Trip Update #5: First Haircut In Months

Well needed haircut!

I haven’t visited a barber in months.

Not to mention prior to my haircut strike, I was paying to visit to the barber every 2 weeks.

Ok, so if you haven’t been following, later on today (Thursday), I’ll be hitting the seas via ferry to sail down the Eastern Caribbean to an undisclosed country.

My haircut was spurred on by this venture.


Random Thoughts Of The Day: “Hygiene And Getting Girls Are Mutually Exclusive”

As I was bathing this morning to hit the internet cafe, a random-ass thought came upon me: Guys with poor hygiene are at the bottom of the totem pole in relation to getting laid.

Not only that they don’t get laid, but they also don’t have girlfriends nor any female friends for that matter.

I’m basing this from what I observe on a day to day basis in my area among the dudes I know of.

The guys who do the worst with women, all happen to be unkempt, dress bad and smell sweaty.

I might be wrong?

2 Reasons Why She Didn’t Give It Up And Flaked [Credits to Thundercat]

No Entry Tonight!!!

No Entry Tonight!!!

I was browsing the blog of 1 of my mentors in “Game”, Thundercat, a well-known PUA and dating coach. And I stumbled upon a great-short article entitled: “Reasons why a girl won’t have sex with you “.

One of the greatest points he made was that girls flake, or don’t give up the booty because of her menstrual period, or grooming-related matters.

Very eye opening! And I’ll add my 2 cents to Thundercat’s.

#1: She’s on her Period

A regular-female commentor to my blog made this great comment yesterday about why she’d flake:

Roxem commented: “Sooo fuckn true!! Cuz at first we like the guy so we want to make sure we make the best impression & we want everything to go perfectly. So if we have plans but then I get my period, yeah plans canceled!! (keep in mind I have endometriosis so my periods are WAY worse than normal). If I’m severely tired.. cancelled. OMG I have a huge zit?!! Cancelled“!

Roxem basically confirmed that menstruation is a key reason as to why a girl doesn’t give it up or flake. This is an eye-opener for me (since I wasn’t aware of this prior to reading Thundercat’s post last night).

As I retrospect (look back) on my many flakes of 2011, I used to beat myself up trying to figure out why certain girls flaked. With this new revelation: it makes massive amounts of sense now!

Everyone knows that women are somewhat ashamed to admit that they’re on their periods. They only share such a thing with other chics, because most men are weirded out by the thought of “Period”.

It makes sense as to why a girl won’t meet up, nor go on a date with a guy she wants to have sex with, since she figures he won’t bang her on her cycle ’cause it would gross him out.

If she does go on the date or meet up (whether at his place, etc.), if the guy tries making a move, she will put up resistance higher than Mt. Everest. Most times, she won’t even say, “I’m on my period”. She’d feel nasty and dirty and just keep rejecting his advances.

This happened to me a ton of times, but I never figured that she could’ve been bleeding, thus embarrassed, so sex won’t happen.

#2: She isn’t (well) groomed/caught off-guard

As the Master Pick-Up Artist Thundercat eluded to in his post, “Grooming” (or lack there of), is a major reason why chics flake or don’t give up the goods.

Seems fucking humorous, but think about it guy!

If a girl didn’t shave,l et’s say her legs today (might’ve forgotten), she will not be comfortable lying with a guy, with the possibility of he carressing her, to then find out that her legs are hairier than his!

Let’s say she neglected to shave or trim her cunt in like 2 months. So it’s pretty scary down there. She’d obviously become self-conscious about it, thus stopping sex from happening (since she doesn’t want to be embarrassed). So she’d either flake, stand him up, or if she does meet up, she would put up major resistance: as we call it in the PUA community LMR (last-minute resistance).

The above 2 examples spill off into “being caught off guard”. The girl never expected to have sex that particular night or week. She never thought she’d have met you. So the sheer fact that she got caught by surprise-she won’t have a choice but to NOT give it up.

Same goes for attempts at SNL’s (Same Night Lays) or ONS (One-Nigh Stands): the girl was caught off guard, so she might not have shaved her legs to perfection, coochie unkempt, pedicure lacking…), so she will not give it up that night.

I can't see him looking like this!

I can’t see him looking like this!

*Bad-hair day is another classic reason for flakes and why she won’t meet up/no chance of having sex.

