There are many common mistakes guys make when trying to court a woman.
One in particular is: we tend to actively lend a listening-ear to women when they vent about their love life, an ex-boyfriend or their current relationship problems.
On the surface, this may seem a cogent idea: “If I only listen to her boyfriend issues, she’ll reward me with some pussy, or even dump him for me”.
That however, rarely ever pans out accordingly.
What guys fail to realize is that women are very opportunistic and calculating when it comes to issues of the heart.
Everything for her is a stratagem.
The guy who listens to her relationship issues and lends her a shoulder in which to lean and cry on, has a designated role…and that is to become her emotional tampon and nothing short or long of it.
Women are very strategic and precise on the roles in which they have certain guys play in their lives.
For instance: if a girl friendzones a guy, she will NEVER fuck that guy.
He has been relegated to the friends only basket, which means that he is no longer a sexual item in her eyes.
Likewise with guys who put themselves out there as the consoling gentlemen for damsels in distress; they are basically relegated to that role and that role only (her emotional tampon). And women for the most part do not sleep with guys whom they designate for the specific purpose of consoling them when their hearts are broken.
Ironically, the guys whom women run to and phone up whenever their boyfriend treats them like trash, are generally in the friendzone to begin with.
One of the subtle signs that you’ve been friendzoned or about to be friendzoned, is when the girl runs to you (via calls, text, etc) to vent about her BF and relationship issues.
A friend should be there for her, right?
Either she has already friendzoned you or is testing the waters to see how pliable you are, and how willing you are to yield and bend.
Case in point: about a month ago, I picked up a girl while running some street approaches. Due to her travels, we weren’t able to meet up as yet.
Over the past week and a half, she’s been hitting me up like crazy via Facebook, wanting to talk about her boyfriend issues and how she suspects him of cheating and lying about other matters in their relationship.
Knowing that if I entertain this sort of shenanigans by listening and offering cliche guidance, would be a nail in my coffin as far as managing to sleep with her [my primary and ultimate goal], I keep avoiding her and brushing off her attempts to lure me into becoming her listening ear and consoler.
Here’s a screenshot from a few days ago where she had called me tons of times through Messenger to cry about how much of a dog her boyfriend is, and how he has a secret girlfriend behind her back and she’s been texting her constantly.
My frame remained the same: too much drama for my soul and I keep avoiding her calls and texts when they pertain to talks about her situation.
That is how you handle a girl’s attempt at turn you into her emotional tampon.
You simply avoid talking about it or ignore her calls and texts flat out.
She will get the message quickly, that you aren’t for entertaining her relationship dramas.
Women will often test you to see whether you will listen to her boyfriend issues or show lack of interest.
The moment you engage her for any protracted time; you are fucking done!
Hence, it is best to flee by simply avoid talking about her drama or ignore her.
She will get the message and get her butt back in line to whatever the original script was.
With me, the script is always the same: “hooking up”.
Anything which deviates from this script will result in resistance and disinterest from me.
Talking about how much of an asshole and a dog her boyfriend is for having a secret girlfriend behind her back, will NOT help me to get any closer to hooking up with her. But doing so will actually lessen my chances, so I do NOT entertain such topics with any girl!
Now, if you’re the average guy, in regards to my advice of blowing a girl off whenever she seeks a shoulder to cry and vent on, you may be led to believe that it is a counterproductive strategy and the girl will surmise that you’re an insensitive asshole for not being there for her emotionally.
Well- actually- she won’t think you’re an insensitive asshole for not listening to her about her boyfriend drama.
She’ll just rationalize your dismissiveness to mean you aren’t looking for that sort of entanglement: being her shoulder to cry on.
She’ll simply test the waters with some other chumps until she finds a guy who’ll willingly provide a virtual shoulder to lean on.
Not surprising: the vast majority of guys will provide a shoulder for her to bawl on, so there is no shortage of shoulders in that regard.
However, those guys will not be seen as sexual items but just her emotional tampons to console her whenever the boyfriend acts out.
A guy like myself on the other hand who doesn’t entertain such drama, will retain his sex-worthiness status in the eyes of the girl.
Therefore, there’s nothing to fear in rejecting her attempts at drawing you into her relationship drama.
She will not deem you an insensitive prick! She will just tell herself, “Ok- Kenny is the type of guy who doesn’t like to discuss these sorts of issues”. And she will gladly continue to talk about things that matter…such as “getting to know each other more…over snacks and drinks”.
Look man, at the end of the day, the reason why I don’t allow women to bring their boyfriend drama my way, is because no matter how hurt they are and how much they think of their boyfriend as a cheating scum, they will continue to deal with him and put up with his so-called bad ways anyway!
Doesn’t matter how much you allow her to cry on your shoulder while urging and advising her that she should leave such a dog and that she can do better; she will NOT take your advice into account even for a split second!
Surely she will ‘verbally’ acknowledge your advice as sound and rational [‘verbally’ being the operative adverb], however, she will NOT physically move towards taking your consoling advice by ridding herself of this so-called dogish individual who’s causing her so much emotional pain.
Thus, at the end of the day, you will undoubtedly feel used and cheated, particularly if you had romantic interest in this girl.
A huge part of why she won’t take your advice is because women themselves are fucking drawn to drama like a drugee to getting high!
Drama ‘IS’ their frikkin’ high!
You providing sound and rational advice is like trying to rain on their parade and crash their party with a Debbie Downer attitude.
