Act Now Or Forever Make It Awkward…Rapid-Escalation Theory Part II

In keeping with a recent article which dealt with physical escalation, KINO (touching) and getting sexual with women, I put together a short post just to compliment that theme as an added mindset shift for those guys who are lacking in that department.

Failure to act now and early, begets further inaction and more escalation anxiety.

The longer you wait the more things get awkward.

Trust me: I speak from experience on this.

It’s no different than procrastination on a workout or hitting the gym.

The more you put it off for later by saying, “I’ll hit the gym tomorrow when there’s less people there”, the greater the chances that you won’t hit the gym at all.

This plagues all of us to some degree, at some time.

The only way to finally get to it is to…just do it! To just do it without thinking about it!

There’s a little saying in pickup: “when in doubt about making the move; just do it”!

Whenever doubt creeps into your mind; that’s the moment to just do it!

Your mind will talk you out of anything and everything. Allowing yourself time to think and ponder is almost always the kiss of death when it comes to making a move on a woman for example!

Here are few things that will have managed to talk you out of making a move. You might be aware of them:


Contrary to popular belief, the more you get to know/learn about the girl, the more iffy you become with the idea of making a move on her.

You may begin to say stuff to yourself like:

“This girl is so profession in her field. If I make a move on her now, she will think I’m an unprofessional loser who’s beneath her”.

“This girl’s very religious. Making a move on her will make her see me as this insensitive jerk who doesn’t even care about her spirituality”.

“This girl’s an Orthodox Muslim. They don’t believe in sex before marriage”.

“I just learned that she just broke up with her boyfriend who’s a wanton cheater who treated her like trash. If I try to make a move on her now, she’ll perceive me in the same way…that I’m a womanizing scum like her ex”!

Such internal dialogue and questioning happens, whenever you get to learn more about a girl whom you’d just met.

During the “get to know each other” process, you may discover that she is wanting to dabble in celibacy. And if you were to make a move on her, she would reject and resent you for doing so, knowing that she wants to go the celibate route.

None of that is connected anyway. However, our minds- the male’s mind- puts all those things together and determine that making a move now, would be ill-timing. So “it’s best I wait until the next day…or next week…or when the moment looks better”. 😦

Tomorrow comes, you meet up with the girl again; things get a tad bit more awkward than the previous day- unbeknownst to you- all because you had gotten to know more things about her.

Hence, the less you know about her (and vice versa), the better it is for escalation purposes!

Roger that?



Another contributing factor towards your escalation anxiety is the girl’s age.

Need clarification?

The older the girl, the greater the tendency to want to take it slow(er).

This happens out of fear, reverence and respect for women who are older than you.

Somewhat, guys tend to think that maturer women need to be coddled, deified, pedestalized, “respected” and treated differently, solely based on their age.

Accompanying this, is a misconception that older women- for instance, MILF’s and Cougars [let’s just say women over 35]- aren’t predisposed to casual sex.

Hence, “I must take it real real slow before I offend her”.

With that being said, if you’re a younger guy who has a preference for seducing maturer women, but you haven’t ventured there as yet, I can imagine the anxiety and fear you have in regards to this.

However, as someone who’s been there, done that, countless amounts of time; I can tell you for certain that your fear is irrational, and the girl’s age doesn’t dictate her responses to the seduction attempt.

As a quasi-mind hack, here’s how to handle this with excruciating ease:

Imagine that the girl was NOT older, and not out of your league as far as age is concerned!

The mind is a very powerful computer as we all know!

It can psyche you out, psyche you up and make or break you in ever facet of life.

It is easy to manipulate (your mind), change and alter it in positive and negative ways.

Simply telling yourself- or your mind- that the girl in front of you, in spite of the fact that she’s 15 years your senior, wants to fuck your brains out, has the real potential to spur you into action with disregard for what you believed prior.

Now, the reason this hack works is simple: generally, one isn’t intimidated by persons younger than him or her.

Experience factor, in relation to age, are what causes massive amounts of anxiety in humans.

What do I mean?

Generally, if you’re younger in age, you have less experiences in life. Hence, there are less reasons for others [older] to be intimidated by you.

I mean, no established worker would get intimidated by a novice or trainee, fresh out of school, on the job for the 1st time.

Why so? Because he or she would’ve had minimal to zero experience in that work field.

However, if the new hire were an experienced person in the field, with 10+ years of experience, quite naturally, he or she would carry a bit (or lot) of intimidation factor around the workplace.

Saying that mouthful to say: experience and age [the girl being older], usually intimidate men when it comes to women whom they’re vying to seduce.

