Facebook game is a delicate art as I speak about ad nauseum.
You can either fumble it or become masterful at it.
Unfortunately- most guys fumble it like a hot potato.
Consequently, most guys neglect to realize that Facebook is NOT an online-dating site!
Chicks aren’t using Facebook primarily to get laid!
They aren’t even using it to get laid period!
There exist tons of online-dating website: everything from hookup sites, social media + dating sites, etc.
If chicks really were in search of dick online, they would chose from a myriad of websites in which to achieve that aim…and they do.
However, Facebook isn’t 1 such website.
Chicks use Facebook for everything except to get laid.
It is no big secret that women enjoy the liberty of having dicks at their disposal wherever and whenever they desire to.
Women do no have shortage of cocks in their life.
It is just that women are very selective and particular about the type of men they allow to grace the insides of their vaginal corridor.
It is because of this reality I recently made a declaration that women aren’t slutty as we men may think them to be.
If we were to put women in our shoes and trade places for a week, to where we men were the ones with loads of options in the opposite sex, men would actually go pussy-crazed and literally try to fuck every single 1 of his options as quickly as humanly possible!
Men would rarely discriminate if we were to have such options and powers of selectivity as women do.
On the other hand, women do have choices and options of cocks to chose from, yet women are very discriminative and selective, and they are NOT out there fucking every Joe Blow who presents them a brand-new shiny dick!
A girl cannot realistically allow every guy who fancies her to have sex with her…or he vaj would be out of commission for life by week 2.
Thus, she has to be ultra-selective, has to discriminate, has to be choosy and has to screen and filter the men who approach her.
A male on the other hand, if he were to have the option of 10 new-hot girls per week vying for their chance to fuck him; he would literally try to fuck all 10 girls within the shortest amount of time possible! 😆
A female, on the contrary, would scale down the 10 new-hot guys trying to fuck her, and select the most sex-worthy and Alpha of the 10.
She wouldn’t try to fuck all 10 guys on the basis that they are hot!
Therefore, as much as guys may want to believe that women are slutty-little androids, salivating at their chance to fuck a new guy every other day; it is not so…at all!
We men must also bear in mind that women choose the men whom they have sex with, based on different criteria.
For men; it is all about looks!
As long as she has tits, ass and a cute face- or either 1 of those 3 attributes- she is deemed fuckable!
As for women: they more so (and by far) take into consideration the non-physical qualities in the guy…such as his behavior, attitude, style, swag, lingo, confidence, aura, etc, etc, etc.
Not many guys fit her criterion.
On a related note, you must also realize that women have pregnancy to contend with.
In other words; she cannot just let any Joe Blow fuck her, because he can actually impregnate her and knock her off of the dating and mating market for an entire year!
That means she has to endure almost a full year with low-self esteem issues, thinking herself as fat and unattractive, bloated all the time, hormonal changes for the worse…and those are just the tip of the iceberg.
Hence, she has way more to lose by wantonly sleeping around with any old dude who comes along…so she doesn’t do so…which is why she’s so selective and discriminative, has criteria and blows off tons of guys [figuratively speaking 😉 ].
A male on the other hand has nothing to worry about (physiologically and biologically) if he sleeps around wantonly with 10 new girls per week…though STI’s from unprotected sex can put a damper on things.
In any case, a guy can realistically sleep with a new girl every single day for the next 2 years- even impregnating a handful of them- without trepidation of being put off of the dating market as in the case of pregnancy.
Now, I’m not saying that there aren’t so-called sluts [though as a PUA, we are encouraged not to view women as sluts…and we don’t], and lots of women sleep around. But it is done with selectivity nevertheless. She isn’t just banging every guy as a man would if he were to have those options.
There is no imperical datum and statistic on this- at least not that I know of- but from my observation, experience and time around women and dealing with women (innumerable amounts of them), I am reasonably led to believe that the average girl who’s sexually active and claims to be single, has roughly 2 sexual partners at the moment, and will maintain this trend for the duration until she either gets into a relationship, marriage or gets too old to be deemed sex-worthy.
