Fore-note: The spot where I’d approached her outside was so dark, that I wasn’t able to record a decent video [her face doesn’t even show].
Nevertheless: the audio is decent(despite loud music). And there are lots of key things for guys to learn “Social Vibing“.
BTW, this annual event on the island of Barbuda is called Caribana. It’s huge!!!
It’s like a Mardi Gras on steroids!!
Few thousand people packed into a huge field (like a rave), with an adjacent club attached.
Thousands of people come to Barbuda each year just to attend this 4 day concert-type event.
I’m 1 of them [besides, I was born here, so I’m generally here good portions of the year].
From this video/audio of me chatting up this HB9, you will have learned:
•False Time Constraint (how to use FTC)
•How to stack forward
•How to use silence (pregnant pause)
•How to force IOI’s to build attraction
Ok, she was in a 3-set (3 girls. 1 of them a popular-local artist), but as I approached, the other 2 girls rolled off.
Me: “Whad up, you gonna be my date tonight”?
Me: “That’s not a big thing to ask for”.
HB9: “I heard you”?
Me: “Aah boy”.
HB9: “Where you from”?
[She’s immediately seeking rapport with me. That’s doesn’t often happen if a girl isn’t attracted to the guy].
Me: “From here”.
HB9: [Un-recognized question]
Me: “How can I put it. I live in New York, but I’m from here”.
HB9: [Un-recognized question]
Me: “I go back and forth. But how you figured that? You never seen me? Don’t I look familiar”?
Me: “Well the funny thing, I never seen you before. This your first time here [at the event]”?
HB9: “No. I come every year with friends”.
Me: “And you don’t recall seeing me [at the event]? Well it’s the same thing. I probably wasn’t here when you came”.
HB9: “Every year I come”.
Me: “Oh ok. I wonder how I never seen you. That’s so strange”.
Me: “So you and Julia are like friends [Julia’s a known Soca music artist here on island. I noticed they were chatting as I approached]?
HB9: “That’s my niece. You know of Teresa [another local artist]”?
Me: “Oh yea! That’s your sister!? You joking”.
Me: “You look like what’s her name…Pauline, Paulette [the artist Teresa’s sister and back-up singer]”.
HB9: “Pauline’s my sister”.
Me: “Ok. I actually thought that was you”.
Me: “I honestly don’t believe you have a date. I’m serious. I really don’t believe that”.
HB9: “Why would you think that”?
Me: “Aaaam, well you’ve been standing here for…an hour.
HB9: “Nooo lol”!
Me: “Alright- 2 hours. Standing here for a long time, your date hasn’t arrived yet”.
HB9: “I met you (standing here)”.
Me: “Nah, I met you here! I think…alright, you met me here”.
Me: “But still- doesn’t matter. Your date seems like he’s not coming. And you know the saying: “if you snooze you lose”.
HB9: “Lol what’s your name”?
[This is the hook point where she’s still seeking rapport and a connection by knowing me].
HB9: “You got a girlfriend here”?
Me:”Yea I got a girlfriend”!
HB9: “So where is she”?
Me: “I don’t know! Probably out with a guy somewhere lol”.
HB9: “I don’t wanna get in any problems or a girl to attack me”.
Me: “Ah come on! What you think, this is like 1980 something…so that happens a lot? Come on, I don’t think that’d happen”.
Me: “So do you have a boyfriend”?
HB9: “Maybe. Not here”.
Me: “Yea!? So you got 1 home [in Dominica]? I mean, every girl got a boyfriend! That’s straight up”.
HB9: “But he doesn’t live in Dominica”.
Me: “Oh ok. Where he lives, the states?
Me: “Oh ok cool”. So I see you like guys from the states”.
[She blushes. Confirmation that she’s attracted to my Americanism].
HB9: “Why you say that is seems like it [that she likes U.S. guys]”?
Me: “Just saying, if your BF from the states…and I maybe happen to be from the states…you know- seems like you like that”.
Me: “I mean, be straight up! You do”?
[She gives a half-ass maybe]
Me: “So what do you like, the accent”?
HB9: “Not really the accent. I like the way yall dance”.
HB9: “As long as he can dance”.
Me: “Oh ok ok!! Sounds good. You went dancing last night [Friday]”?
HB9: “No! I was too tired when I came! I fell asleep till the next day”.
