When She Doesn’t Get Back To Your Message: “What Do I Do”?

In keeping with the theme of the previous post on Congruence Testing, I was asked the following question on my Facebook page:

Great post! What’s the procedure if she doesn’t respond? And how long do you give her?

Now, that question was predicated on the fact that the girl never got back to me promptly.

My quoted answer:

Good question Dan. I was anticipating such a question which is very logical. When, or if she doesn’t get back that day, you ought NOT to
send another text that same day. And definitely not reminding her about the fact that you asked her for her #. What you do is to allow a few days to go by (perhaps 3 days), then hit her back with something cheeky and funny. Something totally unrelated to the last convo where you tried to get her #. You want to essentially show her 2 things:
1.) You didn’t get desperate.
2.) You didn’t hold it against her or get all butt-hurt that
She didn’t get back to you.
Now, after getting back to her 2-3 days later with something humorous and unrelated, you then go for the # again. 99.8% of the time she will give it up right away since you did pass her congruence test the last time (and she remembered). So that’s how you go about it. Totally do NOT bring up the fact that you asked her for her # last
time. It’ll only make you look attached and worried

There isn’t much I can add to the answer I gave Dan.

If a girl ignores your last message, the quoted format I laid out above is the most effective strategy in order to re-engage her.

By all means: do NOT bring up the fact that she didn’t get back to you, or that she ignored your last text(s).

If you do take that risk, ensure that it’s done HUMOROUSLY!!!

At times, I would message the girl with something like:

“Hey bad ass, I like how you flatly ignored my last message like a worthless lad. But don’t worry…I would punish you so harshly for your bad behavior” 🙂 .

I would ensure to put a smiley face at the end just to hammer home the fact that I’m being humorous and not butt-hurt.

Beware Of Female Trickery Through Congruence Testing [Text-Game Advice]

When she hits you with the, “hold on”, congruence test, the only logical explanation for that, is to see whether you’ll get all desperate and send 100 follow-up messages. 

With this chick right here, we’ve flirted back and forth on each other’s statuses . So I hit her up yesterday, after she’d hit like on a comment of mines.

We texted before (a while back), but I never attempted to get her digits or anything tangible besides running some flash-game stuff.

Anyway, so she hit me with “hold on” (a Congruence Test), after I told her to cough up the digits so I can hit her up later in the week about meeting up. 

Now, here’s the trick: she was replying fairly quickly until she said “hold on”, and didn’t get back to me in a long while (few hours).

At that point, a large number of guys would get all chody, worried and desperate, thus sending some lame-ass follow-up messages such as: 

“Did I say something wrong, Darlene”? 

“Hey Angie…are you there”?

“Hey Jessica…I was asking for your phone #. You might have missed that message. Can I have it”?

“You told me to hold on but it’s been a while now. Are you okay or did I say something that offended you”?

Yep! Most guys would go chode fucking mode by sending 1, or all of the above messages (or something similar), after the girl says “hold on”, but doesn’t get back (in a timely fashion).

Panic will set in, the guy will get desperate and blow himself out, not realizing that the girl was just testing his resolve and Alphaness by making him wait, in order to see whether he’ll go all AFC Beta-Male, or remain cool, unaffected and allow her to respond. 

If she doesn’t respond at all (after telling you to hold on), there’s a procedure for going about this, which I’ll address in a subsequent post.

Anyway, so check how she did that to me, but I never panicked after she said “hold on”.

She took almost 2 hours to respond with her digits. So…I essentially passed the Congruence Test with flying colors. 

It’s imperative that you learn how to read women and their modus operandi.

Innocuous and seemingly innocent moves like those can make or break your chances with women. So be on the lookout for the tricks women play.

What You Don’t Get About Girls Calling You Ugly

Two posts ago, I wrote about a girl on Facebook who called me ugly during our little texting session.

My overall point was that you shouldn’t take this stuff seriously.

I’d simultaneously posted this to Facebook as a status.


I want you to pay attention to the comment by Fenohasina. His take on it was being all defensive, which I warned you about in the other post.


You never want to get all defensive whenever a girl rejects you or calls you ugly.

