If you’re unfamiliar with the Pickup-community term LMR (Last Minute Resistance), then check out this video of mines where I briefly spoke about the top 10 most common shit a girl would say to a guy in order to wiggle her way out of getting fucked at the last second.
Last Minute Resistance is as the name implies.
Before a girl actually has sex with a new guy for the first time, she will 99.9% of the time resist his advances at the last second.
These token/fake resistances may come in physical form but most often are verbal.
With that out of the way, I’ll take you to a field report from last night (Friday night) where LMR had actually screwed me out of sex…as will happen to most of us.
Ok, I met a girl earlier in the week, tried setting up an outdoor date but then decided to flirt with the idea of she coming directly to my casa instead [fingers crossed].
With a little prodding and convincing; she decided to come to the bachelor pad under the guise that we hang out a little :twisted:.
She got here about 7:45 pm [Last Night…a Friday].
Tactical Move #1:
*Before hand, I ensured that there were no seating (as in chairs) available for her to sit in, so I packed all sorts of junk and suitcases on the sofa and chairs…so the only place she could actually sit was on the bed in the studio apartment :twisted:.
This’ a classic-PUA tactic to ensure that the girl is sitting on the bed instead of a couch.
Anywho, so I motioned to her to sit on the edge of the bed while I sit on the opposite end…just to maintain some comfort and not freak her out right away.
This isn’t the point where you crowd the girl and make her uncomfortable.
You should appear somewhat aloof, busy and distant in the first few minutes of her being at your place.
You don’t want to come off as desperate!
So this would be a great time to grab a quick shower, make a bowl of cereal and allow her to become acquainted with the foreign environment…your place.
With that, I told her she can sit on this side of the bed, while I sat on the furthest end and pretended to be preoccupied on the computer.
Doing so will maintain the comfort level opposed to freaking her out the instant she got into the door by sitting right next to her.
We virtually chatted across the bed for the first 5 minutes then I closed the gap…gradually.
Eventually, we were sitting side by side as I spoke to her about music, ipods, what songs she had on her phone, does she play Candy Crush Saga, etc.
It’s key that in the first few minutes at your pad, you make the girl feel more comfortable by talking about bullshit kiddie topics instead of how much you like her.
I noticed that she still had her shoes on, which could indicate that she’s a bit nervous, uncomfortable and isn’t looking to stay long.
Guys; you have to learn how to read these subtle signs!
So to counter this, I said to her:
“You’re a bit uncomfortable right? I notice you still have your shoes on. By the way, you’re messing up my expensive-white carpet so you’re gonna have to remove them”.
Of course this was bullshit banter since I don’t have a carpet :), but that line had lightened the mood as we both laughed. So I removed her shoes with my own hands to make her feel more at home…psychologically.
Doing this is also crucial leading up to sex with a new girl.
Ok, lemme fast forward to some actual LMR.
About an hour later (let’s say 8:45) as she visibly appeared totally comfortable [she was rocked back a bit on the bed], I told her to scoot over a bit to the edge while I sat behind and sort of straddle her with my legs while seated at the edge of the bed.
I was basically leaning over her shoulder while she fiddled with her cellphone and we chatted about Reggae music.
My physical touch (KINO) would increase by the minutes with some accidental KINO (touching).
In other words, since I was positioned in back of her while looking over her shoulder, my chin would accidentally be rested against the nape of her neck.
This move would be classified as accidental or incidental KINO touching (KINO), where it appeared that I was NOT purposely touching her (although I was).
To heighten the sexual tension + touching (KINO), by sleight of the hand, my arm would come into contact with her breasts as I was leaning over her to point out a song on her phone.
It was an accidental boob touch…so it appeared :twisted:.
The non-verbal sexual interaction had commenced!
At this stage, I had zero resistance since all of my touching were seemingly accidental thus appropriate.
I began to gently caress her back and shoulders while she browsed her phone for another song to que up.
Asked if she was ticklish, she said “No- sometimes”, so I started to kiss her on the shoulders and back.
No token resistance. She was enjoying the soothing ride thus far.
I had kept this up [foreplay] for about 25 minutes while caressing her arms.
When things got really heated and her vagina began to engage, her 1st. Token Resistance blurted out…as anticipated:
Girl: “I gotta leave by 9 o’clock”.
I said to myself: “You’re a 20 year old chick with a 9 PM curfew…on a weekend”!?
“Come on- really”!?