Perhaps she’s been wih hotter guys, guys who were stellar in bed, guys who were toting 15 inch zip-line cocks, etc.

How would you compare and compete with that!?

If you want a temporary fix/hack for this: simply envision a girl with less to no experience. Someone who’s younger preferably.

Enter the situation, the meetup,etc. with the belief that you’re meeting someone who doesn’t know her way around the bedroom.

You as the one with at least some experience, you will likely be the more confident one in the interaction.

Therefore, you have to psyche yourself out!


In addition to the point I touched on about the more you know about the girl, the greater the chance of anxiety, guys tend to get psyched out by the things women say; for instance, their social-media posts.

Women are notorious for posting things to social media that they don’t believe for a second!

However, as an outside observer- the guy- you’re bound to get dissuaded as you fall into the trap of buying into shit women post/say.

What are some examples?

The girl whom you’re looking to seducing, may post to Facebook that she hates men who are cocky.

From this, you may interpret that to mean that she hates men who goes for it with confidence, since that may come off as cocky. So because of that, you talk yourself out of taking action, afraid that she would reject you.

Well- I’m here to say that you should NOT take women seriously when it comes to the stuff that spews out of their mouth!


Another tip that works phenomenally in spurring you into action, is to get a state boost through a guy who’s a player.

In other words: act vicariously through someone whom you know is a ladies’ man!

As kids- little boys- we would watch a karate flick or some ass-kicking cartoon, then as soon as it concludes, we spring up off of the couch and begin to imitate a particular character in the film or animation show.

We throw kicks, punches, do flips, etc!

That was all due to a state boost which we got from the program just viewed.

As grown men, at least in my experience, we can still access this proverbial reservoir for a positive boost, by living vicariously through an idol, or someone whom we look up to.

Now, I’m not advising you that you try to become that other person in any genuine or long-term fashion. But just for the moment and in the moment, as you enter the situation.

As for myself, personally, whenever I’m feeling non-confident and iffy about making certain moves pertaining to women, I envision player-type guys whom I know, know of, or seen in action before, and that alone would give me the added boost as I subconsciously ask myself, “What would that player guy do”?

Then “BAAM”! I wake up and take decisive action!


If you could pull it off with 1 girl, you can pull it off with another.

In pickup, this is equivalent to “being in state” or being in the zone (if you were an athlete).

Some days ago, I stopped by this girl’s workplace since I was in the vicinity to begin with.

I began flirting with her heavily, grabbed her by the waist and tried to kiss her on the neck while she playfully pulled away.

At 1 point as she peered down into her smartphone while I held her with a hand, I cupped her ass with the other hand (to her surprise) and spanked it somewhat hard.

She pulled back, smiled, laughed and looked at me in astonishment because I slapped her on the behind.

Needless to say, that planned encounter concluded on that note, but I just remembered I had another chick to whom to pay a visit.

Hence, I bolted towards that aim: “see chick #2 at her workplace”.

I got there, brimming with confidence from the way I manhandled girl #1 whom I’d just visited about 15-20 minutes earlier. Not that I really needed any momentum boost to begin with, but I’m merely sharing this episode as means for you guys to get things going.

Anyway, so when I met girl 2 whom I’d been gaming on and off for about 4 weeks, I immediately went for her hand…to her surprise.

She was taken-aback, but in a positive sense.

The state boost that I had from escalating on the previous girl, rolled over into this set.

Moreover, 1 of my favorite sayings from the seduction community is, “Emotions are contagious”.

In other words; the girl feels what you feel.

Hence, when you come into the set brimming with confidence to get physical with the girl (and by “physical”, I mean touchy), this positive state also transfers onto the girl.

You’re effectively in the zone!

All in all; you want to take action early- NOW- or else it will get awkward!

Pizza Day-3 Field Report

Tuesday afternoon, out of sheer hunch, I decided to message a girl whom I haven’t communicated with in nearly 5 months.

We met up once since picking her up online about 6 months ago.

We hung out kind of at her place but that (Day2) didn’t culminate in the lay, so I practically decided to next her.

Anywho, I hit her up yesterday, late afternoon, about coming to see her @ her place. She was down, so I let her know I’ll let her know when I’m coming.

[My texts in green]

I collected the pizza, made it to her doorstep, she told me to come in, dropped the pizza on her lap, hugged and kissed her on the forehead.

What was my plan going into last night?

Surely to get laid. However, and I talked about this in Netflix & Sex, there is an escalation process in which one is to operate for optimizing the chance of sex materializing.

