What About The Presumed Harder Sets…Such As Religious Girls?


I posted the following post to social media the other day.


I like the so-called “harder” sets and harder girls. 

So the other day, I spat some game @ this total stranger whom I added on FB. It turns out that she’s a religious gal, and she thinks I’m Satan…or Satan-like. 🙂

Does it matter to me? Fucks no! I love breaking good girl’s “faith” and turning their asses out!

Anyway, so she invited me to come with her to her church, after I made a suggestion that we go movies. But I declined by not showing up.

So guys, my theory/belief (based on experience) is this: religious girls will fall eventually! They almost always do (in my case), and succumb to my sexual, forward, bad boy style! It’s all about the frame: “Stronger Frame Wins”! And my frame is always stronger!

I know lots of guys who wouldn’t even waste time trying to game a girl who’s putting up such resistance. But I LOVE pushing the limits and gradually breaking down a girl’s resistance! It is the height of Game! 

So…I’ll keep you chodes posted. The fact that she’d invited me to go to church with her [last Sunday], after saying she knows my intention is to fuck (which is clear), it means that she’s open to the idea of having sex…or else she wouldn’t have dared invited me to be in her presence.

You have to learn how to read women, their true/hidden intent, the gaps in their armor which will enable you to seduce them!

As for being Persistent (which she claims I am); women love a guy who’s persist! What kills most guys is that they persist with a desperate aura. I persist without seeming desperate! A woman most times just want to see how bad you want it/her! That’s why you should plow/persist to the bitter fucking end! But do it SMARTLY like you see me doing! Play to the girl’s sense of taboo! If she’s a religious gal; present yourself as this rebellious heathenish, bad boy looking to seduce her!!

Think Even and the snake in the garden! Religious women love to feel that they’re doing something wrong or rebellious!

Lastly, go for the harder sets (also)!!! It’s a much more rewarding feeling to know that you conquered a girl who was playing hard to get at first. I know for me personally, I always prefer to game girls who give me trouble. If she seems too easy, I would intentionally do/say something to ruffle her feathers and make things rocky, because I know the reward in the end (sex) would be 10 times as satisfying.

Think makeup sex after a fight. No greater feeling! Your Game should resemble makeup sex after fighting.

#SeducingReligiousGirls
#IPreferHarderSets 
#SheWillFallEventually
#ItsWorthIt
#SheWantsYouToBePersistent
#PersistWithoutNeediness
#TheyLoveBadBoys #PlayToTheTaboo

That seduction attempt is currently ongoing.

Will keep you guys posted!

Pulling 19-Year Old Online: A Lesson In Picking Up Much Younger Girls By Giving Them S**t From An Entitlement Frame


Quite often, I get older men who cry to me about their gross ineffectiveness and epic failures in trying to snag themselves some young poon online.

First piece of advice from me to them is: Own it!

Be entitled!

Be entitled to the girl while simultaneously busting her chops and giving her shit!

In essence, you want to shit test younger girls. And the reasons for that are various…which I’ll get into in a subsequent article.

Most guys- older men- don’t believe that they are viable options for women who are much younger.

I am not one to harp on faith, but this is where faith comes in. You must believe that you are in the girl’s league (or soaring above it like an eagle)!

That’s for starters! So before you can even entertain the idea of snagging young poon on any consistent basis, you must firstly grab a hold of the optimal and most effective frame from which to operate: which is that “I am playing in and above her league! Hence I am the shit”, so you act accordingly!

I want you to really take note of my vibe throughout this FB pickup of this total stranger whom I’d cold messaged. Her profile name had “Timid” in there, so I based my opener/ice-breaker on that (her user name).

[My messages in blue. Reads from left to right]

Screenshots above: such an opener/ice-breaker would be classified as a hard opener. It’s risky yet ballsy. Risky in that the girl could’ve taken that the wrong way. But girls never take such hard openers (from me) the wrong way, because it (such an opener) inherently denotes dominance, Alphaness and entitlement: 3 attractive qualities which grab a woman’s attention…as it did with her.

Secondly, in conjunction with me insinuating that she’s a liar, I indirectly called her crazy by saying “partially timid girls are craziest”. I also strategically tamper down any would-be damage/backlash by saying “and they have the most fun”. So I gave her an indirect compliment while negging her at the same time. This is all strategic in order to generate instant attraction by coming off as entitled to getting the girl, and somewhat dickish and derisive.

Thirdly: how do you know if and when a girl respects your frame? When she agrees to your backhanded compliments and comments (essentially Negs). So that was the case when she said, “yea am crazy as fuck at times…”. But she didn’t want to risk turning me off, so she made sure to say, “But I’m very chill”.

She went on to ask “if I just made that up”…as in, if it were a line or something. In any case, her response was, “Lol I know it’s cool though”. Another testament to the fact that my opener alone was enough to get the undivided attention and attraction of this 19-year old girl. So was it the opener/ice-breaker or what it sub-communicates? The sub-communication (that I’m entitled and ballsy).

Fourthly, as if I didn’t already establish an entitlement vibe, I tripled down by saying to her that she should give me props and buy me a drink for being so creative with my words essentially. Which guy- let alone an older one- operates this way with a 19-year old hottie? Only a guy who believes he’s above the girl’s league and social-value level! So, she agrees (as expected) that I deserve props for being creative. But even more noteworthy and strategic, I planted the seed in her head of “drink date”, so she in turn said I should take her for a drink being that I’m the guy. So, do you see how I strategically set her up for suggesting we go for drinks? In any case, just to show how powerful my frame control was, she went on to ask me, “what do you drink though”? So in spite of the fact that she said I should take her out being that I’m the guy. She knew instinctively that she was beneath my social-value level, which is why she recanted and indirectly suggested to buy me the drink by asking me “what do you drink though”?

Powerful stuff! But let’s move on!

Fifth point from the screenshot above: I told her what drink I wanted, and she agreed to getting it. Also, always look to get sexual early (as I always preach)! This is why I dropped a sexual innuendo in the mix by saying to her if she laughs at me for drinking girlie drinks, I’m gonna have to spank her. Plus I was looking for an emoji of a whip. 🙂

[My messages in blue. Reads from top row, left to right]

Screenshot above: set a sexual theme as soon as possible! I know you’re dead tired of hearing this, but the reason I implore you to get sexual and or forward at some point (rather much sooner than later), is to avoid being friendzoned for carrying this peaceful, nice, harmless conversation to nowhere-ville. Most guys whom I advise can follow through with the banterish and teasing vibe. But they just cannot bring themselves to taking heed to my advice on going sexual, because they inherently lack the belief that it would bear fruit and not make the girl run for the hills.

Also, a key factor: who’s setting the frame here? Who’s dictating the chat, subject matters, the road in which we go down, etc? I am! Totally! I am in command here! She’s reacting to me, and not me reacting to her as if I were her subordinate in any way. She is my subordinate- if for no other reason- because she’s younger and has far less experiences in life. So I lead, I set the pace, I dictate the terms, and she follows! I bring up drinks? She reacts! I bring up spanking? She reacts! I bring up sex? She reacts!

When I made mention that she popped up in my FB thing today (back on the 18th), it was in relation to what I said about this girl being a complete stranger whom I’d added and inboxed literally minutes before this interaction kicked off.

Now, I want to make a final point on sex. From the screenshots above, you will have noticed that this girl is completely bought in on the talk of sex, spanking and so forth, by even calling my bluff about being an angel, and she saying that even angels be fucking each other and having orgies in the clouds. So, which one of us set up this sexual frame? Moi! Again- I lead! She follows! I’m the superior! She’s the subordinate! She opines on the topics which I raise! Most guys foolishly make the mistake of following the girl’s tune and tone, allowing her to dictate terms on every level, therefore essentially putting themselves in a subordinated position while the girl leads, dictates and ultimately rejects! After all; women are NOT attracted to men whom they can lead, manipulate and subjugate (Omegas and Beta-Males).

Also, if you pan up again to the bottom right of the screenshot set above, you’ll notice she ends off saying, “God created us to be our complete self and express ourselves openly without hesitating and all that sobby shit”. What made her go there? Essentially, she’s giving me the green light to get sexually expressive with her, and to not sugarcoat a thing. But why did she make mention of that? Because I led her there! I gave her permission to be slutty! From my vibe alone, and the fact that I went sexual on her, it subconsciously triggered a response from her in agreement to my leading frame! So essentially, I set her up. Again- I lead; she reacts/follows!

Since I told her that she’s killing me [with humor], she continues on that theme of mines.

[Her messages in gray]

Screenshot above: I wisely commended her on being super perceptive in sensing that I’m all about self-expression and being open/forward. That was a quasi-compliment. What is my #1 rule when dealing with hot girls? NEVER compliment a hot girl on her body/looks! So what did I do, I complimented her on her ability to be perceptive in sensing that I’m an advocate of being open, forward and sexual!

She went on to agree [as expected] with my frame/position about not sugarcoating. Again- I set the frame/theme. She reacts to it in the affirmative. She went so far as to say that some people not only sugar coat, but they coat with powdered sugar on top of that.

In any case, she went to say that I have her laughing like a goof. The most 2 important mindsets to successfully pulling a girl (namely online): HUMOROUS & SEXUAL! You see me employ this time after time, post after post, with girl after girl: Humorous/Playful and Sexual/Forward.
Lastly, I employed my all-too-familiar strategy of telling the girl “I’ll hit you up another time”: TTYL! You always want to be the one to look to end the conversation first!

Additionally, by me winding things down in a way, it creates a sense of loss, and it causes a bit of panic to set in on her side, where she asks herself, “I wonder if I said something that turned him off”? She begins to question herself as to why I would end a spirited conversation prematurely. So that is why you always want to tell the girl “TTYL” in some form or another. And you don’t actually have to go/leave as I explained on many occasions prior. Saying it alone [“talk to you another day”] will have the same magical effect of making the girl panic…even though she will almost always play it off by acting calm in the face of your sporadic decision to take off.

The thing is though, I actually took off and hit her up a few days later! So this made it so much more powerful that I’d indeed discontinued our chat.
Additionally, by doing that to a hot girl, it communicates a very sexy quality about me that gets the girl even more attracted: I am NOT desperate! I am patient because I know this is in the bag already! That is what you communicate also, whenever you prematurely eject without trying to get the girl during the initial round of conversation.

