“No more no less: the best way to get a chick turned on” [Guest Post By The Nononsenser]

[Guest post by The Nononsenser]

Don’t you sometimes have that urge to make your girlfriend/sex partner go crazy? Just for that one time, have sex 5 or 6 times during one night, using all your energy to make her moan and get her as wet as it gets. With any one-night-stand I try to fuck her like she’s never been fucked before, that way I’m sure she’ll remember me as that incredible fuck she once had (I talked about it with some buddies of mine and it seems that we all do that…).

Once these crazy days/weeks of wild sex are behind you and the boredom of the relationship starts to take over, turning her on can become a pain in the ass. Throughout the years I’ve tried different techniques from the most obvious and inefficient stuff that most of the guys still think work (paying for expensive restaurants or jewelry. Once you’re there… There’s no going back!) to the much more efficient stuff (mentioned below). Just to be clear: buying expensive stuff works but what’s turning her on isn’t you anymore but the pricy shiny watch you just bought her.

There are many techniques to turn on a chick but I’ll focus today on the one that brings the most results (at least it’s my opinion): whispering dirty stuff in her ear.

Women LOVE dirty stories; whispering in her ear what you’re about to do in detail will make her go crazy. It’s definitely more efficient to talk about the stuff that you’re about to do than to actually do it for real. You won’t even need any foreplay if you do it well: her pussy is going to be so wet that it’s just going to slide right in.

A few years back I was on the phone with whom used to be my girlfriend. We were both inexperienced, I was her first. I don’t know what got into me, I was such an unconfident teenager (the God of sex whispering in my ears what to do?) but I described what I wanted to do to her with as many details as possible. Keep in mind that she had almost no experience; she was still a virgin a few months back. You can imagine the result with a chick that has more experience (more experience=easier to turn on).

Here is how the conversation went (it was years ago, some details I’m not so sure of, they might be distorted from reality but the end result isn’t):

Me (I’m skipping the first part of the conversation: you don’t need all that boyfriend-girlfriend BS):

“I want to do dirty things to you”

Her: “Ho yeah, what?”

Me: “First, I’m going to kiss your lips very gently, my tongue will run on your lips while your lips are staying still, I’ll run my tongue from the bottom of your neck to your earlobe. Once I get there I’m going to softly bite it”

Her: “Continue…”

Me: “I will run my hand underneath your shirt from the back of your neck to your hips. While I’m in the middle of your back and caressing your hair with my right hand I’ll undo your bra with my left hand”

Her: “Continue” (her voice starts to become more sensual)

Me: “I’m going to take off your shirt and your bra at the same time. You’ll take off my shirt. Your breathing becomes heavier. My tongue slides from your neck to your right nipple. I ‘m licking and softly biting your nipples. After a few minutes my tongue goes from your breasts to your belly button, your body shivers. My tongue goes down south and I use my teeth to open your fly”

Her: “Continue” (she’s ready to get it on. But why stop there?)

Me: “I’ll remove your jeans & socks, all you’ll have on is your underwear. You’ll remove my pants and you’ll notice that I’m ready to get it on. My hands will caress your inner thighs and while I’m switching from your left to your right thigh I’ll slightly touch your underwear… it’s soaking wet. I’m still kissing you, harder this time. My right hand is sliding underneath your underwear for a few seconds. I’ll run my tongue down your body to take off your underwear with my teeth. I’ll ask you to lay on your stomach, you’ll obey. My tongue will run up & down from the bottom of your neck to your lower back until it gets closer to your butt. My tongue runs between your butt cheeks. You have no more control over what’s about to happen. You… ”

Her (interrupting me)

“… I want you now” (We stop with the bullshit and have phone sex. It was the first time she ever masturbated). She admitted 5 years later (we weren’t dating anymore) that it was the horniest/wettest she ever got. And I wasn’t even physically there!

Remember: you start sensual and end sexual (you don’t start sexual). Notice that I avoid saying “pussy”, “dick” or “fuck”.

This method is about 100 times more efficient than anything else (sexual or not). Last week I pulled a similar stunt except that the girl that was next to me had much more experience and we… weren’t on the phone: she stopped me half way through my speech and we fucked right away. She couldn’t wait: too turned on.

I’d like to know how you get chicks turned on, can you share your methods?


About TheNonsenser:

I’m in my mid-20’s, European, and I try to bring a new approach to seduction, sex and relationships with women.

I don’t see seduction as the only interaction we have with women. I try to focus on all kind of interactions that we can have with women: seduction, sex, friendships, love, hate etc.

I have no problem picking up women but that’s not what defines me, I’m just looking for a passionate relationship with the right girls without losing the grip over the relationship. I have been sharing my thoughts & strategies made of articles such as the one above, interviews of women, of pick-up artists on a blog that I created a few months ago: Nonsenseaboutwomen

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Cats Love Strings! [by Chelios]

As the great PUA guru ‘Mystery’ once said, “ Cats don’t take orders, but they can be tempted to chase”.

[That concept has stuck in my mind ever since I got into pickup. To this day and for the rest of my life, it will never evade me where the pursuit of women is concerned.]

Cat-String Theory

Women more times than not have the majority of men in the palms of their hands, because the man finds it harder to get his leg over than a woman does (in my opinion anyway). So when he thinks he has a chance: he jumps in head first as if she’s gold.

The man will often give in and comply to any of her requests; “take me here, buy me a drink, meet on this day” blah blah blah.

Not with me though!!

This is why Cat-String Theory has become one of my favourite theories and developmental logics that I follow and practice.

Cat-String Theory to me and many others, is also known as ‘deliberate withdrawal’.

It’s a set of social withdrawal tactics that are pre-planned.

As human beings, we always desire what we cannot seem to have and grasp.

Cat-String Theory by Mystery is based upon (selective) withdrawals.

For example, I had one girl that amazed me, a girl I wanted to hook up with when I wasn’t Alpha.

She led me on and kept me at distance just where I couldn’t reach (it felt like finger tips away). But as I kept giving in, she took from me, saw me as an easy ride and eventually told me to be on my way, “ we’re not compatible” “I’ve met someone I like”.

Cat-String Theory is something you can develop over time: short or long.

It is just about your commitment to the course.

It will stop you from being needy to which is essential in pulling women, resulting in positive progress on your all-round game.

Some examples are:

•Show interest. If by text, don’t always reply nor have a straight pattern.

•Going in for a kiss, pull away, blow her a kiss or stop and say, “ you haven’t earned one yet”, I always get a humoured reaction from that and many have said, “ how do I earn it”?

Remember to be Demonstrating Higher Value (DHV) when you can!
You need to have a reason on why she should persevere and chase you.

It could be your looks, charm, charisma or the way you are friendly with other women and less with her (one of the biggest cock teases I find!)

To summarize: Cat-String Theory is ‘Deliberate Withdrawals.

The ability to withdraw even when temptation is there and the prize seems accessible.

It’s a powerful tool!

