Thursday Morning Rendezvous With A Fan…Part II Ruined By Rain Storm


[Post written on Wednesday]

I just met up and had lunch with this chick who popped up in my part of town.

She’d hit me up this morning telling me that she’s in my part of town.

After our hour-long lunch date she had to run to do some business. But we are set to meet up again after 2 pm…hopefully at the PUA pad.

What had happened was, after our departure (she went to do business and I went back to work), she was to message me not long later about meeting me somewhere.

She did message me but to say that she was stranded because of the rain storm. I was also stranded at work because of the storm. 😦

What bad fucking timing I said to myself!

It was after 2 PM and the girl had to catch a ferry for 3. So meeting up again was pretty much fucked.

Anyway, what I want to end this post with is a point I touched on in a previous article about the uselessness of phone numbers in this day and age.

Gone are the days where phone numbers and phone calls were the sole modus communique when it comes to dating and meeting up with girls.

Having her as friends on Facebook and other social-media sites, is just as good as having her #.

This girl here was a perfect example.

She doesn’t have my #, nor do I have hers. But she contacted me through Messenger about being in my town, and I was able to set up the rendezvous- through Messenger- just as if we were texting through a standardized sms app.

Most guys harp over phone numbers because. It strokes their egos. Getting a girl’s # is seen as a trophy for most guys. Hence they gun after it with reckless abandonment.

In all reality; why even try to get a girl’s # since you aren’t bound to ring her anyway?

No one calls anyone nowadays (at least not in the western world).

We shoot a text and that’s it. Push comes to shove, we have the option of calling free of charge through services such as IMO, Messenger, Whatsapp, Skype and even the Magic Jack mobile-phone app.

With that, there’s absolutely no reason for a phone number as long as you use social media! Whatsapp would be the only exception where a phone number is required. But that’s still a mute point.

Since I’m not a mental masturbator who’s satisfied with solely talking about it, I began putting this into practice over the weeks, as I demonstrated in this quick video from a day ago where I approached a girl, chatted her up, and added her on Facebook instead of getting her #.

https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=674921719329794&id=134954059993232

New Video—>When Grabbing The Girl’s Phone Number Ensure That She knows The Deal [+Infield Examples]

Number closing and grabbing girl’s phone number.

Common blunder committed by guys is that they grab the girl’s number under the impression that they merely want to become texting and phone buddies.

While in the process of grabbing a girl’s number, you want to make it abundantly clear to her that you’re expecting to see her sometime soon…as in the coming days.

Moreover, she should know that the number close or number swap was done solely to facilitate a meet-up or so-called date, and not just to swap #’s for swapping sake…nor as a trophy.

Whenever your intent is clear from the get-go, or upon getting the girl’s phone number, this drastically reduces the chance of flaking, girl standing you up and or playing head games.

Once she knows that the reason you’re grabbing her number is to see her again, she won’t get this feeling of surprise when you contact her, wanting to hang out or go out.

That is where lots of guys go wrong. They grab the girl’s number without stating their intent (to meet up), so the girl is left to assume the least; that the guy merely wants to text or chat.

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When To Call The Girl After Getting The Digits…[Video Repost]


“When is the right time to call the girl after getting her number”?

I hate having to repost a video here on the blog when a certain subject had already been exhausted.

Nevertheless, a handful of guys in the pick-up forums had been struggling with the question of when: “when should I call the chick after getting her digits”?

I re-posted a recent video of mines where I touched on that very subject and tackled the popular myths surrounding it…such as “the 3 day rule”, whereas it is advisable not to contact a girl before 3 days has elapsed least you appear needy and desperate.

In a recent post of mines to a PUA forum via Facebook, the pick-up/seduction community founder himself, Mystery [Erik Markovik] of VH1’s The Pick-Up Artist, chimed in to lend his support and accord to what I had to say on the topic of “when to contact a girl after getting her number”.

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It’s always a pleasure to get the nod of approval from the pick-up godfather and founder himself. 😉

If you haven’t yet checked out the video, you can do so now below to get my take on when you should contact the girl after you would have gotten her digits.

Get “Real” Phone Numbers + Day-Game Infield Pick-Up Examples

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My Youtube subscribers have probably surmised that I either got kidnapped- or rather worse- got hitched. 😉

I haven’t put out a video since August. And as a super active video-poster, that is uncharacteristic to say the least.

