossible for the human brain or the mind to not process information as long as the vehicle of that mind (the individual) is still alive.
Hence, we’re always thinking about something whether we want to or not.
The key is though, you want the girl to think about the things which you had laid out there, and not the things which randomly pop into her head during the interaction like:
“Does he want sex from me”?
“I don’t kiss on the first date”
“I have standards”
“If he thinks he’s gonna fuck me then he has something coming”
“I really wanna fuck him…but I don’t know him well enough”
When you allow her to think about what she wants to think about, those self-generated questions will be the ones dancing around in her volatile brain.
Therefore, you want to pose your own questions in order to block out her own internal-questioning mechanism.
Bear in mind: her brain is your enemy when trying to have sex with a girl for the first time.
If it were possible to remove the brains from her cranium and lay them aside, then sex would be as easy as taking candy from a baby. But as long as she has a brain (as all women do); the task of sex becomes trickier.
Basically- you’re trying to remove her brain without actually and physically removing it.
Let’s just say we’ll be putting her brain into a deep sleep in respects to her own internal thoughts.
Pretty technical shit you might say: “Kenny actually wants to turn us into neuro-surgeons”! 😯
On the contrary, doing this isn’t difficult at all…and I’ll prove it.
Have you ever fucked a girl before?
Quite sure you have…unless you’re a virgin. 😦
Well the exact same process of not allowing the girl to think, was exactly what you’d done unknowingly at the time.
Hence, what I’ll be teaching you here is nothing fucking new at all!
We’ve all done it before, however I’m just here to teach you how to replicate it!
Just that I’m a mad scientist who gets a hard-on from probing into social dynamics trying to figure out how, when and why of sex and women.
Ok, so you’re not expecting that the girl will not have to use her thought process at all.
She will be asked to!
You just want her, or need her to utilize her thought-processor on subject matters and questions you will have raised yourself.
This is why being a good conversationalist is crucial here…but optional.
Still want to get your conversational skills up to par? Read here: “Back to basics: starting interesting conversations” by Socialkenny.
Now, earlier I specifically mentioned “Weird Questions”.
What I actually meant by that is that you want to structure your questions in such a way which make the girl think hard and deep [no pun intended].
A weird or unconventional question will usually send someone into the depths of thought-ville trying to come up with a rational and sound answer.
This is why boring interview-type questions have little to no positive effect on women and should be avoided like the plague.
Asking a girl if she has brothers and sisters requires no mental fishing nor thinking at all for an answer.
She already instinctively knows if she has siblings or not, so her answer would simply be:
“Yes. I have 2 brothers”.
“No. I have no siblings”.
Such a question didn’t require a deeply thought-out answer, neither did it force her to think. So such a common question won’t keep her from “thinking” and guessing as to your motives.
Bear in mind that your objective is to keep her from thinking about what she wants to think about.
You want her to think about what you- the guy- want her to think about.
Hence the innate-paradoxical contradiction here.
However, you should be asking her things which are thought-provoking instead of boring-interview questions.
Get the difference?
This is essentially why in old-school Pickup, the Pick-Up Artist (PUA) would pose such a question as the following to the girl whom he’s chatting up:
“There are 7 billion people on this planet according to ****** estimates. If you had to get rid of a continent in order that the world could sustain itself and control population, which continent would have to go? Think about it real carefully”.
Notice how such a question is thought-provoking yet distracting to what the girl might have been thinking about otherwise on the surface?
Such an uncommon statement-question will require the girl to dig fucking deep!
It isn’t a question which she can simply answer nonchalantly without a grain of thought.
She has to fucking put some brain cells to use here. 😉 😉
Moreover, with such a question, you’re distracting her logical-thought process.
You’re forcing her to think deeply while simultaneously not allowing her to think about what she would’ve been thinking of otherwise such as:
“This guy is boring. He asks these boring-ass lame questions…can’t wait for the date to finish”.
Hence you want her to think! But then again- you don’t want her to think…unless she’s forced to think about a weird or controversial matter which you’d raised.
In addition to that and as a template, you could ask her:
“Would you call a girl trashy for kissing a total stranger for 5,000 bucks? Be honest…I won’t judge you”!
Such a question will definitely disrupt her pre-programmed thought pattern for the simple fact that this would’ve been the 1st. time she was ever posed such a question.
To answer such a question, she will have to take into consideration her moral code, judgment, societal backlash, repercussions, etc.
A thought-provoking question.
It’s weird yet interesting and original.