Occasionally, a girl who’s so-called single will deviate from her customary pattern and bang an extra guy (a third). But for the most part, the average girl who “claims” to be single, will have been sleeping with 2 guys on average during her “claimed” single-hood.
She may sleep with guy 1 on Monday, for instance, then guy 2 sometime midweek.
She will continue to alternately sleep with both guys, periodically subbing 1 of the 2 for a 3rd. guy.
This “subbing” is due to the fact that she may realistically have a fallout with 1 guy (for myriads of reasons), and decide to sub him out for another, in order to keep that #2 slot filled.
Quite often also, she would at times be content with just screwing 1 guy for the duration if she doesn’t see a worthy guy who can fill that #2 slot.
With all that being said on that matter, women are not maxing out their sex opportunities by sleeping with dozens of guys during a specific rotation.
The average Jane is fine with having just 2 cocks- the same 2 cocks might I add- for the next 6-8 months, even though there are 20 hot-new cocks knocking at her door on a daily basis!
Hence, women are not actual sluts as we may think they are. Because if a guy realistically had 20 hot girls knocking on his door, ready, willing and able to spread those legs for him, he would fuck all 20 of them! 🙂
“Ok Kenny, so what does this major digression have to do with guys openly hitting on girls online and why they shouldn’t do so”?
Simple: girls have many options outside of the internet and on online-dating sites, so there is no need for them to jump on Facebook and social media, actively in search of cock. Hence the reason they don’t actively, nor passively use Facebook in hopes to meet men!
This however, doesn’t at all mean that they cannot be picked up on Facebook!
I think I’ve already demonstrated hand over fist that women can be picked up easily on Facebook.
It is just that guys go about this the wrong way!
What is 1 such “wrong way” in which guys go about trying to attract and sleep with hotties from Facebook?
Drooling, Slobbering, Salivating, Thirsting, Beasting and openly Hitting on girls via statuses and updates posted by hotties.
Exhibit A: yesterday, a hottie on Facebook posted a pic and status about rearranging her furnitures.
Let the thirst begin!
What was so eye-opening about those comments?
Every guy’s comment got blatantly and purposely ignored but mines. 😉
Also as interesting: my comment was the lamest in the sense that it wasn’t elaborate, wasn’t smooth, wasn’t sexy and wasn’t romantic.
It wasn’t no “I love yous”!
However, the beauty lies in just that: a cheeky comment.
You see, hot girls- women in general- have a sixth sense for spotting bullshit, desperation and neediness in men.
Apart from that, hot chicks also get turned off by men who supplicate and offer their services as in a helping hand.
Take for instance the guy in the screenshot above who commented that he would’ve helped her rearrange her furnitures but she didn’t say anything.
In essence; he’s saying he wants to, and would’ve loved to provide help.
However, his comment was flat out ignored. So again- hot girls are NOT impressed by men who supplicate and provide their service/help when they (the girl) haven’t done anything to deserve the guy’s help.
My comment however, was the only one which had no desperation and thirst on it.
I wasn’t looking to give her a helping hand (supplication of her acceptance).
I wasn’t sneakily trying to get her to invite me over.
I wasn’t complimenting her!
I wasn’t telling her how ripe her boobs are, or how much I’m in love with her!
My comment was dismissive of her hotness: beauty, tits and ass.
Side note: If you want to get a hot girl’s attention (online), disregard her beauty.
Treat her as though she’s an ugly duckling!
How do you achieve this?
Simply by not fawning over her, and not commenting about her beauty or physical assets…just as I strategically demonstrated with my comment which was the only 1 that stood out from the pack of Beta’s.
For shits and giggles, other guys commented after I did. They too got ignored for their lamery and downright neediness. 🙂
Allow me to drill this point home: if an ugly girl, or someone whom those guys weren’t attracted to, were to have posted that status to Facebook, would those guys have acted the way they did by ass-kissing, offering help, saying “I love you”, etc?
Of course not!
Well- why not treat a hot girl like you would an ugly girl then?
Why not comment in a way which totally dismisses yourself as a potential suitor…as I did?