With that being said, the guy in the screenshot below (Jason) makes a great point.


If a girl truly sees a guy as unattractive or ugly; she won’t say it to the guy!

Women (people in general) are social cowards.

Here’s the thing: a girl will say that you’re ugly as a shit test. She will say that to a guy whom she’s truly attracted to.

That is why I laugh it off whenever a girl calls me ugly. I know she doesn’t mean it.

I know it’s a congruence test.

Keep that in mind for future reference.

Girl I Seen On A Morning News Program Calls Me Ugly. How Do I Handle It?

Every now and then, I get guys ask me, “Kenny, how do you handle girls calling you ugly”?

Essentially, this is a shit test and or congruence test, whenever the girl you’re chatting up calls you ugly, or say anything that would traditionally be deemed a rejection or an IOD (Indicator Of Disinterest).

Few days ago while watching the good-morning news program, there was a segment which featured a sexy girl, a small-business owner, who happens to be a friend of mines…on Facebook only.

I didn’t quite get to see what the segment was about, nor was I privy to the girl’s entrepreneurial ambitions. But at the very tail end of the segment, I noticed that her face’s familiar, included her name.

I browsed my timeline in search of confirmation on whether or not I had the right person.


Her profile pic includes a selfie which was taken on set of the program, along with the hosts of the morning show.

I then messaged the girl.

By all means; this was NOT a pick-up attempt.

I was merely talking shit and making an impression. Not that I wouldn’t try to pick her up. But it just wasn’t the time. I merely wanted to register on the chick’s radar for another time.

Anyway, so I inboxed her. Firstly, I want you to take note of my vibe, and how I wasn’t kissing her ass and giving her the celeb treatment because I seen her on TV.
[My messages in blue]


In the 2nd screenshot (below), I maintained a frame that I am not gawking over her, but merely making an observation that she’s a sexy girl who knows how to have fun.


Wow! Did that hurt or what!?

Of course not!


How did I handle her calling me ugly?

I took it with humor.

Here’s the deal: whenever a girl calls you ugly, particular one whom you’re chatting up, Always agree with her!

Did I make myself clear!?

Always agree with the girl saying you’re ugly!

Doing so will have beaten out her frame, beat her shit test while taking away the play from her all at the same time.

Why is it such a powerful thing to agree with the girl saying you’re ugly, and to take it lightheartedly?

#1 No girl, or any person for that matter, expects you to agree with their assessment of you being ugly. So this totally fucks their frame

#2 You show the girl that you aren’t thin-skinned

More importantly, by agreeing with the girl to whatever her shit test was (in this case: she saying I’m ugly), it shows that you aren’t about to try to defend yourself and get all defensive just because a girl calls you ugly.

It also shows the girl that you aren’t about to qualify and try to prove your worthiness.

What would most guys have done?

Firstly, they would get all butt-hurt and sensitive.

Secondly, they would rebut with something like, “I’m handsome. Lots of girls find me attractive”.

Thirdly, they would throw a tantrum upon feeling rejected, thus cussing the girl out.

It is never a good idea to qualify yourself to a girl!!!

In other words; if she calls you ugly, the worst reaction ever is to try to convince the girl that you’re not ugly!!!

By telling the girl “I appreciate being ugly”, it allowed me to pass her shit test with flying colors.

Moreover, after you pass a shit test, you don’t dwell on it. Move on by changing the subject just as you seen me do.


In any case, I don’t take rejections as rejections.

I take them to mean “not now”, instead of “never”.

Lastly, girls calls me ugly all the time.

In fact; I rarely have girls call me handsome. But it doesn’t affect me 1 bit. 🙂


Kill Her Shit Tests By Owning It Like A Boss [The Stuff For Alpha-Males]!

I get shit tested by younger women all the time! How do I handle it?

I speak about this in my latest video.

What are shit testing?

It is the usual bullshit that women throw your way.

For instance: the girl says to you, “Why do you grow a beard? It makes you look very old and unattractive”?

This may very well be the way she thinks about beards and you. Nevertheless; it is still a shit test.

You must learn how to handle/pass them or else the girl loses interests (if you fail her shit tests) and your chances are DONE!

