Neg Theory Explained

When you carry yourself as a high-value guy, an Alpha-Male or a jerk, you can afford to give women shit, bust their chops, treat them like a dick and have them take it with laughter [Neg Theory]! 

There’s this Brit chick whom I picked up (on Facebook) about a month ago. She’s been back and forth to England since, so it’s really challenging for us to hammer out a rendezvous or date…until she comes back to my neck of the woods in a few weeks.

Anyhow, so she posted a pic on her Whatsapp status, with her boobs sort of perking out. 

This is a Great example of how to execute the classic PUA tactic called “Negging”; giving women shit without fear of losing them. Just a little pointer: if you behave scared with women and walk on egg shells in your communication with them, not only will they lose interest, but they will lose respect.

Contrarily, if you are confident enough to give women shit (the right way), the attraction and interest will spike up significantly!

Oh- and BTW- I always end the conversation first (as I teach you guys to do also)!

BTW, if you’re new to the pickup community and you have no idea what a Neg is; you may want to check the definition at the link below.

[My messages in green]

Pulling 19-Year Old Online: A Lesson In Picking Up Much Younger Girls By Giving Them S**t From An Entitlement Frame

Quite often, I get older men who cry to me about their gross ineffectiveness and epic failures in trying to snag themselves some young poon online.

First piece of advice from me to them is: Own it!

Be entitled!

Be entitled to the girl while simultaneously busting her chops and giving her shit!

In essence, you want to shit test younger girls. And the reasons for that are various…which I’ll get into in a subsequent article.

Most guys- older men- don’t believe that they are viable options for women who are much younger.

I am not one to harp on faith, but this is where faith comes in. You must believe that you are in the girl’s league (or soaring above it like an eagle)!

That’s for starters! So before you can even entertain the idea of snagging young poon on any consistent basis, you must firstly grab a hold of the optimal and most effective frame from which to operate: which is that “I am playing in and above her league! Hence I am the shit”, so you act accordingly!

I want you to really take note of my vibe throughout this FB pickup of this total stranger whom I’d cold messaged. Her profile name had “Timid” in there, so I based my opener/ice-breaker on that (her user name).

[My messages in blue. Reads from left to right]

Screenshots above: such an opener/ice-breaker would be classified as a hard opener. It’s risky yet ballsy. Risky in that the girl could’ve taken that the wrong way. But girls never take such hard openers (from me) the wrong way, because it (such an opener) inherently denotes dominance, Alphaness and entitlement: 3 attractive qualities which grab a woman’s attention…as it did with her.

Secondly, in conjunction with me insinuating that she’s a liar, I indirectly called her crazy by saying “partially timid girls are craziest”. I also strategically tamper down any would-be damage/backlash by saying “and they have the most fun”. So I gave her an indirect compliment while negging her at the same time. This is all strategic in order to generate instant attraction by coming off as entitled to getting the girl, and somewhat dickish and derisive.

Thirdly: how do you know if and when a girl respects your frame? When she agrees to your backhanded compliments and comments (essentially Negs). So that was the case when she said, “yea am crazy as fuck at times…”. But she didn’t want to risk turning me off, so she made sure to say, “But I’m very chill”.

She went on to ask “if I just made that up”…as in, if it were a line or something. In any case, her response was, “Lol I know it’s cool though”. Another testament to the fact that my opener alone was enough to get the undivided attention and attraction of this 19-year old girl. So was it the opener/ice-breaker or what it sub-communicates? The sub-communication (that I’m entitled and ballsy).

Fourthly, as if I didn’t already establish an entitlement vibe, I tripled down by saying to her that she should give me props and buy me a drink for being so creative with my words essentially. Which guy- let alone an older one- operates this way with a 19-year old hottie? Only a guy who believes he’s above the girl’s league and social-value level! So, she agrees (as expected) that I deserve props for being creative. But even more noteworthy and strategic, I planted the seed in her head of “drink date”, so she in turn said I should take her for a drink being that I’m the guy. So, do you see how I strategically set her up for suggesting we go for drinks? In any case, just to show how powerful my frame control was, she went on to ask me, “what do you drink though”? So in spite of the fact that she said I should take her out being that I’m the guy. She knew instinctively that she was beneath my social-value level, which is why she recanted and indirectly suggested to buy me the drink by asking me “what do you drink though”?

Powerful stuff! But let’s move on!