Most girls are accustomed to clueless guys desperately gunning for their phone # right off the fucking opener! So here I come alone, totally flipping the script of what the girl is used to seeing, by not even attempting to get her #, even after the best and brisk conversation she has probably ever had with a stranger on Facebook or anywhere else for that matter.

By me showing this hottie that I am self-assured enough to not try to get her # in 1 swoop, it forces her to come to the conclusion that “this guy must be somebody! He must be the shit! He’s probably accustomed to dating and fucking way hotter girls than I am, so he can afford to sideline me and not get all desperate like every other loser”!

That is the only conclusion at which the girl arrives upon such strategic ploy of cutting the conversation short.

Now, just for clarity sake; I am not saying that you shouldn’t go for the # within the initial chat. I often go for it then and there! However, the hotter the girl, the wiser and more effective of a move it would’ve been to tell her bye (which will cause some internal panic), and then reemerge for the pull.

When I did hit her up again (days later as you can see in the above screenshot), I playfully said, “been a while. I’m now starting to think u cheating on me…u are 1 cold ass bish”, to which she responded, “yesss am dat bish for real”.

[Her messages in gray]

Screenshot above: I went on to neg her about being up so late, implying that she’s a little girl. Not to be redundant, but no guy plays this way with a girl whom he’s vying for. The average chode operates as though he’s walking on egg shells, afraid to ruffle feathers, afraid to offend and to say anything that would remotely get the deified one [the female] ticked off. Well- hot young girls aren’t attracted to men who play it safe and trod lightly. They crave men who take risks and chances. This is essentially why women are drawn to rockstars and men who portray heroic or villainous characters in adventure, drama and action flicks. Even the hapless-romantic guy in the cheesy-romance comedy who takes chances, is beloved by women! Therefore, whenever you neg a (hot) girl- and do so correctly might I add- it creates a risk-taker type of vibe that gets the girl’s panties wett! She says to herself, “how dare this guy say that to me”! Anyway, how did she take to my neg? She laughs…which is what I expected.

Secondly, I got all dismissive of her, treating her like a little-bratty girl by telling her she may get an ass whipping for staying up late, to which she reciprocated with “spank me daddy”! 🙂 In my dismissiveness of her, I told her to go to bed. Who’s operating from the higher-value position here? Certainly I am!

Going further to warn her that she’s playing with fire, is 1 of my favorite lines (which is a false-disqualifier). Not only is it challenging, but it goes further to cement the frame of “I am the one who needs to be sold here”. At this point, she is full-fledged bought in to the idea of fucking me, indicative of her saying that her pussy will bury me alive and carve her name onto my gravestone. 😯

The sexual challenge continued.

Screenshot above: in order to save face, try to retain value and not to appear slutty, she said she’s not looking for dick and that she’s teasing. This is all token resistance by the way. Every girl at some point during the pickup will have done/said something in hopes of warding off the perception that she’s an easy slut-bag.

There were no reasons to prolong the inevitable (getting her #), so I firstly gauged her availability to see if it matches up with my Christmas weekend schedule. Since she has to work, that complicated things.

The thing is too, and this gambit here is my little baby, even though I live right here on island, I always tell girls that I live in a neighboring island, but that I frequent their island (which is this island) every other weekend. Why do I do this? Various reasons. But it creates a sense of urgency for both parties, where the girl is likely to go out of her way to meet up since I’m only here for the weekend (so they think). Because of this, I’m able to get girls who would otherwise flake, to actually meet up.

As expected, she coughs up the digits once I give her that hint about hitting her up over the weekend.

Well, the online pickup happened Wednesday. It is now Sunday (Christmas). Did I get to meet up with her?

The answer is no!

Why not?

I had prior plans…as usual. So I never bothered to hit her up even to this moment. But in my defense; that is a mute point (following up).

Here’s the thing, and I touched on this extensively in a recent post, I pick up so many girls on a weekly basis (a combination of girls online and on street approaches), that it is absolutely and humanly impossible for me to meet, date and fuck every girl whom I manage to pick up…in a timely manner that is.

I mean, I have girls on the proverbial back-burner whom I haven’t even managed to call or text yet from about 2-3 months ago!

There is just no way on Earth that I could possibly keep up with the volume of new girls I pull.

I pick up girls then forget that I even picked them up. I forget and lose numbers and names regularly.

I have names saved but no numbers (because I forget to input the #’s). Numbers saved but no names. I mean it is just a fucking mess most times with managing the girls I pick up!

Classic example of this cluster-fuck quagmire is the DTF Lebanese girl whom I’d picked up last week. I was supposed to meet up with her yesterday (Christmas Eve) but had to cancel on her because: 1.) there are other girls who take precedence due to various factors. 2.) Since it’s a holiday weekend, I was busy out the ass running here and there.

Every now and then, I manage to squeeze a new girl in (various reasons for that too). But that’s all besides the point.

What I want you to take away from this post, apart from the points made in between screenshots, is the entitlement mindset: being entitled to getting the girl.

It isn’t only a mindset that I want you to adopt when picking up girls, but to play the part through actions and words!

When trying to pick up girls online, your words and subcommunications are paramount, since physical displays of entitlement aren’t displayable over the internet.

Women can sense whether a guy really believe his own shit, or if he’s a second away from crumbling once he’s faced with a hot girl.

There are some things you just won’t do or say to a girl whom you perceive as idol-like based on her looks and social value.

That is a timid frame. A loser’s mindset!

No girl should be above the process! No matter how hot, how young!

It is of utmost importance that you bring yourself to believing this!

Once you would’ve done that, women with whom you encounter (online for instance) will undoubtedly smell this entitlement attitude permeating their smartphones.

From believing it, you begin to act and speak accordingly. And by this, I don’t mean for you to walk around pompously verbalizing that you could get any girl you want. You want to have the attitude without having to say it.

From your approach, women should be able to sense your sense of entitlement to getting girls. But with every Inner-Game concept in pickup; this takes time!

Accompanying such a mindset is freedom from outcome. In other words, you’ll feel a sense of liberty to bust a girl’s chops, poke fun at her and treat her like a nagging little sister without fear of jeopardizing your chances.

The moment you begin to doubt the process and get all inside of your head, the girl senses this fear and blows you off!

With this 19-year old chick here, did I give off any semblance of fear whatsoever?

Did I treat the situation as though I were some old man desperate to get laid?

Furthermore, did I supplicate, beg and kiss her tush just because she’s young(er)?

The answers are resounding NO’s!

On that note- though that is how you want to go about picking up women in general- it is even more instrumental to adopt such an entitled and fearless frame with girls who are deemed hotter and younger.

More Proof That Women Will Totally Ignore Your Kiss-Ass While Being Drawn To Men Who Challenge Them


The other day, as is the case with lots of women on Facebook, this chick posted a status saying, “I’m bored. Who wants to inbox me”?

I call this the validation tester in order to weed out the Beta-Males, where girls post such statuses, hoping to catch guys rushing at the opportunity to kiss their behinds by saying, “me, me, me! I wanna text you”!

As expected: 99% of guys take the bait: hook, line and sinker, like mindless drones. And the girl quickly eliminates them as potential suitors.

Anyway, so the chick went on further to specify that she only wants single men inboxing her. This in turn caused lots of guys to indirectly offer more validation by qualifying themselves to her by making it known that they are single.

If you check the screenshot above where I’d censored the girl’s profile, the 7 replies were her responses to my comment(s). This actually turned into more than 20 replies back and forth between her and me.

Below, other AFC guys (Average Frustrated Chumps) went on further to reply on the post, ass-kissing and qualifying themselves with lame-ass generic compliments and such.

What is the common theme here from previous posts similar to this?

The girl totally ignores every other guy while only paying attention to me (my comments).

“It must be by looks”!!! 😆

“Hahahaha! Kidding”! Just poking fun at the “looks matter” crowd.

Anyway, so you’ve seen this time after time, post after post where girls blow off 99% of guys while electing to interact with me.

Why did this girl choose to do just that?

1.) I challenged her frame by telling her that there’s no such thing as a single male (which isn’t true…of course). So in essence, I showed her that I wasn’t about to kiss her ass and adopt her frame just to win her favor.

2.) Because I never qualified myself by screaming, “me, me, me, I am single”, thus catching her attention as I stood out from the pack.

Additionally, I didn’t do what every other guy did, which is to dish out some kiss-ass cheesy compliment.

My comments in the thread were off-topic for the most part, in that I completely ignored the fact that she was hot, and I also ignored the fact that she was bored and wanted someone to inbox her.

With that, she was likely saying to herself (if not conscious, subconsciously), “this guy must be high value. Why isn’t he throwing himself at me like every other guy does? Didn’t he notice I made a plea for someone to talk to”!?

The fact that I refrained from taking the validating bait, it opened the gate for dialogue and the possibility of attraction.

This is all psychology.

Were they my stunning looks which made the girl decide to converse, or was it my vibe because I’d challenged her frame while simultaneously demonstrating high value [DHV]?

The answer is crystal clear: it had absolutely nothing to do with looks! So again, this crushes “the looks matter” school of thought to which most of you guys are so fucking attached!

While the average guy ardently continues to latch onto the belief that looks matter, I keep drawing girls in because I know looks don’t matter.

Looks- more so on social media- do NOT save the day and compensate for a lack of game and the ability to read women!

Game will get an ugly laid far far more than a guy with stunning looks but no game, and no understanding of how women and attraction work!

With that, although this chick wanted some cool guy to message her privately, she and I went on to have an interesting conversation- in public- right there on the post’s thread, demonstrating, not only was I a cool guy, but someone of high value (for not taking the bait, not qualifying myself to her and not complimenting her about beauty and looks).

With such dynamics, I could’ve easily inboxed her (days ago, or tomorrow), set up plans for a rendezvous while subsequently grabbing her number.

The attraction has already been set (attraction to my vibe from the back and forth conversation we had on her post). So everything else from here would’ve purely been academic (the pickup).

In addition to that, though she said that she didn’t want any guy in a relationship to try to hit her up via inbox, that would not have applied to me at all!

How so?