We all fucking know that chics are obsessed with their hair. Most sane girls will NOT go on a date with a jacked-up hairdo, stale weave, etc. She’s just not gonna meet up! Period!!

Then again, she’s not gonna tell you the reason as to why she flaked or not willing to meet up. This is essentially Chic-Logics and how women are irrational beings.

Guys, please don’t look at it as bullshit. Imagine if you forgot to brush your teeth, ate some onion-rings, and your date wanted to tongue you down. Of course you won’t fucking do it LMAO!!

Funny story. I remembered once (years ago), I met a girl at the club, seduced her, she invited me to her place (of course via some PUA tactics on my part). When we got there, she insisted that I remove my sneakers before entering the bedroom (some shit about the rug). Not expecting to take a girl home that night, I got careless and I wore a pair of kicks that smelled like an NYC sewer SMFH! So when she told me to remove them,in my head,I was like, “Oh shit, hell NO!!! I’m not about to embarrass myself and have this chic’s crib smelling like a bag of stale-corn chips“! I tried working around it (having sex in the living room instead), but she insisted the bedroom. I eventually gave up, and hit her with some lame excuse as to why I had to leave. So I essentially didn’t give her the dick she wanted because of stinky feet.

Adding to that, a lot of us guys who have pride, or are pretty much sane, would’ve done the same to avoid an awkward situation.

Same as a girl who has pride would be embarrassed to remove her shoes to get in bed if her toes were visibly jacked-up.

Same as she would flake or turn you down for sex if she’s on her period.

Just as a girl who gave a shit about her appearance won’t show up on a date on a bad-hair day.

But it’s so ironic after all these years of studying Game, I never thought that flaking and LMR (last-minute resistance) could’ve been results of her Period & Grooming (lack there of). My PUA mentor Thundercat aka Joseph Matthews, was spot on with his observations.

Q & A: Does Facial Hair Matter?


Ok fellaz (& hotties), I’d promised to post a Q&A segment each week(over the past month), but I’ve been too damn lazy & busy to maintain it [come on- it’s the Holidays].

For those who haven’t been following, I usually take surveys (Q&A’s) among women from my online-social network: be it Facebook, Twitter to POF, where I ask them interesting questions about dating, seduction and relationships. Feel free to check out my first installment [When should he call the girl?].

Ok, this question has been bugging me for years now. Generally, I’m always well-groomed (100% of the times), but there are times when I feel like, “Fuck it”, I don’t wanna have to rush to the barbershop twice weekly or whip out the old razor just because few whiskers are sprouting. Plus I wanna still look attractive enough to get my game on.

Let’s get started!

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Mz. Redd2012 is a cool savvy-New Yorker I’d met on POF. Don’t forget sexy.

Q. “Hey Mz. Redd, on a scale of 1-10, how important is facial hair? Does it matter”?

A. “No. As long as it looks good on you”.


Gabby has been a loyal-Twitter follower of mines for a long time now so it’s a must that I include her.

Q. @TastyGaby- “Hey Gab, quick question: on a scale of 1-10, how important is facial hair”?

A. @SocialKenny- “5 , facial isn’t important but if you have it , keep it neat & clean “.


iKarly is a cool girl from Kentucky who’s on my Facebook-friend list. I don’t even remember how we met!

Q. “Is a guy who’s tryna get at you with facial hair a turn off”?

A. “nope. i think its cute”.


Bri is another fun girl I’d met on the POF dating site. She’s spunky.

Q. “Hey Bri, on a scale of 1-10 of attraction, how significant is facial hair on a guy who’s looking to get with you”?

A. “I would say about an 8.
I like facial hair on a man. Without it they look young, weird, or had a shaving malfunction lol, only some can pull off not having any and most of them are gay”.


Cool-ass Russian-Canadian Who I’d met a while ago on a Hip-Hop website (go figure). I definitely plan on going to Vancouver to hang out with her.

Q. “Hey *****, are men with facial hair turnoffs”?

A. “Not at all. either way…sometimes I like a little scruff”.

So there you have it! Among my online-social circle: having facial hair ISN’T a grave social sin nor a turnoff [Scruffy-facial hair is attractive].

I’ve always seen facial hair as a big NO-NO (since the pick-up community always stresses ‘being well-groomed’). I feel a lot more comfort now to just let it be and get my Wolf-Man Jack on.

Feedback from women in the bloggersphere would be appreciated. Plus: “When should he call”?My female readers will dig this one.

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