Fifth point from the screenshot above: I told her what drink I wanted, and she agreed to getting it. Also, always look to get sexual early (as I always preach)! This is why I dropped a sexual innuendo in the mix by saying to her if she laughs at me for drinking girlie drinks, I’m gonna have to spank her. Plus I was looking for an emoji of a whip. 🙂

[My messages in blue. Reads from top row, left to right]

Screenshot above: set a sexual theme as soon as possible! I know you’re dead tired of hearing this, but the reason I implore you to get sexual and or forward at some point (rather much sooner than later), is to avoid being friendzoned for carrying this peaceful, nice, harmless conversation to nowhere-ville. Most guys whom I advise can follow through with the banterish and teasing vibe. But they just cannot bring themselves to taking heed to my advice on going sexual, because they inherently lack the belief that it would bear fruit and not make the girl run for the hills.

Also, a key factor: who’s setting the frame here? Who’s dictating the chat, subject matters, the road in which we go down, etc? I am! Totally! I am in command here! She’s reacting to me, and not me reacting to her as if I were her subordinate in any way. She is my subordinate- if for no other reason- because she’s younger and has far less experiences in life. So I lead, I set the pace, I dictate the terms, and she follows! I bring up drinks? She reacts! I bring up spanking? She reacts! I bring up sex? She reacts!

When I made mention that she popped up in my FB thing today (back on the 18th), it was in relation to what I said about this girl being a complete stranger whom I’d added and inboxed literally minutes before this interaction kicked off.

Now, I want to make a final point on sex. From the screenshots above, you will have noticed that this girl is completely bought in on the talk of sex, spanking and so forth, by even calling my bluff about being an angel, and she saying that even angels be fucking each other and having orgies in the clouds. So, which one of us set up this sexual frame? Moi! Again- I lead! She follows! I’m the superior! She’s the subordinate! She opines on the topics which I raise! Most guys foolishly make the mistake of following the girl’s tune and tone, allowing her to dictate terms on every level, therefore essentially putting themselves in a subordinated position while the girl leads, dictates and ultimately rejects! After all; women are NOT attracted to men whom they can lead, manipulate and subjugate (Omegas and Beta-Males).

Also, if you pan up again to the bottom right of the screenshot set above, you’ll notice she ends off saying, “God created us to be our complete self and express ourselves openly without hesitating and all that sobby shit”. What made her go there? Essentially, she’s giving me the green light to get sexually expressive with her, and to not sugarcoat a thing. But why did she make mention of that? Because I led her there! I gave her permission to be slutty! From my vibe alone, and the fact that I went sexual on her, it subconsciously triggered a response from her in agreement to my leading frame! So essentially, I set her up. Again- I lead; she reacts/follows!

Since I told her that she’s killing me [with humor], she continues on that theme of mines.

[Her messages in gray]

Screenshot above: I wisely commended her on being super perceptive in sensing that I’m all about self-expression and being open/forward. That was a quasi-compliment. What is my #1 rule when dealing with hot girls? NEVER compliment a hot girl on her body/looks! So what did I do, I complimented her on her ability to be perceptive in sensing that I’m an advocate of being open, forward and sexual!

She went on to agree [as expected] with my frame/position about not sugarcoating. Again- I set the frame/theme. She reacts to it in the affirmative. She went so far as to say that some people not only sugar coat, but they coat with powdered sugar on top of that.

In any case, she went to say that I have her laughing like a goof. The most 2 important mindsets to successfully pulling a girl (namely online): HUMOROUS & SEXUAL! You see me employ this time after time, post after post, with girl after girl: Humorous/Playful and Sexual/Forward.
Lastly, I employed my all-too-familiar strategy of telling the girl “I’ll hit you up another time”: TTYL! You always want to be the one to look to end the conversation first!

Additionally, by me winding things down in a way, it creates a sense of loss, and it causes a bit of panic to set in on her side, where she asks herself, “I wonder if I said something that turned him off”? She begins to question herself as to why I would end a spirited conversation prematurely. So that is why you always want to tell the girl “TTYL” in some form or another. And you don’t actually have to go/leave as I explained on many occasions prior. Saying it alone [“talk to you another day”] will have the same magical effect of making the girl panic…even though she will almost always play it off by acting calm in the face of your sporadic decision to take off.

The thing is though, I actually took off and hit her up a few days later! So this made it so much more powerful that I’d indeed discontinued our chat.
Additionally, by doing that to a hot girl, it communicates a very sexy quality about me that gets the girl even more attracted: I am NOT desperate! I am patient because I know this is in the bag already! That is what you communicate also, whenever you prematurely eject without trying to get the girl during the initial round of conversation.

