Are All Black Men Good With Women: Myth Or Fact?


I will begin by unequivocally stating that all black men do NOT have game, and aren’t good with women!



It’s a HUGE myth and urban legend that all black guys were dragged from the womb having game.

It is equally as mythical that all black guys have game in general.

Who’s responsible for spreading this myth to begin with?

Those evil bastards in Hollywood and the entertainment industries.

Well truth is; 96% of black guys have no game (I’m basing that percentage on what I’ve observed, women I speak to and other social variables).

Just as the case with men of all races and ethnicities; most black dudes suck shit at getting laid on a semi-regular basis, let alone consistently.

The average black guy gets lucky or gets hooked up with the overweight friend of the family just as every other guy of every other race meets his girlfriend and future wife…he got hooked up through relatives or mutual friends, his peer group or a coworker who had pity on him.

As for the media and the entertainment industries- pop-culture in general- those entities are largely responsible for the propagation of this myth, often with mal-intention as to portray all black men as marauding, womanizing players…but that’s for another post.

The audience and viewing public, those outside of the black community, who doesn’t know better and aren’t in-tuned with the going-ons, buy into the “black men are better with women” fallacy.

However, those of us who actually live in black communities, such as myself, are well aware of the true dynamics on the ground, that the average black guy sucks shit at attracting women and getting laid, just as any other guy is.

Our (black people’s) perception and reality of this aren’t swayed and persuaded by what we see in the media or popular-music videos which depict those black Rap and Pop artists as debonair ladies’ man who are swimming in pussy.

Surely those black entertainers and athletes are swimming in a pool of vagina, but those are the spare exceptions, just as it is with non-black entertainers and athletes in comparison to the average Joe’s of their races.

Spectators on the other hand, like those who subscribe to watching music videos, they somehow get lured into the fallacy where fact from fiction cannot be discerned.

Here is the big question though: “Do black men actually feed into this fallacious hype and run with it”?

Are black guys contributing to this myth by trying to act the part just to keep the myth alive?

The answer is YES! Black men are keeping this myth afloat instead of dispelling it.

In the defense of such guys who propagate this myth [all black men were born having game], I can understand why fellow black guys neglect to clear the air on such a social stigma and myth.

I mean, if there’s a rumor out there which depicts your social standings in a somewhat positive light: why would you want to change that and dispel that rumor?

Case in point: “All black men have big dicks”.

Another rumorous fallacy which is only thought to be factual outside of the black community.

However, most black guys aren’t packing a huge shlong, but a dick which ranges from below average to average. Not that I’ve seen any other dick besides mines to make this claim on averages, but the truth will always be known on the ground when women talk.

In light of that, to have society and women in society thinking that as a black dude, you’re packing a 10-incher, that is a huge plus as far as dating and mating are concerned!

With that, the average black guy milks this myth to death by giving women (those of other races and ethnicities that is) the impression that he’s toting an anaconda-sized cock in his pants.

He’s being disingenuous in most cases, but since it works for him (upholding this myth) and women buy the myth, he doesn’t feel that it’d be productive to dispel it.

Ironically, only non-black women actually believe this myth.

Black girls who would have slept with some black men, can attest to the fact that the average black guy has an average-size phallus. And that a guy with a 10-incher is few and far between, just as the case with white dudes, Middle Easterners, East Indians, etc. the huge cocks are the exceptions.

In any case, we cannot expect black guys to squash a stereotype and rumor that is working for them.

How so that it is “working” for us?

Well- there’s no imperical datum to support the following declaration I will make, but I’m gonna go out on a limb to say that of those white and Asian women [specifically post-1980’s] who decide to sleep with black men, the greater percentage was influenced by the “all black men have big dicks” rumor, or that “all black men are masterful lovers in the sack”.

Such rumors made them curious to want to try out the “legendary-black cock”, if for anything, just to see for themselves whether these rumors were indeed factual or mythical.