You’re the toy that she can’t have and she’s the cat who wants it.

By slowly showing her a little more about yourself, she will think she’s closer and closer, and then you can strike and move in when you like.

In most cases (if played right), pretty much seeing her is on your terms.

“Disinterest promotes attraction”!

Make yourself a challenge!

You are the one who is too high maintenance- not her.

You have to be taken out on your terms as well as hers.

Best get back in field!

Chel … 😉

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Chelios PUA, online-dating instructor out of London

Chelios PUA, online-dating instructor out of London

Rest In Piss Uman [Professor Mentu & Ashur]!

Rest In Piss “University Of Man”

Try visiting the ‘University of man blog’, and this’ what you’ll encounter:

“When we first started writing The University of Man nearly a year ago, Ashur and I decided we
would write until we reached one million views. A little over 250 posts and 4,000 comments later,
we changed our minds and decided 897,681 hits would suffice.

We appreciate every page view and comment, and the friends we met online and in person along the way will not be forgotten. But Ashur and I have made our statements, so now it’s time for us to move on and maintain a dignified silence.

We hope we made you happy for a while”.


The University of Man

Sounds familiar?

How backwards is it to actually ditch your blog at a moment when you’re supposedly doing great. Sounds like his blog was actually doing poorly to me.

Few months ago when I was feuding with Ferdinand Bardamu of the now deceased blog: In Mala Fide, I also predicted the death of The University of Man website/blog as the 2nd. power-house to fall.

Lo and behold, the Uman blog has died a few days ago [just as I foretold].

What did the Manosphere-game blogs In Mala Fide & Uman have in common?

Both of them made a tragically unprovoked mistake to go against Socialkenny via hyperboles, racial insinuations and raw stupidity…UNPROVOKED!

Ferdinand Bardamu [the then owner of the now deceased In Mala Fide/Bona Fide website], had lashed out against me on Twitter some months ago (unprovoked), as he felt excluded from the Twitter chat among 10 of us. Some of the guys included in my conversation were: Bronan, The Private Man, Badger, Bill Powell, Blaze, to name a few.

So Ferdinand hung himself (unbeknownst to him) by Tweeting some bullshit on my conversation timeline.

In response, I immediately created an article and podcast episode about the ridiculous-Twitter incident. Thereafter, I predicted that I will personally kill his blog by tanking his readership and views.

Shortly after, In Mala Fide-Bona Fide announced that it’s closing shop, under the guise that Ferdinand has other business to tend to (which was bullshit). Read “The tragic death of In Mala Fide blog caused by Socialkenny PUA”.

What really led to the collapse were my article and podcast aimed at exposing Ferdinand Bardamu as a nut-job!!! You can read that fatal article here: “Ferdinand Bardamu, a Twitter-trolling closet fan of Socialkenny”, and download the over-kill podcast from the following link: “Socialkenny PUA podcast show, episode #2, Ferdinand Bardamu the troll”.

Fast forward beyond the untimely death of In Mala Fide, Professor Mentu of the University of Man blog, had made the same mistake that Ferd’ did by attacking me with racial insinuations in 1 of his in-direct rants aimed at me.

Since that incident (which had spun out into a huge Twitter feud between Professor Mentu, the Manosphere and I), I declared that the power-house Uman blog will shortly and surely meet its death just as In Mala Fide/Bona Fide did.

That incident also prompted me to put Mentu’s blog on my shit list: “Game blogs I read, and the ones I shit on”.

Another Game/Manosphere blog which Socialkenny had killed was Beer and Concrete by another low-key racist: “The Geographer”, who had taken Mentu’s side against me, hence landed himself on my shit list.

The Geographer’s blog perished so quietly, that a pin dropping in a packed coliseum would make more noise. Visit his blog, and the silence is surely deafening.

The next blog to perish under the weight of Kenny’s pressure WILL BE that bitch The Alpha Persona, as he’d chosen to feud with me over the past weeks on Twitter…UNPROVOKED.

His website is now on life support until I decide to fucking pull the plug on that low-key racist prick. But I just haven’t been motivated enough to waste time on the idiot. A feud with him would be like a chihuahua head to head with a pitbull [so unfair].

The underlying lesson to other Game and Manosphere bloggers is simple: Don’t jump on the Kenny-haters’ bandwagon just to get blog views, or to get virtual pats on the shoulders by other writers. Don’t dick ride faggots like Ferdinand & Mentu just because you feel that they’re too big to fail. As I’d proven twice already: Kenny is bigger, stronger and will fucking crush you.

Faggots like Matt Forney had jumped on the Kenny-hating bandwagon when he wrote this post a while ago: My day of rolling like Kenny, which he took indirect shots at me but obviously failed. BTW, who the fuck is Matt Forney again!!!?

In Closing

I was once the biggest fan of the Uman blog. Before our falling-out, I was the main commentor on that blog, essentially driving traffic to his site by my name alone.

However, he [Professor Mentu] fucked himself royally by launching a war against me which he wasn’t equipped to win. He was suckered into a battle (by other Manosphere bloggers), then paid for it after his daily blog views and hits had plummeted by the hundreds!

Professor Mentu made the strategic mistake of attacking his biggest fan (as I was initially)! Ungratefulness will always come back to bite you in the ass!

Mentu showed his ungratefulness and innate stupidity by turning on me just to appease the kings of the Manosphere: Roosh V and Roissy (since I’d exposed Roissy, and called out Roosh).

The Geographer made the same mistake (of dick riding Mentu); and his blog subsequently bit the dust!!!

The Alpha Persona, not wise enough to notice the perilous trend, decided to make the same mistake (of sucking cock and Kenny-hating), now his blog is in its final stages of a slow death.

I’m a very humble dude who strives to get along and create a cohesive niche in the dating-sphere. But when you attack me with racist innuendos by insulting my intelligence [with the “black men are dumb” undertone], I’ll fuck you harder and kill your career as a Game blogger!

So on that note; rest in piss to the Game-blogger formerly known as Professor Mentu.

I relish in his suicidal demise!

And those bloggers who empathize with his subliminal bigotry, I have 3-nice words for them; Fuck You maggots!!!

Now let’s party! 4 down, 5 more to go!

The Manosphere-Game blogs which are on thin ice:

1.) *The Alpha Persona
2.) *Fly, Fresh, Young
3.) *Danny from New Orleans
4.) *Matt Forney
5.) *Gmac’s Blackbook

Update: The Alpha Persona blog has now died and closed down.

He claims that there’s nothing else to blog about, he’s spent, etc.

Whatever the reason, it’s pretty evident that I predicted the demise of Alpha Persona after Uman.

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Field Report: “3 Guys Battling For 1 Girl At The Club Last Night” [Cockblocks, AMOG’s, Drama, Wingman]

Sipping a glass of wine last night before enetering the bar/nightclub

Sipping a glass of wine last night before enetering the bar/nightclub

Forgive me readers, if this article is riddled with grammatical errors and incoherent babbling, but it’s 5 AM, I’m tipsy, shell-shocked and horny as a MOFO!!! So bear with me as I write this field report as coherently as possible.