I wisely (and this is psychological and strategic) said to her in other words, that all men have girlfriends (which is far from the truth). So in essence, I imposed the frame upon her that if I were to hit her up privately, I would be exempted from her quasi-rule of not wanting to talk to any guy in a relationship.

Do you see how that works?

Any other guy was likely rejected, and would’ve gotten rejected, once the girl inquires about a GF, or browses his profile and reads “in a relationship”.

My profile does say “in a relationship” (and I am in a relationship as most long-time subscribers would know). But again, I would not have gotten rejected since I set the frame in a way which granted me immunity and a status of exception/exemption.

For example, this is no different from a girl saying, “I never have sex on the first date”!

To such a girl, I would say, or convey somehow [setting the frame], that sex on the first date is normal, acceptable, cool and what most sane people do!

She doesn’t have to believe that shit! But it doesn’t matter! As long as I believe it, and as long as I convey this unequivocally! She will in turn believe it also, or grant me exception status by fucking me on the 1st date!

I mean, situations like these in Game are what I encounter and finagle and on a daily basis.

In seduction, this is called Frame Control.

Whenever you capitulate to a woman in such a case as cited above, you hand the frame over to her! Well- in all actuality- she had the frame control to begin with. But once you agree with the premise of the shit women say, such as, “don’t contact me unless you’re single”, your capitulation and submission on the matter, gives the girl control of the frame (which she already had) while killing your chances in 1-giant swoop!

By saying to the girl, “I’m single”, upon her setting the frame that she only wants to talk to guys who are single, you are essentially capitulating and submitting to her frame/will by fitting her mold in such a case!

In pickup, we call this all-too-familiar mistake, “Qualifying”.


Women don’t find guys who can’t hold a frame (guys who qualify to them), attractive!

Even if you’re single, you don’t fucking say it in such a situation like when a girl is seeking validating and trying to weed out weak men who submit to her POV!

Women aren’t attracted to men who either submit to them, who try to fit their ideal mold, or those who cannot hold a frame (i.e. nice guys and Beta Males)!

This is essentially why stereotypical nice guys don’t get laid.

They inherently are turnoffs for women because they cannot and do not even attempt to hold/control a frame with, and over women.

They agree with most things women agree with, they fight women’s causes and battles (white knights), women are never wrong in their eyes, they validate women on every issue under the sun, etc, etc, etc.

Their frame is the antithesis/opposite of a challenge…which is pure submission.

Therefore, do you now see why women on social media often ignore these guys, while instead being drawn into my frame by engaging me? While your stupid ass is there thinking it’s about fucking looks, you really have not 1 smidgen of a clue about attraction and its workings (speaking of, and to the vast majority of adult males on the globe)!

Here’s another great example which I’d randomly dug up in the archives, of ass-kissing and qualifying at its best.

Now, chances would have it that since this status was posted by a woman, it’s likely that she’s of the opinion that Long-Distant Relationships work. The guys clearly sense that also (that the chick’s position is “yes: they do work), hence the guy’s comment in support.

I mean, let’s get real here guys: do you really believe that these guys actually believe that LDR’s (Long-Distant Relationships) work? Or are they only saying that LDR’s can work, in hopes of getting the girl to like them because they agreed with her position/frame?

Clearly to a prudent person who knows how to read social dynamics; these guys are all full of shit!

“Yes, Yes, Yes”!!!

I was the only guy willing to take an opposing position! I didn’t just take that position to be a disagreeable dick. I really believe so (that LDR’s can’t work)! But it is really telling when you have guys co-signing a position which they truly don’t buy into! And that is what most guys do, under the impression that if they agree with the woman’s position, she will fuck them for it!

I went as far as calling their asses out on their bullshit when I said in my comment that both parties won’t commit to it. Surely 1 or both will commit in words. But in deed; they won’t stay the course without infidelity on some level!

Furthermore, why don’t guys disagree with the positions of hot women, and the women whom they’re trying to get with?

Fear of losing her!

Fear of getting on the girl’s bad side and being tabulated onto her shit list!

Instead of risking that occurring, “I need to play it safe”, is what AFC’s say to themselves in an attempt at rationalization and justification for their chodery and not having an opinion or voice.

Interestingly enough- but not surprising- the girl who posted that status flat-out ignored the other guys while tackling my comment, thus getting drawn into a deeper dialogue which sparks interest.

I can go on and on with screenshots after screenshots, dating back to 3 years ago, demonstrating the same thing with girl after girl: guys agreeing and getting ignored and rejected, while I hold my frame in disagreement, to subsequently picking up the girl.

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Real Example Of Women Being Attracted To Womanizers + Making Girls Chase With This 1 Texting Technique [09-07-16 Online Pickup]


Hey guys, another great example of thinking on the fly and making a girl chase you by employing this 1 simple technique of mines [building the anticipation then say “bye”].

Also, another salient example of how and why women- the hot ones- are attracted to womanizers, assholes, badboys and pickup artists.

I added this chick few weeks back on Facebook; someone with the prettiest set of lips I’ve laid eyes on in a while (pictured below).

I messaged her on Sep. 1st (about a day or so upon adding her).

The vibe I employed here (the opener) was the badboy vibe, which you can see from my opener.
[My messages in blue]

[Above] How was her reaction to my no-bullshit opener, and asking if her lips are real? She laughed! A sign that the girl respects my value and my approach.

Also, my opener was original and ballsy, a stark difference from the chody shit you’ll see AFC’s (Average Frustrated Chumps) sending women.

Furthermore, the most important text-game strategy of them all within the screenshot above, was my last message: “I’ll let you know in just a bit. Kinda busy”.

I waited until the girl got hooked/invested; then I took away my attention by bursting her bubble!

“Boom”!!!!

Powerful stuff! Did you get that? Make the girl invest then bail on her! Wait until she shows reciprocation then tell her “bye”! This fucks with her reality of how things are supposed to be. Men aren’t supposed to hit girls up and tell them they’re busy. Women are supposed to do that to men, since they’ve been doing so since the advent of the mobile phone! So, whenever you can flip that script on women, it shocks them to the core…thus attraction is either born or deepened.

This was all strategic on my part. I never just “wing it”, though my entire text-game is fluid and free-flowing without a thought going into my texts beforehand (it has all become hardwired).

Now, will she take the bait and come chasing me? September 1st when I first contacted her was a Thursday. She then hits me up on the 6th [5 days later], upon me bailing on her. [Her messages in gray]

[Above] She reopened me, wanting an answer as to what I said about her lips (“are they real”?) This is the effect of the curiosity-loop technique which I taught you guys in a recent post. Now she’s hooked wanting closing/answers as to why I insinuated that her lips were fake. This is also a stealth Neg by the way. Negs work best when done stealthily and indirectly.

I then changed the subject on her, denying her closure/answers.

Let’s continue. [My messages in blue]

[Above] Humor is key…as always. Learn to make women laugh and you’ll have a much easier time gaining access to the body parts which they conceal 😉 . Hence the line about we should get married, and that I’m in love with her lips. Why don’t women ever get weirded out when I say stuff like that, that would otherwise blow out an AFC Beta-Male? Because they (women) know that I am humoring them! They know that I am fucking around! But therein lies the attraction. The moment she senses seriousness in your tone; you are done!!! And there is where scores of men go wrong.

Anyway, so how did she take to that? “Cute”. She thought it was cute and funny. She also assumed it was 1 of my lines. 🙂

Why would she even think that I use lines though?

[My messages in blue]

[Above] What would most guys do? Cower down and deny that they were using a stock line. I don’t cower down from it, because I knew that doing so, would’ve reduced my standings in the girl’s eyes for backing down. But then I toyed with it (more humor) by saying I thought it was top secret (my “lines”).

She went further to confirm the obvious: she sees/reads my posts, although she never commented once, neither hit like once, on any of my posts. Yet she is well aware of my schtick as a Pick-Up Artist. Now, most guys- the dumbed-down majority- would surmise that it would’ve been an automatic deal-breaker to admit to being a PUA: let alone if the girl were to discover this. However, if you’ve been around these parts for any time now, you would’ve known that women are attracted to men who openly deal with lots of women.

[Above] I then told her that she gets points for recognizing that I’m a PUA. Again- what was I doing here? Setting the frame, that I am the prize, and she is the one playing the game, trying to score points in order to win me over! That is the frame you set by saying to a girl, “You get points for that”. Very key. Very subtle. Very simple. Very powerful!

I then went all playfully romantic again with the “I love you”, and that “it is not a line”. More humor game.

[Her messages in gray]

[Above] She assumed that it was 1 of my lines to tell her that I love her. She’s correct! But I bantered with it.

She then went on to indirectly compliment me on my verbal skills with women, by saying I’m a guy who knows how to use words to get what he wants. 🙂 😉 So, in essence, just as expected with all women in my Facebook friend list, she has seen the plethora of posts which I post to Facebook, of me chatting up women, screenshots of text game, etc. So she’s well aware of my verbal charmery. That is a HUGE plus! But again; if you’re the average guy who’s been poisoned by the mainstream-dating culture and Cosmos, you’d be hard-pressed to believe that a girl would find it remotely attractive that a guy charms women up on a regular basis.

[My messages in blue]

[Above] Never compliment a hot girl on her looks/hotness!!! I’ve been teaching you that ad nauseum for years! Hence, “your sense of humor is attractive”. I complimented her on having a sense of humor. Not her fucking looks! This sets me apart from 99% of the chodes who would be gawking and slinging cheesy-ass generic compliments back and forth.

I then set another powerful frame which will come in handy for future tense, when I asked her if I come across as a guy who sugarcoats things. The answer is a resounding “NO”! But I asked her that [without a question mark] in order to set the frame that neither does she have to sugarcoat anything. So I lead; she follows by accepting my frame/position. So, what effect did this have (me setting a “no filter” frame)? She admits to liking guys like myself who appear blunt and outspoken. “BINGO”! My frame won! This is more than enough confirmation I needed to confirm that this girl was already full-on attracted to me.

Moreover, she mentions me and game, by citing that my game works. Whenever a girl says your game works in a general sense, it is a sure IOI/SOI.