Me: “Well that was a good thing ’cause it started [the show] like 4 o’clock AM. That’s crazy”!
Me: “So when you came”?
Me: “From Dominica”?
[Don’t get Dominica mixed up for Dominican Republic. They are 2 separate islands in the Caribbean. English is the main language in Dominica, and they also speak Creole]
HB9: “I came to Antigua Wednesday night. And I came here [Barbuda] Thursday morning”.
Me: “So what’s your name by the way, Edalyn [very common name in the island of Dominica, so I assumed it was that lol]”?
Me: “Oh, Adelia”!! Adelia…the girl with no date tonight”. But she might end up being my date [with a sly smile at her]. But that’s only if her BF doesn’t show up out of nowehere LOL [we laugh together]”.
HB9: “So what’s your GF’s name”?
Me: “[Just came up with the first random name in my head]Gloria. Don’t know if you know her”.
HB9: “Not really”.
Me: “You know a lot of people here [in this part of the town]”?
HB9: “Mainly by their face really. But I don’t really mingle with them [girls]”.
Me: “Oh you don’t!? Ok. Are they jealous of you”?
HB9: “No, that’s just how I am. I’m very shy”.
Me: “But you don’t seem like a shy girl. You are!!?
[She nods her head shyly]
Me: “Wow, you doing a good job for a shy girl! You’re actually talking to me. I mean, I usually intimidate girls. You’re doing a good job. That’s good”.
[At this point: Im qualifying. Essentially accepting her by complimenting her on not being shy (which she was)].
Me: “So how about dancing? You know how to dance”?
HB9: “I’m not really a good dancer”.
Me: “Ok well…I’m actually a dancer teacher”.
[She gives me a “You fucking liar” look. But I didn’t let it phase me. I remained congruent through this congruency testing by her].
Me: “Yea. I’m a dance instructor. I’m serious, you can ask around about me. Everybody knows that. So I can actually teach you some steps tonight”.
[Key note: I’m not asking her, I’m telling her. Most guys would ask if they can teach her some steps. An Alpha assumes dominantly].
Me: “But I’m gonna have to charge you $10 an hour”.
[we both laugh].
Me: “Are you ready to go in [the concert grounds], or you waiting around a little”?
Me: “Well I’m about to head down here so…
[I intentionally forced a pregnant pause while I look at her seductively].
HB9: “I don’t like competition”.
[The fact that she says she doesn’t like competition is confirmation that she seems me as the Alpha male, and she’s attracted to me, and she’d essentially want me for herself].
Me: “Yea me neither”!
Me: “But I thought every girl liked competition. Not true”?
HB9: “I’m a jealous lover”.
Me: “Woa! Jealous lover [she laughs animatedly]!
Me: “So you’re the type of girl that’d kill her boyfriend in his sleep”?
[We laugh hysterically together]
Me: “Anyway, the line is kinda short right now so…[people was lined up like a bloc long to get in the spot]. I’m gonna go in”.
Me: “So, Adelia, by the way my name is Kenny once again. It was nice to meet you [I never ever come off politely but this time]”.
[I extended my hand to hers and grabbed hers]
Me: “Shake hands. That’s how we do it in New York”.
[I carressed her palm and held it 3 seconds]
Me: “Wow, you got soft hands! That’s good”.
HB9: “So when are you going back to New York”?
[Lmao, she does NOT want me to go. She wants me to stay at chat with her since she’s so attracted to my Game (however subtly)].
Me: “In a month or so”.
HB9: “Take me with you”.
Me: “What’s that”?
HB9: “Bring me with you”.
Me: “Yea that could work. We can organize something, you know. I can pack you in my suitcase”.
[We both laugh, and she taps me, which is a huge IOI that she’s into me].
Me: “Yea, so I’ll see you inside”.
[I steady trying to get away but she kept keeping me there].
Me: “And I hope your date doesn’t show up. And I hope my girlfriend doesn’t show up [we laugh together]”.
•Noticed how I opened her without fear of rejection nor nervousness (no sign of Approach Anxiety).
•My voice projection strong instead of monotone and light (which displays weakness).
•My tone and vibe was light and banterish. Not serious,deep and heavy (grave turnoff).
•Being an American or Americanized in the Caribbean is a HUGE DHV (plus).
•My NY accent immediately boosted the attraction she felt for me.
Mirror, Mirror, Mirror!!