Hence, you have a case where because of a rumor which underhandedly hints to a positive (black men being masterful lovers, all having huge cocks and are good with women), non-black women are seduced by it, and a large number of black men run with it, hoping to capitalize off of the public perception.

On the flip side, you definitely have social stigmas which present hurdles for some men; such as Oriental men having tiny penises and are weak, Beta and submissive.

Such unfavorable perceptions do no favor for Oriental men on the dating market.

In any case, because of these myths and fallacies surrounding black men when it comes to dating, lots of us try to live up to this stereotype and hype by playing the part of the ardent ladies’ man.

Most times; we fail! And this isn’t just with women of other races but with black women themselves.

I can’t begin to count on my hand how many epic fucking fails I come across on a daily basis- on Facebook alone- where fellow black dudes tool themselves out by going about picking up women the wrong way, just as most guys of every ethnic stock do. So I’m in no way singling out the brothers as game-less tools. The vast majority of men suck shit at attracting women…regardless of race, ethnicity or nationality.

However, when a black guy fails, it fucks with his outlook on things even more devastatingly since he’s trying to make the stereotypical grade.

If a Chinese guy fails to pick up a girl, regardless of her race, he can always feel comforted in knowing that he wasn’t expected to succeed anyway since his dating and social perceptions weren’t that of someone who’s classically good with women.

Thus, less social pressure is on the Asian to have to win. More pressure is placed upon the black guy to have to win or else the jig is up, and the “all black men are good at game” myth becomes debunked.

This all begs the following question: how then does the average black guy get laid or get a girlfriend, if he’s not out there slaying everything with his innate ability to game girls?

As I touched on at the top of the article: most guys get laid, whenever they do get laid once in a blue moon, by stroke of luck.

Additionally, most guys find a girlfriend by being match-made through either a relative, coworker or their peer group of friends.

In non-elaborate terms: they were hooked up.

This isn’t just the case with black men. It is the case straight across the board through racial lines.

As for “getting lucky”, you have situations where average Joe scores because of a drunk girl at a party who incoherently landed atop his dick.

He was merely at the right place, right time.

I know of tons of guys who scored that way (via luck). They did nothing at all to aide or kill their chances, but having been at the right place, right time with a girl who’s judgment was impaired…or so it would seem.

Those guys however only score through luck…which only occurs about once a year…if they’re lucky. So relying on luck to get laid isn’t a feasible tactic for any guy at all.

Apart from the luck factor, as for meeting a potential girlfriend, most black guys meet her through someone who knows someone who knows someone…and guy gets a lucky break [again- the luck factor plays a part].

Honestly; think about it!

How about your uncle James? How did he meet Jenifer…his now wife?

They were introduced through aunt Sally, through her coworker, through her coworker’s coworker who had a friend who recently got dumped by her boyfriend. So aunt Sally played the middleman between your uncle James, her coworker and the overweight girl who was then single because her player boyfriend had dumped her.

That is how most guys meet their girlfriend…regardless of race!

In some way or another they were hooked up by someone they knew, who knew of a girl who was either recently dumped or had been single and lonely for quite some time!

Another aspect to this is a friend of the family for instance. A large percentage of men meet their girlfriend through such a mean. Their girlfriend was a friend of their family, perhaps through a sibling, sister, etc.

This is all-too-common and very well known might I add.

Therefore, when you distill this down to its rawest essence, you quickly realize that black guys have no built-in edge over any other man in dating.

We get laid just as sparing, and our game is just as shitty as every other guy out there!

In the black community, just as it is in white societies in the western hemisphere, only about 4% of men is sleeping with the women within those societies.

In other words: only 4% of men get laid consistently, while the remaining and whopping 96% don’t get laid unless by chance and luck…or prostitution.

Hence, the same 4% of guys are fucking every girl who is sexually active.

Women are being passed around among the meager 4% of men who are players and womanizers.