Friday, 19th., October, 2012 At Xtra’s Bar & Nightclub

[Pertinent Acronyms]
* HB8: Hot Babe who’s an 8 on the looks scale of 10.
* Congruence Testing: When a woman does or say something in order to see if you’re steady or weak.
* Social Proof: Concept of being a guy who’s socially loved/accepted by others. Social acceptance.
* 2 Set: 2 girls together
* Escalate: To get physical and sexual with a girl.
* KINO: Touching
* AMOG: Alpha Male Other Guy. Basically a cockblocker or competitor.
* Target: The girl you’re after
* Natural: A guy naturally skilled with girls
* DTF: Down To Fuck
* Calibration: Proper timing when trying to seduce a girl.]

Took a few photos outside the joint before going into the bar. Beauty about this bar, is that it has an adjacent club annexed to it where you go from 1 door to the next from bar to club/dancefloor.

Pretended as if I was chatting to someone on my phone just to get close to a sexy-slim girl to chat her up. We chatted for 5 minutes, she told me that she was meeting her BFF on the dancefloor, so we parted ways.

Half hour later, I hit up the dancefloor with the same plastic glass of wine I’d been sipping for an hour [remember I can’t drink for shit]!

The HB8 I was chatting up outside taps me on the shoulder and laughs. We dance for a seconds (no bodily contact though). Her GF gets introduced (who’s actually hotter), they try congruence testing me by refusing to dance in a 2 on 1 session. I almost got thrown off my game but remained unaffected.

To build social proof, I chatted up about 10 different girls in eye’s view of the 2 set I was planning on gaming. This would soften them up a lot more and encourage them to dance with me before some other chick whisk me away.

It worked! 🙂 The social proof spike was in full effect baby!!

The hotter girl of the 2 (Tall-HB), who wasn’t my target initially, grabs me by the waist from behind to get my attention. I turn around and she laughs playfully and teasingly. This was my green light, so I grind on her ass for 2 minutes until she side stepped a bit [perhaps not trying to make her BFF jealous since her BFF obviously liked me initially].

I made 1 crucial mistake at this juncture (which I never do); I didn’t roll off and come back. I stayed on that spot (dancing) forever instead of gaming other girls. I’d already threw all my time and eggs into this 1 basket.

Over the course of 2 hours, I danced on and off with the Tall-HB [maybe 1 and a half hours worth]. Once again, critical mistake of only dancing with 1 chick instead of playing the field and work the entire room as I do 100% of the time.

Nevertheless, we were making good progress as we both physically escalated KINO: she grabbing me, holding my fingers, touching me on my sides. I was doing the same, but I escalated hard my sniffing her hair/neck, caressing her waist with my hands on her thighs, pulling her into me harder (simulating sex) as she playfully pulls away…

Lo and behold…this dude who looked like he was too young to get in the club legally, steps to the 2 set and starts to grind on the girl I was grinding on (Tall-HB)!!

Note: Guys who generally suffer from AA (Approach Anxiety), and are afraid of being rejected, they will scope the entire venue for soft targets i.e. girls who are receptive and are dancing already.

So by me dancing with Tall-HB, it communicated to the orbitors that this girl was seducible. Guys were basically scheming for the opportunity to interject so they can get a piece of the action.

I call this sort of sniper game a bitch move- but it works!

As the PUA guru RSD Tyler Durden wrote years ago, “women in the clubs are in trances, jumping from 1 stimulus to another”…from 1 guy to the next.

Also, those orbitors were smart enough to feed off of the momentum I created, and the girl’s trance-like state, so the teen-looking guy swooped in as I took a 2 second breather…FUCK!!!!

Can’t believe my target is now grinding on this dude who came out of nowhere! But it’s the law of the jungle in dance-floor game. Your girl can be fucking taken within a heartbeat by some AMOG or competing Alpha Natural.

To make matters worse, some other dude was preying on the Tall-HB. So there’s 3 guys tryna pull this 1 girl who was DTF to the max!

Now Guy 3 comes in and whisk away the Tall-HB from Guy 2 and took her into some secluded corner alone [nice play on his part to isolate the girl]. At this point I was fucking furious of the AMOG-ing.

[Socialkenny tweeted @ 12:30 AM:

Some fucking AMOG/Cockblocker keeps hogging up the chic who’s dancing with me every minute. It’s on like Donkey Kong!]

Guy 2 comes up to me and shouted in my ears: “Hey man, that bitch was fine. Where the fuck is she though”!!!? At this point, I’m saying in my head, “You cockblocked the shit out of me, and you end up getting cockblocked”!!!

[Socialkenny tweeted @ 1:52 AM

It really comes down to who could cockblock the best @ the #club. I’ve been fucking cockblocked by this slim-Jim MOFO!#ReturningFavor]

Seen my boy Unit, he asks if I’m good or want another drink. I oblige and took a beer. Went back to the dancefloor to FMAC [Find Meet Attract Close] the target. Guy 3 still has her well wrapped up in isolation. I’m now faced with 2 choices; go over there, grab her hand and pull her away, or use Guy 2 as a pawn to go over there and pull her away for me (in essence).

Guy #3 obviously knows his shit and is playing it skillfully beating the shit out of us!!!

[Socialkenny tweeted @2:53 AM

Fuck!!! I got AMOG’d and some Natural-player type dude went away with my target after a battle!!!

I say to guy 2: “I can’t believe you let this dude fucking take your chic away”! Guy 2: “I’m going over there right now to get her back”. So I baited him into pulling the robbery.

Note: Reason I didn’t go over there myself was because I didn’t wanna look too stalkerish and wind up chasing the girl away by chasing her too much.

Like a God-send; some dude or chick accidentally tripped over the cables leading to the DJ booth shutting off the music [why they had cables running right there…IDK].

Dude (Guy 3), who’s apparently part of the DJ technical team [I came to notice], ran to the booth to rectify the shit. Guy 2 swoops in, he bitches out a bit by procrastinating. Guy 3/technician seen the attempted robbery and ran back over to retake the girl [strong play again]. This fucking guy is dominant, a Natural Alpha/player! FUCK!!!

[Socialkenny tweeted @ 3:00 AM

Threw all my eggs in 1 basket instead of zoning in on at least 3 HB’s. Rookie mistake. Shit happens

At this point, I’m extra pissed that Guy 3 is tooling and schooling the shit out of the competition and AMOG-ing us like little bitches!

It’s now 3 AM, I went outside to the club’s courtyard for a breather while tweeting what was going down.

I call this the “hook-up decision hour”, where chics decide who’s gonna take them home (if any), and the most aggressively-skilled guy wins.

Friggin’ crunch time! All or nothing. Go hard or go home… to spank the little monkey.