This was an obvious token/fake resistance.
In fact; you will encounter this more than any other form of LMR (Last Minute Resistance) where she says she has to leave by a certain time.
Almost every new girl I screwed, or nearly screwed, had all said to me:
“I have to leave @ * o’clock”.
“I have to leave soon”
“I have to leave now”.
If you’re accustomed to getting laid or having close calls: then you will have been very familiar with those forms of LMR.
Instead of taking this literally to mean she really has to go soon so you should stop altogether and give up, you should take it to mean that you should step on the accelerator and escalate faster!
So I took her hand and led her to the middle of the bed and made her lie down with me.
The 2nd. LMR interjected (verbally):
Girl: “We shouldn’t be doing this”.
Me: “I know…It’s bad…We should stop”.
Now, how do you know that this’ token/fake resistance opposed to genuine resistance?
Surly she said that we shouldn’t be doing this; yet she willingly lie down on the bed anyway.
Quick scenario: would you comply with a guy who says to you that he will blow your brains out but isn’t brandishing a gun?
Or would you be much more likely to comply with a guy who has an actual gun to your head?
Reason I drew that analogy is that whenever the girl verbalizes that “we shouldn’t be doing this”, it’s equivalent to an empty threat. But if in the same breath she willingly submits or comply, you should believe her body/actions and not her words.
This’ is why the classic-contentious argument of “whenever a girl says no it means no”, is bullshit!
When a girl says no [in such cases], it more often means yes or maybe than an actual no.
Had I listened to all the girls who had told me “No” over the years, I would still be a fucking waste-of-semen useless virgin!
Anyway, so she lied down while I caressed her tummy, kissed her shoulders, neck, back and arms.
Ran my hand across her breasts without any resistance, lifted her top, un-clipped the bra (no resistance) while fiddling with her nipples.
She rolled over on her back as to get more comfortable and allow me easier access to her boobs :).
This’ a sure sign that she was enjoying the moment and wanted to get fucked!
I started to rub her pussy (through her jeans) while kissing her, then I got up and tried to remove her top and bra completely.
Before I was able to do it myself, her hands had already beaten me to it as she removed her top and bra herself.
Talk about wanting some action :)!
It gets no clearer than her own complicity in action.
I took my shirt off also, lay myself on top of her, legs spread while I rubbed her crotch (through her jeans) and sucked on her nipples simultaneously.
To test the waters of comfort, I asked her if she was ok.
She replied, “Yea”.
The thing Is; I strive on comfort.
If a girl isn’t comfortable in my presence or in my bed; I cannot fuck her!
My cock just wouldn’t gain an erection from a girl who isn’t comfortable in the situation. This is why I couldn’t rape a girl nor fuck a virgin [well I did bang a virgin once]. Her sheer discomfort in the situation wouldn’t allow me to get nor maintain a hard-on. It’s imperative that I have surety that the girl is also enjoying the moment.
Anyway, the nipple-sucking and crotch rubbing had continued for 15 minutes.
Let me quickly address the guy who will say that I wasted too much time on foreplay, and that doing so, had ruined the situation for me.
You could never spend too much time on foreplay as long as it’s in the name of getting the girl really turned on.
Had I done zero foreplay and strictly went caveman, grabbed her pussy and tried hauling her pants down without leading up to it via gradual escalation; she would’ve left immediately!
The notion that you can or should rip her pants off and fuck the shit out of her will only work in outdoor settings or One-Night Stand pulls…like in back of an alley or the restroom of a nightclub or bar where quickies are acceptable.
There just isn’t enough time for (extensive) foreplay when fucking a girl in a darkened parking lot…on the hood of someone’s car.
However, at your place; you have to utilize more finesse game, gradual foreplay and escalation. If you’re too aggressive and escalate too rapidly; she will bail immediately!
Anyway, I tried un-buckling her belt and jeans to no avail, so I decided to pull them off but the belt was tightly fastened…FUCK!
Minutes later, I tried again but with a bit more force; same result…no result!
Tried again a while after…just as her pants were budging a bit, she grabs hold of my hand.
“Ok, perhaps she isn’t sold as yet” [I said to myself], so I re-calibrated and continued to kiss her all over.
As she “hit buying temperature” and got super turned on- it was too much for her to handle…so at this point, she truly resisted the sexual advances.
RSD Tyler calls this frying the girl’s brain, where she becomes so sexually aroused that it causes her to go insane for a split second!!!