At the end of the day, I hoped to have dispelled this myth once and for all.

The vast majority of black guys struggle to get laid just as men of other races.

Aside from struggling to get laid, most of us know nothing about what is required to attract women (in other words: game).

Fat Girls With “High Standards” Really Need To Re-Evaluate [Dating-Marketplace Value Reality Check]


“How politically incorrect to refer to ‘BIG’ girls as fat girls”!

All pun aside; I am learning to respect “BIG” girls in a brand-new way, hence my toned-down rhetoric over the last year or so where fat-shaming has virtually been eradicated from my writings.

In any case, plus-size women naturally face a conundrum in the dating marketplace, simply because they aren’t regarded as society’s idea of beauty.

Now, beauty is personal to each individual who’s judging what beauty means to him or her.

Beauty is subjective! It is truly to each his own. So I am not disregarding that at all!

However, the reality on the ground- in the dating-market place- is that the heavier you are, the more baggages you carry [no pun intended].

Plus-size women are by no means blind to this reality.

In the same breath, they are somewhat naïve to their perceived handicap in dating.

Earlier today, a plus-sizer, a distant acquaintance of mines on Facebook, posted a status about why guys on Facebook just see her as someone to “netflix and chill” with, rather than to wine and dine and take out.

I refrained from being blunt as possible on her post [that the reason for this is because she’s on the heavier side of things and guys don’t feel that they should invest as much], but I did chime in after another plus-sizer had commented about standards, and how big girls who have high standards should maintain those standards.

Here’s the screenshot.


Now- my argument was very simplistic without being blunt: Women should lower their standards and expectations in dating.

I stopped short of saying “fatties should lower their standards”, but realistically speaking, the more physical baggages [pounds] a woman has, the lower her standards should and must become if she wishes to get some play in the dating-market place!

Not to mention that the woman who had posted that status is plus-size, but has kids and is 43 years old.

Those are 3 strikes against a female when looking a suitable lover and potential long-term mate.

This isn’t news-fucking flash by the way!

A woman on the verge of infertility [menopause] does NOT and CANNOT wield the same influence in dating as a girl in her sexual prime!

The younger the woman, the more bargaining chips she can afford to play with, and the more leverage she wields in dating and mating.

Some women- a great portion of them- seem to turn a blind eye to this truth by wanting to believe that they can push their weight around and be demanding in the dating-marketplace, while having baggages in the form of children, age and pounds.

Plus-sizers and older women, fail to realize that their stock and market value will have depreciated and devalued over time: with age, and according to the pounds they pack on simultaneously as they age.

Big girls, though recognizing the disadvantages and devaluing of their market value, often choose to live in denial about this…though they know better.

Thanks to social media and thirsty men who don’t get laid, plus-size women can now take to the internet and live an alternate reality- a virtual reality- where they get validated all day long by such men, disingenuously being told how pretty they are, generating hundreds of likes on their lame-ass selfies and so forth.

With a hit off the validation pipe (the internet), big girls now feel that they are competitive enough in the dating world that they can make the same purchasing demands as women who are half their body size.

Every now and then, they receive a reality check once realizing that the vast majority of guys truly don’t desire a relationship with them, but just a “netflix and chill” 1-off encounter of anything.

This usually cuts the big girl down to size…or remove her from the high horse in which she had no business mounting in the first place.

Sure they are lots of guys who have a preference for big girls (even huge ones such as SSBBW’s). But on an innate level, no guy expects to have to fight arduously to snag a girl who’s entering the marketplace with weight issues.

To be frank, and I’m sorry to let the cat out the bag on how men think, the underlying reason why guys become chubby-chasers and go after heavies, included the guys who have a preference for big girls, is because they deem big girls easier catches.

Distasteful reality, but I had to break the news to you.

Most guys who chase big girls had only resorted to doing so out of scarcity, mild desperation, pent-up horniness, encouraged by the perception that the bigger the girl, the easier she must be.