After a while, I re-enter the dancefloor. My state isn’t as pumped as before, so I seem out of it. Twirling the floor looking for the target. Surprise surprise; Guy 2 has her and he’s grinding her. I’d rather do battle with Guy 2 since he’s less skilled than Guy 3 (and obviously much younger having less experience).

The Tall-HB(target) spots me while she dances with Guy 2, she grabs my shoulders and smiles. I took that as an IOI (indicator of interest), so I turned around and we sandwiched her [Guy 2 grinding her ass, I’m grinding her from the front]. This went on for 3-4 minutes.

Now I see that I can actually use Guy 2 as an ally rather than a foe. If anything, we can try to pull a 3-some if he manages to isolate her.

I busted on Guy 2 shouting: “You can’t handle that fat ass of hers”! They both laughed, so I grabbed her and isolated her somewhat as we danced. She grabbed my dick, I say to her, “Don’t do that or you’re gonna get something started”! She laughs as I slapped her on the booty.

Guy 2 [my new ally] comes over and we both share her a bit. She said she’s tired from all the dancing so she leans up against the wall. I turned my back for 10 seconds, turned back around to face the target, and guess fucking what…? Guy 3 [the real competition] is back dancing with her.


Note: Once you’re a dominant guy (as guy 3 was), you can almost always persuade a girl to go contrary to what she says or believes. She was obviously drained, but Guy 3’s frame was so overpowering that she danced with him anyway. This’ the essence of frame control.

Sensing that I was a competing Alpha, Guy 3 once again pulls a fucking hat trick before I could gather my senses and pull a counter attack. He checkmated us (or me) and led the girl away quickly.

Note: As RSD Owen wrote years ago in his stunning article: “Stealing Horny Chicks”, when a girl hits buying temperature (horniness), she becomes very receptive to being led, tossed around and used. Sort of like a fucking zombie. Her brains are fried at that moment, so guy 3 sensing this (since he’s a Natural), he took advantage of the Tall-HB’s zombie-like state.

Anyway, I wasn’t about to accept defeat that easily…especially with a DTF chick who was grabbing my cock half the night. I made a last-ditch attempt to pull (the robbery). By the time I got outside of the club, they were already up the block, arm around waist.

[Socialkenny tweeted @4:20 AM

@3rdMilleniumMen Lol yea man! Dude pulled a sniper move and was able to get my target to chat with him, then bam!! Vanished up the bloc

I virtually prayed for a speeding car to careen around the goddamn roundabout and send Guy 3 flying!

At this point, I was faced with 3 realistic options: 1.) Go game another girl (which I should’ve done from the get-go), and hopefully try to pull one who’s already @ Buying Temperature, 2.) Go grab a seat on the couch and sulk, 3.) Go home.

I decided on #2! Grabbed a seat, and here comes Guy 2 (the 1 who initially cockblocked me): “Yo man…that bitch left or what”!!?

I really wasn’t in the mood, so I ignored dude, but he kept tryna chat.

The weird thing is, I see potential in this kid. I actually dig his style and Game. 99% of the dudes were wall-flowering in the venue, scared to approach women. But Zack kept on tryna pull ass. I admired that about him, and we had a decent chat about gaming girls. Turns out that he just turned 18 the other day as I suspected (very young).

Anyone who’s followed my writings for a while now, would’ve known that I hate the shit out of wingmen and the concept of wingmanship. But I can see myself winging with the kid and fine tuning his Game with some pick-up concepts [like calibration, not being too eager,etc.].

We exchanged #’s and Facebook, I told him my schtick as a Pick-Up Artist and that I blog (in which he got intrigued). So I decided to recruit him as my official wingman!

To Be Continued…

Guys need to realize that to compete in the clubs and bars in order to pick up hot chicks, it often times comes down to AMOG battles with other guys for the girl.

The strongest survive in the jungle of nightclub game. If you have no skills, you’ll be going home solo every friggin’ night out. This’ why the average guy is intimidated by going to clubs and such venues; most men are pussies and aren’t equipped with the know-how/skillset to compete.

Last night, I lost!!

I lost to a better man that night. A guy who was willing to take more chances and be more dominant and proactive.

Most nights though, I’m on the winning end of the stick with my targets. This was just 1 of those rare times where I had to battle and engage in stealth game to try and pull a One-Night Stand/Same-Night Lay.

And I enjoyed the hell out of the display of skills and will.

Right after, I tweeted that I wasn’t upset at all about the outcome. This is the law of pick-up in the clubs/bars. Either learn how to play the game or get fucked! But to not play at all is a losing proposition.

Related articles:
*10 ways to pump up buying temperature by Asian Playboy.

*Buying Temperature Escalation by Tyler Durden.

*Nightclub Game by Mcmaax.

For more weekend madness, follow me on Twitter: @Socialkenny PUA.

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“J The Rippa PUA Show”: My 4 Favorite/Controversial Episodes [free downloads available]

JTR (J The Rippa)

JTR (J The Rippa)

Dubbed the most hated guy in the PUA/Seduction community, the Mexican PUA promoter/organizer/instructor out of California, also founder and leader of The Casanova PUA Crew: J The Rippa.

Rippa is my man. And since I’m no stranger to controversy in the community, we have that much in common at least :). So I’m gonna post 3 of his show’s episodes which I enjoy the fuck out of [and you may too]!!!

In this episode of The Rippa Show, JTR calls up PUA coach/former VH1’s Pick-Up Artist contestant Kevin Feng, to grill him about game, pickup and how he was able to get on VH1’s Pick-Up Artist reality show few years ago (to learn pickup).

Kevin on the left.

Kevin on the left.

Download the episode directly at the link below:

J the Rippa Show episode #24, phone call with PUA coach Kevin Feng.

In this episode, JTR talks about:

*Drama with other gurus
*Coaches banned from speaking @ PUA Summit
*He fucked the same girl Mystery did
*PUA gurus who spam…
*The time he fucked a fatty

Pretty funny yet controversial show. Download the episode in .mp3 format below:

Download show #50.

Probably the most controversial episode of the 3, JTR goes at PUA gurus Speer & VK Vince Kelvin with the following assertions:

*Law suit threats by Speer
*Threatening voice mail by VK
*VK gaming staff in rehab
*Speer being heckled at a PUA gathering

PUA gurus: John Keegan, VK Vince Kelvin, Speer, Ross Jeffries

PUA gurus: John Keegan, VK Vince Kelvin, Speer, Ross Jeffries

JTR went on to talk about beef with PUA Hate moderators, PUA forums and which ones are the best, beef with PUA godfather Ross Jeffries…

Download that episode at the link below:

Download Episode 51, JTR beef with Speer, VK and others.

This episode is from September 2012 (just the other day), where JTR and Khan (of Simple Pickup Crew) talk about JTR’s ultimate Pick-Up Convention which was outstandingly interesting!!

PUA-dating coaches who were featured at the PUA convention were:

*Neil Strauss
*Tyler Durden
*Artisan PUA…

Just listen to the show. It’s pretty awesome with a bit of controversy about RSD Tyler’s speech.