Becoming a consoling spirit to women in relationship distress by giving them sound-relationship advice, is akin to a parent scolding his or her child for staying out past curfew, when he or she was having massive fun and lost track of time.
Your advice will be listened to. But quickly filtered through 1 ear and flushed out the other.
It isn’t that chicks are so adverse from taking heed and taking good advice. It is that they innately love the drama and emotional turmoil that a man can put them through!
Hence, it is a gross waste of time to advise a girl that she should dump her cheating or beating boyfriend.
She will NOT take heed!
She coming to you about her boyfriend issues isn’t to seek resolution nor to seek good and sound advice from you!
It is just to fucking vent and blow some steam off!
The more you listen to her, and the more you encourage her to “do the right thing”, the deeper you will have inadvertently dug your grave as to your chances of getting with this girl on an intimate level.
The friendzone will be your only destination!
“How you like dem apples”?
On that note, that is why I NEVER EVER encourage a girl to leave her boyfriend.
I never advise her to get someone better!
I also never console her, and never (re)assure her that it will all be okay.
Many years ago, I coined a saying to which I adhere:
“You cannot counsel your way into a girl’s vagina”
Another HUGE mistakes (and there are many) guys make when trying to get laid, is to come off as a big-brother figure, or father figure, to the women whom they’re trying to shag.
Do women fuck their big brothers and dads?
Sure they are rare incestual exceptions. But NO! For the most part; women are NOT fucking their older brothers and dad.
Thus, for you to come off as though you’re her big brother offering some relationship and love-life advice, will land your ass in the friendzone FAST!
You cannot friend your way into a girl’s panties!
Likewise, you cannot counsel and console your way into her panties neither.
This isn’t some goddamn rom-com sitcom guys, where girl runs to guy, guy consoles her and urges her to leave her asshole boyfriend and she complies, and they begin to have an illustrious relationship, with the guy who provided a shoulder for her to cry on, being her new beau, and they both ride off into the sunset!
It doesn’t work that way outside of Hollywood…like in the real world!
In the “real world”, women don’t reward men for being sappy, chummy, emotional and consoling.
They actually punish men for being at their beck and call, and for lending a shoulder to lean on.
Here is a perfect scenario of how the average Jane would operate in such a situation.
Average Jane’s boyfriend has been treating her like trash over the past week, and is suspected of seeing some another girl.
Jane Doe then reaches out to you since you’ve been talking to her over the past 2-3 weeks, trying to secure a date with her.
Jane Doe then proceeds to pour her heart and anger out there about her situation.
You take the bait and engage her, providing solace, being a big-brother figure, looking out for her best interest, reaffirming to her that she can do better, and there are other guys out there who will cherish her (i.e. You).
Furthermore, you join her in boyfriend bashing, telling her how big of a scumbag her boyfriend is for disrespecting her like that, etc, etc, etc.
Jane Doe goes further to say that she is DONE- FINITO- with his trifling ass, and she wants nothing further to do with her lying, disrespecting and potential cheating boyfriend!
You agree with her sentiments and encourage her to do as she says: “Dump him and move on”!
Moreover, she goes further to say that she will block his ass on Facebook, delete his # and erase him from her life!
You encourage her!
As the guy who’s advising and consoling her, you now sense that your chance of finally getting with her is neigh!
Two days later; you hear no further vent and rant from her.
As the days go by, you then come to realize that she is still seeing this guy- her boyfriend- whom she vowed never to see again!
Feeling as though she’d put her foot in her mouth, and now looks like a grand hypocrite and even a liar, she cannot stand to face you (even if this is through the internet), so she avoids you.
That is the vast and likely scenario of how things will unfold whenever you play the consoling role to women!
She will disregard all that she’d said to you. She will also disregard your advice in agreement with hers. And she will continue to hook up with her “awful” boyfriend, remain in the relationship, then run back to you for solace once things hit the fan again and she needs a shoulder to cry on…again!
Where does this leave you as the guy on the outside awaiting his opportunity?
In a limbo!
On that note: that is why you should remain vigilant and reject any girl’s attempt to try to spill her guts out to you as far as her relationship and boyfriend issues go.
You’ll just be used for convenience, and feel used in the end when she runs back to him and you’re left with your dick in your hands (proverbially)!
Hanging out at the bar Thursday night with a buddy of mines for his birthday, while he chatted and drank with the fellaz, I branched off to roam the bar in search of hotties to chat up and possibly seduce.
I bumped into a girl whom I once hooked up with years ago [we almost dated actually], and we chatted for a bit.
During convo, she asked if I was still an asshole.
I was taken-aback since I wasn’t quite sure where she was coming from with such a question.
Girl: “You don’t remember? You tried hitting on 1 of my friends and thought you would get away with it. That was an asshole move Kenny. That’s very poor taste and no respect at all for me and women in general”.
She went further to point out that my approach to women is wrong: everything from the way I talk to women, my sexual advances and bratty attitude whenever I don’t get my way. 😦 😦
Being that this “approach” is all part of my badboy/asshole/jerkish persona as a master pick-up artist, I smiled on the inside. 🙂 🙂 🙂
What I really meant to ask her was, “Since I did/do everything wrong, why were you so drawn to it [my overall approach and attitude]”? But that wasn’t necessary since I am well aware of why this is.
Nevertheless, after our spirited interaction, I thought to myself; “How is my approach…really”?
I never actually took stock of it on a conscious level since my forward and jerkish approach has now become an integral part of my game.
As a little homework, I decided to fire up my FB and Whatsapp Messenger apps just to take a closer look at how most of my interactions go, and how women respond to me.