Men, as slow as we are in comparison to women, very well know that big girls are lower down the marketplace-value chain than slim and thick women are.

Even the chubby-chaser are well aware of this truth…which is why they chase heavies in the first place (less marketplace value means easier buy)!

Whether we humans consciously see things this brash or not, dating and mating are equated to the sale and purchase of goods.

The closer the commodity reaches to its expiratory date, the more its marketplace value and price reduce.

The longer the item been on the shelf, its shelf life and value reduce.

Common day-to-day economics right there, to which the average consumer can relate.

In the area of dating, likewise, as the female ages and or packs on the pounds, the closer she gets to her expiratory date: whether that be menopause or expiration of life itself.

Nevertheless, the older she gets, the more value she loses in dating.

The amount of guys who would actually risk making that purchase still (as in to seriously date her) would have dwindled…unless it’s for a quick use.

What do I mean by “quick use”?

Instant pump and dump.

Likewise with the girl who’s been packing on the pounds, perhaps due to childbearing or hereditary factors; her purchasing value reduces as less guys would’ve been willing to take that gamble for a long-term investment.

Hence, of the guys who claim to be into big girls, the vast majority just wants to pump and dump and satisfy their sexual urges, while expending the least amount of resources (money and time) as possible on such a risky investment [big girls, and older girls]. So “Netflix and chill”, or some other low-investment proposal, is the most that the average Joe is willing to invest in a woman whom he deems to be a risky purchase (big and older women).

Now, let’s examine this on the other side of the spectrum.

Would the average guy solely shoot for “netflix and chill” with a younger and so-called hotter girl (according to societal’s standards)?

Of course not!

He would explore his options, ranging from a lavish date, shopping spree, to even a trip if the girl would only dare come along…all expenses paid…on him!

Why so? Because a younger and hotter (trimmer) girl would have been in high(er) demand in the dating marketplace!

Her value would have been out the roof!

She’s akin to the iPhone- whichever # they are up to now- fresh off the production line being shipped to retail outlets.

She’s likely to sell fast and at top price.

She can make outlandish demands because her value is congruent to her demands.

Being young- let’s say between the ages of 18-25 – trim or thick, and having no kids, she’s truly working with a monopolized hand.

Her demands will be met…and some!

As an overweight woman, withstanding the fact that you are childless and highly fertile in your early 20’s, you still cannot demand equal bargaining price as the women of smaller sizes…especially if they’re in shape!

As I touched on at the top of the article- fundamentally- women grasp this!

Big girls also understand this disparity and they cope with it for the most part!

Barring that, if a big girl wishes to maximize her buying power (and who wouldn’t ❓ ), she has to rethink and think wisely!

She should quit trying to compete with the women who are out of her league, by expecting to snag hot athletes and musical icons!

I posted a status to Facebook the other day, which I was chided out for, by saying that big girls are the only ones posting photos of jocks and half-naked men bearing 6-pac abs, whom they will never get if they were the last women on Earth.

Quite harsh but real!

Big girls general drool over guys who are out of their league.

“Drooling”, and having real expectations of dating an NFL star athlete, are 2 different things.

We can all fantasize of our ideal type. But to expect this ideal type to be desirous of us, in spite of our baggages, is pure mental masturbation.

Men also face this problem.

You have guys who are intrinsically 5’s on the attraction scale, yet desiring women who are HB 10’s on the looks scale!

Take note that I specifically wrote “attraction scale” and not “looks scale” for men, because what makes a guy a 9 or 10, is neither his facial composition, height nor build, but his fashion sense, style, attitude, personality, lifestyle, hobbies, etc.

However, as a guy, you cannot fucking become a 10 while laying up at home 6 nights a week, munching Cheetos, watching South Park, no physical activity besides fetching the remote and booze, or commuting to and from work, no social life whatsoever!