How I Deal With Non-Responsive Girls On Online-Dating Sites [A Tagged.com Pickup]

Every so often, I come across a tough cookie online who gives me massive shit when trying to pick her up.

Such girls are usually the non-responsive types.

My answer to girls like those is to give them shit in return or to act like a dick in order to arouse some sort of dialogue.

There’s a phrased coined by Todd Valentine of RSD which I’m enamored with: “If everything fails: try anything”!

Very powerful concept and it is ingenious.

If a girl isn’t responding to your messages, you have nothing to lose by being somewhat dickish.

Not every girl will respond positively or respond at all.

When a pickup goes smooth, it is a great feeling.

When it goes bad, starts bad or doesn’t go at all, most guys fold, submit and bow out gracefully.

I believe in burning the boat down when there’s nothing to lose…and with courting women, there’s hardly ever anything to lose.

Don’t get me wrong in thinking that I’m advocating chasing, desperation or being needy.

Furthermore, girls who purposely don’t respond to messages online, are usually the bitchy types who are accustomed to giving guys the stiff-arm treatment like a Running-Back in American Football.

It is no secret that the customary bland and meek approach by nice guys, doesn’t work at all with girls who come off as bitchy and are non-responsive.

This post is geared towards highlighting an important element that should be part of your overall strategy to getting women: Willingness to risk it.

Willingness to risk a set by getting a bit rude, pushy and impatient, is the opposite of playing it extremely safe by adhering to all unspoken-social rules.

Playing it safe won’t work on girls who get hit on all the time and have very low tolerance for low stimuli.

In order to get the attention of a girl who’s being non-responsive, You have to show up on her radar in a strong way by being somewhat of a dick yourself.
You can’t fight fire with pebbles…if you want a decent analogy to grasp my point here.

The reality is, there are lots of girls online who simply won’t entertain your messages if those messages fail to arouse them to action.

At the end of the day, you may not have gotten the girl’s #, but the “try anything when all fail” approach, will have been cemented into your pickup repertoire for future reference.

About 2 weeks ago, I had this exchange with a girl I was trying to pick up on Tagged.

The break down is pretty simple: I messaged her but she never replied after about a week had elapsed.

I totally forgot that I even messaged this chick until I happened to browse my sent messages box and seen that I’d messaged her.

That sparked my subsequent responses in order to force her to reply.

[My messages in the white background, hers in light blue]

My intent was clear: which was to get her to meet up with me in the city.

She wasn’t down [yet], so I decided to push the issue some more.

I repeat: by no means am I advocating that you chase, become genuinely needy and act all desperate with reckless abandonment.

A girl is smart enough to sense when a guy’s messages come from a place of neediness, desperation or playful poking.

This chick knew I wasn’t desperate and needy, though my texts to the normal eye, would appear as though I’m being a needy-AFC Beta.

In fact, my game was so subtly ‘ON’ that she ends up saying that she wasn’t desperate…which is indicative of the fact that she knew I wasn’t desperate [though it’d appear so to most guys]. And it was also a testament to the fact that I presented myself as higher value.

Very stealthy stuff guys.

At the end of the day, we did exchange numbers as seen in the screenshots. So it’s just up to me to now work the angles towards meeting up with her, perhaps at the designated fish and veggie market on Saturday.

In a nutshell, the lesson I want you to take away from this post is pretty simple: When all fail: try something else in order to get a response instead of moving on without first exhausting every possible angle.

The James Bond cool approach doesn’t work with every girl!

There are scores of girls out there in the online-dating sphere, who only respond when they’re tested, pushed, called out and roughed up.

Read: I’ll fuck her or she’ll hate me: go hard or go home

As I said previously, you may not get the girl ultimately, but you will have learned some valuable lessons in female-behavioral psychology, and how when misjudged, one is almost always forced to defend him or herself in order to clear up any misconception about him or herself.

Always be a bit creative and think outside the box.

“Confusion” is actually an art also, and a good way in attracting a girl and getting her to engage in dialogue online.