Here’s a string of random-screenshotted conversations between numerous girls and myself over the past days, weeks and months…just to give you a clearer picture of how and why chicks see me as an asshole, and how they take to it [sure I’m feigning naïve and innocent here 😉 ].
Now, these are all women whom I bedded on the exception of 1 [I’m still working on the elusive “1”].
[Note: sensitive details protected from online stalkers and trolls who are in the habit of trying to sabotage my lay attempts]
[Below: 1 of quite a few East-Indian girls I picked up and banged over the last few months. She was dying to hook up but wanted me to come to her home which was a few hours away. I thought it was a senseless idea (though I’d done it before with other girls), especially since her husband was prone to pop in at any moment (according to her). I told her I would pay -as in taxi fare which is very expensive because of the distance- for her to come to my place…which she subsequently did]
Wasn’t that pretty, huh? 😦 😆
Ok…so the thing is, I run “Asshole Game”. No grand and shocking revelation there.
How often do I employ such a jerkish, badboy and obnoxious game? Roughly 85% of my online pickups consist of that sort of approach.
The remaining 15% accounts for either a romantic approach [romantic yet with a badboy’s edge] or a neutral approach.
Hence, I am only a dick with 85% of the girl I attempt to pick up online. 😉
In person, that # may vary depended on existential factors such as certain signs I read from the girl…like whether she will get super turned off by the obnoxious style, or find it intriguing.
In any case, my preference is to run the sort of game that does 2 things:
1.) Get under the girl’s skin [yet attract her through this]
2.) Attract her by getting under her skin [which shows that I am free from outcome, not trying to please her and not afraid to lose her]
Not only do I find badboy/asshole/rude game to be most effective [especially online] in comparison to any other form of game/approach, but it keeps women honest.
Additionally, I get away with asshole game way more than I do whenever I employ any other strategy.
Furthermore, apart from “getting away”, I end up sleeping with more girls [vastly] by being a dick than when I’m pleasant, romantic or neutral.
This shouldn’t come as a surprise- since after all- [hot] girls are rumored to go for assholes, jerks, douches and pricks. I cautiously say “rumored” because there are still a large segment of the male population that holds fast to the idea that women only go for men who exhibit utmost respect in any and all cases. So, to not shatter any “nice guy’s” reality too hard with real-world experiences; I prefer to use “rumored”…though I know better.
Anyway, I just want to make it clear that even if I don’t approach a girl online with full-on douche game: I eventually become douchey in no time.
Therefore, there is never a time during a pickup and seduction of any given girl, where I am completely non-douchey and asshole-free.
Apart from keeping new girls honest [and on board] whenever a guy treats them as little-insignificant brats, I get the added yet related benefit of communicating to women that they are NOT in-disposable, and they can always be replaced any second now.
It also leaves her with the impression that I am a High-Value Guy and I am “Pre-Selected” by women.. In other words; she will have to compete with other women for my time, attention and cock.
If you’re familiar with my recent posts, you would’ve come across an article where I spoke about girls chasing guys who appear indifferent and nonchalant about thing [strategically so]. And also that women chase after guys who don’t place them on pedestals.
You must realize that whenever you employ asshole tactics [and are congruent with it], it naturally gives off said vibe; that you’re not the kind of guy who puts women on pedestals.
Moreover, this makes her realize that you’re a real man and not some kiss-ass Beta-Male who’s just looking to get along because he lacks options…because after all; which guy gives women shit unless he’s someone with abundance, choices and high value?
In addition to all of this, I just want to point out that this sort of game, style, approach or whatever you may want to call it, is just a routine and an act on my part.
In other words, I’m truly the nicest guy any woman could ever meet [that’s if I wasn’t a practitioner of seduction]: a sweetheart to the core!
I am a nice guy at heart just as 99.9% of guys who get into the pickup world!
It is just that being nice and playing nice with women is the fastest way to disqualify oneself from being considered a suitor or potential lover in the eyes of any woman.
Hence, playing this nice-guy shit doesn’t profit any guy on the dating market. It only sets him up as a candidate for being sugar-daddied, used and abused in most cases.
On a day-to-day, non-pickup basis; I am the quintessential Mr. Nice Guy. 🙂
However, I am smart enough to now realize that such an approach to women and dating yields zero positive benefits for the man. Hence the reason I employ asshole tactics to great effect [for many years now].
Being Spoiled And Acting Out
The spoiled-brat approach is also 1 of my favorite routines.
Whenever I don’t get my way with women; I act up and act out.
Does this ever backfire on me?
How come? Because I am congruent with it.
Being congruent to a particular lifestyle, action or personality means that you come across as being genuinely that person.
You cannot employ asshole game while simultaneously and subconsciously giving off an “I care about what you think of me” vibe.
That is NOT congruence but incongruence!
Girls will call you out on it, thus losing interest, and subsequently reject you!
This is why whenever I use asshole game, I fully embrace it, and I totally give off the impression that this is who I am. So whenever I act out with women, they excuse my behavior and actions almost all of the time.
In conclusion of this article, there should be no further questions as to why jerks get laid the most, and why nice guys sparingly manage to attract girls let alone get laid regularly.
If you’re familiar with MTV’s Jersey Shore a few years back; ever wondered why Sitch was seen as the more attractive guy to women…though he was deemed a jerkoff…and the most unattractive in the house?