The Power Of “The Distraction Factor”
Just as a magician distracts his subjects through either nonsensical babbling or deep theoretical statements, your aim is to likewise distract the girl but with a different goal than that of the illusionist: to sleep with the girl.
If you haven’t noticed at this juncture in your dating life, I’ll share with you a piece of radical information that most aren’t aware of:
A woman will not sleep with you [for the 1st. time that is] if she’s consumed by logical thoughts.
“Logic” is the brakes on sex!
When a girl says, “I don’t sleep with men on the 1st date…nor the 5th.”, such a declaration originates from her logical and rational-thought processor.
She uses “logical thinking” to decide that she won’t have sex with this new guy, i.e. you.
Therefore, “Logical Thinking” is her built-in mechanism to cock-block you from taking her panties off.
As long as you’re asking her logical questions and bombarding her with questions which she’s already pre-accustomed to answering, she will utilize her “Logical-Thinking Faculty” for assessment [this is what you don’t want as the guy].
Your job is to disengage her thinking faculties and to distract her from thinking the way she normally does with majority of the men she’s been in contact with.
You should allow her no time to think!
Tangentially, this is why talking to women over the phone (whom you haven’t slept with yet) is a HUGE waste of time…likewise with texting.
If you ask a girl something through text, she has all the fucking time in the world to analyze the question, read into it, dissect it, twist it, misinterpret it, question it and ignore it.
For example, if you say to a new girl over text while trying to plan a get-together:
“Do you drink beer”?
Such innocuous yet relevant question can and will be taken into all sorts of contexts, twisted and misconstrued.
The girl now says to herself while pondering a response:
“Why does he even want to know if I drink? So he’s planning to get me drunk huh? Why else would he ask if I drink beers? He thinks he’s cunning? He thinks he’s getting some if I do meet up with him”?
Hence, even though she might be a stoner, because she was allowed ample time “to think” and think of possible ulterior motives on your part, she will reply with either:
“Nope. Don’t drink beers at all. No alcohol”.
“Just occasionally. Not a fan of it”.
This very well could’ve been a blatant lie. But the fact that she was allotted time “to think” being that the question was posed indirectly (via text or phone call), her logical and skeptical brain decided to mash the brakes pedal to thwart your possible motive of sex.
That is how the female mind operates when given the psychological and physical space to process information rationally.
Hence, her brains, mind and thoughts will work in concert to try to cockblock you to death!
However in person, you can simply counter this with the strategies I’d laid out in the previous passage.
Moreover, you can only counteract a woman’s logical-thought process while in person.
You cannot convince a new girl via text message or Facebook chat, to fuck you, unless she’d already decided that she wants to fuck you (which is the rare exception and not the rule).
There are too many gray areas, physical and mental space, for her to think of what could possibly go wrong, consequence, repercussions, backlash and so forth, of hooking up with you for the first time.
In such a case, her mind will almost always talk her out of hooking up with you and also talk her out of meeting up with you [hence why women flake, reschedule and change their minds so often in relation to dating].
If she does decide to meet up with you anyway, her guards would’ve been erected so fucking high, that you’ll need a crane to get across that shit.
What is the counter to this [trying to hook up over the phone and text]?
And that is exactly what most men are afraid of…which is why we hide ourselves behind mobile devices and the internet [think excessive porn for instance].
Hand-To-Hand Combat + The Same-Day Sex Connection
It is 10 times easier to get laid regularly through meeting random women for One-Night Stands, than it is through traditional dating means and trying to hook up with a girl whom you’re already acquainted with.
Guys typically freak out whenever I make such bold declarations.
It’s just impossible for most men to fathom how easy sex can be gotten.
What makes One Night Stands much more easier to get than setting up something through the phone, goes back to the theme of the article: “Not allowing the girl time to think”!
Less thinking =’s more fucking!
When you randomly meet a new girl on the streets and proceed to chat her up, she has no lifeline essentially.
She can’t put you on hold to phone a girlfriend to get her take on something you’d said or asked. Nor can she phone her girlfriend to ask her opinion of you: the random stranger.
Conversely, she’s at liberty to do this while not in person, i.e. over the phone, text, Facebook chat, etc.
When in person conversing, you rob the girl of her otherwise lifelines and potential cock-blocking girlfriends who can and will very easily talk her out of having sex with you, or talk her out of meeting up with you altogether.