That’s not a fucking 10! No matter how handsome you are as a man!

Your stock in the dating marketplace will not be as valuable as an ugly guy who has a life, hits the gym, stays fit, has a cool-fashion sense, dresses well, etc.

Therefore, with men, what determines our date-worthiness and fuck-worthiness, isn’t how handsome we are, but everything else from the inner core to our style.

For women, since men are looks-based (visually stimulated creatures), we judge a woman’s fuckability and date-ability on her looks.

The more good-looking she is; the more we’re willing to pay for the acquisition.

The hotter, younger and trimmer the girl on a looks-base system, the more power she wields, the more leverage she has, and the more willing men are to invest more capital and time in such a fertile commodity.

With all that being said, if a guy who’s a 5 or 6, wishes to date up, he needs to get his shit together, drop the potato-chips bag, get off the couch and go get a life!


If he’s a 5 or 6 and doesn’t wish to improve his lifestyle situation; then he needs to drop the fantasy of having a drop-dead stunner- an HB10- walking into his abode with lingerie on, ready to get ravaged by him!

It’s not gonna happen brodie!

You have to become a 10 [attitude and lifestyle wise] if you firstly want to date 10’s!

For big girls, it is easy for me to say, “Just lose 100 fucking pounds and you’re golden”!

Easier to say; but not realistic.

What is really feasible and doable though, is if she simply lowers her standards!

Just as I’d said in the screenshot at the top to my plus-size acquaintance, too many women are walking around with these high-ass standards and expectations when they don’t qualify!

You can’t expect a 10 when you’re a 4!

You can’t be grossly overweight and expect to snag a guy who’s a goddamn 10 (this is general advise BTW, and not directed at any specific big girl 🙂 )!

It isn’t congruent to your marketplace value!

You cannot realistically want a guy who’s a 7, 8, 9 or 10, if and when you are borderline menopausal, have 1 or numerous kids and are overweight!

Your standards and expectations of men cannot be sky frikkin’ high!

That’s like me trying to convince someone to buy my old iPhone 3G for $500 USD!

That’s insane!

The only way I could get it sold for that price, is if I hustle and swindle someone into buying it!

Do fat girls- I mean “big” girls- try to hustle and swindle guys into making a serious purchase, albeit a risky one?

Sure they do!

How about showing a little bit more cleavage than slim girls do in those selfies?

Some inducements, huh?

In any case, lowering one’s standards in order to find a potential mate, shouldn’t be an undignified blow to anyone’s self esteem.

Telling a girl that her standards in men are too high and she should rethink that strategy, is akin to fighting words nowadays…for most women.

However, it is a wise strategy in my estimation. And most women who claim to be single (though truly single women don’t exist) are so, as products of their own high expectations in men, and high standards which don’t align with their dating-marketplace value.

If you’re a big girl, and can’t seem to find a jacked guy who’s built like an athlete, willing to take you on for more than just a 2-week fling; then just maybe dammit- your standards are too damn high! And that checklist needs to have fewer boxes!

Ever thought of that!?

Why not settle for the guy who’s a bit pudgy around the waist; who’s respectfully in your league but a tad bit higher?

If the verb “settle” doesn’t sit too well with you, why not “reconsider” the guys whom you’re putting yourself out there for?

Instead of futilely chasing after the 10’s, why not give the 7’s and 6’s a meaningful shot without putting up this bitch shield or titanium, sending guys running for the hills?

TV Shows I Miss And Grew Up On During The 1990’s (which makes me feel so nostalgic)

Aah, the great-old 90’s!

Of my 30 years of physical existence on the planet Earth (spanning 3 decades), the 1990’s are the most memorable and loved. In fact, I don’t remember shit from the 80’s (was too young), and the 2,000’s suck donkey balls as far as T.V. shows are concerned [with the exception of Reality Shows].