•Notice at every juncture of the conversation, we laughed together?
•I timed/calibrated my laughing with hers. This is what we call “Mirroring” her body language in the seduction community.
•People feel more comfort with others who display similar body language. Me laughing on cue with her, sub-communicates to her brain that “we are one”. We are in union. Our bodies synchronized.
•If I’d not laughed when she did, smile when she did, we would essentially been on different planes, and the attraction would not have built (or faded).
•So mirroring her movements, body language,timing her laughter and smile is fucking key to attracting her!!
False- Time Constraints (FTC):
•Always give the target the impression that you’re ABOUT to leave [this is pick-up 101]!
•Notice few times in the video that I said to her that I’m about to go?
•At that point, if she’s attracted to me and likes me: she will not try letting me go so easily. So that’s why she kept trying to keep me there by re-initiating convo’ via questions
•I told her that I had a girlfriend!
•How many guys would’ve told the truth? Maybe 2% of guys globally [and all Pick-Up Artists BTW]?
•Never lie about your relationship status! If a girl doesn’t fuck with you because you have a GF: it means she wasn’t gonna fuck with you regardless if you were single.
Neg her (subtly diss her)!!
•Notice how I’d negged her multiple times (without over doing and coming off as a huge douchbag).
•I negged her by saying to her that her date stood her up, and when she said she’s a jealous lover, I negged her by saying she’s the type to kill her BF in his sleep/psycho-chic .
•Those negs were SOLID since they made her laugh and not disrespected.
SOI’s(signs of interest)
•Was this girl feeling me? Hell fucking yea!!
She showed this by subtly:
•Laughing at my jokes and puns
•Trying to gain rapport instantly
•She wanted me to take her with me back to NY.
•However, she did not give much physical IOI’s.
•I could’ve gotten her # after the interaction with ZERO chance of rejection.
•I could’ve kissed close her at various hook points.
Why didn’t I kiss her after seeing she was open to it (more physical play)?
Absolutely no reason!
Why didn’t I get her #?
•Those following my blog since February would’ve known that I’m currently on a #-Close Detox.
•I notice when I get a girl’s number, the less chance of me fucking her or even getting a meet up.
•When I don’t go for the # (and just focus on seducing her there), the success rate of hooking up with her is 60% higher than if I got her #.
•Assume she wasn’t interested when she said she had a boyfriend.
•Walk away after finding out she was taken [believing that girls with BF’s don’t cheat]
•Went for her phone # like 1 minute in the chat [before any attraction], get rejected or get a fake #.
•Get her # then hope to call her next day(s) opposed to seducing her same night to fuck her the same night.
•kissed her ass because of her beauty [opposed to treating her like a bratty sister like I did].
•Chatted with her all night thus subcommunicating that he has all the time on hand for her [turn off].
•Complimented the shit out of her!
I was fist pumping away with Smirnoff Ices in both hands.
I broke 1 of the rules of pick up and offered to buy her a drink.
She said she wanted a Smirnoff Ice, I affirmed but gave it a second thought and changed my mind.
A guy that must’ve been about 6’8 came up to her and put his arms around her and said something and roll off.
She said to me that was her “so-called” BF and he’s upset she’s talking to a guy (me).
Met up randomly again (maybe an hour later), we danced a bit hips to hips, the same dude (her BF) must’ve text her to stop. She stopped, went over to him and got verbally chastised.
This happened maybe 4 times between 2 AM and 4:30 AM, where the BF interrupted or called her away.
•Average guys still seem to be puzzled that you can tell the OYD (object of your desire) that you have a GF.
•As we teach in the Pick-Up Community: “girls dig guys who have girlfriends”!!
•And if you don’t have a GF, it might be an uphill battle for you to get that girl.
•I’ve never told the target (girl) that I have a GF and she all of a sudden got turned off!!
•So there’s absolutely NO reason to lie about having a girlfriend or wife!!
•It will “INCREASE” your chances and “INCREASE” the attraction for you.
•Saying you’re single does the opposit [very counter-intuitive for the average guy to grasp].
•Notice how I never stopped talking, no awkward silence, and I never ran out of things to say.
•I did most of the talking (which is what you wanna do as the guy). The “90/10” rule apply here where I did 90% of the talking.
•Never have the girl do the bulk of the talking, or she’s gonna lead the interaction down her road: which leads to nowhere.