[Her messages in gray]

[Above] She doubles down on why she likes guys who are straight up…such as myself. Remind you: had I foolishly set the frame from the get-go that I were a good boy who would never say anything remotely forward to a total stranger, she would’ve likewise adopted that same frame, and start singing the tune of, “I love men who aren’t forward”, etc. Therefore, it is also wise to set the frame right from the gate: “I am forward, straight up and untamed”!

With that, I threw my classic and well-timed gambit: “I want to fuck the shit out of you and get you pregnant“! She laughs and calls me silly. Why was I able to get away with such a forward and sexual line? Because of everything I just explained to you about frames and setting them correctly and early! I got away with telling her that my intention is to fuck her and breed her, because I skillfully drew her into accepting the frame that she should accept a forward guy who speaks his mind. Since she had fallen into the frame-control trap I set just a few messages prior, she was forced into accepting me saying, “I want to fuck you”, without taking offense to it.

Everything I do is masterfully strategic and automated. I don’t think. I just shoot! When you become good at this, you will no longer need to think before sending that text. It’ll all come naturally as it is now for me.

Additionally, she asked about my pick-up career as a job. Just another confirming piece of evidence that being a pickup artist intrigues and attracts women.

https://kennyspuathoughts.com/2014/10/21/kenny-do-you-ever-hide-what-you-do-from-other-women/

[My messages in blue]

[Above] I always verbally (or textually) acknowledge to the girl that we are on the same page. This is a subtle way of rewarding the girl for being such a good sport. It’s an indirect compliment. What was her response to me saying, “same page”? She agreed by saying “we are”.

As for my job (PUA)? I keep it vague! That’s what you should do also! Bear in mind what I’ve been teaching you for years now, that ambiguity deepens a girl’s attraction for you. Play up the vague card, tell the girl, “it’s a long story”, when she asks what work you do, or whenever she pries into your work life. Doing so will have created an aura of mystery around yourself. This is part of the Jesus Effect (a concept of mines) which I spoke about in this video of mines [“hook girls instantly with the Jesus effect”.

[My messages in blue]

[Above] No need to belabor and prolong the pickup. Sensing that the girl is already well hooked: I go for the n-close (phone-number pull). Did I ask, or did I confidently go about it? I assumed it and told her what it was going to be (“I’m gonna grab your #”). This isn’t just confident to women, but sexy!

I had to laugh though, when she asked if I were going to use her in my next project. By that, she largely meant if I were going to use her in order to showcase how pickup works. Technically, she’s right and wrong. Surely our conversation is being used to promote the advancement of the pickup cause, however, in pure anonymity. So no one gets hurt.

[My messages in blue]

[Above] Again, I refrain from worshiping her body and looks by telling her about the whole package, her mind, savviness, etc. She knows I want to fuck her (no secret there), and that I’m very much attracted to her physically and sexually. But I’m smart enough to not fall into pedestalization of her physical assets [though I bantered around about her lips].

Another subtle point I wish to make is linked to her mention of wanting to get to know the real Kenny, and not my internet persona of a player. Why is this significant? It goes to show that women definitely know that this is an act. However, they don’t fucking care!!! They know that my Facebook antics are just antics. But they also know that the antics are necessary in order to attract them first, and then I can be genuine later if so desire. So, women definitely know the game! For crying out loud: they wrote the fucking rulebook to the game! We men are the ones who have to play catch-up and learn the fucking Game!

[My messages in blue]

[Above] Again, I reject her looks as attraction factors, by telling her that I’m attracted to her intelligence. I then go for the # again…without asking!

Why did she mention that I wasn’t judgmental? Well I’m not! But besides that, I don’t give off the judgmental vibe because my interaction says differently. Had I come off as a saint, or a guy who sees women as angelic beings, this would undoubtedly give women the impression that they would have to filter and watch what they say and do around me, because they’re likely to be judged (poorly). By me coming off as a rebel, there’s no way in the world I would judge her on the bad things she may do…like fuck me on the first date in some crutty restroom, or blow me under the table at a fast-food joint.

One of the reasons why you have a difficult time hooking up with girls so easily, is because you inadvertently give off this obnoxious-judgmental vibe whenever you interact with women.

To avoid this; carry an air of whimsical, carefree and erratic…or at least pretend to have such an aura!

In closing, I merely wanted to massacre the old notion in the pick-up community, that disclosing one’s PUA lifestyle to women, is a cold rejection waiting to happen.

I am actually the first first-tier PUA (or any other PUA on the coaching level) to ever advocate that PUA’s should go public with pickup, instead of hiding in the shadows from women, and concealing this part of their life like it’s a fucking cause for shame or something.

I am also the first-known PUA (practitioner or instructor) to ever publicly and actively game girls on social media.

I am also the first PUA to compose and publish an actual product on gaming girls on Facebook. Derek Lamont had a Facebook Game product some years back, but it wasn’t actually an in-depth guide to picking up girls on Facebook. But more geared towards DHV-ing on Facebook, rather than actual gaming.

When I first did this, other pick-up guys (students and coaches) were utterly besides themselves!

Some were laughing at me: believing that this couldn’t be done successfully (gaming girls on Twitter and Facebook while posting about pickup and hooking up with numerous women).

Some were rooting for me to fail miserably, just so they could say, “we told you so”!

The remaining guys were disgusted at the fact that I would “show women our hand”, revealing pick-up secrets to women, which should’ve otherwise been kept hidden among the fellaz!

I posted infield after infield of me taking girls home while telling them I am a pick-up artist who sleeps with women for a sport! 😯

It was then that these guys realized that Kenny was onto something big!

No longer was there a need to solely game girls inconspicuously on online-dating sites. They could actually game girls on Facebook while having their pick-up artist banner flashed across their Facebook profiles for women to see!

Believe me; I had dozens of professional PUA coaches (buddies of mine) inboxing me about Facebook game, and how they never knew it was possible to game women openly as a PUA.

In retrospect, this should’ve all come as a no-brainer, simply for the fact that pickup/seduction stridently teaches and pushes the concept of Pre-selection, and utilizing other women as DHV pawns in order to get the girl.

With that being the case, game should work even much more successfully on Facebook than on online-dating sites, since you’re at liberty (due to the platform’s settings) to post virtually any amount of photos you’d like. So there’s no restrictions on using pre-selection gambits (via photos) and so forth.

Facebook is the prefect place to game hot women! It is just that guys (AFC’s) use it wrong!

With all the game successes I’ve had on Facebook on a daily basis, I don’t even use online-dating sites anymore! 😆 😆

Now that should tell you something as a once avid online-dater!

Lots of PUA buddies on a daily basis would hit me up saying, “Kenny, you would get laid a ton on Tinder bro”!

I’m like, “dude, I get laid more than a ton from Facebook alone”!

I derisively scoff at the notion of using Tinder, POF, Match.com, Badoo, etc.

On a last note, I want to wrap up on a point which I made in a previous post, that women on Facebook see everything you post!

This is why you should make your shit count by posting the type of stuff which catches the attention of women!

Most guys use social media as though they’re actively trying to attract and court other men! They crazily post about sports, music and- sports again!

I mean, this is all fine and dandy if you desire not to pull ass on social media.

If you do want to pull poon on such platforms, then you MUST- and I mean MUST- post in a way that enthralls women!

With this chick here whom I’d picked up 2 days ago- a complete stranger (as always the case)- she is no exception!

If you’re a budding PUA who’s unsure of whether you really should come out publicly as a PUA while gaming girls on Facebook, for example, hopefully this post would’ve given you the cojones necessary to push forth.

Another question I get is: “should I create another account in order to game girls”?

There’s no problem with that. If you’re unsure of how to manage your friend lists on Facebook, and you’re worried scared that your family and friends will think that you’re gone off your meds- the by all means- open another Facebook account, strictly to game girls, where you can then implement my Facebook method unhindered!

Remember to grab Facebook Bang if you haven’t already!

http://kennyspuathoughts.com/2015/05/12/facebook-bang-the-bonus-product/

Any clarification needed on the points of game mentioned in this post; feel free to leave your comment in the comment section.

On that note: enjoy the weekend folks!

Sexy-Young Latina Mom Is Now In Chase Mode




Remember the girl I briefly touched on in the previous post [girl above] about
 handling girls declining to accept your meet-up offer, the chick who has a boyfriend but said she doesn’t really have the free time to meet with me because she always has her kid with her?

Well- that was back on August 13th. She hit me up this morning on Messenger, essentially opening me this time.

Remember the article I posted yesterday where I critiqued a total stranger’s text game?

Do you also recall my summarization as to why he ultimately bombed that set: failure to utilize humor and failing to cooly accept that the girl cannot meet up with him AT THAT MOMENT?

Well, in this post, I will show you exactly how being nonchalant and cool about a girl declining your suggestion to meet up, will cause the girl to chase you…if done right.

Here’s a little tidbit: whenever a girl declines or shoots down your date proposal, instead of taking it as an outright rejection (it never really is), take it as the girl saying to you: “I am not yet warmed to the idea of meeting with you. Warm me up some more and I’ll willingly submit like your slave”!

Most guys however- the vast majority- oblivious to female psychology (in dating), misinterpret the girl’s position to mean a downright rejection.

Ok, so, as you’d seen in the previous post, I pitched to the girl a pina colada and snack rendezvous, to which she essentially said, “cool…but I don’t have the free time since my newborn is always with me”.

I let her know that it was no pressure, and we could always meet up whenever our schedules permit.

By doing so, I manage to communicate to the girl:

1.) I am not desperate

2.) I have other options/girls

3.) I have social intelligence in that I know she didn’t reject me, but she just needs to be sold on me more as a guy worthy of her time

This is where it left off on August 13, and continued this morning as she hit me up on Messenger with a sad excuse as to why she decided to hit me up (some supposed stalker). 😉

[Her messages in gray]

Now here’s the thing: there is this guy whom I have as FB friends who apparently was adding hot girls from my friend list. So the chick was basically saying that this dude added her this morning, and she wanted to know from me whether this guy (his account) was real or fake…because she doesn’t just accept any random guy’s frend request…which is utter bullshit because she accepted mines about a month ago…and she doesn’t know me from a hole in the wall!