Ironically, when this show first aired, from the 1st episode, it was Mike The Situation’s character which enthralled me, thus encouraged me to dabble in some jerk game, and to try out the asshole approach.
Since then, my ability to attract and lay women skyrocketed a ton [go figure] as I became challenging and testy [thank Mike for that]!
On the old pick-up artist forum, we actually debated this back in 2010, whether Mike the Situation was a practitioner of PUA tactics.
Anywho, being nice and palatable presents women no challenge whatsoever!
For her, it is akin to playing a video game on very easy mode…after she had beaten the game a few dozen times already.
Contrarily, being a dick or acting out presents that challenge that a woman needs in order to spark attraction and maintain it.
Now, it isn’t that nice guys are incapable of badboy behavior [after all; self-proclaimed “nice guys” are the true assholes]. It’s just that they don’t believe that being a dick will work for them…and perhaps they are right [due to incongruencies on their part].
Therefore, they elect to take the perceived-safer route [being polite and proper] to their own detriment by turning women off.
Another question you may ask is: “doesn’t acting out make you seem like a big baby, i.e. unmanly”?
Not really. It all depends on external factors such as how and when you act out.
If a guy acts out because a girl doesn’t call him, doesn’t reply to his texts and so forth, then that is a low-valued play to then act out on such bases .
However, if you act out when a girl violates you, doesn’t acknowledge protocols, principles and so forth, then your actions will likely be perceived as manly and of someone who puts his foot down in the face of female opportunism.
Note: by “acting out”, I don’t mean crying and whining, but acting spoiled and entitled.
For instance, if the girl insists on meet up at the place of her choosing [for no logical reason] while disregarding your suggestions; call the so-called date off altogether!
Many on the outside will perceive this to be petty and childish [calling off the date]. But in reality, as long as the girl is attracted to you [your vibe], she will perceive such an action to be manly/dominant and attractive, even if she doesn’t consciously realize this, and she will get on board once she realizes that there’s a real chance of her losing the guy.
All in all; I’m okay with the idea of girls seeing me as a jerk.
It’s not like they hate me or anything, so I’m not going around town as some hated guy to women.
In light of that, I’m comforted in knowing that women love drama, and an asshole vibe supplies women with their needed dose of drama.
That is pretty much what it boils down to on a fundamental level: realizing what women respond to [challenge and drama], and giving it to them.
Sure the ride will be bumpy at times. But that is all part of the lure and intrigue.
Whenever I meet a new girl, whether online or in person, I quickly as possible do/say something or some things, that would likely make the ride rocky.
I intentionally cause friction by being a dick, then charm the girl with some calculated niceness just to confuse her a bit [hot & cold technique].
By bringing the tension out early, you avoid backlash later on if and when something does come up that could possibly cause some tension or friction.
Hence, by being a forward jerk early, I can’t get accused of being a forward jerk later on whenever I do/say something jerkish.
That is why when you come off nice and gentle to women [early], you bind yourself in a box whereas you have to remain the nice and polite guy since that is what you presented the girl from the get-go [1st impressions are truly indelible and lasting].
You cannot switch it up later on, or else she will see through the facade and punish you for it by rejecting you coldly.
That is why guys in the friendzone have no chance of escaping the friendzone [unless they follow my method of un-friendzoning themselves 😉 ], even when they attempt to switch things up by trying to be all intimate all of a sudden. So, from the get-go, you want to be somewhat of a forward jerk who can tone it down at any time, rather than a nice guy trying to be forward…which will come off as un-calibrated and incongruent.
Do I encourage guys to follow my method in the sense of using asshole game?
This can be akin to playing with fire or handing a curious kid a loaded firearm while expecting him to act responsibly.
Asshole game is truly something one has to adopt along the way after he will have gotten a complete grasp of how women are, how they operate, and how they want to be treated [like little brats itching for a spanking].
If you are not comfortable with being a prick with women, then this sort of game will NOT work at all for you! Girls will truly reject you all day long!
I “RARELY” ever get rejected by running asshole-douchey game! At first [years ago], I got blown out and rejected left and right until I was able to fine-tune the mindset and the approach.
Her Maternal Role, Unruly Men, Dominant Men And Putting Women In Their Place
Lastly, here is the kicker IMHO: if girls were really turned off by douche game, then there’s no way in hell I would stand a chance with any girl for that matter.
An assertive yet cool guy who doesn’t stand for much of any bullshit, is what women are yearning for!
She wants a fucking guy who can put her in her place!
She wants a guy who isn’t afraid to get rough [I don’t necessarily mean physically]!
She wants to be treated like a little girl being punished and scolded by her daddy!
She isn’t looking for a guy who operates as her equal!
She wants to be dominated! She wants to be treated with impudence, impoliteness and rudeness!
She damn sure doesn’t want to be treated like some fucking princess and hoisted atop a pedestal to be treasured!
Hollywood is largely responsible for selling us [both sexes] that myth. Therefore, we now have a precarious situation where women “claim” that they want to be treated like spoiled princesses and they demand such treatment from men!
When guys in turn dole out such nice treatment to women, they [women] become complacent and repel the “nice guy” who’s only following the Hollywood-esque script of what women supposedly want, and how a real man is supposedly to operate.
I’ve said this before and I will say it again: at no point in modern history [but since the 1970’s], nor pre-modern history, were women ever expected to be pampered, spoiled and treated like royalty.
Women were always treated by men with a hand of subordination. They were never treated as equals with men…and women gladly accepted this role as commonplace…until the advent of feminism in the west…but that’s another story for another time!
