Eradicating “Fillers” To Become Better At Conversing

What are some common (verbal) fillers?


“You know what I’m saying”?

“You know what I mean”


“So basically”

“Or whatever”

“You feel me”?

Imagine being at that coveted-job interview which you’ve been dying to get for years now.

Fillers will fucking kill you!

The quickest way to not get hired is to be brimming with nervous energy and filling every awkward moment with fillers.

Weird thing about fillers is that the speaker really doesn’t notice he or she is using them.

It’s so auto-piloted that we aren’t consciously aware while in the heat of conversation.

Thanks to fellow-PUA junior instructor, Enthalpy, the guy behind the Squattin’ Cassanova blog, he had actually called me out on my use of fillers which I was remotely aware of prior to being put on the spot.

Since then, I’d reduced my conversational fillers more than 60% to where I’m using 5 fillers per dialogue…which is very good.

Why do we even use fillers in the first place?

It’s pretty self-explanatory; fillers are used to fill gaps of impending silence.

What causes fillers?

Nervous energy and anxiety especially around people of perceived-higher value: an interviewer, a CEO, a president, doctors, judges, police officers, etc.

It stems from nervousness and awkward moments where you’re anxious.

We all use them!

Some of us use them after every statement:

For example, the guy who after every comment says, “You know what I’m saying”?

Not that he’s awaiting an answer, but he’s filling the gap and potential nervous silence by using fillers.

Seems innocent but it’s fucking annoying to the listener!

We can’t logically eradicate all fillers. After all, they can make conversation flow more smoothly [as long as used without nervousness].

The following common fillers are ok (sparingly):



“Ok cool”

We can’t literally have a conversation without any fillers.

However, Fillers are bad when used awkwardly and with the wrong persons.

You don’t want to be in the company of dignitaries or a possible employer and your dialogue goes like this [awkward fillers are in red]:

“So I figure that I can help the company do better, you know? Aaaaaaam, I really like this company stands for, basically I’m the guy for the job. Aaand we can do a lot better with someone as driven as I am on the team. So anyway… my resume highlights all of that, you get what I’m saying?

As I said, fillers are unavoidable, but the more you cut down the usage of them, the better you’ll sound and come across to people.

Watch the following video to find out how I damn near eradicated nervous fillers from my conversations.

The Power Of Association; How To Really Network Your Way Through Life!

This is a lost art or 1 which has been cast aside by our generation.

“The Power Of Association”!

When it comes to lifestyle upgrades and flexing your association muscles; this wing of the pick-up community is seen as an advanced level of Game which newbies have a hard time executing.

Just 5 days ago, I was contacted by a female CEO of a huge firm with a job proposition for me here on island.

We set up a meeting at her plush office where we parlayed the finer points of the job offer: great wage, pays weekly, 5 days a week (weekends off), supervisory position, my own office [not a cube], given a grand tour, etc…

I’m sold!

The most striking quote from the meeting was when she said:

“We thought that you’d be the best guy for the new post”.

Personally, I don’t know why she’d thought that, but I wasn’t gonna frikkin’ argue here LOL!

Long story short: I accepted the new job and will commence tomorrow [Monday].

I will later share the juicy yet weird details of how this all materialized.

Working The Right People

I’m no condescending guy!

You can’t be truly social yet condescending in the same package [a huge oxymoron].

After all, my pseudonym “Social” Kenny didn’t arise out of snobbery.

I advocate “Talking to everyone”; little, big, small, pretty, ugly, important, insignificant, old, young, hot, bitchy, homeless, whatever!

So I’m definitely not advocating for any reader to insulate him or herself into a world where they only chat with people of importance and social value.

However, that is a key component to “working the man”.

As a Pick-Up Artist, we’re virtually grabbed by the nuts and forced to becoming social, to the point that we can approach the hottest girl @ the bar and blow her the fuck away…figuratively speaking!

This seemingly frightening ability is also transference to job searching, networking and business.

Making An Impact On The Right People [Association Skills]

One reason why it’s great to “talk to everyone”, is that you never know whom you’ll come across.

That tackily-dressed guy at the supermarket may just be most important guy you will have ever met.

That elderly-looking lady struggling with her grocery bags, whom you could’ve given a hand, might have been the president of a huge firm which is looking to fill some vacancies.

Boston man helps old lady cross the road

Boston man helps old lady cross the road

How about that guy you could’ve struck up a convo with while waiting on line for your cup of latte?

He could well be just another schmuck! Or maybe a promoter @ a high-end nightclub who could get you in for free every night if you desire.

What the hell am I getting at?

You never want to ruin your chances of advancement in life by sheer ignorance towards others.

You can shoot yourself in the fucking foot just by not saying hi to others.

Making an impact on (the right) people isn’t difficult.

Just be social!

Associating with the right people has a mystically contagious effect.

One day, you could be chatting with the owner of a restaurant franchise, small business owner, a real-state manager, then the ambassador to your country from China or Brazil, etc.

You’ll just be crossing path and (unknowingly) interacting with such characters as if there were a virtual chain linking you to them.

Such occurrences have happened to me many times over the years since assuming the Socialkenny persona.

How Kenny Rolls And Works The System

Wherever I roam, there are 2 striking-characteristical moxies which stick out like sore thumbs: an “Inviting Smile” and “Sociability”!

Most men go about their daily commutes with the following facial expressions: blank, screwed, cold, uninviting, tight puzzled and lost (looking downwards) as if the universe had fucked them over.

In spite of having a shitty-ass start to my mornings, perhaps I burned another tea pot (since I can’t boil water for shit), you will always see a pleasant look on my face as long as I come across others in public settings.

An old lady bogged down with her bags from the grocery store, I’d rarely ever pass her straight without offering her aid or a lift (if driving).

Even if she declines politely (which is rare), my gesture will still be appreciated.

Now, remember the weird situation at the top of this article which landed me the new job?

Here’s the correlation:

A week ago while running some errands in my neighborhood, I came across an elderly-looking lady who was struggling to carry a huge gallon bottle of water.

Everyone else (as expected) since they’re so stuck in their own trance-like states, just passed her straight.

Such blind ignorance towards others just pisses me off, so I said to the lady as we were going the same direction:

“Let me help you with that heavy bottle”.

I didn’t leave it up to debate. I insisted!

She wasn’t gonna decline, so I took the bottle and walked with her and struck up a chat.

At the end of the interaction as we reached her doorsteps, she asked for my name, offered me some cash (which I declined) and we went separate ways.

By the way, this sort of act isn’t done for ulterior-motives on my part.

Even if it is; so fucking what! But it wasn’t.