This only tells me what I’d suspected from the get-go: she used this as her opportunity to chase me via inbox messaging. 🙂

Additionally, she tried to gain value on me, and essentially qualified herself to me, by trying to prove to me that she’s desired by other men…such as this Spanish/Brazilian guy who had friend requested her.

With that, the dynamics get flipped without me having to lift 1 finger, where the girl is now trying to prove to me that she’s worthy of my time and attention because she’s sought after by other men.

This is a very subtle psychological play/ploy by women. They want to chase the Alpha Male, but they cannot do so outright. So they chase with cover, while simultaneously trying to gain social value by conveying that they are desirable to other men.

Additionally, since I knew her entire premise for contacting me was just a bullshit excuse, instead of going back and forth on that theme, I phase shifted into a more “me and you” type of vibe, albeit with humor, when I mentioned fighting the guy over her.

Also, I called her sexy, but not in a needy chodish type of way. I skillfully cloaked it (my compliment) in humor…which nullifies the pedestalization aspect. So instead of the girl thinking, “Kenny is needy and lame because he calls me sexy”, she thought, “Kenny’s funny and witty’.

After mentioning her paranoia about online stalkers, she said to me, “But anyway I know you’ll protect me”.

Really!?

I don’t even know you girl!!

Obviously that wasn’t my reaction via text. But this goes to show that she is full-on attracted to me (my vibe). So much so that she sees me as her protector from this would-be online stalker.

Again- I have to remind you guys that this is a total stranger! This is absolutely the 2nd time she and I have facebooked. We’ve only been FB friends for a month (if that). Yet, within just 2 brief  rounds of FB messaging, she’s already envisioning me as a protector-type. 

Why is this? And how was I able to flip the attraction switch so hard from being a total stranger to this?

My vibe…and my profile!

I’ll explain more about that in just a bit.

Here’s another gambit: women love bad boys, right?

Right!

Hence why I said to her, “I’m a bad boy”. I am essentally setting the frame bright and early that I am NOT the nice-boy type who’s gonna pamper her and have her cry on my shoulders whenever her boyfriend makes her cry.

Set the fucking frame early!

How did she react to me saying I’m a bad boy with a heart?

“Awesome”!

With that, she accepted my frame (bad boys are attractive). This is called frame control. I am leading and she is following my lead!

Most guys, foolishly so, allow the girl to set her pace, set her frame, and in turn dominate the underlying themes, steering the ship down her lane.

With me; I lead and the girl follows the frame/position I establish!

This means I have compliance (once the girl follows).

What was 1 major aspect of seduction that the guy whom I critiqued yesterday lacked?

Compliance!

He never managed to lead the frame/interaction nor lead the girl!

With this girl here, I controlled the frame!

Additionally, I went further to end off with a classic PUA technique of cold-reading, by telling her that there’s a bad girl deep within her [screenshot below].

Why did I do/say this?

Again- setting the frame that I do bad girls because I’m a bad boy. 

What was her reaction to me saying she’s a closet bad girl?

She agreed by saying “yea that’s true”!

Why did she agree? Because I have her compliance! She’s aiming to please me! She’s qualifying as we’d say in pickup!

After all, there’s a naughty bad girl inside of every girl.

That is what you want to happen whenever interacting with a new girl. You want to impose (however subtly) your positions and have her accept them.

She will NOT do so (comply) if you haven’t done the bare minimum to attract her through things like: humor, wits, sophistication, badboyism, Alphaness, preselection, DHV spikes, etc.

On another note; this girl is pretty savvy (as all girls are) in that she beat me to the punch by ending the conversation before I ended it on her. 

I anticipated things wrongly, which is why I didn’t beat her to the punch by telling her bye before she did to me. So she managed to 1-up me there [smart girl you].

Nevertheless, I ended things on a powerful note by telling her to remember to hit me up, and it’ll be our dirty-little secret…to which she accepted with laughter. 

What is our dirty-little secret you may ask?

During our initial chat back on the 13th when I pitched to her my pina colada date proposal, she briefly mentioned that she’s in a relationship with her kid’s father (screenshot below).

With that being the case (her relationship status), any dealing we may have, has to be kept a secret.

Her “LOL, ok and LMAO” at the end, indicate that she’s on board.

Lastly, I wish to touch on the attraction factor: why did this hot Latina suddenly become so attracted to me, and is now chasing me (indicative of the fact that she inboxed me), even though she told me she has a boyfriend?

Firstly, I’ve pretty much showed you guys on countless occasions that relationships mean squat to women, and any girl would date or see another man behind the back of her significant other, as long as she can get away with it.

On a more game-specific note, you also ought to realize that a huge part of my Facebook pickup is attracting girls through my posts and comments.

Whenever you hit up a girl on Facebook, she instantly clicks on your profile to read your statuses in order to get an idea of the type of guy she’s dealing with.

If your postings suck; then she rejects you!

If your posts are like those of mines (controversial, womanizing, drama-filled, shocking, out there, etc.) , then the girl gets sucked in.

Thus, with the Latina here spoken about in this article, that was likely the case; she became attracted to me after scanning my Facebook (my posts), and quickly coming to the realization that “this guy is the Alpha-Male”!

Subsequently, she’s now in chase mode of the Alpha Male.

All I simply have to do- if I were to pursue this- is to hit her up later or tomorrow, and throw my pina colada pitch at her again. 

The only obstacle (since the boyfriend isn’t one) would be her kid. That can easily be worked around by having someone babysit for an hour or so [chicks usually cover for their besties in such cases].

In the grand scheme of things guys, hopefully you would have taken away some valuable lessons in game and female psychology from this article.

Most importantly though is FRAME, and how to create space in order to make the girl chase and ultimately fall.

When a girl declines your meetup proposal, you want to handle it with grace, calmness, coolness and collectedness.

She’s accustomed to guys throwing pissy fits and getting all butt-hurt because she said she doesn’t have the time to meet…or doesn’t want to.

You want to become that beacon of chill and blasé in the face of the storm.

This state of coolness will in turn subcommunicate to the girl that you don’t need her, you don’t need to go out with her- and in fact- you have other options.

All this is said and conjured up within the girl’s own head, solely from the way you handled the so-called rejection: Non-Affected.

In a nutshell, once you indirectly demonstrate to the girl that you can take it or leave it, this will inevitably flip the attraction switch and force the girl to either chase you, and or to become complainant and receptive…as was the case with this girl.

I will touch on “NEED” in my next post. A very insightful subject to say the least.

Grab your easy guide to picking up girls on Facebook!


K PUA Critiques This Random Guy’s Text Game [Lesson In Text Game & Frame Battles]


If you want to ultimately lead a girl down your path of seduction: you have to control the frame, or at least not allow yourself to get sucked into her frame.

In this post, I will critique a random stranger’s text game, talk about whether it was decent or shitty, and how and why he ultimately lost his frame and subsequently got rejected.

By the way, I came across the following screenshots from a girl’s Facebook post. The guy’s texts are in white. The girl’s in green.

Screenshot 1: Now, 1 thing he did very wisely was that he never added a question mark when he asked the girl “you good”. By omitting questions marks whenever you ask a question, it gives the girl the impression that you’re not that sold on her (yet), and that you’re somewhat aloof and not dependent on her reciprocation.

I didn’t like however when he complimented her with, “nice pic”. Way too fucking early to be dishing out compliments; especially to a hot girl who’s accustomed to having tons of guys flooding her with compliments!

Thirdly, I didn’t quite get what he meant when he asked …can u eat”. I guess he meant to say “can I eat”. ❓ Either way, he did make me proud again by electing to not add a question mark after “can u”.

[Guy’s texts in white]


Screenshot 2: Again, he did very good in leaving out the question marks at every point. But in a sense, just as the girl was lost: I was totally lost too as to why he kept asking “can u” instead of “can I”…if that’s what he meant to ask (“can I eat you”). Being ambiguous is a great text game strategy. But you don’t want to be so confusing that it becomes an annoyance.

[Guy’s texts in white]




Screenshot 3: Another thing that I like about what he did is that he discontinued the chat, rather than doubling down when the girl isn’t giving him much feedback. So the chat continued about 5 days later. I didn’t like however, that he contacted her so early. It wasn’t even 7 AM when he re-initiated the text game. This is a huge mistake in that it communicates to the girl that you have no life, and that you were probably up all night waiting for the morning to appear so that you could text her like some desperate loser!

He then made another mistake in text game, by coming off too generic when he asked the girl the same predictable question: “u good”? Never contact a girl asking her if she’s “good, okay, well”, etc! It is too goddamn generic and lame! Additionally, such a question doesn’t spark conversation at all. It only leads to a dead end! The only thing it forces a girl to do is to reply with a 1-worder: a yes…or no…then a dead end.

Another mistake in timing that he made, was that his timing was pretty poor when he decided to say to the girl, “let’s go beach”. A solid line/proposal by the way! But super awful timing! You don’t cold ask a girl to tag along to the beach unless you had already built attraction during the conversation or during a prior conversation. This guy had built not 1 ounce of attraction, yet he’s asking the girl to join him at the beach. In any case; he did phrase it correctly by coming off as assertive by saying “let’s go beach”, instead of asking/begging [only weak men “ask” girls out].

[Guy’s texts in white]


Screenshot 4: Okay, so another key yet common mistake committed was that he questioned the girl about why she cannot make the beach, by asking her “how come”. Again- good job on his part by religiously adhering to my rule of “no question marks”! I would think that this guy had come across an article of mines on omitting questions marks 😉 . Anyway, whenever a girl (whom you’re trying to see) says, “I can’t”; you don’t frikkin’ question it by asking “how come”! If you were to question it, you do so with humor. For instance; he could’ve said, “how come…you don’t know how to swim well can you. Google some swimming lessons and let’s do this whenever the time is right”. That’s how I would’ve handled her saying, “I can’t do the beach”. By doing so, I am not trying to convince her to do the beach with me- then and there- since she already said “can’t”. I’m merely trying to communicate some social intelligence cloaked in humor.

Anyway, the girl apparently ignored his text of “how come”, simply because that was a dumb-fucking thing to say/ask whenever a girl says “I can’t”. Thus, the girl likely had gotten annoyed that someone who doesn’t have compliance from her (the guy), dared question why she cannot come to the beach with him! Everything boils down to compliance when trying to get a girl out. The guy failed to built compliance from the get go as +97% of men fail to do.