Most girls are accustomed to clueless guys desperately gunning for their phone # right off the fucking opener! So here I come alone, totally flipping the script of what the girl is used to seeing, by not even attempting to get her #, even after the best and brisk conversation she has probably ever had with a stranger on Facebook or anywhere else for that matter.

By me showing this hottie that I am self-assured enough to not try to get her # in 1 swoop, it forces her to come to the conclusion that “this guy must be somebody! He must be the shit! He’s probably accustomed to dating and fucking way hotter girls than I am, so he can afford to sideline me and not get all desperate like every other loser”!

That is the only conclusion at which the girl arrives upon such strategic ploy of cutting the conversation short.

Now, just for clarity sake; I am not saying that you shouldn’t go for the # within the initial chat. I often go for it then and there! However, the hotter the girl, the wiser and more effective of a move it would’ve been to tell her bye (which will cause some internal panic), and then reemerge for the pull.

When I did hit her up again (days later as you can see in the above screenshot), I playfully said, “been a while. I’m now starting to think u cheating on me…u are 1 cold ass bish”, to which she responded, “yesss am dat bish for real”.

[Her messages in gray]

Screenshot above: I went on to neg her about being up so late, implying that she’s a little girl. Not to be redundant, but no guy plays this way with a girl whom he’s vying for. The average chode operates as though he’s walking on egg shells, afraid to ruffle feathers, afraid to offend and to say anything that would remotely get the deified one [the female] ticked off. Well- hot young girls aren’t attracted to men who play it safe and trod lightly. They crave men who take risks and chances. This is essentially why women are drawn to rockstars and men who portray heroic or villainous characters in adventure, drama and action flicks. Even the hapless-romantic guy in the cheesy-romance comedy who takes chances, is beloved by women! Therefore, whenever you neg a (hot) girl- and do so correctly might I add- it creates a risk-taker type of vibe that gets the girl’s panties wett! She says to herself, “how dare this guy say that to me”! Anyway, how did she take to my neg? She laughs…which is what I expected.

Secondly, I got all dismissive of her, treating her like a little-bratty girl by telling her she may get an ass whipping for staying up late, to which she reciprocated with “spank me daddy”! 🙂 In my dismissiveness of her, I told her to go to bed. Who’s operating from the higher-value position here? Certainly I am!

Going further to warn her that she’s playing with fire, is 1 of my favorite lines (which is a false-disqualifier). Not only is it challenging, but it goes further to cement the frame of “I am the one who needs to be sold here”. At this point, she is full-fledged bought in to the idea of fucking me, indicative of her saying that her pussy will bury me alive and carve her name onto my gravestone. 😯

The sexual challenge continued.

Screenshot above: in order to save face, try to retain value and not to appear slutty, she said she’s not looking for dick and that she’s teasing. This is all token resistance by the way. Every girl at some point during the pickup will have done/said something in hopes of warding off the perception that she’s an easy slut-bag.

There were no reasons to prolong the inevitable (getting her #), so I firstly gauged her availability to see if it matches up with my Christmas weekend schedule. Since she has to work, that complicated things.

The thing is too, and this gambit here is my little baby, even though I live right here on island, I always tell girls that I live in a neighboring island, but that I frequent their island (which is this island) every other weekend. Why do I do this? Various reasons. But it creates a sense of urgency for both parties, where the girl is likely to go out of her way to meet up since I’m only here for the weekend (so they think). Because of this, I’m able to get girls who would otherwise flake, to actually meet up.

As expected, she coughs up the digits once I give her that hint about hitting her up over the weekend.

Well, the online pickup happened Wednesday. It is now Sunday (Christmas). Did I get to meet up with her?

The answer is no!

Why not?

I had prior plans…as usual. So I never bothered to hit her up even to this moment. But in my defense; that is a mute point (following up).

Here’s the thing, and I touched on this extensively in a recent post, I pick up so many girls on a weekly basis (a combination of girls online and on street approaches), that it is absolutely and humanly impossible for me to meet, date and fuck every girl whom I manage to pick up…in a timely manner that is.

I mean, I have girls on the proverbial back-burner whom I haven’t even managed to call or text yet from about 2-3 months ago!

There is just no way on Earth that I could possibly keep up with the volume of new girls I pull.

I pick up girls then forget that I even picked them up. I forget and lose numbers and names regularly.

I have names saved but no numbers (because I forget to input the #’s). Numbers saved but no names. I mean it is just a fucking mess most times with managing the girls I pick up!