Download that episode (#56) at the link below:

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Kenny Walks Out On Date Like A Prick, Then Hooks Up With A Hotter Girl

Those who follow me on Twitter would’ve caught a whiff of the debauchery in progress: Socialkenny’s live tweet after walking out on date.

Don’t mean to come off as a GOA (Grand-Old Asshole), but I digress…and I can explain.

Cougar Photographer From Vancouver Picks Me Up

[The Wednesday]

It’s pretty rare that a woman actually picks up a guy and be so ballsy as to ask him for his phone #; but these Canadians are pretty fucking ballsy LOL!

While working (government-security detail), a cute MILF-type with an obvious tourist look comes up to me:

HB-Cougar: “Ahmmmm, can I take a picture of you”?

Me: “[looking like a deer caught in the headlights] Yea, sure”!

HB-Cougar: “BTW I’m ********, a photographer from Canada”.

Me: “Wow cool! First Canadian I met for the month. But don’t think you’re special though”!

[10 minutes passes, she takes about 15 pics’ with a huge-ass industrialized camera]

HB-Cougar: “I’d like to take your # so we can go grab a beer if possible tomorrow”.

Me: “Don’t do beers on weekends. How about red wine”?

HB-Cougar: “Lol that’s great. Good for the heart”.

She punched my name and # in and took off [to learn how to seduce tourists, download my free, short e-book: “How To Bang Foreign Girls”].

Date With Ms. Presumptuous

The Thursday night(following night) which was supposed to be the date night; she flaked by not calling [no prob’ since I didn’t even recall we had a date to be honest].

Friday afternoon, she surprisingly stops by my job site:

HB-Cougar: “Hey Kenny, I was trying to call you all night last night. Is this your #”?

[She actually had 1 digit wrong in my phone #, so that’s why she wasn’t reaching me last night. What a DTF cougar to actually go back to my workplace to find me].

Date was set for later that night(Friday) @ a bar-and-grill joint beside the lagoon[pretty intimate local too]. Since the setting is smoke-filled (from the grills), and in a sandy area, I specifically told her to dress down in some sandals/slippers, etc. I wasn’t gonna dress up neither.

Pre-date hang out

Pre-date hang out

Blinded by the camera flash

Blinded by the camera flash

9:30 PM, we’re on the date sipping some beers (I actually had a glass of Cherry Brandy instead). It’s all going fine and dandy [at least the first half hour] until she drops the F-Bomb, “I’m a Feminist”!!!


Talk about anti-climactic and anti-PUA. It gets no more anti-PUA than a feminist. This is like dining with the fucking enemigo; Hitler & Stalin at the round table with bombs within arm’s reach!!!

Having distanced myself from The Chodosphere(The Manosphere) and its idioticly overblown paranoia of feminism, I chill back like RSD Tim would say.

Apart from dropping the F-Bomb, it went pretty well…so it would seem, until she made the following declarations over the duration of the date:

Enjoying some beers... (which she paid for BTW).

Enjoying some beers… (which she paid for BTW).

*“Every country I go to, men are always throwing themselves at me. I was in Fiji, and …”.

*“Younger men are always hitting on me…”.

*“Men are sharks who try to prey on easy women…”.

*“I bet you think you’re taking me home tonight. Think again. I know your type.”

At that point, I was pretty turned off by bullshit assertions and attempts at making herself seem way more desirable than she was[although I knew it was just plausible deniablility/backwards rationalization at play in case something/sex was to go down].

She came off with the classic feminist-talking points of “all men are dog”, which turned me off to the max. I would’ve understood had she said that “I” was a dog.

So she made 2 critical faux pas which were sure boner-killers for me: 1.) Over stating that guys throw themselves at her (which came off as insecure). 2.) Coming off as man-hating brute.

Having enough of the pageantry, I looked @ my cellphone and say to her:

Me: “Welllllllll, it’s getting pretty late. I don’t know what you’re up to, but I have things to do”.

HB-Cougar: “Is the date over so prematurely [with a shocked facial expression of, “I fucked up now”]?

I just walked off and phoned an HB8.4 whom I’d met weeks prior…and she’s definitely DTF without the male-bashing headache.

Right after the botched date, I hooked up with this HB who'd wanted to see me that night.

Right after the botched date, I hooked up with this HB who’d wanted to see me that night.

Was looking rough that night...

Was looking rough that night…

This chic has a wicked body: huge boobs, nice ass to hip ratio, exotic face, DTF that Friday night

This chic has a wicked body: huge boobs, nice ass to hip ratio, exotic face, DTF that Friday night

Remember guys; whenever you have an abundance mentality like I do, no 1 girl is too special to NOT walk out on.

No 1 girl becomes so special that you’d take male-bashing insults just to TRY to get a piece of her pie.

Surely I could’ve stayed on the date and had an 8-10 chance of f-closing the Canadian-Cougar Photographer perhaps on the secluded pier just 20 yards from where we were.

However, you’re presented at times with situations where you should man up, stand up, put a quick lay aside and walk away.

What I’d done didn’t only show dominance and assholishness, but it communicated to the date that as an Alpha-Male, I have certain obligations to my manliness, and certain bounds I won’t let her cross…in spite of how horny I was and wanted the easy lay.

And the lessons here for women are pretty straight forward:

1.) Don’t go on dates and start to male-bash.

2.) Don’t go on dates with a pre-conceived notion that the guy will fall head over heels for you just as every other guy did (allegedly).

3.) Keep blabbing to a minimum, or you run the risk of saying something that would cost you the guy.

4.) Keep your emotional baggages home. If the last 3 guys you’d dated fucked you over; don’t project this negative emotion onto other men. Same as a pick-up artist doesn’t brand all women as lazy just because his past 2 dates had flaked on him.

Overall, it was a good date! I just got turned off and wasn’t anymore interested in pursuing this ass which showed every sign of being DTF [on top of that; she was the one who literally picked me up, so she was DEFINITELY into me].

Another tangent: just as RooshV once wrote, Never cancel on a sure thing(sure pussy) for one that is unsure.

The black chic was super DTF in that she wanted to hook up for 3 weeks now. The Canadian Cougar, although super DTF, I would’ve had to play the dance/cat and mouse a bit more to get to bang-ville.

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Master Your College Campus [by Chelios PUA]!

Chelios PUA of London

Chelios PUA of London

Foreword: For many around the globe, they’re just beginning their first Fall semester of school, and it could be pretty scary even for the guys who have had a year or 2 under their belts. This article serves as a guideline to getting yourself into the right frame/mindset for meeting girls at college/uni’.

Hey guys, I have been away for a while; moving to a new place and starting college, chasing new dreams of becoming a teacher.

In this blog entry, I will be going into the subject of … College Game.

And how to make the best-first impression you can, which hopefully results in you picking up some hot-college girls on the way.

College and universities are great places to meet and pick up women.