Okay, so upon being blown off/ignored, he messaged her 2 days later. Again- I give him mucho mucho credit for being wise here, in that he’s socially aware enough to back off (stop texting) and try again another day (days later). Most guys would’ve doubled down by texting themselves into a bigger hole by sending 4-5 messages asking the girl why isn’t she replying. So props to this guy for exhibiting solid text game in this instance, by deceleration instead of acceleration in texting.

However, he made another mistake by re-opening the girl with a compliment: “nice pic”. Noooooooooooo!!!!!!!!!!!!! That is NOT what you want to do as a restarter (compliment)! What should he be doing at this point? Here’s the deal: the guy obviously wants to meet up with the girl (since he asked her to the beach prior). With that, he should’ve been working 2 angles here: Attraction & Compliance!

Attraction: In other words, instead of being generic as he was with the compliments and boring dialogue, he should’ve been chitchatting with the girl about various things, essentially showing the girl his personality (that he has one) via short DHV stories, etc. By “stories”, I don’t mean a fucking lengthy narration! I mean a tidbit of info about his life(style). He should’ve then engaged the girl and got her to open up. If you were to scan the screenshots just for a quick second, you would realize that the girl wasn’t contributing shit to the dialogue but 1-worders such as: “can’t, sorry to hear, ok, thanks, am good”. That’s it!!!!! That was her contribution to the conversation! And to move from that (no feedback from the target) to then trying to get the girl to agree to meeting up…without compliance: that is a HUGE blunder in game!!!

Compliance: okay, so the guy should’ve been working the attraction angle explained above. Simultaneously, he should’ve been trying to gain compliance from the girl, which would then make her 100 times more receptive to the idea of meeting up with the guy. You want the girl to accept your meet-up proposal. The only way to make this happen is if you make the girl comply to your request! The guy obviously failed to do so!

He then contacted the girl again, about 12 days later. Not a bad idea since I’m a huge advocate of “fall back and come again”. However, he choded himself out by coming back with the same old-generic bullshit: “What’s up”.

[Guy’s texts in white]


Screenshot 5: apparently, the following day, he texted with, “hi sweetheart”. Dude- are you fucking kidding me!!!? “Sweetheart”!!!? You have no compliance from this girl because you never built any, she isn’t attracted to you [your vibe] because you never used any attraction-building material, so logics tell you that you should then double down on the lameness by calling the girl sweetheart!!!? Anyway, huge mistake! Huge goddamn mistake!!!!

“U good”? Another huge mistake since with every instance where he re-initiated texting, he asks the girl the same lame-generic question: “u good”?…to which the answer is a highly predictable “yes”.

As if the situation couldn’t deteriorate further, he then decided to say, “really want to meet u”. Good idea! But it’s built on a foundation of nothingness! The girl has zero fucking incentive to meet up with this guy! So why would she!? And his reply to the girl essentially asking, “why do you want to meet me”, is “because u look sweet”! How lame dude!!!! What a way to enlarge a hot girl’s proverbial ego and make her believe that she’s more desirable than she really is, by telling her you want to meet up because she looks hot…or sweet!!! Chode fucking city!

Again, I want you guys who are reading this to take another quick look at screenshot 5 (above), and notice that the girl isn’t giving any feedback at all besides 1-worders: “am good, hi, yes, really, why, oh…thanks”. Those (1-worders) are usually signs of disinterest [IOD’s] on the girl’s part. The only 2 exceptions are if the girl is extremely busy and cannot reply in detail. Or if she’s the very shy type. Being that I’m friends with the girl on Facebook, I can say with full certainty that this chick is NOT the shy type in the least! Hence, her lack of textual engagement simply boils down to the fact that she isn’t interested in the guy. It is not her fault by the way! She gave him a shot by essentially giving him her phone #! He’s the one blowing it! Not her! He’s responsible for making the girl attracted to him, and wanting to see him!

In any case; you never tell a girl that the reason you want to meet her is because she’s hot, sexy, cute, adorable, nice, etc. Worst/lamest reasons ever! What would I, Kenny, have said?

Me: “Really want to meet u”. Girl: “Really…why so”? Me: “So we could make some cereal box cut-out airplanes and fly them around like 2 giddy kids at the park”. That’s just an example. But humor and unorthodoxy are key! Tell the girl something original that she’s never heard before! This helps to build attraction! Telling the frikkin’ girl that you want to meet her because she looks sweet, doesn’t do a goddamn thing to spark, amplify or build the attraction!

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Screenshot 6: Again- I applaud him for religiously sticking to the no-question mark gambit of mines (though this guy appears to do so naturally). At this juncture, the guy had already dropped major points by telling the girl that she looks sweet (upon not having any value to her). Then saying to the girl, “would be nice to taste u”, though that is a good thing to say, it wasn’t good however in this case (it was terrible) because of all the mistakes he made prior. Here’s the thing: whenever you make too many common blunders along the way (as this guy did), nothing you do/say from thenceforth could redeem you. It’s pretty much a 1-shot deal when it comes to making a good impression on a new girl. With all that being said, the girl predictably declined his proposal to eat her. Is it because she genuinely wouldn’t want to be eaten? Of course not! Every girl wants to be treated like a sex object! Too many little mistakes were committed by this guy, so the girl had no choice but to reject him on those basis (that he lacks social intelligence a.k.a. Game).

He then made another blunder, which he’d committed previously, by asking the girl, “why not”, upon her declining to meet up. If a girl says “it won’t happen”, “not interested”, “I can’t make it”, etc. don’t respond by asking “why not”? By doing so, you are only allowing yourself to feed into her negative framing of things. You are allowing her to steer and steal the show essentially. The guy then gets all defensive because the girl said “not interested”. Remind you; she didn’t mean that she isn’t interested in the guy altogether. She simply meant that she isn’t interested in having him taste her. But the guy misinterpreted that to mean that the girl isn’t interested in him at all.

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Screenshots 7 & 8: the guy then feeds/falls into her frame and began battling about a trivial matter of why nots. At this point, along with going full-on defensive mode, the guy sensing that his chances were undoubtedly slipping away, goes for the hail mary- a last hurrah- with: “I want to give you a good fuck”! Now- that is not a terrible thing to say (contrary to popular belief). After all, you’ve seen me get straight to the point on countless occasions with countless women,without ever getting a negative reaction. Why is that? I would’ve done everything correctly up until that point of going hard sexually. The girl would’ve been attracted to my vibe by then. Hence her reaction would’ve communicated this (that she’s attracted). Having struck out at every juncture prior, the guy had no chance. The conversation eventually turned into a frame battle (which the girl was winning hands down). By then, the frame had been lost and the girl finally pounds some nails into the coffin. Just so you know; I personally could’ve flipped that, by attracting the girl through drama and conflict…which is 1 of my favorite routines by the way.

Okay, so what happened?

Apart from my text-by-text breakdown: what happened, and why did this guy fail so miserably?

Before I give my closing analysis, I want to point out something just to put things into perspective here: this guy’s game is ultra-common [“Game” for lack of a better word]!

As an outside observer, you are probably going: “But Kenny…I text girls the same way as this guy does. I didn’t know it was that bad”!

Well- it is that fucking bad…however common!

Bad game is common game. This is why a minuscule number of men are having sex with every girl out there who’s sexually active.

Guys who are good with women are few and in between.

At the end of the day, if a girl gives you her phone number, granted that chicks are in the habit of giving their numbers away like its going out of style, you can essentially interpret that to mean that she has some interest in you (though this is only the case in 50% of the cases).

With that, it is up to you as the guy to finagle that into something tangible…such as a date or sex.

Although this guy had the perfect idea of how to game and seduce a girl through text, he did everything with poor timing.

Additionally, he made dozens of fundamental errors such as:

•Failure to build any attraction whatsoever

•Failure to gain compliance from the girl

•Failure to give the girl a reason to want to meet up (there must be an incentive for her besides sex)

•Failure to even game the girl at all

The list of failures is extensive.

At no point during his text game did he ever attempt to make the girl laugh or send an LOL.

He totally neglected to humor the fucking girl! Instead, he went from 0 to 100 in 1 swoop: “hi my name is Paul…now let’s meet up”.

In order to successfully go from introduction to meetup, the girl will have had to at least been keen on you (and or interested) prior to this.

For instance, I game lots of girls over Facebook. If I were to then go for a phone number- chances are- the girl(s) would’ve already been privy to my style, personality, desires, intentions, likes, dislikes, etc. Hence, upon grabbing her phone #, I would’ve been able to go from 0 to 100 ASAP by cold saying to the girl; “Let’s meet up”.

Nevertheless, the guy apparently went from having zero value or notoriety to the girl, to then trying to score a meetup.

Terrible idea in game!

In a neat nutshell, all he had to have done was to show some personality: wits, humor, charms, conversational skills, vibing, etc.

Those are the things which 98% of you guys fail to communicate. Instead, you go from “hi” to “can we go out”, like it’s a sprint to the finish line or something.

If you want to learn good text-game, and you haven’t already purchased my Facebook pickup products, then I implore you to do so A-Fucking-SAP!

http://kennyspuathoughts.com/2015/05/12/facebook-bang-the-bonus-product/

If reading isn’t your favorite modus of learning game, you can always schedule a half-hour, or an hour Skype session with me (or Facebook Messenger if you don’t have Skype), at the links below.
https://kennyspuathoughts.com/need-coaching/

https://kennyspuathoughts.com/2015/10/14/get-phone-coaching-with-kenny-p-through-facebook-messenger/

Maneuvering A Busty Cougar [Frame-Control In Seduction]


Days ago, I friend requested a busty-looking MILF who caught my attention as I scanned through the friend-suggestion field on my feed.

Few days later (about 2-3 days ago), she inboxes me with the following.

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Note: Whenever a girl goes out of her way to message you, asking if you know her, it is usually an SOI [Sign Of Interest]. There is interest there on her part. But she just uses the fact that we don’t know each other, as a way to open me. 🙂

Let’s just run right through the screenshots in the interest of time.

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The chat proceeded with the preliminaries.

Okay, so what was happening here?

A battle of frames.