In person, she doesn’t have a cock-blocking girlfriend feeding her with:
“Hey Jenny, you don’t know this guy from Adam! WTF are you thinking! He could be a rapist! Don’t go with him! Are you fucking crazy!? You don’t even know him”!
In person (granted she’s alone), there’s no girl there in which to girl-code over your shoulders and ruin your chances of sex.
While over the phone chatting with you, there’s a real probability that she’s there with her bestie and probably listening in on the conversation sending girl-codes while trying to stay as quiet as possible as to not alert you.
I have a younger sister, so I can personally attest to this, that girls are notorious for having their girlfriends listen in on phone calls, if for no other reason, to give their girlfriends a general sense of the vibe and chemistry…if any.
In person; this sort of shenanigans is eliminated!
Check mate! 😉
Are you yet seeing the advantages of meeting and getting to know random women in the streets or anywhere opposed to online or through the phone medium?
She’s unable to effectively strategize bullshit while standing face to face with you.
She has no lifeline, she can’t phone a friend, cannot phone her mother for advice, cannot put you on hold while she ponders your motives…all of which she could’ve and would’ve done over the phone, text and the internet. 😈
In essence, while in person with you, she has less mental space to think.
She has less time to second-guess, less time to worry and less time to think.
Are women aware of this “less time to think in person” theory which I’m exposing here?
Perhaps not consciously. But women do instinctively react differently when in person than over the phone or through the internet.
Women instinctive know that they’re easy to be fucked.
All women are aware of this.
This is why they ardently cock-block for each other.
This is also why with most girls whom you will have approached and stopped on the streets, their primary intention is to FLEE!
They’d fabricate any excuse possible to make you believe that they must go NOW.
Essentially, she’s looking to flee from sex [not that she doesn’t want sex but she must put up a quasi fight].
She’s looking to flee from a guy who can possibly fuck the shit out of her like an easy slut.
She’s instinctively aware that in person, she doesn’t have her customary lifelines in which to rely upon for guidance and aid…as to talk her out of quick sex…which she’s down for anyway.
With this being the case, the greater percentage of girls whom you will have stopped in person to chat with, will look to flee via some sort of rational or irrational excuse…sometimes no excuse at all.
At that juncture, your job would be to keep her there long enough to distract her mind from wanting to flee, then structure the pull for an insta-date or same-day sex.
After the conversation will have reached a certain minute mark, fleeing from possible sex won’t be at the top of her to-do-list. So an enjoined aim of yours is to get to this proverbial hook point where she doesn’t even think about leaving anymore.
Over the net or the phone however, the equivalence of fleeing from possible sex is to just not respond at all to your texts, chat messages and phone calls.
Basically, this is where the problem comes in whenever trying to set up something through the telephone: the girl simply flees and there’s nothing you can do or say to keep her from fleeing [meaning- not replying to your texts]!
In person, she cannot just flee mid-sentence, so you have a much greater chance of keeping her there in order to seduce her.
Plus if she tries to flee, you can always do the manly Alpha thing to grab her hand and yank her back [playfully and not like a weirdo].
Socialkenny yanks a girl back
As you would’ve guessed; you cannot grab a chick’s hand through the phone. DUH! 😉
Nevertheless, the hidden beauty in disrupting a woman’s routine while out and about is something that I’ve recently come to realize:
Women don’t have shit to do!
A chick saying to you, “I’m busy”, is the biggest crock-of-shit excuse ever!
She’s never too busy to stop and chat and grab a pizza briefly.
What does the average Jane do on an average day?
The same shit she’s been doing for the past 10 years: NOTHING…except going to work…and hanging with friends.
This epiphany is also the reason why I’ve been able to get random women on instant-dates like magic [over 25 since January]. I now realize that the average chick has nothing going for her, she’s bored out of her mind and is subsequently a slave to routine as is the average male [both sexes are deprived of things to do].
Therefore, when I run into a hot girl while out and about and she hurls the oft-repeated excuse at me that she’s busy so she can’t tag along with me, I immediately laugh on the inside from the recognition that this is a pure bullshit psych-you-out technique that she’s been running on every guy since attaining adulthood.
Often times, what usually happens is that the girl, in spite of telling me that she’s busy and can’t, ends up coming with me anyway.
How is that for being “busy”?
Word of advice: if a girl tells you that she’s busy or doesn’t have the time for whatever it is you suggest, immediate note that it’s a lie!
Even if she’s being truthful, whatever she has to do isn’t a matter of life and death and she can always put it off.
She’s never too busy…especially if you’d met her while she’s out window-shopping or loitering at the goddamn mall!