Usually students ages range from 17 to 35-ish. So ages here to cover you young chasers or milf hunters lol (Ken!!).

You need to start as you mean to go on. By this, I mean the impression you leave.

Quick example, my college class has 90% females and I’m loved by every single one. Not because I’m the greatest looking guy in the world, but because they think I’m kool, laid back and know how to have fun.

From day one I was having jokes with everyone, engaging every one as a group (which should be done), similar to gaming at night, and the set has to be engaged to reach your target.

I feel it is more important to engage everyone at college because women’s bitch shields come out in abundance, we all know women talk and the environment is a regular one where faces will be regularly seen.

Your attitude is key!

You need to be dominant but to a certain degree.

You need to have strong opinions.

Conversely, You need to listen to others, because being strong and a good listener demonstrates higher value.

The fact you cannot be toyed with easily but listening to others shows you’re laid back.

Have your voice heard!

Showing that you’re interesting is vital too.

This doesn’t mean to bore people verbally. But having things to do and chat about on your breaks as when being asked what are your plans for days off ,etc.

I roll in a few minutes late sometimes as I go to the gym early in the mornings [depending on people hogging certain weights: I may run late].

The fact that I train early before school time, for some reason seems to interests them and they admire what I do.

I’m asked for tips on fitness and how they can train early.

The Simple things you do attracts interest!

Have something going on in your life, and you can master your campus to become that guy!

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Chelios PUA

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You’re Not A “Real Man” If You’ve Never…[10 Things Real Men Go Through]

Photo courtesy of David Maury photography

Photo courtesy of David Maury photography

You’re not a real man if you haven’t…
1.) Fucked a hooker!!

*It seems counter-intuitive that a guy who has skills getting ass will ever barter money for pussy. Nevertheless, show me a Pick-Up Artist or Natural player who has never fucked a prostitute and I’ll show you where Noah buried his ark!

*Every real Alpha-Male I know personally (over the past 20 years), had fucked a couple hookers. This is sort of an initiation into manhood [however left unspoken].

*I’ve banged a generous number of prostitutes during the past 5 years. Of course I didn’t have to, but the allure of forbidden women and doing something risky is a core part of every Real Man’s lifestyle.

*This is sort of like a father who takes his son to a strip-club for his 18th.birthday to get a lapdance; essentially initiating him into manhood.

*I didn’t make the rules; just noting them.

You’re not a real man if…
2.)You haven’t gotten any kids.

*What is a man if he has no progeny to show for it? A waste of fucking life and semen! After all, we were put here to be fruitful and multiply [if you subscribe to religious philosophy].

*Any man who’s been fortunate enough to attain the age of 30 in such a volatile world and yet to impregnate a female, should be castrated or shot dead and disposed of [ok that was a bit dramatic ]!

*The old-male saying of, “I don’t want any kids…they’re only gonna hinder me from making money…”, is just a fucking lame excuse [which I was making also].

*Once again, every real Alpha-Male I know of, have a kid or 2 (some even have a mini clan).

You’re not a real man if you…
3.) Have never been kicked out for non payment on rent.

*Every Alpha I know has once or twice been in untenable situations where he’d neglected to keep up monthly payments and got booted by his landlord (or threatened to).

*Not that Real Men are irresponsible pricks unable to adhere to obligations. But a Real Man does periodically fall into lapses and phases in life where he says, “Fuck Obligations”!!! The general notion that Alpha Males/Real Men always handle responsibilities is BULLSHIT!!! All Real Men I know are blaze` and nonchalant when it comes to obligations.

You’re not a real man until…
4.) You get severed and fired from your day job!

*All Real Men will have been fired at least once in their lifetimes. Not because of unproductivity, but due to a Beta-Male employer, who for some reason, wanted him gone. Or perhaps a joint operation by his fellow employees to get him fired.

*Perhaps a he had a Feminist-leaning supervisor who couldn’t cope with a manly-man who doesn’t give a fuck about women’s rights.

You’re not a real man if you’ve never
5.) Cussed out your employer and walked off the job.

*In relation to point #4; Real Men/Alpha-Males, will always be envied, despised and secretly hated by others. If everyone @ your workplace gets along with you fine and dandily, then you’re obviously a pussy Beta-Male chode who’d do anything to be liked and accepted[conformist mentality].

*In my now 10-year work history (started working at 20), I’ve quit 4 jobs and went out in a blaze of glory by telling the owner, foreman and employer to suck my black cock! Real Men don’t keep a job just because. He’d gladly prefer to starve and be homeless than to be an underpaid punching-bag for his employer and co-workers.

You’re not a real man if…
6.) You’d never contracted a Sexually- Transmitted Disease.

*I didn’t set the rules, so don’t ask me why I’d included this one!!!

*I’m in no way glorifying STD’s, however catching 1 or 2 is just one of those things which any sexually active guy/Real Man will endure(at some points in life).

*Conversely, not contracting 1 is confirmation that you’re not banging ANY pussy, or that you’re not banging ENOUGH pussy. Sex is also a #’s game; the more pussy you bang, the chances of contracting an STD will increase drastically. Every lady’s man I knew back in the days, was catching Gonorrhea as if the shit were going out of style…and they wore it like a badge of honor [and it was a symbol of manhood…and dirty skanks].

*A renown PUA once said that if you never caught an STD, then you haven’t been getting laid. I co-sign totally!!!

You’re not a Real Man if…
7.) Your girlfriend’s parents like you.

*For the record: my GF’s parents cannot stand my guts!!! Whenever I come around, they literally say to their daughter (and to my face), “I don’t want this bastard to step foot in my house”! That’s when you know you’re doing something right!!! The laws of contradiction applies here.

*If you ever come across a guy who’s peachy and chummy with his GF’s folks; know for sure that he’s pandering and ass-kissing her parents just to be accepted.

*Real men are despised and hated by his would-be in-laws or GF’s parents. Every Alpha I know, has mutual disdain for his spouse’s parents, and wouldn’t care less if they kick the rusty bucket tomorrow.

You’re not a real man if…
8.) You’ve never done manual labor.

*Confession: I secretly envy mechanics, firefighters & military guys, because I know that they have a leg up on the average guy who doesn’t know what it is to sweat (just as I didn’t)…plus they get lots of vagina.

Photo courtesy of malerush.blogspot.com. You should aspire to be this guy

Photo courtesy of malerush.blogspot.com. You should aspire to be this guy

*In the Caribbean, they have a saying, “You’re not a Real man until your nails are dirty”.

*As a Beta-Male chode, I totally didn’t get it. I couldn’t grasp the correlation between manual labor and banging hot pussy… until I became a PUA, quit my office job and started doing manual labor.

*There’s absolutely NOTHING-NADA attractive nor sexy about a guy who sits in an office, cubicle, answers telephones and manages paperwork for a living.