She hopped up from the bed and said she has to go.
Now, how do I know she was being genuine at this point?
She didn’t just verbalize that she had to go: but she actualized it through actions…which speak louder than words!
The fact that she jump up from the bed, slipped on her shoes, bra and shirt as fast as I can say “Wait”; made it pretty clear that the situation was too much for her to handle in 1 night.
Also, had she just gotten up and sat on the bed, it would’ve meant that she was still at least 60% open for sex that night…which meant that I could simply re-calibrate, de-escalate then re-engage her sexually.
However, she got up, put on her bra, shirt, shoes then left.
She wasn’t upset by any means. She was overwhelmed from sexual arousal.
Did she want sex?
Then why did she leave without having sex?
That anomalous question puzzles a lot of guys who find such occurrences as strange and contradicting.
Guys need to realize that whenever it comes down to sex with a new guy; it presents a huge inner battle for women, even when she’s right there on the proverbial-slaughtering table aka the bed.
As much as she’s dying to get penetrated by your hard cock; she will fight it!!!
This is the core of Last Minute Resistance.
At the last second, even while her clothes are off, she will fight, resist, lock her legs, say no, say she has to leave, etc.
…Although she truly wants to be fucked!
For the average guy- this doesn’t make any sense at all!
That is because we men think with our rational brain, and we rationalize circumstances.
On the other hand, women think through emotions with the emotional part of the brain dubbed the Reptilian Brain (the Triune Brain) which controls lust, feelings, desires and so forth.
Therefore it’s hard for the average guy to comprehend why a woman will go to such extent to resist sex when she truly wants to have sex.
LMR (Last Minute Resistance) is her psychological-protective mechanism which must be activated whenever she’s feeling too horny and is about to have sex or about to flee from sex.
You may also want to read this very informative article I’d written a while ago [re-posted from Thundercat’s seduction blog]: 2 reasons why she didn’t give it up.
That article originally posted by Thundercat (the Pickup guru) dealt with 2 inconspicuous reasons a girl will refuse to have sex at the last second:
1.) She’s on her period.
2.) She isn’t well-groomed downstairs.
It’s no secret that sane women are hyper self-conscious when it comes to their bodies, hair, stretch marks, flaws, etc.
To get a bit crazier: I’ve known girls who didn’t have sex with me because they were wearing granny panties at the time and would’ve felt embarrassed had I noticed.
I’ve also met girls who didn’t have sex with me because the lights were on.
Lots of women are self-conscious of fucking under lights where all of their physical imperfections will be highlighted.
So when it comes to having a girl at your place, it isn’t as easy-breezy to fuck her as you may believe.
You can only set the framework and the ambiance to facilitate the possibility.
Her legs being unshaven will put the brakes on all of your smooth-talking efforts to get into her panties…unless you’re smooth enough to convince her to fuck you with hairy legs :).
Sure there will be naysayers claiming that Kenny didn’t get to fuck that girl last night because he lacks the ability to finesse a lay, and he’s just making excuses.
I have no problems with accepting such criticism.
However, every guy on the face of the Earth, irrespective of his level of game, is presented with such Last Minute Resistance.
At times: he manages to override it and fuck the girl.
Other times: he won’t manage to fuck the girl because of the reasons I’d cited above.
Last Minute Resistance occurring due to her menstrual cycle or self-consciousness is almost impossible to override…unless this’ a girl whom you’d fucked a few times before.
However token resistance based on psychological blockages, can always be overpowered by the following strategies I’ll lay out in the section below.
Getting a girl to your place for the first time in order to have sex with her is all a ritual.
Your pad should be set up in a way which is conducive to sex.
These things aren’t prerequisites, but would only serve to make the journey to sex easier.
* Dimmed lights or lights off.
* Seating arranged where she has to sit near you opposed to a distant couch.
* Something to preoccupy her brain while you operate: a photo album, cellphone, music, some sort of gadget, etc.
Why this is reasonable is because lots of time, guys try to get physical with girls at their place, without distracting the girl psychologically. So an awkward moment ensues when the guy tries cold feeling up the girl without her brain being occupied on something else.
Instead, you can be flipping through some photos on your cellphone (or hers), occupying her rational brain with photos, while you caress her shoulders, sides and breath down her neck.
You must occupy the girl’s brain while she’s there at your place or she will get freaked-out once you transition from not talking to trying to grope her.