Alas!

The proverbial day-game season [Summer] has wined down because of the pending-cold weather in your neck of the woods, so I am issuing a last hurrah and encouragement to those lads who are incline to hibernate during the remaining quarter of the year.

Since I’m based in the Caribbean- and have been over the past 3 years or so- picking up women on the streets [street game and day-game] is something I do all 12 months of the year because of the conducive-Summer weather.

If you’re not that fortunate [weather-wise] then please get off the couch and get some last minute game in while October is still here!

Anyway, I get quite a number of guys complain to me about phone-number closes and how flaky they usually are.

The #1 reason as to why the phone numbers you get almost always result in naught, nothing, nada, zip, zero, zilch, is the length of time [or the lack thereof] in which you take to try to get the girl’s number.

In other words; you rush for the number too fast before you even build anything, or give the girl a reason to want to give you her number.

This is the downside of flash-game and flash-number closes where the PUA tries to collect numbers as fast as an auction-guy can get the bids out there.

Great exercise! But doesn’t yield much in the department of “solid”-phone numbers which leads to so-called dates.

In this latest video of mines, I also share with you an awesome and simple tip in how to prolong conversation like it’s nothing!

Thus, it is 1 thing for me to tell you that the longer your initial conversation goes [upon the pickup], the greater your chances by far of getting a date to hooking up. But it’s another story to know just “How to” prolong a conversation upon approaching a girl outside of cyberspace.

Check out the insightful video which I’d put together a week and a half ago.
You’ll also see real-world examples of how to prolong the convo, what 4 main topics to touch, and why you shouldn’t take a girl’s phone number at all!

Quick Pickup Of An Elementary-School Counselor MILF & An 18 Year Old [Saturday Night Pulls] + The Conversion Factor & Prioritization


Picking up girls is a piece of cake.

I’ve proven this time after time, year in year out over the last 7 years particularly since become adroit in this art.

Getting a girl to cough up her contact information, i.e phone number, is as easy as taking a piss at the crack of dawn.

You will have reached this realization as you advance in the field.

Last night [Saturday, May 23], to add to my list of girls picked up, I managed to pick up 2 new girls of totally different caliber: 1 being a guidance counselor for elementary-school kids in her early 40’s. The other having just turned 18, unemployed and doesn’t have a path in life.

Counselor Pickup

Ok, while standing on the roadside outside of the lounge that I went to Friday night, a sexy-ass tall girl wearing pinkish-denim jeans walked by.

I was totally caught off-guard being that my eyes were glued to my Android phone.

I’d only noticed her in passing.

What really attracted me was the way she walked. So I took chase from about 30 yards behind of her- hurriedly trying to catch up.

I threw my favorite-default opener/ice-breaker which rarely ever fails me:

“Hey, you look so familiar like we’ve met before. Do we know each other”?

Like clockwork- the girl goes into her head trying to gauge whether she recognizes my face or not.

Of course she doesn’t recognize me! 😉
Me: “Ok forget about it. Isn’t important now. I’m Kenny”.

MILF: “I’m ***. By the way I’m sorta lost. I’m supposed to meet some friends and they told me they are staying somewhere around here but I don’t know the area”.

After a while of this [trying to figure out where her friends are], I switched gears.

Me: “What are your plans for the night. You might want to be my date”.

MILF: 😆 I’m supposed to meet my boyfriend just now. He’s calling”.

Her phone rang. Apparently, it was her boyfriend.

MILF: “He said to meet him near ******’s bar”.

Me: “Oh, I know where that it. It’s a long ways further down on the same street”.

We walked the way and chatted.

Found out that she doesn’t live here but just visiting for the concert over the weekend.

I kept trying to convince her to come with me to the concert and ditch her boyfriend. 😉 😈

She laughingly declined.

She seemed somewhat nervous about something as we approached the bar where her boyfriend was to meet her.

Sensing this, I said to her, “Seem uncomfortable”.

MILF: “Just that I know how jealous my boyfriend gets when he sees me talking to guys. If he sees me talking to you on the corner, he’ll have a fit”.

Her phone rang again.

Her boyfriend asking her where did she reach.

