I was just lying here in my apartment, gazing around, brainstorming some interesting topics I can blog about.
Now- I’m a man [DUH!], which means I’m NOT too inclined in keeping my bachelor pad in tip-top shape; pants thrown here, boxer-briefs tossed there, dirty Converse all-stars propped up on the old CPU, oily-pizza box from last week staring at me from under the bed…you know- typical male-mess.
We tend to get slobby at times. Men who live alone can relate-right?
Anyway, I was dialoguing with myself, “It’s the Holiday season, even though I’m anti-climactic about it, I’m expecting to pull some hot girls back to the pad.
My GF and I are sought-of on a break [what’s fucking new?], so I better get this shit in order!
Like a city roach scrambling to take refuge when the lights come on- I did the same shit and scurried to get the pad in order, and somewhat clean.
As I’m cleaning, I said to myself, “Look at how easily I could’ve been busted if my girlfriend and I were still exclusive”.
For the guys who aren’t in relationships, nor haven’t been in one recently, this may seem vague. I’ll explain a bit later.
It’s generally accepted, or at least in the seduction community, that women are 100 times more perceptive than us men.
Women are fucking clairvoyant, which means they can pick up on shit lightning fast, while we men are slow as snails to pick up on the obvious.
Thus the social stigma that women are best at cheating (since they rarely get caught compared to men). Women can pick up on: when a guy likes her, when he’s trying to buy his way into her panties, when he’s nervous, etc.
Women got that!! They are good at picking up on patterns.
Pertaining to patterns: men tend to get lazy after few months in a relationship, hence falling into a routine (which his GF notices):
*He no longer gets a haircut
*Farts around her
*Lets his guards down
*Lives like a slob
*Isn’t worried about cleaning his pad every single minute just because his girlfriend is coming over.
My point is, it’s common that people (mainly men) fall back into lazy routines after ‘winning the so-called prize’ (the girl).
During the course of my LTR, I settled into the pattern too, “What the hell- that’s my girl! I’m not gonna hire a fucking maid nor become one just ’cause she’s coming over! So what if the fridge is empty or the cat pissed on the floor!? I’ll have her grab some snacks on the way over then clean up the cat mess when she gets here [shrug]”!
It’s normal to operate that way when dealing with your GF.
You can relax, be lazy and not worry about impressions.
But do we operate that way when hoping to pull some new ass?
Of course not!!!
With the possibility of a new prospect coming over, if the guy has to search Craig’s list for a cat-sitter or bum some money off a buddy to stack his fridge, then he’ll do it by any friggin’ means!!!
Can’t have your date come over and your dirty underwears are sprawling all over the couch, exposing her to your slobbery. But this is where a lot of cheating guys go wrong. They break their patterns without reasons.
This isn’t just related to domestic things as cleaning.
This could be a guy who never goes to the gym then suddenly; he starts going to the gym often.
Sure he CAN truly want to lose 10 lbs. to gratify himself. But when sudden change of patterns and lifestyles occur, 9-10 times, it signals infidelity or the thought of it.
If a guy only tidies his pad once a month, then starts doing it every week (without reason), then it’s crystal clear that he’s doing it for the purpose of picking up women [a new woman], or appearing presentable to that woman.
People just don’t break patterns and routines for their spouses, partners neither someone they’re already familiar with (relatives, etc.).
We generally break patterns to make an impression on people we are NOT familiar with.
Classic Example: My girlfriend used to hound me to fucking death about cutting my semi-Mohawk.
Did I do it?
*She harassed me about a pair of jeans I wore which had a mini-hole in the crotch area. Did I stop wearing it? Of course I still wore that shit!
Now that it’s the Holiday season and I’m expecting to see a lot of girls in town from NYC [escaping the Winter to the islands], my GF and I are on a break (as usual-can’t get along), so picking up random HB’s is a ‘MUST’.
You can bet a million bucks that I went to the barbershop yesterday!
And you sure won’t see me wearing those jeans with the hole in the crotch around possible prospects!!!
Essentially, my patterns and routines were broken due to possible new-pussy prospects. So if you really wanna know if your GF/BF is cheating or looking to cheat: pay attention to their patterns and lifestyle changes.
Subtle things as NOT wearing a shirt that they always wore, tidying their apartment outside of their usual allotted time could be red flags.
Men tend to NOT be readily able to pick up on these subtleties (coming from their girlfriends).
However, women can spot these changes and breaks in patterns like fucking witch doctors!
Women truly possess an innate ability to see through the bullshit. That’s why it’s harder for a man to cheat and get away with it.
In the same token, that’s why it’s easier for a girl to cheat and get away with it.
Men naturally don’t pick up on patterns, so it’s hard for us to gauge whether a girl likes us or not, while a girl can tell within a blink of an eye that that guy wants to ravage her!
Guys, if you plan on being cheating dogs, remember to not break patterns and routines unless you have plausible reasons, ’cause if you do: she’ll know it.