Note that It’s in her gender role to hurl excuses at you like a football [remember- she has to flee from sex at all cost in order to preserve her social value].
Likewise, it’s your role to deflect these excuses like a staunch goal-keeper.
Thus far, what I hope you’d learned from this passage is that communicating with women face to face is a million times advantageous to playing cat and mouse over the phone and cyberspace like a giant wuss-bag.
Getting One-Night Stands and Same Day Sex is super easy in comparison to getting the girl’s phone # then trying to set something up that way.
From here on forth, if you do decide to utilize this model/method of mines, it’ll be the biggest game-changer you never knew about.
While meeting women on the streets, the bars, nightclubs, anywhere as long as they aren’t confined to their homes, your sole mission should be easy sex and not to get a lousy-pity phone number then part ways!
The Action Steps + Investment Theory
Now, it’s quite expected that you’ll ask: “What next? How do I put it all together”?
Firstly, realize that it isn’t prudent to be stuck in your head trying to piece everything together perfectly.
Just as with everything else in life, you are bound to fail doing this until you get a handle on it.
I don’t expect that overnight you’ll morph into a One-Night Stand king or master the art of taking total strangers on hangouts, getting sex from dates, instant dates, etc.
It’ll cannibalize together naturally over time.
For myself however, as a master PUA, it DID happen overnight…but that’s expected right? Which is why I’m a master at this. ❓
Now, remember what we’d dabbled in at the top of the post: distracting her logical-thinking mind with bullshit, fluff-talk, weird and or super-deep statement-questions.
This is key to easy and fast sex.
Presuming you’d managed to get a girl out on a date (aka D2 or D3..), your aim is to have sex with her that night- during or after the date…right?
It’s virtually impossible to achieve this without the art of distraction. You must distract and disrupt the girl’s natural-thought pattern.
Guys who disagree with that statement and still get laid, aren’t aware of what’s happening, but they definitely employ the same technique unknowingly and naturally.
Furthermore as for distractions, you should even visually distract her if you can.
This is why women are easily put into trances at nightclubs which have flashing lights of different colors, all serving to entrance them.
Colors, lights and music intrigue, attract, enthrall and distract women.
This’ partially why taking a girl home from the bar and club is highly possible…the alcohol factor doesn’t hurt neither.
The music, clashing colors, lights and alcohol, serve to distract and overpower the woman’s thinking process. Thus what she would normally find as reprehensible and nasty, such as sex with a total stranger, would look enticing now through the atmospheric stimuli.
Interior decorators under the guidance of nightclub owners, being aware of this, would set up their establishments in such a way as to virtually trap women inside the venue through artificial stimulation. Not forgetting colorful cocktails which women go bonkers over.
For now though, presuming that your date isn’t taking place in a nightclub: clashing colors, lights and loud music are ruled out. So the only thought-distracting agent you have on your side will be your mouth and physicality.
While on this date/meet-up/random encounter, you want to always keep the girl’s mind occupied on something.
Either her mind or lips should be occupied at all times.
She cannot talk and think at the same time…at least not coherently.
Thus, if she’s not listening, ensure that she’s talking.
By all fucking means, please ensure that she’s doing something and not just sitting there in silence with you not saying anything and she’s not saying anything neither!
That would be a fucking recipe for disaster via awkward silence and pregnant pauses!
It’s during awkward silences and pregnant pauses that the girl will instinctively get into her head “to think” the worst.
If silence does ensue, you want to ensure that it’s strategically planned by you whereas you can embrace the silence while caressing her hands or something of that nature.
Silence should only be allowed if you’re compensating with physical distractions and physical stimulation in the form of:
If seated across a table; this cannot be achieved. So what you must do is that if you sense an awkward moment of silence entering the door: get up and get closer to the girl!
Now, there are specific times when strategic silence is warranted and effective, but that’s for another article and seduction method. This however isn’t the time.
Now, I spoke to you earlier about distracting her thought pattern with specific questions.
What sorta questions work?
“Why is it that whenever a woman dresses up sexy and men compliment her on it, she takes it the wrong way as if she’s being objectified as a sex object? Break that down for me from a female’s perspective”.
Such a question is abstract enough to disrupt her normal-thought process.
It requires her to actually think for once [note the contradiction]. But “to think” in a way which bogs her down into your reality, your frame and your movie.
Most men are socially programmed to follow the girl’s script and act a role in her movie rather than having the girl audition for a role in their movie (the men’s).
