It’s not often that I pick up a bi-polar chick who flies off the fucking hinges like a coked-up Charlie Sheen infused with a massive dose of tiger blood (winning)!!
However, I’d struck jackpot the other day [lucky friggin’ me]!
*Job Description: Works @ a t-shirt printery, aspiring model.
*Notable achievements: She almost won the national high school spelling bee in her junior year.
*Met at a massive youth-political rally 2 weeks ago (we both support the same political party here on island).
*Chatted her up, got the # and her BB PIN, added each other on Facebook.
*We texted and chatted over the phone for about 2 days.
*We set up a meet-up for the Friday evening…but she flaked.
*Rescheduled for the next night (Saturday); she flaked again.
*Reasons for the first 2 flakes?
*First flake, I honestly can’t remember her reason. Second flake, claimed she was tired from a hard day [which is another classic-flake excuse]. If she was so tired, then why agree to the date?.
*The Sunday noon, we set up the 3rd. attempted meet-up for that Sunday night.
*Sensing the impending flake; I went to a bar instead [check the related post here from that night: Is this guy a pussy or not? ].
*She BBM’s me at 10:30 PM: “Hey, where are you? I’ll be ready to meet up when I finish these dishes”.
*The meet-up was set for 8:30, and she’s already 2 hours late.
*As a Pick-Up Artist, this’ where having options comes in. If you don’t have any options (that night), then just go sarge instead and hit up a bar or club like I did.
*Time passed and she never met up nor contacted me again that Sunday night. So that’s flake #3 (three nights in a row).
Now, I have a rule in game: I allow the girl 3 flakes before I NEXT her.
It’s nonsensical to drop the girl after she flakes just once.
Most girls WILL flake at least once or twice before conceding to the date or meet-up.
Also, the main causes of flakes are lack of comfort and self-consciousness [2 reasons why she didn’t give up the pussy and flaked]. Eighty percent of flakes are results of lack of comfort on the girl’s part (she feels fat that day, has a pimple, bad hair day, on her period,etc.).
So always give her the benefit of the doubt at least twice or thrice.
*She half-assed apologized for the Sunday night flake.
*We chatted Monday. At this point, I’d let her know that this’ the last time she has to stand me up.
*She breaks out into a crying tirade over the phone [I mean literally fucking bawling!!]:
“Muthafuckers like you never understands what I’m going through! My friend died days ago and that shit is fucking me up! I don’t wanna see anyone period! Not even my fucking mother I talk to right now”!
*Then she hangs up.
*She texted me later, “Sorry about earlier. We can meet up later. But this time, we should make it earlier”.
*Me: “We’ll meet at 7 pm at the ******”.
*At 6:30 pm that Monday evening, I texted her, “I’m at a bar picking me up a Smirnoff Ice. I’ll bring you 1 too” [she’d told me prior that it’s her favorite drink. Plus this’ a good anchor to get the girl to show up].
*Sensing that she might flake again (4th.time), I only bought 1 drink. 7 pm came,7:30,7:45,7:55,8:15…
*Called her…no answer.
*She BBM’s me: “I’m getting my hair done”. Don’t feel like coming out with my hair this way”.
*At this time, I’m saying to myself, “BITCH!! Why the fuck would you set up a date/meet-up if your hair wasn’t fucking done already”!!!?
*It was bullshit obviously! Of course her hair was done!
*This is just a classic case of Chic Logics, and highlights how women are ‘NOT’ rational and very illogical.
*At this point, I’m furious, both ears smoking in anticipation of unleashing a heavy barrage of verbal bombs on this bitch, but I’d managed to hold back the firepower!
*She calls me almost 9 pm [at that time, I’d already left the place, bought a pizza and went home. Since it was a Monday night, my options for other meet-ups were non-existent].
*HB Psycho: ““You just don’t fucking understand me and what I’m going through right now. So fuck you and leave me alone”!!
*She hung up so abruptly after her verbal tirade, I didn’t even get a chance to put a word in and curse her ass the fuck out!
I deleted her that instant from my BBM, phonebook and Facebook.
Did I regret letting this drag out into 4 flakes?
I had nothing to lose since I wasn’t that invested. But I would’ve been really fucked emotionally had I put everything aside for this flakey girl.
For the guys who may say that I should’ve NEXTED her after the 1st.flake. That would be counter productive in my book since most girls flake at least once or twice.
So I’m a huge advocate of giving a flakey girl a chance or two.
Not that she WILL accept the date anyway, but you have a better shot of landing that date by giving her a few chances to either hang herself or show up.
Same as if a girl doesn’t answer the phone on the first call, you wouldn’t erase her # so quickly.
Worst possible thing to do is to invest time and money into a date/meet-up. Then if she flakes, you stay home,mope around and beat yourself up.
If I were the average Beta-male sucker, I would’ve made reservations at a trendy restaurant, bought movie tickets, decorated my pad just for her, withdrew a wad of cash from the ATM for the date, bought her a date-warming gift for nice gesture…
All of those things would’ve went to waste(time and $$), including a serious blow to my emotions (of being stood up and spending on a proposed date).
So, I did the right thing by not investing an ounce of anything (money and preparation).
My attitude was,”if you show, you show. If you don’t, I’ll go to plan B and C” (game other girls, set up another date with another girl, or just go out and look more viable prospects).
So, 2 lessons here for guys to learn:
1.) Never give up too early. Let the girl fuck her chances by exposing herself as a serial flaker. You have nothing to lose in giving her a chance or 2 to come through.
2.) Never invest time nor money into a potential date.
Fuck what you read in Men’s Health magazine or heard on Millionaire Matchmaker! They will all lead you astray as far as dating advice goes.
*Reasons why a girl won’t have sex with you by Thundercat.
*She’ll either hate me or fuck me by Socialkenny PUA.
*Women are illogical creatures by Maniac High.