Not knowing the area, she couldn’t really say where.

I wasn’t gonna help her with those details anyway. 😈

Sensing this wasn’t going to go in the direction I wanted it to; I decided to grab her phone number.

Me: “Anyway, I have to run. Lemme take your number. I’ll shoot you a text and if your boyfriend gets on your nerve, we should hang out at the concert later on”.

She laughed.

MILF: “Ok. It’s ****528”.

Hugged her and parted ways.

It was about 9:30 PM and my girlfriend kept texting my phone as I was to meet up with her. 😦 😯

I texted the guidance counselor MILF on Whatsapp after I’d picked her up.

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That was that on this set.

18 Year Old Pickup

A while later while pacing up and down a particular busy intersection, I spotted a girl prancing by.

Me: “Hold on! Hold on! Real quick! Just a second”!

I flashed my cellphone light in order to get her attention as she looked back and slowed down.

I ran to meet her.

Once again throwing my favorite opener.

Me: “You look very familiar like someone I know…which is why I stopped you”.

She gave me a pensive look [as usual], trying to see if she recognizes me.

Me: “Anyway, that was probably someone else. So what’s up for a girl like you tonight”?

Girl: “Just heading to the Lime Nightclub”.

Me: “This early!? It’s way too early. I doubt that it’s even open”.

We kept on walking towards the direction of the club.

Me: “By the way you look mighty young”.

Girl: “I’m 18…just turned 18”.

After we walked and chatted for a while, I told her we should sit somewhere for a bit.

Girl: “Where”?

I looked around but couldn’t find a place to sit and chat.

Fuck!

We kept walking instead.

Me: “A sexy girl like you doesn’t have a date tonight. What’s up with that”?

Girl: “I do have a boyfriend but he’s not here. So I’m meeting up with my cousin at the club. So…how old are you”?

Me: “I’m 30”.

I never really shave off any age when chatting up women. But since she was very young, I told her I was 30 instead of 33.

Me: “Old enough to be your father”.

Girl: “Isn’t that interesting”.

Obviously, she had no way to go.

The club wasn’t open yet, so she stood at a corner wondering which route to take.

Me: “Let’s go through there”!

Girl: “But I don’t know you. I can’t just go with you like that”.

I should’ve just walked/lead but I dropped the ball and allowed her to pick the route. So we headed straight.

As traffic came heavily, I took that as an opportunity to hold her.

I took her arm and pulled her out of traffic as she was walking nearer to the street:

Me: “You wanna get knocked down”?

We walked for a while and stopped outside of a barbershop.

Honestly, I was fucking tired of walking!

Imagine doing this from Thursday to Sunday- every fucking weekend, year in, year out, trying to take girls home!

Me: “Alisha! Stop! Come here girl”!

She turned around:

Me: “Where are you going”?

Girl: “Just walking. Might go to a bar right ahead and hope I see my cousin”.

We stood there talking for a bit.

I had 2 choices:

1.) Go with her to the bar, get to spend more time, then hopefully fuck her at the end of the night

2.) Take her number and try to set something up for the following day

She wanted me to continue walk with her and likely hit the bar.

The spirit was willing but the feet weren’t able.

I took her phone number and let her go about her way.

She was a prime target for Same-Night Sex: wanted to go to the bar to drink, doesn’t have any real plan, etc.

It hurts when you’re not able to keep up.

Maybe I’m getting old?

Conversion & Prioritization In The Game

Picking up girls is a piece of cake as I mentioned at the top of the article.

I always preach to you guys who are readers of my blog, that getting girl’s phone numbers is almost a given for me.

Put me in a packed nightclub and let me loose, and I’ll guarantee to be able to get 95% of the girl’s phone number in the venue within record time.

What makes me so adroit and skillful at this- apart from year’s worth of practice- is the realization that women cannot say no!

Sure they can…which brings up a great dichotomy! But, it is next to impossible for a girl to not give a guy her phone number.

Now, you may say to yourself, “But Kenny! I can’t fucking get phone numbers to save my life! Girls always tell me no. So how can you claim it is that easy”!?

Once you learn the mechanics of how to do this correctly, you will have come to the realization also, that women are more than willing to cough up their phone number in a heartbeat.

However, that is the least of your worries…mines also.