Also, since this was the 2nd time we would’ve met (at her place), there was no reason for me to form the ass and dilly-dally around when it comes to what I want.

For the first 25 minutes, seated in front of each other (knees almost touching), we both browsed her Facebook timeline from her phone, opining on the stuff we came across.

The reasons why I didn’t pounce upon her (proverbially) instantly:

1.) One should display that you’re not desperate and over eager, so you play it nonchalantly for the first half hour

2.) She was still munching on the pizza

She ate half of the small-pizza pie, so I took that as my cue to now begin KINO escalation.

When it comes to going for the touch (KINO), I find that it is best to go for it on spikes of humor.

This is something I do religiously when getting romantic with a girl with whom I’m on a so-called date.

It also kills the weird and awkward factor when you go for the touch or hold on humor.

With that, after being there for about 25 minutes as she ate the pizza while we sat there browsing her Facebook together, I strategically mentioned something that I knew was going to cause her to laugh.

I can’t quite remember what that was. But I said what I said in relation to a post on her timeline, knowing it would cause laughter, so she laughs hilariously with me, and I seized that opportune moment to take her hand with both and mines, and began stroking her fingers sensually with my fingers.

Did she reject or react negatively to this move?

Of course not!

Timing is of paramount importance!

Always try to make your move (in regards to touching the girl) on a light, playful, hilarious and humors note, when the girl would’ve been laughing from something you’d strategically said or done (as I did).

Without an ounce of fear, I continued gently stroking, rubbing and caressing her palm and fingers as we sat knees to knees with her phone in her other hand.

From that seating position, my face was almost buried into her cleavage which was revealed.

There was zero negative tension to my sensual touching. There was tension in the air, but sexual tension (which is the kind of tension you want to create).

Nothing was awkward either. When going for the touch, hold or caress, do it as though it’s natural and normal.

At first, I expect you to be jittery and awkward. But once you secure her hand or finger(s), just let go and embrace it, and keep talking about what was being talked about before you took her hand or rest your hand upon her shoulder, etc!

Anyway, so we continued normal conversation about the stuff that popped up on her timeline as she scrolled down.

Oh- bear this in mind- content of the conversation is NOT important once you’re back @ the girl’s pad or she’s at yours!

It doesn’t matter what you talk about. As long as your physicals are in the right place (i.e. romance).

Great example: there we were talking about any old random shit that shows up as we scroll her wall. That’s pretty meaningless stuff. Meanwhile, I was physically escalating, being romantic and sexual, stroking her fingers sensually, in spite of the fact that our conversation was devoid of anything remotely romantic or intimate. So your words don’t matter at this stage of the game.

Sure it is nice to get the girl sexually arouse. But it’s so much more powerful to touch her in order to get her aroused as I was doing.

At no point during this hand and finger caressing did she pull away. Oh- she did pull away once- but that was to kill a mosquito on her leg.

The hand and finger caressing went on for 20 minutes I would say until I got increasingly sexual by resting my hand in her lap, pressed against her inner thighs as I sensually stroked her fingers.

Again, she didn’t reject nor react negatively to any of this because my timing/calibration was on point.

I touched her the right time with the right amount of pressure in the right places.

I can imagine there exist clueless guys who would’ve just jammed their fingers into the girl’s crotch and totally freaked her out.

There is a time and occasion for that. But when sitting across from, or next to a so-called date, you want to operate with tact, smoothness, agility and lightness. Nothing quirky, grand and too blatant.

Anyways, she had on a jacket inside at the dining table where we sat:

Me: “You’re not hot with that furry thing on”?

Girl: “I’m actually cold”!

She eventually got my drift [that I wanted access to the bare skin of her arms], so about 10 minutes later, she stood up to remove her coat. 🙂


I got up at the same time and took her hand and led her back to sit.

This time since I had more compliance, I could’ve escalated more rapidly and harder now.

Minutes later, she made mentioned of how hard she’s been working lately.

!”Ding, Ding, Ding”!!!

“She wants a massage”, I said to myself!

Always be ready to read these subtle-verbal cues that women put out there.

I got up, went behind her with my arms trailing across her shoulders, and as I stood in back of her (while she sat), I began massaging and running her neck and shoulders (both erogenous zones) with no backlash whatsoever.

Now- backlash will happen! Don’t get me wrong! Always expect the girl to either remove your hands, tell you don’t, or resist in some manner or the other.