And the reason I chose the following shows of the 90’s, is the intense sensation of nostalgia and longing that they give me whenever I retrospect or happen to glimpse reruns of these shows.

I’ll try to see how much about these shows I could remember without actually googling anything (except the years).

Here goes…!

*Party Of Five [1994]

A teen drama which aired around 1994. It was pretty much like Beverly Hills 90210 (which I loved back in the 90’s).

Something about shows like these had an intense pull on me during my teen years.

*Full House [1987-1995]

Whenever I hear the theme song from this show, I get sentimental flashbacks from my teen years [sounds hard for an Alpha-Male to admit LOL].

I used to watch this show every day after school (Junior High.

*Doogie Howser M.D. [1989-93]

Doogie Howser M.D.

Doogie Howser M.D.

Wow! Talk about a favorite!

This show made me want to become a medical doctor. I was glued on this something serious!

*Living Single [1994]

Living Single

Living Single

Damn! The theme song from this show (the earlier years) brings tears to my eyes…ALMOST!

My mother loved this show also.

*Saved By The Bell [’89-1993]

This show is my all-time favorite without a doubt!

I loved Saved By The Bell!

The character Zack was my idol! I hated A.C. Slater (played by Mario Lopez)!

BTW, I hated the college years with a passion!

*The Wonder Years [1988-’93]

The Wonder Years

The Wonder Years

Ah man! This was my shit! The only character I remember from the show by heart is Kevin Arnold (the protagonist).

It was a hit series back in the day.

*Blossom [1990]



All I remember is that I had a major-kiddie crush on Blossom.

She definitely wasn’t hot, but the quirkiness and nerdy persona made me attracted in a weird way.

*New York Undercover [1994-’98]

New York Undercover

New York Undercover

I used to love cop shows as a kid throughout the 90’s! This drama used to air on Fox every Thursday nights. My brother and I wouldn’t miss it for anything! Every kid who grew up in NYC as I did, loved this show like a ritual!

The theme song for this show makes me wanna travel back in time to the good-old 90’s.

*Beverly Hills 90210 [1990-2000]

Beverly Hills 90210

Beverly Hills 90210

This was my love!

The theme song was sick!!!

I had a serious crush on the Jewish girl [forgot her name]. I wouldn’t miss this show for nothing!

*Singled Out [1995-1998]

Singled Out

Singled Out

A sort of dating-game show which aired on MTV.

I fell in love with Carmen Electra & Jenny McCarthy from watching this show.

This show made MTV (in my perspective)!

There were other shows from the 90’s which I loved like: Fresh Prince, Martin, Night Court, Married With Children, Family Matters, Law and Order, 21 Jump Street, etc. But those shows never gave me the sense of longing for the 90’s.

Feel free to mention the shows you liked from the 90’s in the comment section [doesn’t matter the genre].

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Most Bangable Pop-Culture Chic of 2011


Hey guys, I’m just gonna post my top 3 most bang-worthy TV personalities of 2011; be it actresses, singers, fitness gurus,…doesn’t matter! As long as their asses been on TV [pop-culture] more than twice for the year.

Call this my “going out with a bang” list for the year’s end [Woa!!].

Jillian Michaels


I’m usually disgusted by chics with abs and more toned biceps than I got. But JM sexy as hell! All those fitness informercials at 4 A.M. got me sprung!

Lauren London


This chic is said to be on Entourage and 90210. I hate those 2 shows so I never actually seen her on there. She did play in the movie ATL (which I hated), which landed her on my bang-list for 2011. She does modeling also.

Paula Abdul


My bang-list would not be complete without a hot MILF on it.

For those who know me (or been following my blog), y’all would’ve known that I’m a relentless MILF-Hunter to say the least! Can’t think of a hotter Cougar than Paula.

Well that was it guys. I don’t care how Jimmy’s list looks. I don’t care who’s on Joe Blow’s list. This is Kenny’s list!!! But I do wanna know who’s on your list.

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