Ok, lemme ditch out some raw stats here just to bring things into perspective.

Over the last 2 weeks, I’ve picked up over 30 women.

By “picked up”, I mean getting their phone numbers.

A portion of those pickups occurred online [Facebook], while the remaining portion took place on street approaches.

Over the past week however, of the 20 or so girls whom I’d picked up, about 16 of them were from cold-stranger approaches on the streets.

Now, it is 1 thing to be able to collect phone numbers. But another thing to convert these into something tangible: SEX!

I am NOT in the business of collecting phone numbers for the sake of it!

My primary and ultimate goal is to fuck!

If the girl isn’t down with that program; I delete her and move on quickly! And by “quickly”, I mean within a matter of 16 hours sometimes, once I realize that the girl just wants a text-buddy or a virtual shoulder to cry on.

She can use another guy’s shoulder to cry on.

I am only looking for sex notches.

What I do with the greater portion of the phone numbers I get, is to prioritize based on existential factors.

It isn’t logical nor wise to waste time [days, weeks and months] trying to convert a non-DTF chick into a lay, when you could’ve simply concentrated on another girl whom you’d picked up, who might have been DTF from the get-go.

I see plenty of guys fall victim to such grave miscalculation by wasting time on the girls who aren’t interested.

Having a prioritization strategy will take care of this.

I choose to dedicate my time to certain girls based on certain factors and questions such as:

*Is she here permanently?

*Is she just visiting?

*When is she leaving?

*When does her boyfriend come back?

*Does she live nearby?

Those questions are factored into the decision-making process whenever I pick up a bunch of girls, but not sure as to which one to tackle first and give priority.

Case in point; it makes no sense to place as priority 1, a girl who lives in your town, over a girl who’s just visiting family in your town for the weekend.

Girl 2 should get the priority nod by virtue of logistics and the fact that she’s leaving within a matter of 2 days.

As we speak, there are about 20 new numbers saved to my Android’s contact list of girls whom I’d picked up over the last day or 2.

Of those 20: 4 of them are visitors on island for the weekend’s concert, slated to leave around Monday afternoon.

Since it is Sunday, May 24th, I have literally 24 hours to try to have sex with 4 girls.

This isn’t possible…at least not for my sex drive which isn’t high as the average guy’s who doesn’t get laid.

However, this is where prioritizing plays a key role again with these 4 visitors who’ll be leaving by tomorrow afternoon.

Hence, of the 4, I will have to narrow it down to the most DTF 1 or 2 of the 4.

If all 4 are readily DTF: then I have a huge problem on my hand, which still means I would have to narrow it down to 1 or 2.

When these 4 girls will have left the island after Monday, I can then focus my cock on the remainder of the 20 who are local girls, thus I was afforded time to put them on the back-burner until.

I’ll keep you guys updated.

Calling That New Girl For The 1st Time – Sharing My Old Strategy


If you think approaching a stranger is a mammoth task- think again!

Placing that 1st phone call is probably the most jitter-inducing task you will have ever undertaken.

In this age of newer technologies, conversing via telephone (or mobile) seems to be an antiquated art where everyone elects to text and go!

This compounds to the problem even more in relation to calling the girl.

However, if you do decide to call that new girl (which you should) and you’re somewhat hesitant about the undertaking, in the video, I share with you my personal tip that I once used as a newbie in pickup.

“Should I Get Her Phone Number Or Facebook Info”?

Ah- those were the days man.

Reflecting on the years when merely contemplating to get a girl’s phone number was a gut-wrenching task that required a contingency plan, a week’s worth of preparation, a witty-number close routine and encouragement from the bros on PUA forums.

Fast forward many years- getting hot girls’ phone # is as easy as channel surfing is to a couch-potato- no big fucking deal whatsoever!

In all reality though, securing the phone # is never the big deal.

It’s getting the girl on the phone and to actually commit to meeting up, is the challenging part.

Just as getting a girl back to your place isn’t that great of a deal [easy for me to say- I guess].

It’s getting her panties off which requires the most effort, tact, planning and skill.

Firstly, I want to say that a phone number means Jack Shit to a woman.

Yet, it means a big deal.

Confused as yet?

I bet!

This’ just 1 of those many contradictions you’ll typically encounter whenever probing into the female psyche and pathology.