By posing such a brain-teasing and hot-button question, you force her to psychologically invest into the conversation.
When a woman invests, she doesn’t want to let go.
If you were to invest in a billion-dollar venture company, would you just allow it to tank without a fight?
Of course not! You invested too much time, effort and capital.
Likewise with a woman, the more you get her to invest into your company [you], the more she’d latch onto it [you] in hopes of preserving it.
On the contrary, if she didn’t invest in the company [you]: there’s no reason for her to latch onto it [you]. The least a woman invests into a guy [conversation, money, etc], the more likely she is to let the guy walk.
That is the secret of why some women fall madly in love with certain men and not others.
They’ve invested so much emotionally into a guy, that it’s almost impossible and unthinkable to ponder letting him go.
Saying all that to say, you want your date to invest in the date via contributing to the dialogue, “thinking”, adding her input [not advice], talking, etc.
If you can get her to invest money; even better [this usually comes in the form of buying drinks, paying for food, etc]!
You want her auditioning for you and not the other way around.
Asking her, “Where did you grow up”, isn’t an abstract question, therefore it will not provoke investment/thinking [she doesn’t have to “think” to say where she grew up].
If you find yourself unable to refrain from asking such common-boring questions, ensure that you structure them in such a way that will require follow-up commentaries on the same topic.
Me: “So where did you grow up”?
Girl: “Small town in Ohio”.
Me: “I might be wrong, but there’s a small town in Ohio where the people don’t grow over 5’5. The tallest chick there is 4’8. Guess correctly which town is that in Ohio and I’ll propose marriage to you right now”! 🙂
Though the initial question was lame and generic, the follow-up statement-question on little people in Ohio, negates the lameness of the original question.
Ok, so what I want you to do from now on, for future dates, is to have a pre-canned list or mental note of at least 4 thought-provoking questions or statement-questions to ensure that you at least have something to fall back on in the event that your brain goes numb.
This works great if you aren’t someone who thinks fast on his feet.
When I first started out in Pickup/Seduction many years ago, as the case with most newbies, I toted a literal list in my pocket of routines and verbal techniques in which to choose from if I happen to forget or run out of things to say while with a girl.
Therefore, what I’m asking you to do here, isn’t something that I never had to do myself.
I took no fucking shortcuts in getting good with women.
In fact; there are no shortcuts.
You either get good or you give up on getting good and resign yourself to remaining mediocre and mad at the world like the guys over at PUA-Hater Forum.
Ok, so jot down at least 4 abstract questions in which to ask your would-be-date.
I don’t expect you to have a physical list stuffed into your back pocket (although I did when I started out). So a way in which to work around this is through technology: a note-taking app on your mobile device.
Every mobile phone, irrespective of the model and year, has at least some form of built-in text-inputting application where you can type and save notes/texts.
Save your canned questions there in case you forget, you can gingerly pull out your cellphone while on the so-called date as if to check a text or the time, then quickly browse your constructed questions in which to ask her.
If you’ve been blessed with a half-decent good memory (unlike myself) and or good at improvising, then the previous step of note-taking can be skipped.
When this is all said and done and put into action, you will have successfully managed to disable her from thinking about what she wants to think about as customarily so, while simultaneously getting her to think about what you want her to think about.
In effect, you’re de-activating her logical brain while activating and engaging her reptilian brain aka the hind brain which governs desires, lust and so forth.
You’re granting her a starring role in your hit movie.
Is this enough thus far to get to sleep with your date?
Likely so. But it never hurts to double down on the “distractions”.
There’s a nifty-little trick we teach in the Pickup community that will improve the chances of fucking your date: MOVE, MOVE, MOVE!!!
“Kenny what the fuck does that mean”!? 😯
To Move is to move your date around from setting to setting.
Seems innocuous and trivial but it’s super power and key!
You want to move the girl as much as possible.
The more she gets used to 1 spot, 1 restaurant, 1 locale, the more she’ll be able to think and think while physically at ease in 1 environment.
Moving her around will further serve to distract her thought process as she cannot adjust to the changes [not to mention the positive-compliance factor this will have created].
Remember- your goal up to this point is to “DISTRACT” the girl!
To distract her physically, mentally and psychologically.
By moving her from place to place, seat to seat, venue to venue, site to site, store to store, she will have been too distracted and confused (in a good sense) to think rationally [too much subtle stimulation].
This is the main reason in moving girls as we teach in Pickup.