The power of impacting people and associating with (certain) people is tremendous!

Now, this same elderly lady whom I’d helped that day, turned out to be the CEO of the firm in which I’m now newly employed.

She remembered my name and kept an eye and ear out for me, found me by inquiring, contacted me and the rest is history.

This model, principle and quasi technique is the cornerstone to my upcoming e-book [a 7 step challenge], “7 Ways To Become Social (With Women)”.

7 ways to become social (with women); e-book by Socialkenny PUA

7 ways to become social (with women); e-book by Socialkenny PUA

I do these sorts of things on a daily basis over the past 4 years or so.

I never pass someone and just not say anything.

Guys who are totally fascinated and paralyzed by hot women, make the HUGE mistake of wanting to JUST talk to hot women instead of talking to everyone.

In essence, neglecting to flex their associating, social and networking muscles.

I can already hear guys going:

“But Kenny, isn’t that gonna make me look weird as a 20 year old guy walking and chatting with a 60 year old”?

“Wouldn’t that turn off potential hot girls by making me look like a sleaze-ball who fucks grannies for a living”!?

Get out of your fucking heads guys!

This is all a figment of your warped, socially shot imagination.

No one gives a shit who’s helping the old lady or who has a granny fetish.

Get over yourself!

Just do it!

How To Flex Your Association/Networking Muscles

As I said at the top: you never know whom you’re talking to- so just talk!

If you’re @ a coffee-shop, or let’s say @ a locale like downtown Manhattan where mobile-food vendors are virtually everywhere, instead of mutely waiting on a cup of Joe, strike up a quick chat with the dude standing beside you, or even the vendor or the cashier.

You don’t have to get into an hour-long chat about where you grew up.

Just say, “Hey dude, do they always take this long to serve coffee here”?

He answers, you reply, he replies, get your coffee and go.

If you discover that he’s a guy of some value to you; then feel free to swap #’s, e-mail or cards after the chat.

It’s not homo and it won’t be weird.

You’re not picking him up [assuming you’re straight]!

Also, instead of passing strangers left and right; do the following:

*Give a head nod

*Say hello or what’s up

*Raise your hand in acknowledgment of others (as if throwing up a peace sign)

*Greet people as if you know them

Just fucking say something or gesture something!

Associate yourself with people of perceived importance.

Be seen doing this!

If you’re constantly associating yourself with guys who don’t get laid who don’t have shit going on for them: guess what- you’ll begin to internalize this state of nothingness also.

People Of (Perceived) Importance

No 1 person has more human value or importance than another.

However, perceived-social value is as real as Big Foot!

Just kidding since that was the worst possible example!

My point is well take nevertheless.

The entrepreneur has more social value than the doorman at the Waldorf Astoria.

Don’t ignore the doorman neither just because he’s of less perceived-social value.

On a further note, the average person is scared shit of “The Man” and of people of importance.

We’d rather talk with the middleman than to face the head-honcho.

Not that the middleman or the taxi-driver is more approachable. But we feel as though they’re more on our level.

Well this is bullshit!

And for precautionary measures, don’t do these things with a gain in mind or they will backfire half of the time.

So if you’re chatting with Mark Zuckerberg at a seminar or public event, and your sole aim and angle is to “get a job”; your intentions will seep out which will send red flags of, “Alert, Alert! Another one of those disingenuous job-seekers who’s just being friendly to me to pop the big question. Run run run!!!

Therefore you never want to be talking to people of positions of power and high-social value with a “gain” at the forefront of the dialogue.

It’d turn them off big time!

Just being seen having a dialogue with people of influence is all you need to get by in this fucked-up world!

Don’t beg!

Just associate and socialize with everyone.

Talk to everyone without a tangible gain in mind.

Just as picking up hot women. As we teach in seduction, you don’t want to come off as though you’re angling for something: a #, conversation, sex…

Make it feel as though you’re chatting just for chatting sake ’cause you’re a socially interesting guy.

You’re helping just for helping sake.

The moment people smell “Angle” (ulterior-motives); you’re fucked!

This also ties into working a nightclub by associating with everyone in the venue.

One of those guys you will have chatted to just might be the promoter, owner, the owner’s son, the GM himself or the GM’s daughter…

You get the picture!

This concept and applying it has not only paid dividends for me in the job market, but in dating, pickup, sex, business, @ the bank, @ restaurants, bars and clubs.

Helping the right person and associating with the right people is transferable to almost any aspect of life.

Tomorrow, I’ll be embarking on another job adventure/opportunity which was presented to me by an elderly lady (a CEO) whom I’d helped carry a bottle of water a week ago.

Hence the power of networking and associating with the right people.

Your chances of lucking-up in anything in life is greatly increased with the more people you interact with, say hello to or give a helping-hand.

Landing that gig, job, girlfriend, dream house or fortunes, nowadays comes down to networking and who you know (associates).

Gone are the days where the best-written application, resume, cover letter and stellar portfolio meant that you were winning.

Learn to network the right way and associate with the right people and you’ll be getting ahead in life on little or nothing but a sociable persona.

Related content:

“Infiltrating Social Circles With Alex Kayza”

Check out this episode of the Pickup Podcast Show with AJ and Jordan Harbingers as they interview Alex Kyza, he runs a luxury concierge company out of England, which specializes in networking, working social circles and working your way up the proverbial-food chain in social situations and nightlife venues.

I learned a lot from this single episode years ago as to networking important people [whomever they may be to you].

Need tickets to the Oscars?

Kyza can hook you up by networking with the right people, and show you how to network yourself!

He isn’t a Pick-Up Artist at all, but his tactics and abilities in networking are totally and practically applicable to Game!

Download the 2 part episode in .mp3 format (for free)!

Download “Infiltrating social circles interview with Alex Kyza part 1”.

Download “Infiltrating social circles interview with Alex Kyza part 2.

Read This Before Traveling To The English-Speaking Caribbean Islands

Annual Caribbean Carnival festival held throughout all the islands

Annual Caribbean Carnival festival held throughout all the islands

Thinking about taking that vacation to the English-speaking Caribbean?

Perhaps a Winter getaway [since most travel to the islands during the colder months opposed to the Summer]?

Few pointers about idioms, dialect and colloquialisms of the Caribbean which will come in mighty handy.

Regular followers of this blog would’ve known that I’m based in the Caribbean islands during 3/4’s of the year. And that I’m actually from the islands [by birth], however immigrated with parents to the U.S. [NYC] at the age of 8.

While here on island though, I actually do some part-time work with the Foreign Affairs department, so I’m constantly interacting with tourists, transients, travelers and newly immigrated families.