Be as it may guys: I am not at all encouraging you to wantonly disrespect women and to belittle them- especially to the point of damaging their self-esteem and value.
I am merely giving you advice on what works, what women respond to and what flips that attraction switch inside of their head!
Also bear in mind that deep within every girl, there is a maternal and motherly instinct. This is exemplified by little girls as young as 2 years old playing with dolls: feeding them, clothing them and taking care of them.
I know this quite well because I have a 4-year old daughter. I never forced her to play with dolls. She was just drawn to the idea of taking care of someone or something- in this case- her dolls.
Saying that bit to say: it is a girl’s innate-maternal role to do the pampering, spoiling and care-taking. However, nice guys in their ignorance, flip the roles where they become the mothers of women rather than allowing women to take their natural and rightful roles. Hence the reason why women repel and despise nice guys and men who pamper, baby and mother them.
Thus, whenever a guy uses asshole game and acts unruly, it is within every girl’s maternal and inherent role to see to it that this unruly guy gets his way, just as the mother sees to it that the unruly baby gets nourished, pampered and comforted.
Moreover; women are addicted to trying to fix a man [again- her caretaker instincts].
We all know this!
Hence, whenever you come off as a guy with little manners, instead of being a source of repellent to women, they [women] subconsciously feel an impulse to try to get to the root of this unruly guy’s behavior…thus, they get drawn deeper into the guy’s reality and they become attracted simultaneously.
Act as though you can’t help it! You cannot help yourself but to be unruly, rude, presumptuous, forward and bratty!
Women will almost always excuse your rude behavior by saying to themselves, “He just can’t help it. This is how he is and who he is. I must deal with it while trying to fix it/fix him at the same time”.
This is why most of the times girls would say to me, “Only you Kenny”…meaning, they expect such rude behavior from me because that is just me. Hence, they excuse and tolerate my shenanigans.
Exhibit A [the following screenshot]:
Therefore, whenever I get forward with women- married or otherwise “so-called” single- they hardly get [truly] offended because I own my attitude [by coming off as someone who cannot help it] and I am not shy about being a dick to any woman: regardless of her hotness!
Women find this [forwardness and unruliness] to be an IMMENSELY attractive and addicting trait in a man!
I play up this part [forward-jerk game] very well!
[Engaged MILF I picked up and bedded the other day. My texts in green]
Having the audacity to get forward, rude and become untamed [once you own it] will cause the girl to become deeply attracted besides herself.
Contrarily, the moment a girl senses that she can control and tame you, will be the moment her interest level plummets faster than a kamikaze fighter jet doing a nosedive into a warship at sea; because she doesn’t want a man who is tamed, controlled and submissive!
She wants to be the controlled and commanded [as unpopular as such declaration may sound].
Therefore, build your game and persona around a shroud of audacity and untameness like an unruly lad who lacks home training!
Surely women will deem you an asshole who lacks regard for their situation [marriage, relationship, boyfriend, religion, etc]. But therein lies the attraction.
On a final note [I promise that this is really the “final note” 😉 ]: if such an approach is new to you [being brash, forward and impolite with women], I would urge you to baby-step it opposed from jumping in head first.
Experiment firstly with being bold and forward by peppering in a “BIT” of audacious declarations into your text-game.
For example: if your opener/ice-breaker [online] consists of some lame-generic shit to the effect of:
“Good morning sweetie. How are you”?
You want to try something like this instead:
“You are such a little-bratty rebel for that”!
“I sense that you’re a little rebel who doesn’t believe in doing things by the book…”
If you’re going to be forward [as your ice-breaker]; use NEGs with it also:
With that, you are merely being encouraged by moi to baby-step the forward approach rather than diving in headlong at first.
Over time, you will have gotten masterful at the art of attracting hot girls through forwardness, rudeness and being an asshole.
As with any endeavor in life, it takes time and fine-tuning to internalize a certain skill or mindset.
In any case; you must kick this nice-guy crap to the curb because it turns women off [I don’t have to tell you this]!
Being nice [pretending to be nice is what most guys do] doesn’t spark any true interest nor attraction in a woman for you!
She will be polite to your nice-guy shit by returning a text saying, “thank you”, in return for a polite compliment you might have made. But only as a formality and protocol, and that is where it ends whenever you operate from a frame of “niceness” with women!
I don’t want any girl to respond to my texts just because she feels she has to be polite by saying “hi” or “thanks”, in return for something I’d said!
I want to shock and shatter her reality! So when she does respond to my messages [9 in 10 times she will respond], she isn’t just being cordial and following social norms by being polite. But she is truly engaged, taken and captured by whatever it is I said to her, and whatever I may have to say afterwards [however mundane it may be]!
Hence, the next time you shoot off that text message or inbox that hottie on Facebook or any official-dating site for that matter- ask yourself- “Am I hoping for a reply out of pity or attraction”?
You should expect the girl to reply because she’s attracted, and not because she feels pressured to be nice in return because she doesn’t want to break another nice-guy loser’s heart.
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A personal friend of mine wanted my opinion of marrying little over a year ago.
I warned him NOT to get married…plus he was only about 25.
Presently, he has been dumped, his wife is screwing all over town [even I had shagged her before they married] and a divorce is now pending.
I knew the girl before him and better than him, and I also knew that along with myself, she was still fucking other guys while she was engaged to
Hence when I warned him not to get
married: I had good reasons.
Anyway, so his wife was exposed as a grand harlot only a year after marrying.
