3 Mantras That Should Drive You To Approach That Girl-Next-Door

Having approach issues about stepping to that girl-next-door?

Well- here are 4 ways to mentally psyche yourself up to the task at hand.

Before I begin, I just want to point out that during my earlier years of pickup, I had to psyche myself up to approach any woman, just as the case with most of us at the pre-intermediary stage of the game.

My little mantras were as followed:

• “She could get married tomorrow”

• “She could move tomorrow”

• “I may never see her again for some reason”

• “I may die tomorrow in some freak accident”

As hypothetically driven as you may be inclined to believe that these mantras are, they are pretty much practical and rooted in reality on an everyday basis.

The girl whom you’ve been eyeing may very well have been in the process of moving.

Her boyfriend could randomly propose marriage to her tomorrow as means of salvaging a damaged relationship.

For crying out loud; there’s a real chance of getting struck by a bus on your way to work tomorrow.

There’s no incentive to keep putting it off unless you’re being strategic by building attraction bit by bit over time.

However, if your dereliction to approaching the girl stems from approach anxiety, then you ought to get moving at once!

Once you put things into such a perspective where a sense of urgency is born, finally approaching that girl-next-door would become less scary.

Moreover, this should become your frame regardless of the situation, and regardless of whether this girl literally lives next door and she’s someone whom you see regularly, or someone on whom before you’d never laid eyes.

Music also carries that state-building power which helps to propel you into action.

We all have our favorite songs, or at least know of some songs which gets us pumped and hyped and ready to take on whatever and whomever!

As a newbie in pickup, soaking up game on the MPUA forum, we were taught and advised to listen to state-pumping music before hitting in field, as means of boosting our state, energy and vibe.

Along with that, we were also encouraged by the advanced guys to get in front of a mirror and recite some mantras before doing day game (approaching up women on the streets).

Saying all that to say, these little drills and exercises go a long way in getting you psyched up for the task of approaching women.

Quite frankly, at a mastery level which I have since attained, I no longer have to psyche myself up to approach any chick.

No longer is there a need to give myself an internal pep talk about the importance of going now before my chance slips away.

However, if I were you, and struggling with approach-anxiety issues when it comes to approaching the OYD (Object of Your Desire), I would motivate myself into action by being mindful of the following realities:

• “She could get married tomorrow”

• “She could move tomorrow”

• “I may never see her again for some reason”

• “I may die tomorrow in some freak accident”

“7 Ways To Become Social With Women” [Free E-Book Reposted]

Hey guys, I’m quite impressed at how motivated you are to meet women.

Over the weeks, I’d gotten a few e-mails from pertaining to my 2nd. free-book, “7 Ways To Become Social [With Women]”, which I’d published some time ago.

What actually happened as to why you might not have been able to locate it on the site [plus some dead links are to blame] is because of an inadvertent blunder I’d made while shuffling around some stuff on the site and tweaking things here and there.

Until I get it rectified where I can place the book back into the sidebar, you can download it directly from the temporary link below.


Click to access 7-ways-to-become-social-with-women.pdf

I See Shyness As The Main Thing That Keeps Guys From Getting Laid

Shyness is a social conditioning and probably the reason you aren’t getting laid!

I have a male coworker who possesses the following attributes:

• About 21 years old

• 6’3 in height

• Slim built

• Very good looking

• Has super swagger in mannerism

…Yet he doesn’t get laid…testament of his v-card which he still holds.

This dude has zero reason whatsoever why he shouldn’t be slaying lots of pussy!

He’s society’s ideal of male beauty: tall, dark, young and handsome…very inviting smile and welcoming personality.

The fact that he falls into the nice-guy bracket is another story for another time as to why he doesn’t get laid.

Ok, so after closely examining his dilemma from our many discussions on the subject of women and hooking up, it became readily apparent that the primary reason for this guy not getting laid, is his shyness…nice-guy vibe aside.

The thing that always puzzles me about shy guys is their apparent detachment from the reality of why they suck with women and dating.

They never seem to realize that their most OBVIOUS sticking-point is SHYNESS!

With this being the case, no matter how many techniques and tweaks a guy like myself can provide them [Outer Game]; the techniques still won’t profit them if they’re unable to break out of that shell of shyness.

In my entire years of teaching pickup, I’ve yet to meet a shy guy who realized and admitted that his pitfall with women was his shyness.

I get the impression that most men (the shy types especially), are expecting women to approach them to break the ice.

How do I know that this is the prevailing impression of shy guys?

My coworker in question constantly laments about women not being social and appearing stuck-up.

He arrived at that conclusion [women are stuck-up] because girls aren’t approaching him in spite of his good looks.

Though I never personally give him tips on how to go about meeting women. But even in his presence, I’m constantly approaching and chatting up strangers while we’re out on lunch and tea breaks.

Thus, this guy has more than enough evidence as to why he sucks [shyness] and what he needs to do to get positive results [approach].

Have No Shame In Your Game That You’re Hitting On Women [the article]

Social anxiety is a bitch!

Probably the main thing that keeps guys from coming out of their protective shell, is the fear of social pressure: “others will see and hear me chatting up women”.

Fear of being seen and heard by others in eye and ear-shot, is what deters most men from opening their mouths in the first place while in public settings.

Being naturally introverted to a fault, I used to suffer terribly from this shit also!

When I first got into Pickup, this was arguably 1 of my biggest hurdles and sticking-points which stymied my progress tremendously.

When I seen a girl whom I was attracted to and wanted to meet, fuck and possibly date, I would talk myself out of it- not because I didn’t have the perfect opener for the situation- but that I was ultra-fucking preoccupied with what people would think of me chatting up women.

With the advent of the “10 hours walking NYC” video, the fact that in America today, as I’d written about earlier in the year, there will come a time when men will be shamed and ostracized for looking at women, let alone to chat them up on the streets.

Not only will we men risk their social status of being labeled pervy and sleazy, but a (sexual) harassment charge will be possible…merely for checking out a girl’s package.

This further heightens the hysteria and drive men deeper into their shells as the risk of chatting up women will have been too risky to attempt.

Therefore, just another reason why men are afraid to be heard and seen hitting on chicks.

Personally, I don’t mine the social stigma of being called a perverted sleaze-ball.

I own it because I’m a real fucking man with giant balls of ‘IDGAF’.

However, most men aren’t quite ready to risk their prestige (which they don’t have nevertheless) without concrete evidence as to why they should chat up strangers.

As for now that chatting up women is still lawful, there’s no excuse to not do so.

The reality about others hearing or seeing you game women, is that no one really gives a fuck.

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