To us pick-up artists – at least the skilled ones like myself- this technique is called a “False Disqualifier”.
It is when you treat a girl whom you truly desire, as though you don’t want her at all.
Instead of outright hitting on her for the world to see, you would elect to not hit on her at all, thus lowering her perceived-social value so she thinks to herself that you- the guy- are the prize, and not her.
Furthermore, whenever you disregard and dismiss a hot girl’s hotness and beauty by not acknowledging her hotness and beauty at all, it makes her feel inadequate and doubtful about her beauty.
You don’t want to tell a hot girl that she’s fucking hot!
Ok- sure you do and can do so- but you don’t want that fact to be out there too early, or the girl gets to feeling that you’re some lame-ass chump who rarely interacts with women of her caliber.
Though this may strike you as contradicting; I often tell hot girls that they are hot!
However, it is the context and timing that make it work whenever I tell a girl on Facebook that she’s hot, opposed from when you say it, and you get flat-out ignored and dismissed.
Sub-communication is key also.
As I mentioned previously, a woman can sense desperation from a mile away.
She has clairvoyant abilities out the ass!
Therefore, when you tell a hot girl on Facebook that she’s beautiful, she instantly gets turned off because she can sense that your comment is either coming from a position of desperation, neediness or lacking.
Now, when I tell a hot girl online that she’s beautiful [which I never ever do BTW: I would say “sexy” instead of beautiful], she doesn’t get turned off because her perceptive abilities sense that I am NOT operating from a frame of desperation, nor was I telling her that she’s beautiful from a position of neediness and low value.
Therefore, context and the vibe you give off are key to attracting women on Facebook.
What you’ll get away with is depended upon what the girl senses from your vibe [“is he desperate or free-spirited ❓ ].
Furthermore, the risk you run by hitting on a hot girl on Facebook, is that doing so would have communicated to her that you aren’t the type of guy who is accustomed to having hot women in his company.
I hinted to this point in the previous article [Fat girls and marketplace value], that if you want a 10, you must first have to be a 10 or act the part of a 10!
In other words, if you’re a guy who’s a 6, for argument sake [personality and lifestyle-wise], in order to snag yourself a girl who’s a 10, you will have to behave like a man who’s a 10!
Tens only get with 10’s…unless you’re a wealthy-old white billionaire who can afford to buy an island! Only then will a girl who’s a 10 take you on board if you yourself isn’t a 10.
Oh- and in 1 other case- you’re a sugar-daddy and are being used for monetary purposes.
However, if you aren’t looking to buy a 10, then you must firstly have to be a 10 or behave like a 10.
For the record- I can’t keep myself from having to have to reiterate the following point: a guy who’s deemed a 10 by women, has little to do with his looks, his face, nor his 6-pac abs!
What makes a guy a 10, or any other # on the attraction and looks scale for that matter, is his personality, attitude and vibe.
Anyways, so how do you attract a 10 in general?
Treat her like a 6 [“False Disqualifier”] while giving her the impression that you are a 10, and that you routinely enjoy the company of women who are 10’s.
In fact, ignoring her hotness will simultaneously give her the impression that you’re accustomed to dealing with hotter girls.
Therefore, it doesn’t take any voodoo-istic charm nor complicated routine in order to get the girl to think that you usually date girls hotter than she is.
The bare-minimum requirement is to simply refrain from hitting on her openly (as via comments on Facebook), restrain yourself from drooling over her pics and selfies, all while turning a blind eye to her hotness.
Listen man, hot chicks know that they are hot!
No need pointing out the fucking obvious!
This is why she doesn’t even pay mind to your comments because you aren’t telling her anything that she hasn’t already heard ad nauseum for the fucking day!
You think you’re the only guy for the day who told her that she’s hot, or that you love her!?
Twenty other chumps already beat you to it! Just as she’d ignored them; she will ignore you!
Telling a hot girl, whether on Facebook or in person, that she’s hot, is essentially saying to her that you aren’t used to talking to girls of her caliber…hence the reason she rejected you because you aren’t in her virtual league.