*Personally,I worked in the government bureaucracy from 2003-2004, working in a virtual cubicle doing paperwork and computing. Now it makes sense why none of my female co-workers were attracted to me. They all were banging construction workers, auto-mechanics, masons, agri-farmers and guys who had dirty jobs…or at least jobs which required them to perspire and flex some muscles.

This was exactly my workload years ago. This' the guy you dont want to be

This was exactly my workload years ago. This’ the guy you dont want to be

*I couldn’t understand why hot girls were choosing to fuck dirty Miguel from the mechanic-shop when I was readily available, clean and had a more stable job. After I’d quit the desk job and went to a private sand-mining firm where real fucking manly work was; I then suddenly seen the light, and attractive women cat-calling me as I’d commute home with a torn shirt and oil-stained pants.

*Stunning fact; every guy I know who gets laid like a rockstar, is a manual-laborer: from DJ’s to sanitation workers.

*I know not of 1 office worker in my personal life who gets laid regularly…or even at all!!

You’re not a real man if…
9.) You’ve never been dumped!

*There’s this grand misconception in the seduction community that Alpha-Males cannot be dumped, or that Alphas are always the dumper and not the dumpee.


*Real Men/Alphas are always getting dumped for the simple fact that they are non-conformist who enjoy the company of more than 1 woman exclusively.

*Any guy who’s never been dumped has obviously been a kiss-ass throughout the course of his LTR’s(relationships). He plays it safe just to forestall getting dumped.

*Every Real Man I know has been dumped left-right throughout the course of his lifetime. The theory that Alphas don’t or can’t get dumped is hogwash. Beauty is; when an Alpha does get dumped, his GF always regrets it and soon after begs to have him back.

You’re not a real man when…
10.) You’ve only had 1 girlfriend in your entire adult life.

*One noticeable trait of a Real Man is that he’s never single for more than a year. Not that he loves monogamy(quite the opposite), but he gets so much poon that he’s bound to always have prospects for relationships (thus gets cajoled into one).

*It’s improbable that a guy who bangs lots of pussy will ever be single for long. Any decent Pick-Up Artist will always have a girlfriend. Having a GF is actually the virtual measuring stick to prove whether a guy gets laid or not.

*Any guy who’s been single for 3 years and claims that he’s only single because he enjoys singledom is fooling himself. He’s single because he cannot get a girl who’d date him, so he rationalizes being single as a choice.

*I fucking hate relationships!!! The thought of them makes me sick!!! But I’m always in one LOL!

*All the players I know all have girlfriends. All PUA coaches I know of, have girlfriends, and or in an open relationship or MLTR.

*So the notion that players are single, or that guys who get lots of pussy are always single is undoubtedly FALSE and quite the opposite!

The moral of the 10 points is this:

*Being a Real Man isn’t easy!

*A Real Man has it hard in life: irrespective of the field, genre or where he resides on Earth.

*Real Men are ridiculed, hated, despised, envied, castigated, slaughtered, fired, falsely imprisoned, dumped, foreclosed upon, crucified [that’s if you buy the Jesus story].

*If you’re unsure whether you qualify as a Real Man/Alpha-Male or not; reflect on the past 10 years of your life. And if more good fortunes has befallen you than misfortunes and unfortunate situations: then you’re not a Real Man. You’ve passively made it through life as an unscathed- pussy cat.

*Made-men, or rich men for that matter, didn’t acquire fortunes by being passive-little pussies. They took calculated risks, braved the storm, made shady deals which could’ve landed them in prison…

*So the maggots who are pretending to be Real Men, yet hasn’t gotten a trophy to show for it [the 10 points mentioned above], nor a proverbial scar, need to step up to the plate and start living life with gusto!

*Take risks, quit your boring-ass day job to pursue your dreams or to travel the globe!! Do something random like fucking a prostitute, travel to shit-hole cities where your life will be endangered, visit Mexico and rent a run-down apartment in a shitty favella next door to cartel members (opposed to staying in a pampered-resort town!!!

*Do something randomly dramatic tomorrow: dump your wife, punch your idiot boss in the face for not giving you a pay raise in 2 years, curse the shit out of your professor in front of the entire class!

*Quit your computer-programming day job and become a fucking local DJ!!

DJ Pauly D; 1 of the coolest dudes to appear on TV in ages...nd he gets laid like a Rockstar too!!!

DJ Pauly D; 1 of the coolest dudes to appear on TV in ages…nd he gets laid like a Rockstar too!!!

*That tight-ass girl you’ve been banging for 2 years straight: shoot a load of cum in her and pray that she gets pregnant…and remember to take care of your fucking responsibility as a father]!!!

*Real Alpha-Males live life like a renegade!!!

*Pussies live life comfortably and sheltered and are afraid to light the canvas and stir the pot…which is unfortunately the reason they do NOT get laid.

*The faint of hearts/Beta-Males may say: “But those things are very foolish, how will I eat, how will I survive, where will I live, who will feed my kids, what about my wife…”!!!?

*However, a Real Man subconsciously understands that it will always get better before it gets worse. If he quits his boring job today; he subconscious knows that he’ll find another 1 before he hits rock-bottom (or even become self-employed). If he does something random and cheats on his GF and tell her,and gets dumped, he instinctively knows that she will either forgive him eventually, or he’ll meet another girl twice as amazing.

*When I’d quit my jobs [4 occasions], I always end up finding another before anything drastic happened (kicked out, starvation, debt,etc.). And the beauty is, the newly acquired jobs were always higher paid than the ones I quit.

*So often times, a Real Man will have to suffer and be fucked over before he stumbles upon the dream job, dream girl, riches, entrepreneurship, the dream house…

*So light the fucking canvas and take risks in life…unless you’re content with being boring, ill-treated, sex-less, and die without a thing to show for it [offsprings].

[This post was not meant to be of any offense to any guy who doesn’t have any of the above-mentioned qualities of a Real Man.]

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Top 10 Mistakes Men Make With Women [according to Renaissan]


Renaissan; PUA coach for the Venusian Arts

[Guest post by dating coach Renaissan]


1. Showing too much sexual interest (Starting in Seduction): “The Creepy Guy”

A lot of guys show sexual interest in a woman before they attract and qualify her. They make it obvious to a woman they’re only interested in taking sex from her, without any regard to her as a person. It’s as if they say, “You don’t know me, wanna have sex?” Rather than be a getter, why not be a giver? Before seducing her, it’s best to let her see what you’re about, bring her some joy, and build comfort and trust. That way, you’ve built sexual interest in her as well.

2. Being too Nice (Starting in Comfort): “The Nice Guy”

On the opposite end, other men focus on not being a sexual threat and only building comfort. They’ll say things like “So, where are you from? Do you come here often?” before the woman knows anything about who this guy is. Share yourself first, and that will make her feel more comfortable sharing herself with you. And keeping the conversation fact-based is artificial. It’s best to make her FEEL first. Ironically, “The Nice Guy” technique still telegraphs sexual interest. He’s still trying to “get” but in a hidden way. Giving favors, gifts, compliments, early protestations of love, and being afraid to rock the boat isn’t really giving because something is expected in return. It’s okay to be a sexual threat. In fact, to create sexual tension you need to be.