What this guy doesn’t get though is that the “perfect man shit” that he professes to be, is exactly the reason why his wife cheated and dumped him.
This guy tries to be women’s idea
type, but he doesn’t quite realize that women are very ungrateful beings by nature, and they do NOT reward men for fitting their ideal type [cook, clean, wash, pamper her, etc].
Figuring he had learned a lesson since his wife kicked him out 3 weeks ago [after knowingly cheating on him], and with the fact that I advised
him in the past, but he still doesn’t get it, that being a “nice guy” with women, pampering and spoiling them rotten, is the quickest way to get dismissed.
Here is his most recent Facebook post…his mindset of being the “perfect man for women”, still dominates his perception of what he should be with women…not realizing that he cannot keep a girlfriend, largely because of his pampering ways [I’ve known this guy personally for over 10 years].
He also thinks that good sex keeps a woman from cheating [his wife sure showed him differently].
He’s also an intellectual type…which turns women off. I know this personally since I am also an
intellectual but learned to tone it down whenever dealing with women.
Hopefully this guy will begin to take my advice and become somewhat rebellious and quit trying to mold himself into a woman’s ideal.
We all have come into contact with the now cliche: “Nice guys finish last”.
Why they finish last varies across the board.
One such reason as to why nice guys are always shunned and marginalized by hot women [even by the unattractive women], is their gratuitous nature- or what I like to term as an ‘ACT’.
Anyway, if you haven’t gotten the memo as yet, allow me to bash you across the head with this piece of sobering info: Women don’t give a rat’s ass about a man’s gratuitous and grateful gestures!
The more thankfulness and gratefulness you show towards a woman- primarily in the courtship phase- the faster your value will tank in her eyes where her perception of you will have become akin to that of a spineless loser. 😦 😦
In addition to that, part of the problem is coming off apologetically.
Giving apologies, asking for forgiveness, asking questions and saying thanks, will all fucking tank you when trying to get a girl into bed!
Now, I’m not speaking of the occasional and quasi-justifiable apology like when you ring a girl and inadvertently wake her up.
Giving a “Sorry” in such a situation- sparingly- will cause no grave damage in the grand scheme of things because the situation warrants it [an apology].
However, where most guys [so-called nice ones in particularly] go wrong, is when they apologize for absolutely fucking nothing!
Need a common example?
“Sorry for taking you away from your busy schedule…but can we text please”?
Talk about a triple-fucking whammy!
Those were 3 infractions within 1 short sentence: “Sorry”, “Can we”(?) And “please”.
I almost choked typing that because of how horrible it looks, sounds and comes off! 😯
To the average guy’s ears and eyes: such a text message is commonplace and totally normal and fine!
I think I need an aspirin.
Anyway, the reality is: there is something deeply rooted within a female’s biological makeup which doesn’t take light to men who are neither supplicative, apologetic, gratuitous nor thanks-giving.
Something within her- beyond her perception and control- repels such male characters and deems them sterile, thus un-sex-worthy.
Once again: this is why women are so attracted to bad boys, jerks and assholes!
Ask any girl why does she go for the wrong type, and watch her fumble for an answer.
She simply doesn’t know the answer, because that decision is outside of her conscious decision-making processor.
Hence, she continuously fucks assholes and jerks yet doesn’t know why, and cannot explain why she goes for the so-called wrong types.
Ok, so what is my ultimate advice for you here?
Stay away from thanking girls whom you just met.
Stay away from asking permission.
Stay away from saying “Please”.
In a woman’s mind, attractive and important guys of value should not be seeking her permission, nor should they be thanking her for minuscule and meaningless acts of capitulation.
In other words, if a chick gives you her phone number, it is NO cause for spiking the football in the end zone in celebration [to use an American football analogy] by hurling a “thanks a lot sweetie” text her way.
When trying to get a girl’s phone number, let’s say that this is on Facebook or some internet-dating site, virtually begging her like a vagrant isn’t gonna do you any justice!
Even if the girl does cave and coughs up her digits, there is no guarantee that she will entertain your phone calls or text messages in the first place.
News flash: because a girl gives you her phone number, it doesn’t mean that she’s interested!
There is such a thing as a pity number, fake number, throwaway number, etc, etc, etc.
Women are notorious for giving guys their #’s without any expectation of actually hearing back from the guy…simply because they don’t want to hear from 90% of the guys to whom they give their numbers.
It’s basically giving guys their #’s just to get rid of them…or to not shatter those guy’s fragile powder-puff hearts. 😉
Therefore, you don’t want cases where chicks are giving you their numbers out of pity or just to get you off their back.
One way in which to avoid the pity number is to stop ‘asking’ her for the number altogether!
“Asking” denotes weakness and unsurity.
“Asking” is often times misconstrued by women to mean begging.
If you’re sure about yourself and the results of an action; why would you ask?
Coming off as being sure means that you’re exuding some levels of confidence.
Whenever I go for a girl’s #, I communicate surety in what I’m doing and surety in that I have the # in the bank already therefore she will give it…without me asking/begging in the form of “Can I”, or “may I get”?
I instead say to the girl, “Give me your number”.
There is no fucking “Please” at the end of my command neither! 😈
I know what I want, I know what I’ll get, I own it, embrace it and the girl senses my dominant attitude and she gives in for the simple fact that women go bonkers for men who are dominant…not exactly domineering [there’s a big difference there].
This attitude is also transfered over to the so-called date proposal.
I don’t “Ask” girls if they can go out with me!