Just as I did with this girl, I struck up a random chat about Justin Timberlake and the music she has on her cellphone [keeping her brain occupied] while caressing her body.
I reiterate: you cannot, or should NOT get sexual with a girl via moment of silence.
Just as trying to kiss a girl during an awkward-silent pause will kill the entire vibe. So you must keep her mouth, ears or brain occupied or distracted with something, while your hands do the work of warming her up.
Another question guys tend to ask often: “How do you know when No means No”?
If the girl is still at your place, still in your bed, has NOT fled, is NOT throwing a fit but she’s saying no: then no in that case means yes…or maybe.
If she really means “NO or Stop”, she will not only verbalize it, but she will show it by getting up, putting her shit on…and bounce. But as long as she’s still there: then no means yes…or maybe.
Just as the saying goes in Pickup, “As long as the girl is still standing there; then it’s still game on”!
In other words, if trying to chat up a girl on the streets, and she’s being somewhat frosty or rude, as long as she hasn’t walked off: then it’s still on!
When she says “Stop”.
“Stop”, follows the same guideline. If she really intends for you to stop, she will push you off, get up and bounce!
“Stop” just means to slow down.
It’s an amber light (yellow) and not a red one.
When she says “stop”, you simply de-escalate or employ some Freeze-Out tactics.
For instance, if you’re rubbing her pussy and she says to stop, or she removes your hand, it doesn’t mean not to do that at all. It means to slow down and do something else first until she’s warmed up to the idea. So you should stop rubbing her pussy and do something a bit lighter…like rubbing her hips, etc. then after some minutes have elapsed, you begin to rub her pussy again to test her compliance.
This is all a push-pull dance and mating ritual.
Now bear in mind as I mentioned in the previous passage, that if she’s genuinely self-conscious about something: she would do whatever it takes to avoid sex that night.
For instance, if she’s wearing granny panties; her pants will not be coming off…unless you can convince her that you don’t and won’t judge her on such stupid things.
If you’d exhausted all strategies mentioned but she still pulls out all the defensive maneuvers; then there’s obviously something she is super uncomfortable with (about herself):
* Stretch marks
* Back acne
* Body fat
* Hairy vagina
* An STI 😯
She having a boyfriend or husband isn’t enough to deter her from banging you at this stage in the game. So “boyfriend” would be a flimsy reason as to why a girl at your place didn’t sleep with you.
Girls cheat on their boyfriends all the time…in case you haven’t gotten the memo.
However, an unkempt pussy will stop her from having sex with you…that night.
As a guy, let’s say that you haven’t showered in a week (hypothetically) and a girl invited you to her place then comes onto you strong as fuck and tries to give you a blow job (with the lights on) while your cock is covered in penile gunk and built-up dirt.
Would you let her whip it out and look at it under the proverbial microscope?
Of course not!!!
You’d be so embarrassed and ashamed that you would fight it to the death just to prevent her from seeing your unkempt-dirty dick!
Same applies to women.
If she’s the type to keep her vagina groomed and presentable (as lots of women in the developed world are), but somehow neglected to shave in weeks or months and found herself lying on your bed: she will fight sex…even though she wants to have sex with you real bad!
Therefore, whenever a girl rejects your sexual advances or LMR (Last Minute Resistance) surfaces and puts a stop to your attempts; it isn’t necessarily something you’re doing wrong, neither a lack of skills. But it most times signals to an insecurity she’s dealing with or circumstantial factors such as menstruation, holes in her panties, a badly healed scar on her body she isn’t comfortable with you seeing yet, and not knowing if you’d be grossed out by it.
Some women are also self-conscious of back and shoulder acne which can also put the brakes on sex with a new guy.
One way to counteract these is to have the lights dimmed or off completely.
She won’t tell you to turn the light off neither. You’ll have to execute your social smarts to make this call.
The more she participates verbally and physically, the more it’d make her feel and look slutty. And she isn’t about to create such bad impression with a new guy. Therefore you as the man, will have to preempt every move to lead, direct and think for both parties.
I remember years ago sleeping with a girl who had terrible scaring across her thigh (unknown to me prior to sleeping with her).
I always wondered why whenever I tried getting her pants off, she would shut down and resist…with the lights on.
While fucking her for the first time (without lights), I noticed by touch that the entire region of her left thigh was somewhat rippled.
Days later, she told me about an incident as a kid, while her mother was cooking, she accidentally yanked at the pot handle and spilled boiling water down onto her thigh.