On 1 hand: a girl will willingly couch up her phone # to a homeless guy if he only asks [it couldn’t get any simpler].

On the other hand, depended on which side of the bed she woke from; she will lie and fabricate the most elaborate stories as to why she can’t give out her phone number…or why she doesn’t have a phone currently.

How do you discern which girl you’re actually dealing with?

I’ll tackle this in a subsequent post since it’s deserving of an exclusive article to really break it down.

For now though, let’s get into phone numbers and Facebook contact exchange and which is the most feasible…and why.

Should you go for her phone # or Facebook info (her name) in order to friend-request her?

It depends.

I call this “gauging the hot-meter”, where you have to gauge how warm and receptive the vibe is, to discern which route to take to establish communication.

This is 1 exception where you shouldn’t really shoot high then work your way down the ladder.

What I mean is, if you were to at the end of a conversation, try to get the girl’s phone number [aiming high] and she puts up real resistance or simply says, “I can’t give it to you”.

To then work your way down the proverbial ladder by opting for her Facebook instead, it would’ve DLV’d you.

In other words, you would’ve appeared to be too desperate and over eager to get her information.

Even if she does give you her Facebook details after refusing to give you her phone number, the chances of actually getting to chat with her online (Facebook) would’ve been slim as tinfoil as she would’ve already relegated you to the “desperate” basket.

On the bright side, if she does agree to give her Facebook, you can always go for her phone number instead:

“Hey, I wanna add you on Facebook and when I get the time, I’ll shoot you a message and we can grab a juice some time. Matter of fact- screw Facebook- gimme your phone number instead…since girls don’t reply to their Facebook messages”.

Simple!

Hence, you can aim low [Facebook], and if she accepts, you can then go high [phone #].

However, you cannot do the opposite by going for her phone # and if she refuses, you get her Facebook instead [sure you can do it but you’ll look too desperate].

She will give it to you most likely [her Facebook]. But she won’t engage you at all…or just to be cordial and friendly while brushing you off in the same token.

Ok, so the hidden beauty in going for her Facebook, in my opinion and from experience, is that it’s so impersonal [Facebook], that she almost cannot refuse the proposal.

I’ve never had a girl refuse to add me on Facebook or refuse to give me her Facebook info in order to add her up.

The underlying reason as to why girls will cough up their Facebook so readily, is simply because of the impersonal nature of it all.

This in and of itself is a HUGE fucking contradiction!

A girl’s Facebook is the doorway to her personal life.

It’s like getting a free pass into her disheveled bedroom which she hadn’t cleaned in months.

Therefore, and in essence, Facebook is an ULTRA-personal domain [LOGICALLY]…but it isn’t treated as such by women.

It’s treated as an impersonal entity since after all- Facebook is a public site.

It’s for this reason why she’ll be way more receptive to giving you her Facebook name, since after all- it’s public information which can be accessed by anyone…unless the account is hidden.

When it comes to her phone number, you’re talking about another level here where privacy rules.

Her telephone number is NOT public information, therefore she should guard it with some level of foresight.

I said “SHOULD”! ;(

Not to bombard you with the obvious, but a phone number operates very differently than a Facebook communique.

You can blow up her Facebook inbox to infinity; she is still at liberty to simply ignore your messages while allowing them to pile up to the sky.

Hence, there is less risk in giving you her Facebook if it turns out that you’re a 1st-rate stalker and a lunatic.

She can block you, report you account, etc, etc, etc.

Now, with her phone number; shit isn’t that easy to troubleshoot.

Giving her phone number to the wrong dude, could realistically result in she having to change her phone number entirely…which means her previous contacts won’t be able to reach her at the usual number.

That is a huge risk to take just for 1 guy whom she doesn’t know!

She cannot simply ignore her phone calls as she ignores her Facebook messages.

If it turns out that the guy whom she’d given her # to, is a needy-stalkerish troll, you’re talking about phone calls at 4 AM, her phone being blown up while she’s in a meeting, sleepless nights and so forth.

She cannot simply block you from calling her phone.

Even if she does block incoming calls from your phone number, you can always call her from another SIM, LAN line or borrow someone else’s mobile.

With that being said, coupled with the realities on the ground, a girl will naturally be more reluctant to cough up her digits as the risks would’ve been greater for her.