3. Not qualifying or listening (Attracting but No Comfort): “The Player”

When a man attracts a woman first, but skips comfort, and goes straight for the sex, he becomes a player. This has three major drawbacks.

• A. Buyer’s Remorse. If you a rush a woman into sex too soon, she may regret it. So, avoid making out with her, especially if you’re in the club, and don’t lead her into the bathroom stall, unless all you want is a one night stand. It’s better to push her away: “We shouldn’t do this here.” Showing constraint is attractive. It also creates comfort and trust with her and increases sexual desire in her as a result. So, kiss her, but push her away. After you’ve built enough comfort, sexually arouse her in PRIVATE.

• B. She feels manipulated. For us, it can feel intoxicating when a woman shows interest in us. Before we protest our interest in her though, let her win us over first. Let her show us what she’s about. Let her EARN being with us. Let her WORK for us. After all, you don’t want to sleep with just anyone, do you? If you like who she is as a person, then show interest in her as a person. If we don’t do this, she may feel like she’s just a body and that we just go for anyone. Besides, who values handouts? A player is smooth but rushes to sex. A Venusian Artist doesn’t push for sex, but gets her to work for us first.

• C. Her guard comes up. If you cross the line into seduction too early without listening to her, spending a few hours with her (between 4-10 hours–7 hours on average), bouncing her to different locations, showing a vulnerable, honest side, connecting, laughing, touching comfortably, showing constraint, she will feel uncomfortable with your seducing her. Most likely, she’ll resist. Don’t make sex the priority. Build comfort and trust with her first. By not pouncing, she’ll more likely pounce you.

4. Not Touching Her (Attracting but Stuck in Comfort): “The Friend Zone”

On the opposite end, if a man spends too much time in comfort, he’ll get stuck in the friend zone. This usually happens when we don’t kino her. When we don’t kino, often it’s because we don’t want to “offend.” We won’t “offend” if we’re the friendly guy who speaks with his hands and touches everyone, not just the target. High-fives, hugs, hand-shakes, arm taps are accepted public forms of touch. In a discreet way, also squeeze her hand and see if she squeezes back. If she does, play with her fingers but then drop her hands. This slips sexual feeling into the interaction without being overt about it. When alone, touch her leg with yours, smell her neck, brush a hair from her face to match the gradual escalation of emotional intimacy. Touch eliminates the friend zone.

5. Not creating sexual tension (Balance Indicators of Interest with Indicators of Disinterest)

The “sexual” part of sexual tension comes from taking on the role of a dominant man interacting with a “cute” girl. The “tension” comes from the conflict of play-fighting. Tension is also the feeling of “what will happen next?” To the girl, this is exciting. She feels challenged–her pretty face for once isn’t sufficient to win over this guy. So, we must show disinterest: for example, walk away at the height of an interaction, or make her laugh with a neg instead of giving her a predictable compliment. We must also show interest too: for example smile, touch, show her appreciation when it’s deserved. In this way, we communicate with the woman inside her, not with with her polite, artificial social persona. Play-fight with her. Dominant man versus “cute” girl. This sparks sexual tension, and attraction, in her.

6. Trying Too Hard

Here are some examples of trying too hard: showing off, bragging, exaggerating accomplishments, asking a million questions, not allowing any silences, spending loads of money, entertaining her, trying to make her laugh constantly, getting interested in her way too fast, investing all our energies in one girl. Way too exhausting. The best pickup artists not only hunt, they farm. Go after one girl, get nothing. Go after 10 girls; get 7 awesome pivots and 3 lays (the best of the bunch, of course). You can only choose from the women who choose you. That means if you want to have choice, you have to be the man who talks to a lot of women. How can a girl chase us if we plant our feet in front of her and never move? Lie back and roll off. You’re the prize. Let the woman chase you. Jealousy plotlines can be an integral way to make the most beautiful women chase you.

7. Not Being Prepared

Generating a conversation out of thin air with complete strangers isn’t an easy task, so having some icebreakers prepared helps. Whip out a cheat sheet and fill it with negs, kino (write out the kino, however mundane, with negs and DHVs like stage directions), DHVs, and qualifiers. You’ll need enough material to engage a woman for 25 to 40 minutes, though ultimately you’ll need to fill 7 hours. Of that time, only the first few minutes should be A-2 material. Once we’ve hooked a woman, qualify her. We’ll stale out a set if we over-attract without having her work to attract us. We also demonstrate cluelessness about how to read a woman. Being prepared also means getting into the right state, which is a playful, positive, talkative state. Also, knowing where to bounce girls, and having logistics handled, is part of being prepared, as well as being groomed, clean, having condoms, and gum. Practice in the mirror before going out if you have to, it lends a degree of self-awareness in the field. And when you’re ready for that woman of particular beauty, forget everything and be in the moment. Ironically, preparation makes flow possible.

8. Being Too Logical and Factual

Showing off our intellect doesn’t create attraction. Our intellect speaks to her logic, not her emotions. Not smiling, keeping a monotone, factual voice, and being silent altogether doesn’t create attraction either. Where’s the juice? Women respond much more to a man who smiles and who’s expressive. This shows warmth and feeling. Women would rather feel. Rather than explain, or talk about facts and logic, or be overly serious, talk about emotional subjects, play with her, sweep her up into your arms and dance, talk about things that light you up. Passion and enthusiasm are aphrodisiacs for women. When you’re enthusiastic about something, she’ll be swept up in those good feelings and won’t want to part from them. Make a woman feel wonderful. She’ll associate feeling wonderful with you.

9. Demonstrating Lower Value

When we portray ourselves in a lower-value way with women, it kills her attraction for us. The way we portray ourselves begins in our thoughts. Instead of focusing on our insecurities in our thoughts, highlight strengths and accomplishments. Then when we’re talking with women, our positive light will naturally shine through, which increases her attraction for us. As a side note, self-deprecating humor only works when everyone is aware of one’s strengths. It becomes a form of humility, which is attractive. But when we self-deprecate without our strengths to contrast it with, it’s uncomfortable. So, why not meditate on our strengths in our thoughts? That way we grow into men of the highest value, like a self-fulfilling prophecy.

10. Fearing What She Thinks of You

Who cares what she might think of us? For that matter, who cares what anyone might think of us? All the great pickup artists seem to have one thing in common: social freedom. It’s so much more attractive to walk through the world without fear, especially without the fear of losing other people’s approval. “Approval” from others is flimsy, “approval” from within is solid. More important than getting the girl is serving a deeper purpose than women, and keeping focus on that purpose to its end with all of our hearts. Women can be sunshine in our lives, beautiful and inspiring, but true freedom comes not from getting her or from clinging to her, but from bringing our light into the world. The byproduct, not the goal, is we become a supremely attractive man to women, a man of particular value.

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