Resistance isn’t rejections! Most girls will resist at some point. However, it just so happened that this girl didn’t give any resistance to what I was doing up to that point. But don’t think for a second that girls don’t reject m advances. Thy do! And more than they do with 99.9% of guys. The only difference in my case (though I get rejected 100 times more than the average guy) is that I don’t take resistance and rejections as the girl shutting down the show altogether!

Whenever a girl resists my advances, I take it mean that she isn’t warm yet to the idea of me being so intimate and sexual. So bear that in mind: the girl will resist at some pint during KINO/touching. But it doesn’t mean to fuck off. It more so means “not ready yet”.

Okay, so while massaging her shoulders and neck, I would hunch down and talk into her ears, ensuring that my lips made contact with her earlobe (another erogenous zone of a woman’s body).

This’ all strategic!

Her upper back was somewhat revealed because of the contour of her blouse, so I would intermittently kiss her softly on her exposed back and neck, while lightly running my lips across her back as I continued massaging her shoulders.

What were we talking about as thing was going on?

Bullshit on Facebook! She would open some dumb video clip, we would watch it then move on to another clip.

Saying that bit to say; you don’t have to talk sex while making sexual advances on a girl. Any ordinary topic will suffice, as long as you’re advancing sexually as you see me doing.

Her phone rang, and since I was right there hovering over her head as I massaged her shoulders, I was able to overhear her convo. Apparently, it was some dude who’s been trying to get with her. From the convo, it was clear that he was some chody guy trying to buy her since he told her he’d bought her something special for Christmas, to which she verbally shrugged off dismissively.

While on the phone I was lightly kissing her on the neck and running my tongue across her neck and ear.

Long story short: this all went on for another 15 minutes or so.

We never got to make out nor kiss for that matter. And sex definitely didn’t happen either. But we were set to meet up the following night (which would be today).

I’ll let you guys know how it goes…if I did manage to meet up with her again for the Day4 tonight (Wednesday).

In the meantime, download your complimentary guide of “Netflix and Sex”, to learn how to escalate on a girl back at your pad (or hers).

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“How Come You Don’t React Negatively When A Girl Rejects you”?

Upon posting my latest video yesterday, I received an e-mail from a subscriber asking about rejections.

Specifically, he was referring to various points [2 points] in the video where the girl sorta pulled her hand away after I held it for a bit.

Surely in my book this isn’t a rejection whatsoever.

For argument sake: we’ll look at it as a rejection [the girl withdrawing her hand].

Why didn’t I, and don’t I, react negatively to this? Simply because it isn’t a rejection.

Whenever a girl pulls away from me or withdraw her hands, etc. I find it a humorous event, hence I chuckle about it and usually jokingly comment about it.

For instance, around the 4:43 mark of the infield video, I held the girl hand and she pulled away while saying, “You need to stop holding my hand”.

What did I say to that?

“Oh- I guess you don’t want your BF to see us holding hands. He’s gonna kill you and kill me…and everybody’s gonna be dead”.

I said that jokingly with humor as she laughed about it too.

That’s how you handle a so-called rejection against an attempted KINO move [an attempt to touch the girl].

In addition to that, you should realize the hidden beauty and hidden agenda as to why I attempt to touch, and why most PUA coaches feel the same way.

It isn’t about whether you’re successful at getting physical with the girl.

The attempt alone is what counts!

Whether she rejects your attempt to touch her doesn’t fucking matter!

You only want to establish from the gate that you’re the type of guy who is willing to make bold fucking move!

That is what counts!

Hence, it doesn’t matter if the girl removes your arm from around her shoulders, recoils herself, pulls her hand back when you take it, etc.

Therefore, whenever I make a move physically on a girl, it isn’t in hopes to be flawless nor to have the move accepted without a hiccup.

I expect to have my hand swatted away or something like that, because I know ahead of time that the only thing that matters is the ‘Attempt’ to make a move on her, and NOT whether I successfully manage to make the move.

Saying all that to say: even during the video where the girl pulled aways twice as I held her hand, it didn’t stop her from coming with me to grab a drink and snack. Nor did it stop her from coming back to my place.

Therefore, if and when a girl rejects my moves on her [even an attempted kiss], I know it isn’t game over at all. I know to myself that I’m only trying to demonstrate to the girl that I’m the kinda guy who is willing to go for it and risk rejection.

Doing so will not only impress the girl, but will often arouse her in some way sexually. So- don’t fear so-called rejection!

3 Crafty Ways To Touch The Girl

In my latest video, I reveal my 3 secret tips that used to get me closer to the girl (physically) in order to get romantic without freaking the girl out.

Most of us struggle whenever on so-called dates and trying to figure out how to get close and establish touch with the girl.

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