I ‘TELL’ them to come out with me or meet me somewhere [operative word being “Tell”]!
For example, check out this screenshot from a Whatsapp conversation I had with a sexy-bodybuilding instructor I recently picked up [my texts in green].
There was no asking nor begging there.
I was telling her what the deal was!
That is how you ask a girl out by not asking at all, instead telling her what your plans are and to see what accommodations need to be made.
However, I always assume the sale!
I always assume that she’ll buy what I’m selling.
This spells confidence, self-assuredness and cockiness [a bit of ‘Cocky’ works wonders].
On a last note, this “assuming the sale” mentality by not asking but just doing, is the same frame required while in the bedroom.
How un-confident would it be if through every step of the way in the bedroom, you’re seeking the girl’s permission and approval to escalate towards sex…by touching her:
“Can I touch you now”?
“Can I remove your blouse”?
“Can you allow me to touch your legs please”?
Just totally fucking nonsensical!
No guy who’s sure of himself is going to be asking a girl in bed for the first time, can he do this or do that.
He’ll simply just act and do.
If the girl isn’t up for it, she’ll let it be known in some way.
Therefore, by owning it and assuming the girl is down with your program [be it swapping numbers, etc.], will be your key to unlocking many doors to poon-town.
Contrarily, asking, begging, pleading, thanking will rarely ever get you anywhere in the field of dating.
You may still get a girl’s number: but it won’t be worth a damn thing.
You may even still get the girl to accept the date: but it is likely that she had no other plans, wanted to be wined and dined in order to brag to her friends, meanwhile having zero intention to neither sleep with you, date you nor to be your girlfriend.
You’re merely just charity in her eyes where she’s the recipient of your charitable gestures.
As of late, I’ve been checking out tons of pick-up videos on Youtube, and browsing the comment sections just to get a consensus of the average guy’s analysis of game.
Not surprising, I’m constantly coming across comments which read like this:
“Oh c’mon! It’s because he’s good looking”!
“He has looks that’s why”
“He’s tall, so that’s why women are attracted to him”
“This guy is attractive so no wonder why he can pick up girls like that”
“Those sluts were drunk”!
“PUA’s can only pick up drunk women”
“He has a full head of hair…so that helped him pick up the girl”
“Game doesn’t work! All you need to do is believe in yourself. And have confidence”
“I bet he couldn’t pick up girls from my town”
“Russian girls are easy”!
“Black girls are easy”!
“He was only able to pick up that black chick because he’s a tall-handsome white guy”
“If I had good looks like that PUA, I would get girls too”
Bla, bla, bla!
This record has been stuck for the last 10 years.
Same-old rhetoric from AFC Betas.
A great portion of Youtube comments on pick-up related videos reads as the above comments that I highlighted [about 60% of them I would say].
It becomes very evident that we are still in a age where guys believe that solely possessing good looks is all it takes to get laid.
When these guys are confronted with evidence to the contrary, that average-looking to ugly guys are actually the ones getting laid: that pill becomes a gulf ball, way too big to swallow.
Why is it so difficult for the Average Joe to accept the reality on the ground: that one doesn’t need to have inherited the looks of a male model, perfect height and physique in order to attract women and get loads of sex?
It is difficult to accept because upon acceptance of this reality, it gives the excuse-maker no more reasons to have and make excuses for why he’s not meeting women consistently…or at all.
Hence, it is much easier and ego-gratifying to accept being lame, while attributing other’s successes to something you yourself don’t have: great looks, height, jacked body and wealth.
As I was checking 2 particular hidden-cam videos from Street Attraction, a UK based pick-up company, the comment section made me puke in that guys were attributing the instructor’s success to looks…not to mention that this guy is really short, balding [just as myself] and wears nerdy glasses, so “looks” is out of the window.
Furthermore, and I’m no expert on this, but as far as I know, the pickup world isn’t chocked full of Adonis-looking dudes who stand at 6 feet 5 inches.
In fact, the average pick-up instructor-practitioners who post videos online, aren’t even considered good-looking by societal standards (or women), neither are they tall, jacked nor filthy rich.
This is a community comprising of former losers who never had looks or any of those physical affectations on their side in which to attract women on the surface level.
Therefore, to attribute a PUA’s successes with women to his looks: is highly laughable.
No matter how many videos of stereotypical ugly to average-looking chaps like myself are uploaded to the web on a daily basis, the majority consensus from guys outside of pickup [even a few within], still say that good looks did it…though the pick-up practitioner doesn’t have good looks on his side to begin with!
In cases like these, I always like to put myself under the proverbial microscope to illustrate a few points.
1.) I’m no Denzel in his youth
2.) Sure I am physically in shape and ripped like a chiseled specimen, but with clothes on; it is impossible for women to see my ripped physique
3.) I don’t spend on women nor do I flash money
I am 6’2, so I guess after all- my height is what gets me laid?
Sure women love tall men. But they damn sure aren’t gonna spread it and say “daddy come fuck me”…just because you register as 6 feet and above in the stature department.
This sort of mindset is actually fucking poisonous when you think of it!
Nice Guys Are The Assholes
Nice Guys are actually the true-manipulative assholes!
Ironically enough, lots of so-called nice guys love to watch PUA videos [evidence through the comment sections].
They also enjoy [as to placate their fragile egos] hurling such labels at pickup guys: misogynists, womanizing, sexist, etc, etc, etc.
In reality, for any guy, which as the so-called nice guys do, to even remotely insinuate that women are so stupid to sleep with a guy solely because of his height or facial structure, such a guy is the true-sexist prick!