I set the frame that I’m the prize and she’s the one seeking my time, and by letting her know when we go out, I don’t want any surprises.

Which guy says this to a hot girl, but a guy who’s in demand and sees himself as such [the prize].

Was this girl interested in me however?

Undoubtedly so!

This is indicative of numerous factors, inclusive of the fact that she kept saying she doesn’t want a relationship with someone who’s taken.

Well- I never told her that I was looking a relationship to begin with.

In fact- as you’d seen- I told her I am in a relationship already.

Hence, this eliminates the idea that I am trying to become her boyfriend.

That is frame control, or in essence, me stealing the frame/play away from her.

She insinuated that my interest in her was to become boyfriend-girlfriend.

WRONG!

I set that fallacy aright!

Note: women will often do this with guys whom they are interested in [push the boyfriend frame].

I clearly and strategically countered this by instantly shooting down the relationship aspect, and by setting the “meet up for drinks” frame.

Therefore, it became clear to her that I wasn’t looking to become her boyfriend, but to go out (or date) instead…with an aim for sex at the end of the night. 😉

What would most guys have done when the girl mentions relationship?

If they were single, they would try to convince the girl that they are worthy of a relationship with her. Or, if they were taken already (the men), they would lie to the girl and say that they are single, in order to convince the girl that they are worthy of a relationship with her.

Both angles are flawed and based on lies.

I don’t lie to women. Hence why I told her that I do already have a GF, so I’m only interested in hanging out with her.

Now, another thing I want to point out is this: she is a random girl whom I’m only speaking to for the first time. Yet, she’s already insinuating that she would want to date me, given away by the fact that she even asked, “Why do you want to get in another relationship when you’re already in a relationship”?

With all that being said, it is crystal clear that this girl is attracted to me [my vibe], but she’s hesitant because of some cruel guy in her past…allegedly (though this is why she’s attracted to me, because I give off a carefree bad boy vibe from my posts).

Additionally, she asked me where do I live.

Note #3: whenever a girl asks on her own volition, “where do you live”, it is usually an IOI/SOI [Indication Of Interest]…99% of the time.

The only how this isn’t so, is if you had asked her first, and by means of social protocol, she returns the question by asking you also, “so where do you live”.

As you clearly seen in the screenshot above; I never asked about where she stays. She cold-asked me…which means she’s interested.

In addition to that, the most telling sign of her interest, was when she said, “So…where do we go from here”, which was a question to my mention of having a girlfriend.

That was another huge yet subtle IOI.

Now- will I pursue it [meet up for drinks]?

It all depends.

By all means; this cougar is totally fuckable [pictured below]!

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Being that I’m an ardent tit-man, and this chick has a big-juicy rack, it’s without a doubt that I would lay her in a heartbeat! But again- too many options.

Guys, you need to realize that I pick up TONS of women on a weekly basis!

There isn’t enough time in a day or week for me to bang the amount of girls I pick up, and am able to pick up within a week’s time.

On a bad week, I’m picking up [#-closing] like 8 girls on Facebook alone, coupled with the fact that I pick up girls on the streets while running errands at work, including the girls I pick up from night game (clubs and bars).

On a good-good week, I’m liable to pick up like 15 girls on Facebook [all random strangers]- that is by getting their phone numbers while setting up a rendezvous- to having to work the process of elimination since I simply cannot realistically meet up with 15 girls during the same week.

I got netflix and chill meetups, and dates, backed up from about 2 months ago with chicks who are DTF!

It just isn’t humanly possible for me to keep up with, nor meet up with every girl I pick up online or in person.

There’s a huge backlog I have to deal with [quality and quantity problem I would say 😉 ]. Hence, I always have to reign myself in, and to remind myself that it isn’t practical to keep picking up girl after girl, day after day, which only adds to the already backlog from 2 months ago.

Additionally, I do have a DTF policy of sorts, where I meet up with the most apparent DTF girls, instead of wasting time on the girls who are maybies.

For instance, hypothetically, let’s say that I picked up 10 new girls this week from Facebook, by swapping #’s with the rendezvous planned [I’m just using “10” as an example…though it’s usually more].

Those 10 get added to the previous 10 from the previous week, included the 10 from the week prior to that.

Therefore, those are 30 girls picked up within 3 weeks.

Of those 30, if I happened to pick up another girl today, but she’s extremely DTF, I would likely prioritize her in front of the 30 girls whom I’d met before her, and seek to meet up ASAP.

It’s a delicate situation with trying to balance and handle the numbers here.

Saying all that to say, it is for that reason (the backlog of girls), why I abruptly discontinued the chat with the hot cougar, not even trying to grab her # (which would’ve been a given), neither to set up a date, although I told her that I would send a taxi to pick her up since she doesn’t drive, whenever the time to meet would’ve arrived.

I am learning, at least trying to learn, to not pick up every hot skirt I come across on Facebook who lives in my town or the surrounding areas. 😦 But as an ardent pick-up artist: this proves to be challenging.

What I hope you will have taken away from this post are 2 things:

1.) Whenever your online posts reflect that of someone who’s the prize with women, not only will women indirectly chase you (since they can’t do it outright for starters), but they [your posts] facilitate your chances altogether

2.) Be mindful of framing and frame control. If a girl likes you, she will at times try to push you into the boyfriend/relationship frame. Why is this a bad thing? She will make sex a drawn-out process, and make you wait 4-5 dates before allowing sex to happen. By eliminating the BF/relationship frame as I did [or anyhow for that matter], and making “date” or “meetup for drinks” the only aim, the girl is robbed of trying to drag out sex and stall it altogether on you.

I’ll keep you fellaz updated with this cougar.

Chances are; she’s going to hit me up again on FB, wondering why I haven’t pursued things.

Chicks Dig The Pickup Artist


A huge part of my schtick is attracting girls through my social-media posts of pick-up artist shenanigans.

Whether a girl knows what a pickup artist is or not, the idea of a guy who posts his sexual exploits of women online, included the fact that he shares tips on how to seduce women, it is oddly appealing to lots of women.

It’s rather interesting in a mind-fuck sort of way, that here it is that a guy [myself] can post all sorts of womanizing stuff to his Facebook for every woman to see, yet women are drawn to that, drawn to the idea and drawn to the person attached to those ideas/posts [myself].

Exhibit A: a brief chitchat I had with a hot girl from Florida. Remind you this was my first time messaging her.

She is very much aware of my schtick as a pick-up artist, indicative of the fact that she regularly gives her reactions to the stuff I post (usually Wow and shocked faces).
[My messages in blue]

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As usual; I get away with saying forward, sleazy and outlandish shit to women.

They laugh whenever I get forward instead of getting pissed.

Why so?

I own it! And I’m not bashful about the things I say.

Apart from that, what you must grasp also is the congruence factor when it comes to attracting girls on the internet.

I am congruent as a pickup artist (PUA).

In other words, my posts reflect my lifestyle, personality and everything else about me that women get to see.

Sounds a bit cryptic. But what I mean is (about being congruent), it is 1 thing for a guy to claim to be a womanizer, yet his profile and posts don’t reflect his womanizing lifestyle.

You can’t successfully act as, and come off as a player, while posting lame shit to Facebook that has nothing to do with a womanizer’s lifestyle.

That spells incongruence, and women get turned off and annoyed by posers.

Saying all that to say, the underlying reason why I get away with murder so often (98% of the time), is the fact that my posts reflect what I claim to be (a PUA).

With that, whenever I get forward with a social-media hottie, she rarely ever gets offended by my dickishness because she sees congruence coming from me.

She sees that I’m not just a pretender.

Why would she get mad at a guy who owns his personality and lifestyle?

Here’s another tidbit in relation to that point: once a girl senses that you cannot help it, she will excuse away, and accept any behavior coming from you, regardless of how rude, insensitive or crazy.

Women only get upset at guys whom they deem to be faking congruence.

They feel slighted and cheated whenever a guy comes along trying to be sexual and forward, yet he’s all nervous with sweaty palms and shit.

Digressing a bit.

Okay, so there’s a reason why I religiously implore you dudes to post eyebrow-raising shit to Facebook or any other social-media platform.

Women will undoubtedly see your posts, then rationalize to themselves that this person is just you. Hence they will treat you accordingly.

For instance, if the bulk of your status updates consists of lame posts about how much you love to watch UFC fights, then that becomes your persona: the UFC guy.

I like the UFC too…but I’m smart enough to not post about it because I know it’ll win me no favors with women by doing so.

You then have to remain in that lane (the UFC posting guy) for the most part in relation to girls who follow you.

Another example is the guy who posts often about his faith, how good church service was, etc. If that guy then attempts to inbox a girl in a forward manner, a backlash is as inevitable as the sun rising tomorrow.

The girl will definitely become annoyed and feel offended because she sees incongruent and disingenuous in the church guy being forward.

After all, a guy who regularly professes faith, shouldn’t be hitting up girls in their inbox about wanting to stick his dirty little pecker down their throat.

Likewise with the UFC guy or the Lebron James/NBA fan-guy who does nothing but posts about sports. In a girl’s mind, he has no business hitting up girls about hooking up, since hooking up with women isn’t reflected in his status updates.

Note: this isn’t exactly the case in online-dating websites. You can include all the lame shit you want in your Match.com or POF about me section, but as long as the messages you send are interesting, the girl will at least engage you. Why so? Because the premisses are already pre-set since Match and POF are dating sites, and people go there in search of dates, etc.

Facebook and social-media sites on the other hand, are NOT online-dating websites!

Guys lose sight of that reality.

Women don’t use Facebook to get laid.

If anything, they can simply open up an account on POF, Match, Tinder, etc. if that’s the case.

With that being said, the rules for attracting and picking up girls on Facebook are heavily reliant on the congruence factor: do your posts represent you or are there some blaring inconsistencies?

Therefore, women on Facebook will quickly scan or arduously scrutinize your posts and profile for inconsistencies.

If she sees (via your status updates) how much you profess to love your god and how casual sex is evil or bad, yet you’re creeping in her inbox trying to hook up, you are fucking done!!!

The rules on social media when trying to pull ass are skewed in comparison to online-dating sites.

On Facebook, women are liable to judge you solely based on what they see from your posts.