It’s for this reason why it is a much safer route to get her Facebook instead- at first- then eventually get her phone number (through Facebook) as you would’ve chit-chatted at some point.

Capiche?

Her Facebook isn’t an end but a mean to an end.

You’re merely getting her Facebook in order to get her phone number after communicating to her (through Facebook) that you’re someone whom she can entrust with her personal-contact info, i.e. phone number.

The girl just wants to see that you aren’t some loony-toon character who’s gonna ring her phone 20 times a day or send her dozens of cheesy messages about how much you like her.

This is where good text-game comes in…which you can learn here:

Once again guys: if you aren’t sure that the girl whom you’re chatting up in person will give you her phone number, opt for her Facebook details instead.

From there, you create a good impression through Facebook chat, then you get her phone number once she realizes that you are safe, cool, fun, funny and non-needy.

There’s no chance in hell that she will refuse to give you her phone # once you’re able to have a semi-decent chat over Facebook.

Only how this will fail, is if you screw up the 1st. impression through social media text game.

To backtrack a bit- by all means- go for her phone number if you sense that the vibe is ON, warm or hot!

If it’s cold; then go for the Facebook!

The worst mistake I see guys make constantly, is to go for the girl’s phone # at the absolute wrong time!

I mean, this infraction occurs so often that it’s still cringe-worthy just to watch it go down.

The worst possible moment to try to get a girl’s phone number is when the vibe is lukewarm, cold or frigid!

Ironically, this is the moment when most guys go for it as they sense that the girl is slipping away and it’s either now or never!!!

When dealing with a lukewarm or cold situation, you either go for her Facebook or try to heat the vibe up where the girl will have become more open to giving her number.

This is where the art of charm and persuasion comes in.

The ability to turn a cold situation hot.

You then opt to go for her number if and when the vibe/girl becomes warm, hot or flaming hot!

For those who are a bit slower to catching on: by “hot”, I am NOT referring to the girl’s sexual temperature.

I’m talking about good conversation.

Always go for the phone number on a high note in conversation opposed to a low note when things are stalling and the vibe gets cold(er) and boring.

Don’t wait until you run out of things to say and the situation gets awkward to then say, “By the way…can I get your number”?

Also, it makes no sense to go for the Facebook if the girl is totally into you and is displaying massive signs of interest in you.

In a nutshell: if you aren’t getting great responses from the girl- go for the Facebook close.

If you are getting great responses via good conversation; go for the phone number.

To add an extra caveat here: if the girl is giving great responses and the vibe is warm to hot- don’t even go the phone number (as yet), but an instant-date.

Ciao!

Calling Her For The First Time

Every guy can relate to the intensely anxious feeling one gets when contemplating the “First Call”.

Believe me, as a master pick-up artist; I still experience this. But I have a nifty trick which eliminates the 1st. call jitters like it’s nothing.

Instead of phoning the hottie first, call up 1 or 2 other persons right before that.

Simple!!

Call up a buddy or some girl whom you’re already acquainted with (perhaps a chick who’d friendzoned you a while back). Or better yet; call up a frikkin’ sibling.

Just make sure that these people are ones you can chat shit with.

So talk shit with 1 of them for about a minute or so.

You’re essentially getting into state (a social state).

The worst time to possibly phone a girl (whether the first time or not), is when you’re “NOT in state”. In other words, when not in a social mood.

Not being in state is basically not being in a social mode; as when you just woke up, in a down mood, watching 5 hours of TV programming, etc.

Those are the worst times in which to phone the girl.

That lackadaisical state you’re in, while over the phone, will have transfered onto the girl [“emotions are contagious”].

So you never want to call up a girl when you haven’t been doing anything besides loafing around.

That emotional state will bore the fuck out of the girl and make for a flat conversation.

So get yourself into state first by phoning someone or two whom you’re already super comfortable speaking with. Then directly afterwards while still in that high-energy state; phone up the girl for the 1st time whom you’ve been wanting to.

How To Get Her Comfortable Over The Phone [1st. Call Jitters Management]

The initial phone call will be perhaps the hardest, most tension-filled and nerve-wrecking thing you’ll ever do in dating!

Its packs the same amount of tension, pressure and fear as when going for the first kiss…at least for most guys.