With that, you must give hot women the impression that hot women, according to your standards, aren’t these frikkin’ idolized goddesses with whom you have minimal to zero contact.
Give her the impression that hot girls come and go!
You wouldn’t go crazy over Masa Toro with caviar if you’re accustomed to eating it [$240 a plate] at Bar Masa in Downtown, Manhattan every weekend, would you?
We humans only go crazy over things that are out of our reach, and which we place high value on…such as a hot girl talking to us, pricey cars, precious jewelry, etc.
However, if you’re accustomed to lavish things, you won’t at all go crazy over them.
The hot girl with perfect boobs, shapely ass and the cutest face, won’t at all excite you, neither will you be propelled to leave kiss-ass comments on her Facebook statuses and pics…as though you never laid eyes on a stunner before!
By the way, this mindset/frame of mines isn’t just applicable to the hottest girls.
You want to adopt this frame of mines with women in general (online especially): regardless of how high or low they register on the proverbial hot meter.
If she’s an HB8; treat her like a 4!
Instead of pointing out how beautiful she is whenever she posts selfies with caption, “I’m so beautiful”, point to something random in her photo which has nothing to do with her looks, and comment on that.
Here’s another tangent that you might not be aware of: women often post photos and statuses to Facebook in order to fish for attention and validation from men.
They want guys to scoop their poop!
Ironically, the guys who fall for this bait and do comment something lovely and complementing, are almost always the ones to get rejected by the girls who were coyly baiting them to praise them in the first place!
On 1 hand: women do want the praise and validation whenever they post stuff. But they get turned off by the guys who actually offer those validating words.
It isn’t that women are confused bitches who don’t know what they want.
More so, men are the problem, as we fed into the media and pop-culture hype and lies about what women really want in a man.
Coupled with that, are parents (mothers primarily), who at a tender age, feed their sons garbage about how women are queens and should be treated likewise.
I have no qualms with girls being princesses and queens and demanding to be treated as such! But dammit- boys are princes and kings by virtue of equity, and we demand to be treated as such…that’s if women want to be treated like royalty!
Let’s be fair about it! And that is the problem with mothers and the western media; they pump the “treat women like princesses” rhetoric, yet they forgot to mention that boys/men should also be treated like royalty.
Anyway, at the end of the day, women are NOT looking to have their poop scooped, and they are NOT looking to be treated like queens! Because at no point in human history, women on a whole as a gender, was treated like royalty.
If you’re in doubt as to my claims that women were always the subordinates to men: you can simply consult the Bible or the Quraan if you subscribe to the religious philosophies.
With that, because women in human history aren’t used to being pedestalized and deified like goddesses, they don’t know how to act accordingly if a guy were to treat them as such.
This is why whenever you treat a girl (too) nicely, ingratitude quickly sets in and she takes you for granted and subsequently treats you like disposable goods.
We’re all all-too-familiar with the cliché, “Nice guys finish last”.
As cliche as it is: there are lots truth to it…and most quote unquote nice guys can attest to this [I was also a nice guy].
Women aren’t fucking over badboys or taking advantage of guys who aren’t taking care of their every need.
They’re only screwing over so-called good guys. And this is because women don’t want to be spoiled rotten by men. And even if she verbally claims that that is what she wants, chances are, she won’t know how to manage it, therefore she would screw it all up by taking the nice guy for granted, cheat on him and subsequently dump him.
In light of the mouthful I said about women historically aren’t accustomed to praise-worthy treatment from men, you should now get an even more clearer picture of why women on Facebook often repel men who openly laud them with praises and direct compliments.
You want to give off the impression that communication with women of her caliber is customary for you.
You cannot appear to genuinely give off this impression if you’re drooling over women’s pics and statuses!
That is NOT the way in which a guy with options behave!
You must be able to walk through a den of lions and keep your cool…at least on the surface!
Learn to harbor an “I can take it or leave it” attitude.
Women find that interesting and appealing!
Personally, I’m so accustomed to sleeping with random hotties (from Facebook) that I can take it or leave it. Not only do I embody and exude this belief; but I live it.
I will talk more about this in a subsequent post.
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