Non-pickup guys who lambaste guys in pickup, are the true women-hating misogynists, for they are the ones who degrade and downgrade a woman’s intrinsic value by merely suggesting that women who get picked up are either drunk sluts, sober sluts, crazy, desperate, lonely or troubled.
The so-called nice guy’s view of women is very low, base and contemptuous.
On the other hand, a PUA doesn’t categorize the women he approaches as either easy or difficult, slutty or virtuous.
That doesn’t even factor into our decision-making process when it comes to the approach.
Hence, it is preposterous to even insinuate that we in pickup can somehow look at a woman’s face upon the approach and tell whether she’s easy, slutty, saintly, sober or has just downed a few Martinis…and that our approaches are mainly and solely upon the so-called easy targets and damsels in distress.
In closing, you have the guys who enjoy watching pickup videos online while having preconceived notions that good looks are all it takes to get girls.
In relation to those guys, you have the so-called nice guys, who also secretively enjoys watching pickup videos, but their excuse for remaining lame pricks, is that pickup is evil and it can only work with drunk-club whores…though tons of evidence to the contrary exist.
What both sets of men suffer from and also have in common, besides sex deprivation and involuntary celibacy, is chronic excuse-making.
Psychologically, it is much easier and much safer for one to stay insulated inside of his own bubble of lameness while making excuses all day long.
Humans don’t like change, thus we rationalize to ourselves why we should continue to do the same thing even though perpetual failure is the only yield.
Lastly, in my case, I have a few gray hairs in my beard and head, my hair is thinning, I’m 33 [not exactly a spring chicken], etc. so in the grand scheme of things, I have certain so-called handicaps to deal with [though I don’t see them as that]…yet I’m still able to generate attraction and pick up and bang lots of hot girls on a regular basis- even a fair amount being young enough to be my offspring.
When it is all said and done, excuses are all you’re left with to justify your lame-shit existence: be it in personal fitness, lifestyle management, work, business or women.
Stop being spectators and critics just because your reality is too limited to accept the fact that there exist people out there who don’t fit the media’s mold of what and who should be successful in the world.
At the end of the day, what gets you laid isn’t good looks but the right attitude and a personality which attracts women.
Never TRY to friend your way into a girl’s heart or into her panties!!
It doesn’t work!It will never work!
MTV’s “Friendzone” Excerpt
For those without TV’s, or you’re just too damn old-fashion and stuck in a time warp watching reruns of M.A.S.H…
*‘Friendzone’ is a reality show series which features “Friends”, who break the shocking news to the other friend, that they wanna take their friendship to the next level (dating, sex, relationship, etc.).
Now check out an excerpted transcript from tonight’s show:
Guy says to his female friend:
“I know we’ve been just friends for a while, but I actually have feeling for you”.
“Wow!!!! I’m shocked!!!
“Wellll…I wanna know how you feel“.
“This is really awkward. I don’t know what to say [awkward chuckle]”.
“You gotta have something to say. I mean, I wanna go out with you as in a date date”.
“To be honest…I don’t see you in that way”.
“You’re like a brother to me. Going on a date with you would be weird”.
“I don’t have such feelings for you. I really can’t see myself considering you my boyfriends when you’re like a brother to me”.
Hey Marcy, I know that we’re only friends and we’ve been friends for 2 years now, but…
*We guys (who are pretty dumb socially), must realize that chics do NOT fuck their male friends!!
*Too many options in the dick-pool for her to chose from.
*So there’s no benefits to banging some ‘A-Sexual’ male friend who reminds her of Jimmy [her little brother].
*When a girl LJBF’s you (puts you into the friends basket) :you’re relegated there for life!
If you meet a girl whom you like: the worst possible move is to befriend her in order to get to her sweet vagina.
Best possible thing you can do: “TRY BANGING HER INSTANTLY”!!
Weeks ago, I’d picked up the lead-news anchor woman [a hot cougar] for the ABS TV network in Antigua and Barbuda.
An actual recent photo of the hot MILF-news anchor for the ABS TV network in Antigua & Barbuda…
We exchanged Facebook and added each other on BBM.
In spite of her high-social and celebrity status on the islands, I treat her as I would any other chic.
During our chat yesterday,she said to me:
*MILF-News Anchor: “What’s your thought on sex with girls you just met”?
“I believe in sex first: getting to know her and relationship comes later”.
“What! I totally disagree”!
“I’ve never met a woman who agreed that sex should be first. But 95% of the girls I hit it off with: had sex first with me”.
“Well I believe it should be friends first then build on that”.
BTW, She knows my schtick as a Pick-Up Artist, and that I was including her in a blog post with pic and text excerpt (with her consent of course)
*Now,as we teach in the seduction community: “what a woman says and what she actually does, is as different as a peer of nice boobs and 2 oranges [well I added the boobs part…].
*The point is: a guy should always situate himself as the guy who’s looking to give her a good time, i.e. good sex.
*Not the fucking nice guy who’s looking to be her best friend to provide a shoulder for her to cry on!!
*If your desire is to have sex with her: Then bang her ASAP!!
*If your desire is to make her your girlfriend: Then have sex with her fast as possible to attain that goal!!
*If your desire is to marry this chic: Then fuck her instantly after meeting her!!
*The longer you wait to have sex with her: the greater the chances of her saying to you LJBF (let’s just be friends)!
*The more you come off as a friend- she will put your ass in the friends basket, which means; No poonani for you!!