Days ago, I friend requested a busty-looking MILF who caught my attention as I scanned through the friend-suggestion field on my feed.
Few days later (about 2-3 days ago), she inboxes me with the following.
Note: Whenever a girl goes out of her way to message you, asking if you know her, it is usually an SOI [Sign Of Interest]. There is interest there on her part. But she just uses the fact that we don’t know each other, as a way to open me. 🙂
Let’s just run right through the screenshots in the interest of time.
The chat proceeded with the preliminaries.
Okay, so what was happening here?
A battle of frames.
I set the frame that I’m the prize and she’s the one seeking my time, and by letting her know when we go out, I don’t want any surprises.
Which guy says this to a hot girl, but a guy who’s in demand and sees himself as such [the prize].
Was this girl interested in me however?
This is indicative of numerous factors, inclusive of the fact that she kept saying she doesn’t want a relationship with someone who’s taken.
Well- I never told her that I was looking a relationship to begin with.
In fact- as you’d seen- I told her I am in a relationship already.
Hence, this eliminates the idea that I am trying to become her boyfriend.
That is frame control, or in essence, me stealing the frame/play away from her.
She insinuated that my interest in her was to become boyfriend-girlfriend.
I set that fallacy aright!
Note: women will often do this with guys whom they are interested in [push the boyfriend frame].
I clearly and strategically countered this by instantly shooting down the relationship aspect, and by setting the “meet up for drinks” frame.
Therefore, it became clear to her that I wasn’t looking to become her boyfriend, but to go out (or date) instead…with an aim for sex at the end of the night. 😉
What would most guys have done when the girl mentions relationship?
If they were single, they would try to convince the girl that they are worthy of a relationship with her. Or, if they were taken already (the men), they would lie to the girl and say that they are single, in order to convince the girl that they are worthy of a relationship with her.
Both angles are flawed and based on lies.
I don’t lie to women. Hence why I told her that I do already have a GF, so I’m only interested in hanging out with her.
Now, another thing I want to point out is this: she is a random girl whom I’m only speaking to for the first time. Yet, she’s already insinuating that she would want to date me, given away by the fact that she even asked, “Why do you want to get in another relationship when you’re already in a relationship”?
With all that being said, it is crystal clear that this girl is attracted to me [my vibe], but she’s hesitant because of some cruel guy in her past…allegedly (though this is why she’s attracted to me, because I give off a carefree bad boy vibe from my posts).
Additionally, she asked me where do I live.
Note #3: whenever a girl asks on her own volition, “where do you live”, it is usually an IOI/SOI [Indication Of Interest]…99% of the time.
The only how this isn’t so, is if you had asked her first, and by means of social protocol, she returns the question by asking you also, “so where do you live”.
As you clearly seen in the screenshot above; I never asked about where she stays. She cold-asked me…which means she’s interested.
In addition to that, the most telling sign of her interest, was when she said, “So…where do we go from here”, which was a question to my mention of having a girlfriend.
That was another huge yet subtle IOI.
Now- will I pursue it [meet up for drinks]?
It all depends.
By all means; this cougar is totally fuckable [pictured below]!
Being that I’m an ardent tit-man, and this chick has a big-juicy rack, it’s without a doubt that I would lay her in a heartbeat! But again- too many options.
Guys, you need to realize that I pick up TONS of women on a weekly basis!
There isn’t enough time in a day or week for me to bang the amount of girls I pick up, and am able to pick up within a week’s time.
On a bad week, I’m picking up [#-closing] like 8 girls on Facebook alone, coupled with the fact that I pick up girls on the streets while running errands at work, including the girls I pick up from night game (clubs and bars).
On a good-good week, I’m liable to pick up like 15 girls on Facebook [all random strangers]- that is by getting their phone numbers while setting up a rendezvous- to having to work the process of elimination since I simply cannot realistically meet up with 15 girls during the same week.
I got netflix and chill meetups, and dates, backed up from about 2 months ago with chicks who are DTF!
It just isn’t humanly possible for me to keep up with, nor meet up with every girl I pick up online or in person.
There’s a huge backlog I have to deal with [quality and quantity problem I would say 😉 ]. Hence, I always have to reign myself in, and to remind myself that it isn’t practical to keep picking up girl after girl, day after day, which only adds to the already backlog from 2 months ago.
Additionally, I do have a DTF policy of sorts, where I meet up with the most apparent DTF girls, instead of wasting time on the girls who are maybies.
For instance, hypothetically, let’s say that I picked up 10 new girls this week from Facebook, by swapping #’s with the rendezvous planned [I’m just using “10” as an example…though it’s usually more].
Those 10 get added to the previous 10 from the previous week, included the 10 from the week prior to that.
Therefore, those are 30 girls picked up within 3 weeks.
Of those 30, if I happened to pick up another girl today, but she’s extremely DTF, I would likely prioritize her in front of the 30 girls whom I’d met before her, and seek to meet up ASAP.
It’s a delicate situation with trying to balance and handle the numbers here.
Saying all that to say, it is for that reason (the backlog of girls), why I abruptly discontinued the chat with the hot cougar, not even trying to grab her # (which would’ve been a given), neither to set up a date, although I told her that I would send a taxi to pick her up since she doesn’t drive, whenever the time to meet would’ve arrived.
I am learning, at least trying to learn, to not pick up every hot skirt I come across on Facebook who lives in my town or the surrounding areas. 😦 But as an ardent pick-up artist: this proves to be challenging.
What I hope you will have taken away from this post are 2 things:
1.) Whenever your online posts reflect that of someone who’s the prize with women, not only will women indirectly chase you (since they can’t do it outright for starters), but they [your posts] facilitate your chances altogether
2.) Be mindful of framing and frame control. If a girl likes you, she will at times try to push you into the boyfriend/relationship frame. Why is this a bad thing? She will make sex a drawn-out process, and make you wait 4-5 dates before allowing sex to happen. By eliminating the BF/relationship frame as I did [or anyhow for that matter], and making “date” or “meetup for drinks” the only aim, the girl is robbed of trying to drag out sex and stall it altogether on you.
I’ll keep you fellaz updated with this cougar.
Chances are; she’s going to hit me up again on FB, wondering why I haven’t pursued things.