Last week while running some day-game pickup, I was invited to have a beer with some Canadian fellas who just arrived that day.

One of them said to me:

“Hey Kenny, I went to the supermarket and asked for a certain item and I was given funny stares by the girls at the registers and the ones stacking the shelves. All I asked for was water man”!

I LOL’d then broke it down to him as to the (negative) connotations.

Thinking about it now, this article is definitely timely as I’ve been getting such inquiries over the past years whenever I’m back here on island.

Here are some terms which will aid you potential travelers in getting by a lot smoother than if you hadn’t known them.

Fore-note: The following terms are applicable in almost the entire English-speaking Caribbean: Jamaica, Antigua and Barbuda, Anguila, Grenada, The Grenadines, St. Kitts and Nevis, St. Vincent, St. Lucia [English-speaking part], English speaking part of Belize [although in Central America], Dominica, Montserrat, Trinidad and Tobago and Guyana [although in South America, Guyana is heavily influenced by Caribbean culture and lingo].

The islands which are somewhat exempt from this list are: Bahamas (Nassau), Bermuda, Barbados, Tortola, St. Thomas, Virgin Islands and St, Johns. However, with the influence of Reggae music from Jamaica over the decades, these terms are becoming commonplace even in those islands.

Bear in mind also: almost all of the following terms and words are apparently English, however they possess and connote totally different meanings as they would in Canada, The U.S. And the UK.

Let’s start off with something pretty benign and seemingly appropriate:

Water: It has a strong-sexual connotation and it references semen (sperm), or female ejaculate.

If a guy were to say to another guy, “I want some water”, he will immediately be chastised as a fag (presuming they’re heterosexual), or punched in the face!

Just as if you enter a grocery store and ask the female cashier if she has any water, she will give you a shocked and annoyed grimace as you’re essentially asking her if she has cum.

Damage-control solution: complete the sentence by asking, “You have any BOTTLE of water”. The simple addition of “bottle”, will negate the sexual connotation completely.

Wife: As innocent and common as this word may seem, it actually means or refers to PUSSY (Vagina).

The words Pussy and vagina are rarely ever used in the English-Caribbean (unless calling someone a pussy as in coward). Wife is the standard way of referring to vagina.

Example, a guy would say, “She gave me the wife last night”, opposed to pussy or vagina.

Likewise, if walking around as a tourist and you loudly talk about “Wife”, the locals will immediately translate that to mean pussy, thus you’ll be looked at as a vulgar bastard!

Solution: Use spouse or partner instead, or perhaps, “This is the girl I’d married”, opposed to saying, “This is a picture of my wife”.

Also, as a man, to say that you have a wife would mean that you have a vagina which would mean you’re a fucking pussy or tranny.

Bud/ Buddy: Typically, a bud would mean a rose bud of some sort, while Buddy would be a pal. However, in the English-speaking Caribbean it means COCK as in Penis:

Dick is totally not used in the Caribbean. You’d hear cock sparingly, but cock generally refers to a rooster more often than to a dick.

You will hear: “Suck my bud”! But never “suck my dick”!

Want to say, “I have a nice dick”, in the islands, they’d say: “I have a nice buddy” or “nice bud”.

Seed: Balls, cojones, testicles.

Seed is a very vulgar word and term as it means testicles (balls).

If you are in need or seeds, make sure that you explicitly make it clear which kind of seeds you’re looking for: sunflower seeds, etc. But to blankly say seed or ask for seed will be misinterpreted as balls (testicles).

Partner: This is the word used for friend or buddy (pal).

The word Friend is used 20% of the times (to refer to a friend). However; “Partner” is more standard and used.

Quart: Quarter, 25 cents.

A quarter or 25 cents in reference to money is never used. Quart or a quart or 4 quartz [a dollar] are used instead.

Drinking or Beverage: Drinks, juices, etc.

Drink or drinks is rarely used to mean something to drink.

Drinking or Beverage are exclusively used and more common. Sodas, bottled juices and even beers would be referred to as “Drinking” or “Beverage”.

Example, “Do you have any Drinking”, instead of “Do you have any drinks”?

Yam or Nyam: Don’t ask me the origin of this word, but legends have it that it’s an African-tribal word which was passed down: meaning “to Eat”.

Eat is used often also, but half of the times, you’d hear people say “Yam” or “Nyam”.

Example: “I’m hungry. I want something to yam right about now”.

Bubbie: Tits or breasts.

Reminds me of boobs and boobies.

Anyway, this word is almost exclusively used in day to day convo, while breast is politically correct and used with elderly folks [just as the word Usted in Spanish instead of tu].

Just as in America you’d never hear a young person say breasts.

In this part of the Caribbean, you’d never hear a young person say breasts neither, but “Bubbie” [unless addressing an elderly person].

Mama and Papa: These do not refer to parents; mother and father, but to grandparents.

Parents are mommy and daddy, but grandparents are strictly mama and papa.

So as a tourist, if you were to say, “I’m his papa”, it’d be interpreted as grandfather instead of dad.

Mate or Maty: This term derived from “Mate” of course, however Mate or Maty means a chick you’re fucking on the side.

So if you were to say to a local, “This is my mate”, you’re essentially saying, “This’ the girl I’m cheating with or having an affair with on the side”.

Brits visiting the islands should avoid using this word totally to avoid gross misinterpretation.

Love instead of Like

The word LIKE is never used (in the sense of the verb). It’s always substituted with LOVE.

However, the comparative preposition “Like” is used: “She looks like her mother”.

You cannot say to a girl, “I like you”. She’ll be offended. I learned this the hard way when I told a girl I like her LOL!

Even if you only like the girl because you just met her yesterday, you cannot use LIKE to express that liking. You must use LOVE. Love is also used in every scenario where you’d use Like [except as a preposition comparative].

Bottom or Batty: Pronounced bat-tee. Meaning ass, butt, buttox.

“Batty” is more used than “Bottom”. Butt however is absolutely NEVER used.

For example: “she got a nice batty” instead of saying “she got a nice butt”.

Ass is used about 20% of the time.

Cook Shop: Restaurant.

Both words are used, but “Cook Shop” is more common.

Shop: Store.

Store is never used. Shop is always used instead, as in: “He went to the “Shop”.

Supermarkets, grocery stores, etc. are called “Shops”.

Bull: Anal sex.

Bull is a very very vulgar word. It’s used as a verb (to bull) and noun (anal sex).

Asking a guy if he bulls is basically asking him if he engages in anal sex (giving or receiving).

So if you’re thinking about riding a bull or buying a redbull, make sure that you be as specific and enunciated as possible.

