This article is specifically aimed at women, in hopes of shedding some light on the contentious-issue of “Cheating”. And no: this article is not an excuse nor green light for men to dog women out. So feminists- no need to get all revved up over this.
I had an interactive discourse earlier with a female blogger [Serenity ] on the subject of cheating. Her stance was basically that “men cheat more, men are dogs…typical-female jargon [go figure right?]. That’s an argument for another post.
This article will highlight the more intricate details of Why men cheat?
Women should understand that at no point in history (pre-history to as late as the 1800’s) was men ever deemed to have 1 partner, i.e. a One-Woman Man.
*Men were always expected to have concubines, few wives and be Promiscuous. Men are promiscuous creatures by nature.
*Trying to force a guy to be Monogamous (having 1 woman) is essentially forcing him to go against his nature and what he’s always innately known as a man [to be promiscuous].
*Being faithful is NOT normal for a men. Yes: it can be done, and is done [men are typically far more faithful than women]. However, it still doesn’t negate the fact that being faithful to 1 woman is still an un-natural and foreign act.
*The very tainted Bible that everyone loves to death, it’s a haven for promiscuous men (prophets), and it advocates Polygany (having more than one wife).
*The pre-history men (Neanderthal & homo-erectus), aka Caveman, they of course partook in promiscuity, sleeping with various women, etc.
*Every step along history (pre- and modern), men were known as Promiscuous. It was the norm, accepted, no big deal.
I’ve said all that to say, it’s virtually IMPOSSIBLE for anyone, or any guy, to erase what is essentially in his genes, hardwired over the course of millions of years that men has existed.
*So its’ fallacious to expect men to suddenly re-wire our genetical makeup because of what “modern” society considers Wrong, Unfaithful and Cheating.
*Modern society (particularly the western world) and the feminist movement, are trying to force men into living an Un-Natural lifestyle (being faithful to 1 woman).
*So rather than screaming, “All men are dogs“. Women need to look at Infidelity on a man’s part as a biological, evolutionary and internal struggle for us men. You’re expecting us to virtually eradicate what was ingrained in us for millions of years [having more than 1 partner].
*Evolution does NOT work that way!!!
*It took from 350,000 to over 2 million years of evolution for men to make basic biological, environmental and Behavioral changes.
*Likewise with trying to get men to alter their biological wiring to cheat and be promiscuous: it’d take hundreds of thousands of years to happen [and we’re not even into 50 years of men trying to practice “Monogamy].
*Hence ladies, this might be a hard pill to digest, but understand that when a man messes around: he’s only doing what comes natural to him [over the course of 6 million years in his DNA].
*It’s equivalent to society trying to force women to ‘NOT’ care for and nurture their children (a behavioral act they’ve been doing for millions of years).