Ok, so I phoned a chick yesterday for the first time since we met, which was over 6 months ago but I just never got around to calling her.

Writing this short post makes me flash back to the many stories on the PUA forums of how guys had to psych themselves up ridiculously just to make that first call. Everything from punching walls, doing push-ups to praying! 😯

As a newbie to Pickup back in those years, I also had some crazy-fucking pre-phone call rituals which will remain hidden until further notice. 🙂

Basically, calling a specific girl for the 1st. time is a nerve-wrecking task and most men can agree with and empathize with those sentiments…right?

Now, this isn’t a post on how to kill 1st. call jitters on your end, but it’s actually how to kill the jitters on the girl’s end.

Hence I’m presuming that you, the reader, aren’t severely paralyzed by the undertaking of calling a girl for the first time.

I’m also presuming that you’re fairly comfortable in doing so already. If you aren’t, then I suggest you stop reading this post until you’ve first managed your shit (anxiety) then you’ll be in a better position of understanding of how to make the girl comfortable over the phone.

Stay tuned for a video on this pretty soon.

Anyway, you have to first be comfortable over the phone in order for the girl on the receiving end to feel comfortable herself (presuming she has the jitters- and she will).

Remember an article/video post I’d published earlier in the year about calling out awkwardness on dates and so forth?

Well that is the trick here which you’ll be advised to employ.

Now, I phoned the sexy MILF a day ago for the 1st. time ever and as she got on the phone and realized that the # and voice were unfamiliar to her eyes and ears, her voice immediately cracked up due to the 1st. call jitters.

She sounded nervous, un-calibrated and flat out frightened.

It was so apparent (the fear and awkwardness) that she literally tried to rush me off the phone. It was hilarious when I think about it [LMAO]! 😆

Was she so busy that she couldn’t talk?

No.

She told me that she was doing anything so there was no excuse for her to try to hang up. But the first-call jitters were so crippling (as they always are), that she was being cajoled into wanting to hang up.

We hadn’t even been on the line for 15 seconds to be honest.

Usually at that point, I would sense the tension on her part thereby try to relieve it by saying to the girl:

“I’ll call you back some other time”.

Doing so however isn’t only a mistake which I was making for years, but it kills your chances to hook up with that girl. So your best bet is to try to keep her on the line. And the only way you’ll be able to achieve this smoothly is by making her comfortable in the uncomfortable.

Hence with this girl, instead of allowing her to hang up or I hang up instead, I kept her on the line by calling out the awkwardness!

Simple!

That is the trick to getting her nerves settled.

You want to draw full fucking attention on the fact that she or you, or both of y’all, are feeling this nervous energy from the phone call…but it’s normal.

I said to her as she tried to bring up a reason to get off the phone:

Me: “Wait…so I know you’re nervous…I can feel it and sense it…but it’s cool! We’re human. You’re human right”?

Girl: “Of course”!

Me: “Ok then, now let’s settle this shit down and start all over. I know you’re a bit scared but such is life. So…how are you”?

Girl: “I’m good”.

Me: “Now that’s better. You see- you aren’t that nervous now are you”?

Girl: “No I’m not”.

There you have it.

The conversation went on for another 10 minutes or so (in total comfort) which enabled me to get her to commit to us meeting up perhaps over the weekend at a bar.

This routine/trick is no different than what I wrote about for awkward-date scenarios which is to bring attention to the awkward energy by bringing it up, laugh about it then progress as normal.

The fact that you call it out early or bring it up, will have killed the possibility of this negative energy re-emerging.

If you call out awkwardness, you can’t then feel awkward anymore within that interaction, call or date.

The awkwardness is already out there.
What you’re essentially doing is making the girl feel comfortable by showing empathy whether you genuinely empathize or not.

Therefore, the next time you get a girl’s phone # and are about to call her for the first time:

1.) Expect her to be, sound and feel super nervous [80% of the time they will].

2.) If she tries to or angles towards ending the conversation prematurely without being busy [70% of the time they will]; don’t allow her to!

3.) Call out the nervous energy and play the empathy card.

4.) When the energy is settled due to your calming words, progress the convo as normally would.

Remember: acknowledge the awkward and nervous energy by bringing it up, laugh about then continue.

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