You don’t want your male taxi-driver on island to get it misconstrued.

Pump: This definitely doesn’t mean a gas pump but to masturbate.

Masturbate, fap, jerking off, wacking off are never used.

Pump is used instead exclusively.

In order to avoid ambiguity or misinterpretation: complete your sentences!

Instead of blankly asking for a pump, it’d be more appropriate to construct a full sentence like, “Do you have a pump so I can put some air in my bike tires”?

Hard-up: Horny and sexually excited.

In spite of the word “Hard”, which usually relates to a man’s cock, the adjective “Hard-up”, also refers to a girl who’s sexually aroused.

Horny isn’t used at all but it’s definitely intelligible and understood.

Trousers: Pants.

Pants is used also, but you’ll hear trousers more frequently.

Cutlass: Machete.

The word machete is never used, and it might not even be understood since it is absolutely never used.

The under 30 crowd may not know what a machete is. Just as a young Canadian or American wouldn’t know what a “Cutlass” is.

Poop: In American lingo, this usually means defecating, to take a shit, etc.

However, in the Caribbean it strictly means to fart (pass gas).

So if you were to say to a local at a resort or anywhere on island, “my son wants to poop”, it’d be interpreted to mean “my son wants to fart”.

To communicate “poo, poop or to take a shit”, use “Poopoo”.

Poopoo is exclusively used to mean defecating or taking a shit, while “Poop” is exclusively used to mean farting or passing gas.

Pickney: Baby (as in infant).

The word baby is used a lot also. It’s a 50-50 split between baby and Pickney when it comes to usage, but it’s very common to hear Pickney used instead of baby…especially in songs [Reggae, Calypso, Dancehall]

Safe: As in out of harm’s way, however it’s used to mean “Good”, nice or OK.

If someone asks you, “How was your night”? Nine out of 10 times, the response will be “Safe” instead of good or ok.

Lyrics: In other English-speaking countries, this would mean song lyrics. In the Caribbean, it means “Sweet-talking” or “Compliments” or chatting up someone.

So a girl would say to a guy, “You’re full of lyrics”. Basically, “you’re full of sweet-talk”.

Tall!: This is used as an interjection opposed to someone’s height. Its equivalent is “Hell No”!

If someone asks you if you like to eat fish, and you’re totally allergic to it, you can say “Tall” instead of hell no!

Hell no isn’t used, but it is understood.

The thing that’s interesting about dialects and colloquialisms is that the same word can mean something totally different in other regions where the same language is spoken. Or words which aren’t used here but used there.

Like in England, they use bloke, mate, bubbly, whilst, all words which aren’t used in America.

Just as in the Caribbean, the following words are used often, although they aren’t used (much) in Canada and America:

Obstinate, nincompoop, hardened (for stubborn), verandah (porch), gallery (porch), latrine (toilet), front-room (living room), meager, belch (burp), numbskull, ,constable (cop), pupil instead of students, just to name a few.

Another interesting point about the spoken-English dialect in the English-speaking Caribbean: pluralization is never used.

Everything is singular!

Pluralization is only implied.

So you’d never hear someone say cars, bottles, houses, schools, men, women, knives, hats…

The s’ and eses are totally dropped.

What they do do instead, is add the objective-personal pronoun “Them”.

For example, cars would be “the car and them”.

Girls would become “girl and them”, etc.

Pluralization with s and es is totally not used [they’re dropped] except in writing.

Just as in any other English-speaking country, written English is always standard and correctly written and taught. However spoken English isn’t spoken as we write: for instance slang terms aren’t written but spoken.

English dialect of the Caribbean is the same: written and taught in a standard manner, but spoken differently with different connotations and insinuations.

So on your next cruise to the islands, you won’t feel completely like a fish out of water once you get abreast with some of the terms I cited in this article.

By the way, some terms and words may vary depended on the island.


Related post:

Antigua and Barbuda: sweet black pussy haven for tourists by Socialkenny.

Socialkenny all-white party for New Years Fail!

“Conquering the language barrier; around the world in 80 girls” by Neil Skywalker.

Pickup Podcast Interview With Matthew Hussey: “Learning Confidnece”

Matthew Hussey

Matthew Hussey

The flu has me paralyzed right now, so I’m not in the condition to write an extended article.

Anyway, this is good interview with the guys of The Art Of Charm and Matthew Hussey, a dating coach, life coach and PUA coach out of London.

Matt however now coaches women in the art of getting the guy, thus the tagline of his blog: Get the

You can check one such articles written by Bossy Moksie: Why a new guy loses interest”.

Overall, MH talks about “Building Natural Confidence” and true confidence so you won’t have to fake it to make it.

Download the episode directly at the following link (in mp3 format): Matt Hussey interview.

American Women Are Shallow Daters…+ A Fat Man’s Guide To Getting Action

Yesterday, I was watching an episode of MTV’s Catfish.

Those who are not au-fait with the show, it’s based on virtual couples who fall in love and get into online relationships with others they haven’t met…without actually seeing each other [years on end].

The common theme which plays out is that 1 person had set up a fake dating profile (or Facebook profile) in order to lead the other person on [by posting photos of someone else or assuming someone else’s identity].

In the most recent episode I’d watched, a guy who calls himself Scorpio, had set up a fake-online profile which he used photos of a male-stripper in order to appear more attractive to unsuspecting women [in this case, a girl named Trina].

In reality, Scorpio isn’t a male-stripper, doesn’t have a 6-pac, and looks totally different than the guy in his online photos.

Now the girl whom he’d Catfished [tricked into believing he was a male-stripper with solid abs], finally met him face to face and was presented with a chubby guy with a pot-belly who couldn’t remotely become a male-stripper even if he puts his life on it.

Lee, who led Trina on into believing her was a ripped male-stripper named Scorpio.

Lee, who led Trina on into believing her was a ripped male-stripper named Scorpio.

Pretty deceptive, but that isn’t my issue here.

Few things from an observational mind [my mind]:

1.) Why should a man believe that he has to lie about his physical appearance to get laid or get a girlfriend?

2.) Why is dating so polarizing in America where if you don’t have a 6-pac, you’re essentially undateable?

Now, I’m not chastising women for wanting fit guys who sport wash-board abs [like what I have].

Socialkenny's hot body

Socialkenny’s hot body

Perhaps the American media is to be blamed for this shallow outlook on dating and mating.

Is the rest of the western world this shallow?

Surprisingly Not!

I find myself liking to make comparisons between regions and nations, so here we go with another comparative reality-check:

In the Caribbean, South America (bar Brazil), Mexico and Central America, the average guy who’s tapping the most ass and getting the most dates are guys with beer-bellies, fat, chubby and out-of shape.