Classic example of this cluster-fuck quagmire is the DTF Lebanese girl whom I’d picked up last week. I was supposed to meet up with her yesterday (Christmas Eve) but had to cancel on her because: 1.) there are other girls who take precedence due to various factors. 2.) Since it’s a holiday weekend, I was busy out the ass running here and there.

Every now and then, I manage to squeeze a new girl in (various reasons for that too). But that’s all besides the point.

What I want you to take away from this post, apart from the points made in between screenshots, is the entitlement mindset: being entitled to getting the girl.

It isn’t only a mindset that I want you to adopt when picking up girls, but to play the part through actions and words!

When trying to pick up girls online, your words and subcommunications are paramount, since physical displays of entitlement aren’t displayable over the internet.

Women can sense whether a guy really believe his own shit, or if he’s a second away from crumbling once he’s faced with a hot girl.

There are some things you just won’t do or say to a girl whom you perceive as idol-like based on her looks and social value.

That is a timid frame. A loser’s mindset!

No girl should be above the process! No matter how hot, how young!

It is of utmost importance that you bring yourself to believing this!

Once you would’ve done that, women with whom you encounter (online for instance) will undoubtedly smell this entitlement attitude permeating their smartphones.

From believing it, you begin to act and speak accordingly. And by this, I don’t mean for you to walk around pompously verbalizing that you could get any girl you want. You want to have the attitude without having to say it.

From your approach, women should be able to sense your sense of entitlement to getting girls. But with every Inner-Game concept in pickup; this takes time!

Accompanying such a mindset is freedom from outcome. In other words, you’ll feel a sense of liberty to bust a girl’s chops, poke fun at her and treat her like a nagging little sister without fear of jeopardizing your chances.

The moment you begin to doubt the process and get all inside of your head, the girl senses this fear and blows you off!

With this 19-year old chick here, did I give off any semblance of fear whatsoever?

Did I treat the situation as though I were some old man desperate to get laid?

Furthermore, did I supplicate, beg and kiss her tush just because she’s young(er)?

The answers are resounding NO’s!

On that note- though that is how you want to go about picking up women in general- it is even more instrumental to adopt such an entitled and fearless frame with girls who are deemed hotter and younger.

Bit**y Scrawny Hot Girl Hates My Guts But Still Got Pulled [Neg Theory]

Okay, so this scrawny chick (pictured below) and I have had a somewhat rocky-online relationship where we behave like dicks to each other on each other’s posts.

I hadn’t seen her post in a while so I surmised that she might have deleted me (my hunch was right). I sent her another friend request to which she accepted. I then inboxed her on the likely de-friending.

By the way, the interactions took place between June and October: started June, continued October.

[Her msgs in gray]

By the way, she claimed to have dropped and broke her phone which was why I hadn’t seen her visible on Whatsapp ever since grabbing her #.

In either case, it was a straightforward occasion.

I didn’t waste much time on attraction material because I knew she liked me already. So it made sense to get straight to the point: “let’s meet up the next time I’m in your part of town”.

Typically, I hit up her part of town to bar hop and stuff, so my plan was to have her meet me out and we take it from there.

As for her sex appeal- sure she is very sexy- but I am a boob-man, and she is very flat on top, which is why I hardly ever pursue girls who are stick-figured.

Hence the reason I negged her perfectly about being so slim, and that I usually don’t chat with slim girls.

By indirectly communicating to a girl that she isn’t usually your type, it allows for 2 powerful things to happen:

1.) It is an indirect compliment in that the girl feels special and singled-out that the guy was willing to go against his ideal type for her

2.) It makes her feel somewhat inadequate and self-conscious, where she questions her viability as a sexual item

Be as it may, we never did manage to meet up because of my topsy-turvy and on-the-fly routine.

We still follow each other on Facebook and I bust her chops periodically whenever she posts some dumb shit. So it’s just a matter of timing before I seriously try to get her to meet up with me.

Lastly, everything boils down to frame and your belief.

I always end up picking up chicks with whom things kicked off rocky, simply because I bear in mind that women love drama, and drama is their fucking oxygen!

Thus, I give them drama, then charm them up with game for the eventual pull.

Remember: push-pull, hot and cold, on and off, left and right, zigzag!

Your pickups should resemble a rollercoaster ride, and not a fucking linear stroll down the road!

You should say shit that shocks the girl, perhaps offed her if need be. Then you compliment her, give her a sweet face, the “BAM”: change up on her again!

I implore you to read this old post of mines from back in 2013.

More online pickups to come.

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