Being on a 2 hour long date at Luigi’s, seated in the same seat, same position, same setting, facing the same couples, will lessen your chances of fucking this girl that same night of the date.
You don’t want the girl’s mind focused on constant things in the surrounding.
This is why nightclubs are great settings from which to pull easy sex.
The girl’s brain and thoughts aren’t given the chance to focus on constant things.
Everything is moving in a nightclub: the lights flashing and blaring, music and people dancing, coming and going…!
Nothing is fixed.
In such an atmosphere, the woman is rendered susceptible to all sorts of things such as randomly making out with complete strangers.
This is why it’s super easy to make out with complete strangers at the club. It has very little to do with alcohol and inebriated women.
Now, since I’m definitely not advising that you take your date to a bar or nightclub, the next best thing is to just move her around and not stay in 1 location.
Therefore, during the dinner date (which I don’t advise neither), you want to change her seating position if possible.
This may seem weird to you, but believe me- the girl will not think anything of it.
If she’s seated facing the entrance, exchange seats with her with some sorta fabricated excuse on your part.
If possible, request to change table all together.
If your projection says that the date will last 2 hours, or 2 hours had been mutually established prior to the date, then ensure that within the first hour, she and you would’ve been to at least 2 locations already…at least.
Although I never do traditional-dinner dates [they are non-conducive to after-date sex], hypothetically speaking, let’s say that I were to go on such a date.
The On-Date Structure Towards Intimacy And Sex
Pay close attention to what this would look like, which is how you should structure your dates:
Kenny’s Hypothetical Dinner Date:
I meet my date at a designated spot near the restaurant.
I say to her: “Hey Keisha, there’s a trinket shop just around the corner. I wanna show you something to get your take…and to test your taste”.
I would take her to the trinket shop, burn some time there, if for no other reason than to distract her logical brain with movement and different environments…which is the sole purpose here.
We’d look around then bounce!
As if caught up in a whirlwind of change, I would say to her:
“What you think about art”?
Keisha: “Art is fine…I guess”.
I’d grab her hand and take her off to a nearby art gallery.
I ensure that everything is nearby to the restaurant as to not tired her out physically.
We get to the art gallery, fuck around a bit, flirt and the usual shit.
Now, we’ve only been together 30 minutes, and already hit up 3 different spots before the date officially begins.
I’d then take her to the restaurant (the true destination), do the eating thing, move her seating once or twice, pull her atop my lap in a flirty manner…permitted the venue allows for this sorta behavior.
With a page out of Paul Janka‘s book [he’s a seduction guru], I would ensure that she eats a light meal and not over stuff herself to the point of niggeritis (fatigue) where she can’t even fathom sex due to fatigue. So never allow your date to pig out and eat too much. She won’t have sex on a full stomach!
After the light meal, I would kill the restaurant then and there!
What I mean by that is, I would concluded that portion of the date unlike most guys (stupidly so), who would stay indefinitely and bore the girl to death through monotony of being constant…then the girl will say, “I think I have to leave just now”. Even though she doesn’t have to leave, she’s forced to conclude the date due to boredom.
Before that could ever happen:
Me: “Let’s go”!
Me: “Yep! I’m getting a bit tired and bored just sitting here”.
We would then enter the 2nd. phase or 2nd hour of the date.
We’d exit the restaurant for a short walk and talk.
An additional reason why you don’t want to remain at the restaurant is simply bad logistics.
1.) No privacy
2.) Seated apart
Chances of getting intimate in a restaurant are very slim, especially if you aren’t an adventurous guy who would shag a girl stealthily around others. 😯
Anyway, so I would take her for a short walk while at intervals, strategically holding hands and hugging.
That is the true motive of the walk: to build intimacy.
I demonstrated this (periodic hand holds and hugging) in an insta-date video I posted recently.
Now, since we can’t keep walking forever, plus I wouldn’t want to tire her out whereas she can’t have sex later on, I would then stop off at park or bus stop or anywhere we can grab a quick seat.
While on the park bench, the date resumes with periodic statement-questions structured to further confuse her:
Me: “Something about you that I can’t quite put my hands on…you’re intriguing but in a weird way but not so weird as to turn me off. What is this all about? Make sense of this for me”?
Very abstract observation!
Very vague and complex question as I would’ve wanted it to be.
You always want to be vague and hard to read when dealing with new girls.
Vagueness and ambiguity further enthrall and confuse her…which is what you want.
Read this article written by my co-author, Chelios PUA, of London, England: “Cat String Theory”.