Also the scrawny guys get laid just as much.

Men with solid 6-pac abs and ripped bodies are not getting laid in those regions of the world [not even in the U.S.].

Women of those regions do not put much value on a man’s physique as they do in America.

Therefore, the suicide rate driven by anti-socialization among (young) males is drastically low to non-existent in those regions.

Many suicides and attempted suicide cases by young men in America, is perpetrated by chubby guys who were ostracized by women their entire lives.

Since being big isn’t seen as a social handicap in other regions, guys on the bigger side are generally more sociable, accepted and sought-after.

They aren’t pressured into buffing up and hitting the gym killing themselves in order to get a Mike The Situation body nor to lose 50 lbs.

Guys aren’t pressured into having to create fake-online profiles in order to mask their true identity to attract unsuspecting women.

The average guy who gets laid in South American countries and the wider Caribbean are chubby dudes or scrawny guys with chests as flat as an ironing board!

For the guys out there reading this going, “Kenny you’re just full of shit because you’re some fat out-of-shape guy who’s trying to justify being a fat slob”!

As you can see from this other recent photo of me; I’m very much in shape and I’m ripped on my best days.

So I’m not a fat-insecure guy who’s fed up of not getting dates and shunned.

In spite of having a chiseled-athletic body; it isn’t what gets me laid.

Having a great body yet lacking confidence in your social skills will always sink you.

Having a hot body doesn’t mean you’ll be getting laid (based on that alone).

A chubby guy with decent amounts of skills in social dynamics who knows how to be confident will always beat out the shallow-jacked Guido who relies on looks and his body to attract women.

This also correlates with an article I wrote a while back: “Ugly men get laid more than hot ones”.

Good-looking men generally do NOT get laid [that is- what society deems as good-looking].

These Adonis-looking guys with chiseled bodies are generally very insecure and vain when it comes to appearance. And they cannot hold a decent conversation for shit!

Just like the super model; those girls are the most insecure set of women on the face of the Earth, although they have the most desirable bodies.

So good looks rarely ever translate to a good character and a good person.

Just as the ripped guy; he can at times attract women by sheer physique, but he’s shallow as ever and usually turns off women during the 1st. minute of convo.

Opposed to the overweight fat guy, the perceived-ugly guy and the scrawny guy; they might not have desirable bodies, but a huge number of those guys are hella fucking confident, which is why they get laid more and have more success in dating than the jacked guy.

And I’m not sure if it’s even the media’s fault, because in all of those regions (where fat men are king of poon), they’re still bombarded with infomercials to get ripped, or Americanized TV shows which demonize fat men as undateable.

So the American media realistically isn’t to be blamed.

Perhaps the blame lies squarely on American women who are too shallow-minded in dating, that they’d reject a guy solely because he doesn’t have a jacked male-stripper body.

In the Caribbean and the other regions mentioned, chubby guy on the left would get laid more than ripped guy on the right:

This phenomenon had puzzled the shit out of me for years throughout my travels in Latin America, Puerto Rico and the entire western hemisphere.

In the grand scheme of things, guys who are struggling in the American-dating scene because of weight issues should:

focus on the bigger things, which are self-confidence in your body and comfort in your present skin.

Accept yourself and your body for what it is.

Build an (attractive) social life.

The worst possible thing you can do is to deceive others by creating fake-online profiles, portraying yourself to be a physically fit guy when you’re not.

Also, there’s no need to scurry on down to the gym to try transforming your physique from a Rick Ross’ to a Taylor Lautner’s just to appease shallow women…unless you’re personally desirous to get in better shape.

You can sport the sexiest-male body, but if the mind isn’t in the right place; you’ll still fail with women.

Just walk into a nightclub and scope it out; the men who are getting the most action aren’t good-looking (by society’s standards) nor are they ripped.

They are chubbies with beer-bellies and skinny guys with skeletal physiques.

Conversely, you will be at a disadvantage online however, since most girls look @ a guy’s photo first to then decide if she’ll interact with him.

But forget about online dating. That shit is for pussies and men who are scared to interact mano-a-mano, vis-a-vis with hot girls.

So if you’re overweight, fat or on the chubby side, and are having difficulties competing in the American-dating scene; just focus on building body language, Alpha-male posture, being confident and improving your conversational skills.

Then you’ll be surprised to see that the otherwise shallow chick at the bar is rapping with you instead of a guy with my body LOL!

Oh yea; Fuck the marketers who want to get rich off of you by promising that if you purchase their products, you’ll lose a zillion lbs. in the first few hours!

Even if it does work; you’ll still be that insecure-fat guy on the inside who believes that looks is the magic bullet to bang-ville.

Lastly, take a page out of my cousin’s book.

With his consent, I’m posting the following pictures of him below.

My favorite cousin, Dj Daddy Nate, NYC DJ since the late 1980's [the age of 16].

My favorite cousin, Dj Daddy Nate, NYC DJ since the late 1980’s [the age of 16].

My cousin’s an NYC DJ since the age of 16.

He’s well renown in the Reggae and Hip-Hop circles throughout New York City.

As you can see from the picture; he’s huge in stature and body!

But he’s even more fucking HUGE in confidence like no other guy I’ve ever known!

Throughout his bachelor years as a DJ, he was getting laid more than any other guy around.

This dude has been banging chicks of every nationality since the 80’s!

I recall numerous times when I was like 8 years old [in 1989], he would bring chicks back to the apartment [I was staying with his parents then], and while banging them, he would coerce me to fondle their tits and ass LOL!

He actually aided me in getting my virginity taken many many years later.

Was it the fact that he’s a DJ that made him so confident and got bitches left to right?


He’s just naturally confident and doesn’t see his size as a handicap.

Being a DJ did flip the attraction switch for him and made him more desirable, but it was ultimately his positive vibe, energy and humor which got him laid like a Rockstar.

To this day, he’d joke with me that “women love fat men to cuddle with like teddy bears”.

He really fucking believed this!

This belief system of his [that he was the most desirable guy around despite his size], made him appear more attractive to women (on a subconscious level).

This is what we call “Rock-Solid Inner Game” in pickup!

His humor, laughter and energy are contagious as fuck!

So that’s why I’m encouraging every big guy out there to work on:




•Social vibing

•Positive energy

And you’ll be amazed at how much ass you’ll be tapping into, while the buff, ripped guy with the male-stripper body is left to go home alone masturbating.

And this hearkens back to a saying of mines: “Self-confidence beats the shit out of good looks any day of the week”!