Pictures hardly count for anything on Facebook unless they accompany an interesting-status update.

What I mean by that is, you can have the shittiest photos, but as long as your status updates are kick-ass, that holds way more weight than anything visual as in a photo.

By all means; your photos should be interesting. But they don’t have to be.

Facebook is a platform where chicks actually read your shit.

Nevertheless guys, hopefully you would’ve grasped the gist of why I’m able to get away with hitting girls up while being forward without an ounce of backlash to face. Because I’m a pickup artist who publicly puts this out there on social media for example: I enjoy a sense of immunity from backlash…because I’m congruent…plus I own my bad boy persona.

Lastly, perhaps you aren’t aware of this, but not only do women read every fucking thing that pops up in their feed (even if they merely scan it), but they gather information in order to make an impression about you.

Coupled with that, let’s assume that for some reason, you never registered on the girl’s proverbial radar. So she has no impression of your online persona.

After you would’ve registered- let’s say that you had messaged her- she will immediate then and there, or immediately after the chat, click on your profile and dig into your posts to get a snapshot of the type of guy you are.

If she doesn’t eventually reply to your inbox messages- chances are- she didn’t exactly like what she’d read upon scanning your profile.

Here’s another caveat: do you know why girls usually take a while (perhaps minutes, days, etc) to respond to your inbox message on Facebook?

Apart from the transparent-stock reason (truthfully so) that women having hundreds of guys hitting them up, so they cannot realistically reply to your message ASAP…besides that reason, girls take a while to message you back because before hitting the reply button, they would’ve hit the “view profile” button in order to find out about you through your postings.

Cunning and sneaky?

I wouldn’t quite say that.

In light of that, it should now make more sense to you as to why women dig the pickup artist, and why he’s almost never chastised and castigated for being sexual with any woman.

The women I message will have already seen my profile (posts), particularly because I post like 2 status updates per minute, so I’m bound to hit the feed of every person I have as friends. Hence, before I even shoot off that initial inbox message to any girl I have as friends, she would’ve already been keen on me, my style, personality, womanizing PUA ways, etc.

A prime example is the girl from the screenshot above, eluding to the fact that I post about pickup stuff.

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On a conclusive note, neglecting to post stuff that grab the attention of women, you are only making your job 10 times harder.

Here are some stats that you may find interesting: I hardly ever- and I mean almost never- get rejected by a random stranger on Facebook whom I message by being sexual and forward straight away!

Sure it happens. But probably ever 1 in 80 instances: 1 in 80 girls who flat out tell me to fuck off. Now I don’t know about you, but 1 in 80 is a stellar fucking ratio!

Do you want some examples of the type of stuff I post on Facebook?

Here’s a post I put together back in 2013 of the vintage RSD Julian Blanc, before the now watered-down and tamed-weird version of Julien.

101 kick-ass tweets from RSD Julien…the stuff for badboys that hot girls dig

Always End It First!!! Get Girls To Chase You On Social Media With This 1 Technique…Redux


Hey fellaz, another solid Facebook game post for you.

This tip has been pounded to death already (at least by me). But an encore/redux is always necessary as a refresher course for those who may not have grasped the concept at first glance.

“Always End The Chat First”!

That is the technique per se which I’m sharing with you guys…again.

Why should you end the conversation before the girl does?

The one who ends it, leaves with the perceived value, power and leverage.

This is why girls ALWAY look to end the conversation on the guy, instead of having the guy end it on them (which never happens by the way).

Women know that the person who first says, “goodbye…I gotta go…TTYL”, becomes the more valuable one (perception-wise) in the grand scheme of things.

As a guy, we rarely ever view it that way, since men aren’t strategic about this stuff.

Well- wake the fuck up!

Women are full on strategic!

Thus, learn to flip the script by ending the conversation first [online, through text or over the telephone that is].

Here’s an example from earlier today [June 28th] of me doing just that.

Now, this girl had just friend requested me earlier, and I pounced upon her A Fucking SAP!

Oh- BTW- here’s another tidbit I want to share with you before proceeding: If a girl adds you as friends on social media (Facebook in particular); assume attraction!

Assume that she wants to fuck you!

When a random girl adds you on Facebook, it is a subtle confession that she likes you, is attracted to you and would like to see what your world is like.

Obviously, this may not quite be the case if the girl already knows you well, tons of mutual friends, etc.

However, if she’s a random; then assume she wants to fuck you!

With that in mind, I received a friend request earlier from a “Random”.

Now- typically- I receive friend requests from random women on Facebook.

Eight in ten times: I would decline the add for 2 reasons:

1.) The girl is ugly, hence doesn’t fit my type nor does she pass my boner-test

2.) She lives outside of my jurisdiction…i.e. another town, city or country

If the girl passes those 2 prerequisites (she’s sexy and lives in my town…or nearby); I will accept her friend request and pounce upon her immediately!

Sometimes, depended on my mood and how much time I have to shit around (or not), I would elect to not message her right away.

With the hottie who added me today; I decided to pounce [my messages in blue. Hers in gray].

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Now, why did I go so extreme in calling her “petty as fuck” as my opener/ice-breaker? Leverage! Once someone adds you (particularly a random stranger as in this girl), compliance and leverage automatically go to the person who received and accepted the friend request. In this case: me. In other words, I can get away with saying anything to the girl without offending her since I have leverage and compliance due to the fact that she was the one who sent me the friend request (minutes earlier).

Also, the reason I called her petty was because I took a quick scan of her statuses, just to get a glimpse of her style, and I came across posts which read, “I blocked 5 guys today for blowing up my inbox”. Or, ” Anyone who dares call me through Messenger will be blocked”. The typical stuff that self-entitled hot girls are accustomed to posting.

Additionally, calling a hot girl petty, or any other form of derisive adjective, is a ballsy move in and of itself. No guy does this to a (random) hot girl. By you becoming that guy who says the unimaginable, it sets you apart from the masses, and the girl instantly assumes that you are high value or high net worth 😉 .

Furthermore, and to solidify my point; did she take it offensively that I called her petty? Of course not! She knows I’m the Alpha-Male! Since she was the one to add me, she had likely checked out my profile beforehand, and realized the type of guy I am. She liked: then added me. With that, I already knew that she was attracted to me (my vibe). And once a girl is attracted, there is hardly anything you can do/say that will offend her. That is why she never took offense to me calling her “petty as fuq”.

Let’s continue right through.

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Who ended it?

I did.

What does this accomplish (ending the conversation first) apart from what I mentioned at the top of the post?

It shows the girl that I am not desperate for her, nor her time.

I ended things by saying “we have some fucking to do”.

How did she react?

Was she offended!?

Did she block me!?

Of course not!

She “LOL”.

Again- why did she not get offended by me saying we have some fucking to do?

Leverage and compliance!

Without compliance from the girl whom you’re chatting up, anything said or done out of line, will cause a negative reaction from her.

Having compliance is a virtual green light to do or say anything to the girl.

Now, in the grand scheme of things, what type of frame did I set between me and her?

Was it a friendly, friend-zone frame?

Was I coming off as someone who wanted to become her boyfriend (the boyfriend frame)?

Think about that.

The mistake most guys commit as to why they don’t get laid [though there are MANY existential mistakes] is that they inadvertently, and often times deliberately (through ignorance), box themselves into the boyfriend/provider frame or the best-friend frame.

Which frame did I put myself into?

The lover’s frame: “the guy who wants to fuck you” frame!

Moreover, whenever you converse with a woman while giving off the vibe that you would like to date her, or become her boyfriend at some point, she instantly removes sex from the item list (if it was ever on there). Then she’ll purposely make you wait forever for sex. In essence, she will punish you by withholding sex because you had put yourself in the boyfriend/provider frame.

This is the same for the guy who gives off the “I wanna be your friend” vibe. He gets friendzoned by the girl because he foolishly gave off the friend vibe, thinking he could friend his way into sleeping with her.

Hence, when you give off the “I wanna hook up” vibe [earlier as possible], the girl has no choice but to accept the frame you push [“let’s hook up”].

By me telling this random hottie that she’s fuckable and that we have some fucking to do, there’s no ambiguity about my intention, nor the frame in which I push [the lover’s frame].

This is why a girl will, and would never friendzone me [due to friendly frame], nor make me wait weeks, 2 dates and months, etc. for sex [due to boyfriend frame].

I don’t give off the impression of someone who’ll wait for sex (this is because I get sexual and forward right away).

Additionally, I don’t give off the vibe of someone who wants to become her new best friend who sits and chats with her about all the other guys who fucks her and fucks her over.

I give off the sex-worthy vibe PRONTO!

Listen- for argument sake- let’s say that I don’t get forward with a girl in such a context as the one above. My vibe will have still been void of “boyfriend and friend”. So technically, you don’t have to be forward and sleazy with a girl in order to give off the “let’s hook up” vibe. Just simply avoid giving off the “let’s be friends” vibe.

Since I’ve digressed a ton here, I want to end this post on the main topic of getting a girl to chase by ending things first.

As you’d seen from the screenshots in the post: I strategically ended it first.

Where do I go from here?

Firstly: what is my goal?

Sex! To hook up with this chick (any chick for that matter) as soon as possible before the chemistry fizzles out.

Knowing that (my goal for rapid sex), I will contact her in another day or 2, throw my usual pitch about netflix and chill, get her to agree to meet up [they always do], swap numbers then seal the deal from there.

It’s all academic dude.

Same script: different chick.

The fact that I didn’t go for broke right away (since I told her “TTYL”), this move sub-communicates to her Hind Brain aka the Reptilian Brain (the part of a person’s brain which governs passion, sex, desires, etc), that not only am I high value and valuable, but it gives me a mystique appeal, along with the non-desperation vibe.

We all are familiar with the old adage: “we want what we can’t have”.

Things that appear to be out of reach and forbidden: we desire them much more than if they were right at hand. And the fact that those things are out of reach, we humans place more value on those things.

With that, you should now understand clearly how powerful this concept of mines is: ending the conversation before she does.

Doing so will have simultaneously created the following 4 powerful impressions:

•I harbor an air of mystic and mystery
•I am not desperate hence I have options
•I am high value and high net worth
•I am forbidden fruit and out of reach

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