No one likes an open book. So at some point during the date or interaction (preferably at the onset), you want to go vague and mystical on her.
Hence on my hypothetical dinner date which has blossomed into my type of date (park-bench situation), I would pose a super-vague statement-question:
“Something about you that I can’t quite put my hands on…you’re intriguing but in a weird way but not so weird as to turn me off. What is this all about? Make sense of this for me”?
Additionally, the purpose of being seated outside of the restaurant setting (as in a park), is to get intimate and sexual.
My date would be seated on my lap at this point while I massage her shoulders and neck, strategically placing a light kiss upon her neck and shoulders (if exposed).
The rest is academic…presuming you know how to pull a girl’s panties aside. 😉
Do I have to teach you that shit too!? 😆
Ok, to take this a step further, let’s say that you’re not the type to shag a girl in the park or anywhere outdoors for that matter.
That leaves 2 options: su casa or tu casa [her house or your house].
Chances are, she won’t allow you to take her to her pad simply because that would’ve been too random and unexpected since women aren’t used to meeting men who diligently go after sex in this manner.
For all you know, her sleeping-quarter is in shambles with Domino pizza boxes littered all over the place, so taking you to her casa is likely out of the question for now.
That leaves your place as the sole-viable option.
Easier said than done but the groundwork has already been laid and you’re 60% there towards sex, with the remaining 40% being attributed to a combination of further logistics, leading, LMR (Last Minute Resistance), and likely external interruptions (phone calls, etc).
To get her to your place, provided that you’d followed the script as much as possible up to this point, it requires a doubling down on thought-distraction techniques and leading capabilities.
If you don’t know to physically and psychologically lead a woman, then there’s no chance in hell of getting her back to your place.
She’s not gonna suggest in a million years, going back to your place!
You will have to take her there.
This is easy stuff…but I guess that’s easy for me to say.
To further illustrate, I’ll draw a scenario of exactly how I would accomplish this.
In continuation…so I’m on the park bench with my date, things are hot and heavy as they should be, I decide that I won’t try to sleep with her there in the elements, her place is out of the question so I must take her to mines instead.
What do I do?
Me: “Come on. Let’s go”!
I lead as I’ve been doing all throughout the date!
Read: How to subtly make her comply.
You should NOT be specific as to where you’re taking her!
I repeat: You should NOT be specific about where you’re headed!
Simply say to her: “Let’s go”!
Seven in ten times, she will ask: “To where”?
To which you shut up or use some fluff talk to further distract her.
Either fluff or you proclaim your love for her in a semi humorous, semi serious sorta way, then you lead!
Read: How to subtly make her comply.
Push comes to shove, you can say to her:
“We’re going to this chill spot just right around the corner. We have 20 minutes to burn”.
Whatever you say, just please, I beg you, do NOT frikkin’ make the rookie mistake of saying to her: “We’re going back to my place”.
Guys who are advanced usually finesse this and get away with it frequently. But if you’re not advanced in seduction, female psychology and leading; then stick to basics for now and keep your true destination (your home) vague.
Now the trick is this, as you lead her from wherever you are (for example the park), your destination should be your place…although you’re withholding that piece of information from her.
You’re not kidnapping her. She’s coming along on her own volition but with a little nudging and coercion from you [there’s no literal gun to her head here].
If I were you at this juncture, I would’ve ensured that the date setting was not too far from my apartment so there’s no need for transportation [this is called managing logistics ahead of time].
If you do live far and are driving, you will have to get her to go with you in the car (which requires a greater level of trust and compliance…but surely not impossible).
Presuming that I live in walking distance, my chances of getting her back to my pad will have increased tremendously.
At this point while walking a bit (or even driving), I would stop and say something to her like:
“Shit! I gotta pee real bad! I live just right around the corner. Come with me”!
I now have a plausible reason to invite her to my place without appearing as though I just want to get her there to fuck her brains out…which is the case. 😈
If she objects to going (as is the case often times). To that I would say, “You expect me to pee on the street and get arrested? You’re such a carefree girl”! 🙂
She’ll likely say “no” to you peeing on the streets, in which you take her hand and say “Ok come on then! Don’t wanna piss all over myself”! 🙂
A little side note of importance here: in spite of the girl’s token objections, realize that she really wants to go back to your place but she has to pretend as though she doesn’t.
She has her reputation and value to worry about.
A woman’s reputation means everything to her. Being perceived as an easy slut is her biggest fear. So as much as she wants to go back to your pad where privacy prevails, it’s customary that she resists and objects in some form or fashion…and she will.