Work on your inner-game [confidence, humor…] first, and outer-game [body] last!

Dj Daddy Nate

Dj Daddy Nate

How To Get The Best Out Of PUA [guest post by dating coach Steve Jabba]

Steve Jabba

Steve Jabba

Steve Jabba is on my top instructor list of 2012, a PUA in London.

He’s the natural who actually originally trained Richard La Ruina (Gambler). Became known for his kiss close video.  Website is here: Authentic PUA.

The PUA industry is a little bit shady to say the least. For a long time the No1 skill required by an aspiring PUA was the ability to market himself, and sell the “one weird trick” dream – a magic pill approach that will suddenly bring reams of horny 10s straight to your dick.

As Krauser writes in his post, the dream sold is that if you can just get your “technique sorted”, and throw in some clever routines, that’s all you need and nothing else to get the hottest women consistently. The problem is, it’s an easy sell…and easy to teach…but it doesn’t work.

As I have written before, what you need is to work on your own value:

Mindset And Beliefs
Physical appearance and fitness
Handling your emotional state
Becoming centered and happy / building self esteem.

And a ton of other things. It’s a hard slog, it requires great determination, faith in the process, intellect, a willingness to learn, a willingness to make a dork of yourself (on occasion), and a willingness to get slapped around emotionally.

It’s a journey.

So if you are thinking about engaging the services of an instructor, you would do well to ask yourself the following questions:

 Does the company have CONVINCING infield footage? Remember, it is easy to get numbers, to make girls laugh. Not so easy to get them turned on and relating to you as a sexual being.

 Does the company have posts written about holistic self improvement (with a “game” bias), or is it just mostly guff about tactics and techniques?

 Do other trustworthy, non biased people vouch for them (ask around on PUA Forums) – but beware what I have written in the linked article above!)

 Generally speaking – when you look at the guy, on videos etc – does he strike you as the kind of dude who gets laid with hot women? Is he relaxed? Non gamey? The best guys with women DON’T get into the community! You’re looking for guys as normal as possible, not gamey weird PUA types.

 Do they actually appear to like women? A strange one I know..But scratch the surface of a lot of manosphere / PUA types and you can sense the misogyny.

 Do they talk about screwing woman after woman after woman? This gets OLD and is an empty existence. If a guy is doing this over a number of years, there is a good chance there is something wrong with him. Why can’t he keep any of these girls around? Do you really want advice from a guy like this?

 Do they view the ability to pull women as a big deal? A guy who is truly good with women has this as just another part of his reality. It’s no big deal. The ones who talk loudest about it can safely be ignored!

Dig around under the bonnet… Caveat Emptor.

Related article

Steve of Authentic PUA makes out with random girl on the streets [in-field video].

Kenny’s Night-Game Adventure: “Feeling on your booty [in-field video]

*[Days ago, I cooked up an idea for an in-field video project [Kenny’s Night-Game Adventure] where I’d be recording some physical escalation on random women I come across while out @ night running game.

The point of it all is to demonstrate to guys out there that you can push the envelope and get forward.

As long as you can read body language, eye contact and sub-communications, it’d all go smooth.]

Last night [Thursday], I had an intense cravings for a late-night snack, so decided to hit up an outdoor fast-food joint at 11 PM [this is after doing some grueling night-game pickup the entire evening].

Soon as I stepped in the joint, this HB8 hot-black girl with a firm-bubble ass locked eyes with me.

I mean, this chick had a super nice porn ass to die for [she was about 5’1 though].

I instantly struck up a convo and banter [abiding by the old 3 Seconds Rule of pickup].

I sat down at a distance from her, and a minute later, she came and stood right in front of me while waiting for her pizza [I think it was pizza]!

I mean blatantly got up from her seat 20 yards away to stand literally in front of me in proximity where I can have physical access to the booty.


That is a HUGE fucking IOI/SOI (indicator/sign of interest) and a green light for me to escalate.

So I took the camera out and started recording while I touch up her ass [however most of this wasn’t captured].

I kept caressing her calves and the back of her thighs (covertly) out of the view of other patrons in the joint [to avoid activating her ASD].

She never reacted negatively (as you will see).

She actually kept looking back @ me chuckling and smiling.

As she was leaving, she jokingly said to me, “You almost made me fall over”.

This is called balls and a fearless approach to interacting with hotties.

If a sexy girl covertly does something to get your attention; take fucking advantage and have a little fun!

Escalate, KINO and give her that physical and sexual attention she craves.

Grow some balls and be a man!

Don’t waste your time collecting phone numbers [during night game especially when women are sexually charged].

Focus on pushing things far as allowed.

I enjoyed the sexual tension and flirtation that went on.

I had the options to fully escalate by walking her outside and start tonguing her down and probably fuck her somewhere.

But I was spent and burnt out from sarging and doing day game all day [since 7 AM].

It’s very easy to get lazy.

Anyway, the lesson overall is to ESCALATE, TOUCH, PUSH, PULL, BUMP, GRIND, SLAP, SPANK, KISS…

Women mainly only become offended when you do such forward things as if you’re doing something wrong.

But if you do them with a sense of “this is normal. I’m doing nothing wrong”, she will most likely excuse the forwardness and actually enjoy it [from my experience].

Of my many years in seduction, I’ve only been slapped once for being a fresh and forward, rude-sexual pig. And that’s only 1 in 1,000 times [great frikkin’ ratio LOL]!

Here’s a short in-field video clip of my boy Jayshizzo doing some pickup [in the background].

The interaction isn’t audible, but what I respect most about this, is that he had the balls to approach a chick who has a banging body and an equally banging face.

That is the most important step [the first step] into becoming a shameless rockstar with the hotties!

Check out the PUA acronym and term page to familiarize yourself with the lingo used on this website

The real-deal truth about PUA bootcamps, the PUA Summit and KTLA news fail [in the views of Johnny Wolf]

Every now and then, I come across an interesting yet controversial community article worthy of posting on my blog.

Sort of my way of getting my fix of seduction-community drama [which I’m no stranger to].

In this article, Johnny Wolf takes some covert shots and digs at fellow guru VK Vince Kelvin.

I wonder how this sort of politics will play out among the community in the following weeks as others catch whiff of Johnny Wolf’s pokes.

[Article written in December, 2012 by Johnny Wolf of The Social].

“The real deal truth about PUA bootcamps, the PUA Summit and KTLA News Fail”

Johnny Wolf, PUA guru instructor, founder of the PUA Summit

Johnny Wolf, PUA guru instructor, founder of the PUA Summit

There are some things I know about Bootcamps and the community that I never said publicly, but here it is.