As you’d seen from the screenshot: I took this girl left to right, East, West, gave an indirect compliment while negging her, accused her of being a grumpy chick [another neg], got her #, gave her mines, showed her interest, showed her disinterest, got her engaged in conversation, negged her again by calling her “fish lady”, essentially showing her that I don’t play by the rules, and just because she’s has big boobs and a cute face; doesn’t mean I’m going to kiss her ass.

The art of “Confusion” in a seduction!

Once you communicate to a girl online that you have nothing to lose and that you aren’t afraid to offend her, such an attitude flips a switch inside of her head from “totally not-interested” to “possibly interested”.

With non-responsive girls, you have to show them that you aren’t afraid to risk the entire fucking pickup by being somewhat of a dick.

It isn’t that you remain a dick neither. After you manage to pick up the girl [if you do], you can go revert back to the James Bond cool vibe in order to build more attraction later on.

Likewise with this girl.

I had to fuck with her head a bit in order to get a dialogue to materialize.

Now that it was achieved, as I transitioned to Whatsapp Messenger in order to text her, my dickish attitude had subsided and it was straight to seduction business as usual.

However, I first had to establish the indelible vibe that I’m willing to risk it all by eliciting shit tests from the girl.

Anyway guys, I’ll keep you posted as this chick and I have been hitting it off ever since.

On that note, I’ll leave you with an interesting video from Todd Valentine on drawing women in by provoking them.

Witty Comebacks, Handling Shit Tests And Giving Women Shit Tests Like An SOB [+ Infield Video]

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My latest video (with infield clips as live examples) hits on the topic of why women give us shit tests, how to handle them, and why it’s key to give women shit tests also in the form of wits, witticisms and back-and-forth banter.

Most men wouldn’t dare hand a girl shit while trying to pick her up. It just flies contrary in the face of logics and it is counter-intuitive.

Well, therein lies the beauty of giving girls shit tests and using some witty lines on them.

This is probably the biggest part of my verbal game which readily stands out [handing women shit and being a witty SOB].

Frame Control By Satori PUA

Frame control and frame battling are possibly the most essential things you should learn to spot whenever interacting with girls whom you don’t know.

A ‘Frame’ can be defined as someone’s position, opinion, stance or belief on any particular thing or matter.

‘Frame Battling’ occurs whenever a girl for instance, tries to jam her opinion down your throat, or subtly tries to steer and control the conversation down her road.

If you lose the frame battle with a girl; then she automatically loses respect for you and the attraction and interest she might have had for you, plummet.
In this video (in-field audio actually), my boy Satori PUA, displays top-notch frame control over 2 hot girls he’d approached in the park over the Summer.

With having the stronger frame over the girl (by beating hers), you demonstrate that you’re of higher value and she should be following your lead.

Most men play ‘follow the girl’s lead’ when in conversation with new girls…or any girl for that matter.

Also, you’ll hear tons of Shit Tests in this audio, in which Satori passed with flying colors.

Those who aren’t privy to pickup jargon, ‘Shit Tests’ are tests which women usually dish out to men (often times unconsciously) in order to test the guy’s resolve, dominance and congruence…or lack thereof.

For instance, if a girl says to you, “Why don’t you go hit on some other girl and leave me alone”?

Nine in ten times: this could be a shit test to see whether you’ll leave [follow her orders] or stay [defy her orders].

If you buy into her frame (her reality) and leave- then you failed her shit test and by extension- her frame wins and she loses every ounce of respect she might have had for you.

Hence, ‘Frames’ and ‘Shit Tests’ usually intertwine in the same conversation.

You’ll also notice from the audio that the girls (sisters) tried getting Satori and his student to leave yet he stayed and plowed (persisted) through the bullshit.

This is very advanced pickup stuff and it’s worth a watch/listen, because undoubtedly, you will have to face this sorta resistance at some point from women…that’s if you haven’t already.

It’s paramount to know how to handle this sort of shit: Frame Control, Frame Battle and Shit Tests.

I can also guarantee that most guys would’ve already left the girls alone or ran out of things to say as the girls were giving so much shit. But persisting is key.

The audio-video starts with an intro by me and an outro which stresses the importance of holding the frame.

By the way, it’s actually posted through my Youtube channel, so feel free to like also.

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