Most men at this point in the date will have become frazzled and thrown off their game due to the unexpected curve ball of objections.
Pickup/dating is a dirty sport, so don’t expect a smooth ride on a paved tarmac towards sex.
Think African safari (for better illustration)!
Getting laid on the first date (traditional dates), instant dates and cold-approach pickup, all require the same set of guidelines which I’d laid out throughout the entire article.
Some steps may deviate and vary depended on the teacher.
This sure isn’t the only method in which to get fast and easy sex. But I guarantee you it’s the easiest method and probably the most commonly used yet unexplained.
The following videos from around the seduction community will illustrate and provide you a real sense of how to put this all together.
I usually get bombarded with e-mails from readers who seem to doubt the process, its effectiveness and practicality- somewhat insinuating that getting girls on dates easily or same night sex, are somewhat shrouded in mythicism and fantasy.
In the following in-field/hidden-cam video, I’d approached a random stranger from behind [a big-boob teen] while traversing through a Soccer field, chatted her up then convinced her [in less than 3 minutes] to come with me to a grab a snack in which I took her to my place afterwards for same-day sex. The key secret here was the art of “Leading” and “Insinuation”- all done via subtle-body positioning without me having to say a word.
The following video of mines (recently published) depicts how easy it is to convince a girl (a total stranger) to come with you.
I’d chatted up this British girl (who has a boyfriend nevertheless) with the intentions of getting her to a nearby pier [insta-date] to then take her home at some point. In spite of her objections, I was able to convince her to drop whatever she was doing to tag along with me.
This hearkens back to a crucial point I made earlier in the post that women are never busy. Saying that they’re busy is just an excuse 9 in 10 times. So from this video, you will learn the art of persistence also.
Another video of mines which illustrates romantic connection and romantic dominance.
This is key for the stage of your date when you’ll be required to get physical/intimate.
Although this wasn’t a date setting; the message is still the same, which is that in order to sleep with a girl- you must get physical. After all; sex is a physical act. So after approaching and chatting with this stranger, in order to demonstrate “Touch” and romantic gesture (and how easy it is), I held her hand in the face of token resistance while walking.
Remember the key component in distracting a girl’s mind and thinking process is to ask her difficult, original and uncommon questions which require her to actually think.
In the following hidden-cam video from the godfather of Pickup [Mystery], he demonstrated this art to perfection with a random girl at the bar which he’d seduced. This video is a great-visual template on exactly how to get a girl to not think by having her think (distracted).
The following video comes via RSD Julien, the most buzz-worthy PUA coach in the industry right now (made the top 15 PUA list of 2012 by my buddy Alpha Wolf of PUA-Lingo).
Julien breaks down the concept which I’d touched on: “Moving the girl”. He dubs it baby-stepping the interaction from meet to sex. He illustrates how important it is to confuse the girl’s mind with “move”.
The following video which I’d posted on my website recently, comes by way of Big Willie Style aka Will Beck, a German PUA coach out of Toronto, Canada.
This video illustrates the exact process of “Pulling” for a One-Night Stand. The process is totally applicable to a traditional-date setting especially since Big Willie had first taken the Asian girl to grab a drink then on to her place.
Getting a girl back to “her” place is a task and a half. This isn’t an easy thing to pull off. But the concept is still the same for getting the girl back to your place. So check out the video and pay close attention to subtle “Leading” and how Will was able to get her off her original path by realizing that girls are never busy.
The longer you’re able to keep her there chatting, the better your chances of whisking her away.
The following video is from Todd Valentine, Pickup-dating coach. Pretty straightforward: “How to get laid on the first date”. Much of what I’d written is explored here.
In the last video, “T” from the seduce in seconds website, illustrates on hidden-cam how easy it is to get women and instant dates, hence the reason why setting up dates through the phone in super unnecessary when you already have the hot item there..
As an outsider; sounds like pretty advanced stuff. But in reality, the process is pretty simple and standardized.
Don’t kill yourself trying to memorize every little detail of my method for easy sex.
Remember as much or little as you can, then you’ll gradually see it all come together like magic. So don’t get bogged down in perfecting these steps.
*Make her invest by Socialkenny
*How to seduce a girl + the reptilian brain by Socialkenny
*Cat String Theory by Chelios PUA
*Dress for easy sex by Socialkenny
*3 techniques to make her ask for sex by Justin Wayne Dating