The Truth about the PUA Summit:

Here’s the raw deal about the PUA Summit.

The reason why I first started it was because I wanted to meet all of the legends of pick up without having to spend $2,000 to take their bootcamps.

I was very proud to go on the hunt looking for the best teachers in the world and bring them to one place.

David Wygant

David Wygant

In 2007, before the PUA Summit no one in the community ever heard of David Wygant until I discovered him and brought him in.

In 2008, I discovered AFC Adam Lyons and introduced him to the U.S.

AFC Adam Lyons, PUA guru instructor out of London

AFC Adam Lyons, PUA guru instructor out of London

However for every amazing speaker and coach at the PUA Summit, I also allowed some really shit guys to speak.

Here’s the truth behind it.

PUA Summit gathering

PUA Summit gathering

Some of the guys, I didn’t know were shit. They had great reputations, and it wasn’t until they were on stage did I realize they were full of bullshit.

Other guys that my partner found, I had never heard of.

Some of them turned out to be fantastic and others not so much. But the real reason why I never did any quality control is because I wanted people to see for themselves before they invested in the speaker’s products or bootcamps.

I figured that by the audience meeting the guru in person, and seeing them speak back to back with others you’d be able to figure out quite quickly who’s legit and who’s not.

Unfortunately, and I apologize for this, some guys, especially newbies, couldn’t tell the difference and got pulled into the speaker regardless.

Also we weren’t the first.

There was one in 2004 called the LA PUA Summit organized by Herbal aka Tynan from “The Game” [the PUA Bible].

Then in 2004, 2005 and 2006 there was the Cliff’s List Convention in Canada.

Vince Kelvin and I started the PUA Summit together in 2007 and hosted it 2008, 2009, 2010 and 2011 together.

Now there are tons of PUA Conventions across the U.S. and the world including The 21 Convention, and the PUA Super conference hosted by Love Systems, and now there is the Ultimate Pick Up Convention.

Working with Vince Kelvin:

VK Vince Kelvin, PUA guru instructor

VK Vince Kelvin, PUA guru instructor

I can see why Vince gets a lot of shit from people and creates lots of enemies. He’s wild, emotional, and really really out there.

He also uses crazy marketing tactics. However, Vince has never done me wrong.

He’s never screwed me over, and he’s never lied about anything.

He is also one of the few instructors in the pick up community that isn’t afraid to put his balls on the line and approach and demonstrate, anywhere and everywhere.

Nobody is perfect, and I don’t necessarily want to associate my name with someone that wild, but when it comes down to it, I have nothing bad to say about VK and as far as I know, he gives his students tons of value for their money in his live programs.

Like literally, he’ll take guys out in field for 12 hours straight.

That’s the reason why Jack the Ripper, JTR never had anything bad to say about Vince until recently.

He knows that Vince Kelvin took him under his wing when he was starting out.

The story behind the SoCal lair and Casanova Crew:

I started the So-Cal Lair in 2006 because there wasn’t an active lair in Southern California when I got into the community.

All we had was an old Yahoo Group that was no longer maintained.

The So-Cal Lair became the biggest Lair in California and was one of the biggest in the world.

A few years later, some of the members of So-Cal Lair including JTR, Jack the Ripper started the Casanova Crew.

At that time I had started traveling a lot to teach bootcamps with the ABCs of Attraction and Asian Playboy and didn’t have time to run the lair.

I ended up moving out of California and really didn’t have incentive or time to maintain it.

The SoCalLair has been dead for a few years now.

Money, Marketing, and Pick Up, here’s the truth.

Pick Up has become a business for many people, including myself for a number of years, it was my full time job. Because money is involved you have to watch out.

The messed up thing about the PUA Community and what makes it confusing is that there is a lot of life changing, amazing things mixed in with a lot of bullshit that doesn’t work and is only there to make money.

Marketing: All marketing is bullshit, any website that says, “this product is only available for 24 hours”, or any speaker that says to you, “I’m going to give you 2 weeks of free access to my vault” is all trying to trick you into buying their products.

However, sometimes people need to be tricked into buying something they really need and will benefit from.

Things like the George Foreman Grill, NutriBullet, Ninja Chopping System, and booked like the 4-Hour Workweek and 4-Hour Body all have crazy marketing schemes to make us open our wallets, but at the end of the day, their products work and make our lives better, so why not?

The bad thing however is not wasting your money on the bullshit crap that doesn’t work.

PUA Fail on the KTLA Morning News:

Bro, that shit was embarrassing. The honest truth is we were all nervous as shit and I think the show wanted to make all pick up artists look like idiots.

That’s really about it, we were all just super fucking nervous from being in front of the cameras and TV crew.

Completely Made Up Pick Up Techniques: There is a lot of this out there.

Some are made into $300 products, but most are found online for free.

The problem isn’t just the money, but learning things that don’t work make you even worst off than not knowing anything at all, it makes you creepy.

The problem is figuring out what is legit and what’s not.

The best way is only take advice from guys that you’ve met in person.

You can usually tell if someone is full of shit or if they are genuine by meeting them.

PUA Bootcamps – A Waste of Money or the best thing you’ve ever spent your money on?

Matador leading bootcamp

Matador leading bootcamp

Here’s the really confusing thing about bootcamps.

There are hundreds of reviews online about pick up bootcamps, some of them say they are life changing and the best money they ever spent. While other reviews say it was rip off or a waste of money.

Then there are the ones that were never written at all, some guys got so much out of it, they found a girlfriend and never posted on a forum ever again.

And some guys felt so stupid after wasting $3,000 on a bootcamp, they quit the community and never got better.

So what the fuck is the truth?

Well let’s start with what the three main benefits of a bootcamp actually are and why for some people, it really does change their lives.

1. You learn the system of pick up. The difference between learning in a bootcamp vs. learning it in an eBook, video course or online through forums and articles is you learn what you are actually going to use that night. You learn an actual system, step by step instead of a bunch of concepts that you have to try to piece together.

2. You go out in field and actually have to do it. Someone is there pushing you to actually do the approaches. When you do it on your own vs. doing it in a bootcamp is like night and day difference in intensity. A lot of guys who come to the bootcamp end up doing more approaches that first night than they ever did in their entire life. And for other guys, it pushes you far beyond your comfort zone.

3. You get an expert to critique you and fix your problems including your body language, approach, opener, etc.

But I would say one of the biggest benefits is the fact that you’re paying $2,000 for a program makes you committed and willing to both learn and also push yourself.

Some guys really get their money’s worth, even double their money’s worth. While other guys don’t.