Since then, she was left with a huge scar for life.
This had made her super self-conscious to fuck new guys who may possibly get turned off or freaked-out.
Therefore, factors like these you will have to take into account whenever you encounter sexual resistance and not able to maneuver around it.
Countering this requires you to build extra comfort with her.
All in all, I believe that my failure to bang that girl last night came down to some discomfort which was out of my hands.
Perhaps she’s on her period???
Whatever it was, I knew there was nothing I could’ve done to change it.
By the way, she claims to have just broken up with her boyfriend recently.
I don’t believe her! I think she’s still with the BF.
For the guys who may say that I escalated too fast in trying to fuck her, thus screwing up things; that was not the case.
Let’s say that I didn’t move (so) fast. The following 2 things would’ve resulted:
1.) Time slipped away and she has to leave with the entire night wasted.
2.) She would see me as a guy who cannot take action and isn’t man enough to go after what he wants.
This’ why it’s always better to err on the side of moving too fast than too slow.
If sex doesn’t materialize that time, at least she knows that she can count on you whenever she has the itch for some dick and the circumstance is right.
She knows you’re the type to take action.
She’s not gonna hit up the slow-to-action guy the next time she’s feeling horny.
This also why it’s always advisable to move fast with women!
She can always tell you to slow down a bit.
But if you’re moving too slow; she will NEVER EVER tell you to speed up!!!
After leaving your place, she will call up her girlfriend(s) and say:
“Girl, you wouldn’t believe what happened! That muthafucka wasted my damn time! I was @ his place for 3 hours and he didn’t do shit! Not even touched me once! What a fucking big pussy! I’m so pissed right now! I should’ve gone to see Rick, the guy I met 2 weeks ago who wanted to fuck the shit out of me but I was on my period”!
That’s how she will talk about you amongst her girls, as the guy who didn’t try to fuck her, instead took it slow in order to appear “Different” from other guys who just want to get in her jeans.
She will laugh about you to her friends, and you will never have another shot to waste her time AGAIN!
You’ll begin to wonder why she hasn’t been texting or calling as normally would.
You’ll start to question what you’d done wrong or didn’t do right.
Well what you didn’t do right was to try to fuck her!
My girl is still highly interested in seeing me again perhaps Sunday night!
She’s been texting more. In fact, she actually woke me the fuck up this morning around 6 AM with a wassup text :)!
So she is highly impressed with my ability, action and desire in wanting to fuck her guts out so soon!
Just that it couldn’t happen that night.
Alright, on a final note, let’s talk about: Music in relation to sex and LMR.
We’ve all seen movies and sitcoms where the guy invites the girl over and throws on some love ballads in order to woo her into a romantic mood.
However, it’s not the type of music you play.
What they’re not telling, or Hollywood simply doesn’t know, is that the music is just to distract the girl’s rational brain from thinking straight…or from thinking about sex, which may cause her to freak out.
She will occupy her brain with the music, beat, melody, bass, drums, instrumental, etc. whether she likes the song or not.
Just as I mentioned earlier, you need to occupy/distract the girl’s brain with something: pictures, movie, lights, music, games, story-telling, whatever.
Therefore, ensure that you have some music on hand.
Doesn’t matter the genre nor the theme. You’re not trying to impress the girl with your music selection, but to keep her brain somewhere else while you physically get her sexually excited.
Ok, not up for reading the entire article? You can take not of the quick summaries and go!
* Let her sit on the bed by having no other seating available.
* Let her sit alone for a bit while you do something else but still chat with her.
* Sit on the opposite side of the bed to allow the comfort to build.
* Gradually get closer to her as the convo progresses.
* Talk about anything except sex, love and relationships.
* Grab a photo album, your phone or hers, and look through it.
* Put on some music (any music).
* As the convo progresses, get closer and sit behind her.
* Make sure the lights are dimmed or off at this point with the only light coming from a TV, computer or cellphone.
* Begin caressing her shoulders, neck and hair.
* If she doesn’t reject your attempts; start to caress her side and back.
* Start to kiss her in innocent places: back, neck, shoulders.
* The entire time while doing all this: ensure that you’re periodically chatting shit about anything…except sex.
* Lead her to the mid of the bed by taking her hand and laying her down.
* Commence full foreplay.
* Expect LMR (Last Minute Resistance) in the form of brushing your hand away, holding your hand, telling you to stop, etc.
* Slow down, stop, escalate, slow down, stop, escalate…
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