The two reasons why a bootcamp would be a waste of money is either you have a bad instructor that either doesn’t know what he’s teaching or doesn’t care. Or you are not willing to push yourself to try it and then keep it up after the bootcamp.

JT Tran, PUA guru coach of “The ABC’s Of Attraction”

Shitty Bootcamp Instructors and Programs:

There are a few reasons why your bootcamp instructor would be crap.

The most common one is that he either doesn’t care, or there are too many students that he can’t care if he tried.

When there are more than 8 students in a bootcamp it is literally impossible to care about them all.

A few of them might stand out and you’ll work with them, but I guarantee that if you’re in a class of 10+ students a few of them are not going to get the attention they paid for.

Other instructors just don’t care, they are either burnt out from teaching too much, or are just assholes relying on their name to bring them business.

You also have some instructors that actually suck, or they’re too new to know what they are doing.

Two rules, first, never ever take a bootcamp with an instructor that won’t demo.

If an instructor can’t or won’t demonstrate, live in person, in front of you at least once on the first day, you don’t want to learn from him.

Second, if a bootcamp is “free” or super cheap you get what you pay for.

The reason why I charge over one thousand dollars for my bootcamp is because it is a lot of fucking work.

It’s stressful, and both mentally and physically draining.

The Truth about Pick Up and Happiness:

I honestly think that if it wasn’t for pick up, a lot of guys wouldn’t have a second chance at life.

If you ask a hot girl what she thinks about guys learning game, they would usually say, if a guy is a loser or ugly he shouldn’t even try.

Well, I think that’s fucked up and that every guy deserves to try to better himself.

The PUA Community, Bootcamps and it’s tools allow you do have a second chance on life.

My honest advice is to get in and get out.

Learn the basics of game and don’t waste your time with lairs, forums, or impressing other pick up artists aka dudes.

Don’t look for the magic secrets, or the shortcuts. You need to put yourself out there and put in some real effort and face those hard rejections, but only after you’ve developed a solid foundation.

Why my bootcamps work: Secrets of my students success

The only reason why I don’t get more students laid during bootcamp or have wild stories every program is because my students usually require a lot of work just to catch up to normal guys.

When I taught bootcamps with Adam Lyons and David Wygant, their students were normal, decent looking, sociable White guys that just needed a few minor tweeks, a game plan, and a push.

I can get guys like that laid every weekend.

However, the majority of my students are Asian computer engineers that require their foundations knocked down and rebuilt from the ground up.

1. I actually genuinely care about all of my students, I make it a point to give all of them personal attention. You’ll be surprised how many bootcamp instructors won’t even bother learning everyone’s names.

2. I break things down simply and make you do things step by step. And we practice it in the classroom, a lot. My lectures are more than 50% practice because I know that’s what really makes you learn.

3. I demo and I actually use what I teach. A lot of instructors will teach one thing and do something totally different when they game.

I teach what actually works. If you read any of my bootcamp reviews most students say the same thing about me, “Johnny was like my big brother.” “He really cares” both things make me extremely happy and proud to be teaching bootcamps still.

I can honestly say that my bootcamps are worth every penny.

The reason why I continue to teach them is because I genuinely enjoy helping guys better their lives.

I never claimed to be the best pick up artist in the world, i’m not and I don’t want to be.

I’m 100% happy being a normal guy that happens to date the random hot white girl once in a while.

But I will claim that I’m one of the best bootcamp instructors in the world.

Best wishes to everyone out there,

Remember, learn the basics, man up and stop trying to impress other pick up artists, it’s a waste of time.

Warm Regards,

Johnny Wolf

See the original article: The real-deal truth about PUA bootcamps, the PUA summit and KTLA news fail.

Reader Question: “Why do some women date and bang teenage schoolboys and neglect grown men”?

A little fore-note for the readers:

This reader question comes from R.T., who resides in the Caribbean.

The (dating) culture in the islands is that where adult women generally engage in sexual relationships with teenage boys around the ages of 15-17.

A female teacher banging her male students is just another day @ the office.

Sexy teacher robbing the cradle of her male students!

Sexy teacher robbing the cradle of her male students!

This is totally common and acceptable in all of the Caribbean islands [also legal].

A 26 year old chick can be seen dating a 15 or 16-year old kid on a regular basis.

Think what you may, but this practice is commonly acceptable in the Caribbean [and it’s vice versa: a 29 year old guy dating a 15 year old].

So this reader’s question is coming from a viewpoint of adult women who engage in sexual relationships with guys under the age of 18 [which as I said, is common practice in the Caribbean islands].

Date: Jan., 16th., 2013

Inquirer: R.T.

“Yo I gotta another topic for ya!

I’m trying to get this over in my head, now here’s the scenario: a
grown woman has no problem in dating a school boy yet alone give him the pussy on a regular but
she wouldn’t give a grown man whether in his prime or not any pussy yet alone date because he
has no job.

Now I know as a grown man its
responsible enough to have a job or at least be looking or hustling; but whats the difference really and truly?

They are still giving up the pussy
without any benefits at all……and apart from sex, there is no benefit at all that they would gain from
a teenager; so why can’t that same principle apply
to a man”.

Hey R.T., this kills me too LOL!

I had to really study this for a while.

One thing that plays a huge part is “fresh meat”.

Just as when a strange-hot girl moves into your neighborhood, every guy wants a sample [to bang her or date her].

Same thing with a teen boy who’s still in school [thus not financial stable neither].

Even though he can’t do shit much for a grown woman [financially and sexually], that doesn’t matter to some women.

So there are 2 reasons also (why grown women would date guys who are still going to school):

1.) She wants to sample fresh meat [just as most guys are gungho on fucking virgins].

2.) She wants control.

Every girl has built into her, a motherly/maternal instinct where she wants to baby, nurture and dominate the man.

Attempting to dominate a grown man [let’s say one who is older than she is] would be very challenging, so she hooks up with a very young guy where she can have a bit of control and to play that motherly/nurturing role, which she cannot really pull off with a grown man who’s already seasoned in the world of dating and mating.

But it always come back to bite them in the ass since the school boy doesn’t stick around or can’t do shit for her since he doesn’t work nor have income.

And some women may simply have a fetish for younger men or teenagers who are still going to school.

Perhaps the chicks you’re referring to fit this bracket [fetish for school-age guys].

Lastly, you have to remember that women on a whole [damn-near 100% of them] select men based on looks, youthfulness, status and sexual desires.

She will reject a good guy who’s financially stable who’ll make a great father, and instead, elect to deal with a guy who’s dirt-poor, has no job, who batters women for a living.

I’ll address how to handle this in a later article.

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