Letter to a girl[from the heart]

I was just rummaging through some junk I had thrown under my bed[old cassettes,sneakers,documents...].Through the midst of cobwebs and dirty socks which probably have been there for years now lmao,lo and friggin’ behold:a letter to a girl.

Disclaimer:This letter is bound to make every guy in the ‘Manosphere’ cring!The most cheesiest of men/Beta Males will undoubtedly feel a rush of anger towards me.I might be deposed and banned from the pick-up community(despite this letter being some years old,before I fully learned ‘Game’).I was still pretty much a newbie to seducing women.So please forgive me dear Gods of Pick-Up,for I have sinned gravely by way of the following scribe.

Female readers, on the other hand ,may feel their warm hearts flutter as they read the letter.

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Background:

In 2006,I was pretty much still under the poisonous- false notion that the only way to a woman’s heart or vagina is via:sweet words,flattery,romance and heart-felt letters.

I was always great with words and diction(since I loved poetry as a kid coming up).I’d make Shakespeare’s ass look like a fucking amateur-hour poet at the Apollo LMAO!

Anywho,my buddy Unit had hooked me up with a mutual friend of his:her name is Kim.We met up,got acquainted,hung out for a day,she went back to her town…So I decided it was time to let it all hang out the only way I knew how:through a heart-felt letter.

This was about a week after meeting[One-tis is a MOFO lmao].I mailed her the letter and kept a rough draft for myself.Ok-here it goes verbatim,word for word(no edits,no cuts).

“What’s up Kim?I’m writing this letter from the heart,and I want you to study it and think about what I was saying on the phone.Words alone can’t express how I feel about you,but for starters,I want to let you know that I love you,and I’ve fallen in love with you from the first time I laid eyes on you Kim.I fell in love with your beauty,and I was surprised that ****** actually hooked me up with a young girl as pretty as you.I felt below your standards.I couldn’t see us together because your beauty and good looks were too much for me to handle at the time.Baby,I love you everything about you;especially that bright smile you had that seems to melt my heart.Most of all is your inner beauty that attracts me to death.You are sweet and have the charms of a little baby(total innocence),and when I’m with you,you make me feel special to know that I have a special girl in you Kim.I love you and mean it.Don’t let hating-ass niggaz ruin what we had,should have and will have”.

Wow!That was fucking painful!I can’t believe I wrote that as I retrospect SMDH.I barely knew the girl but for a week and change and only met her once.But that was my MO.That was vintage Kenny with every girl I met prior to 2006 lmao!I thought that was the way to go in order to build a relationship with a girl-or frankly just to get some coochie.I felt that I had to go R&B and Poetry.

95% of women reading this may say to themselves:”That was lovely!I wish I fount a man like that who was so expressive and genuine”.But let’s see how it plays out with Kim and I.

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Story Continues:

She got the letter,exclaimed how much she loved it and showed her friends…

A month later(following more mushy/Beta stuff from me),we officially went ‘Exclusive’.We were dating.She became my GF.We were in a relationship[talk about rush].

My friend Unit and I rented a house for the 4 of us to stay as roomies[my GF and I,and Unit and his GF].So we were 2 best-friends couples.Unit and I were besfriends.Kim and Unit’s GF were besties.Couldn’t get any better than that lol.

Within a week of lodging together:guess what happened?She ran out on me lmao.Nah just kidding.Read on!

I walked in from work one day(at 5 pm) and caught her fucking another guy in OUR bed!Yep-she cheated in the worst way!Red fucking handed before sunset.This chic was brazen and bare-faced since she knew that I usually come home at 5 SMH!So she showed that she didn’t care nor value our relationship in the worst way.

But Ultimately-I’m the one to be blamed.I rushed things.I fell for a stranger.I was playing the romance card when she was just out for a fuck and good time.

Irony is:Kim and I are cool as hell to this day lmao.She hated the old me(in 2006)who was romancing her and simping(as Reema would say).Ever since learning pick up and becoming a real man/badass who frowns upon seducing women via romance,Kim has been chasing me down for the past few years lmao.Trying to seduce me,buy me,lure me…I mean-we’re mad cool though lol!I had hung out with her 3 times since,but I wasn’t into her at all.

Do I blame Kim?Then-yes.Now?Hell NO!!Any girl would have cheated eventually after being with a doormat,a wuss/nice guy!

For all I know,she’s probably reading this since we’re Facebook friends and she sees all my blog posts.We talk on the phone every other week so there’s no ill feelings on my part.

So,for every guy checking out this post,learn this lesson at least:Women do NOT like nice guys!Women do NOT appreciate nice guys nor nice gestures when done PREMATURELY!

Pop,Rock & R’n'B turn men into pussies!!!

I don’t believe that this revelation is anything grand and novel.It’s no secret that the above music genres cater to women’s whims,fantasies and desires:thus excluding the men and what we want and expect from women.

I love R&B by the way:the 90′s stuff from R.Kelly,Joe,Ginuwine,Jodeci,etc.However,such music has managed to turn men into tricks,losers,BETAS,doormats,supplicators and bitches.How?By giving men the WRONG idea of how to show interest in women.

Classic theme of R&B:

*Tells men to reward women for anything.
*Tells men to reward women eventhough she’s been a complete bitch.
*Tells men that women are always right.
*Women must be pampered and spoiled to death.
*Buy her jewelry and nice things to show her that you care or love her(eventhough she’s not your GF). *Spend on her royally in order to show her that you want her.
*Take it slow as possible.

All the above beta suggestions will not get you anywhere with women!I fucking learned that the hard way!But men still are convinced that that’s the way to go in order to get the girl.You must go Pop-Culture.

Top 4 most beta/pussy lyrics excepts from 4 of my favorite R&B songs(these lyrics make me cringe as I reflect with an Alpha’s mindset):

Artist:Joe

Song:All the things

Lyrics…“treat you like something precious as gold.I’m ready to do all the things your man won’t do.I’ll give the world to make you mines”.

Translation:You should pedestal the fuck out of this chic who you’re trying to court[obviously hadn't banged her yet].Her man won’t pedestal her so you’re to come in a promise to anything for her.You should do anything for her to make her yours[including spending,shopping sprees,dropping all other prospects].

Artist:Jagged Edge

Song:He can’t love you

Lyrics…“can’t believe I let you leave.I’m half way going crazy.He can’t do for you like I can”.

Translation:Despite she being wrong,you should beg her not to leave or break up since she’s so precious.You should compete for her to prove to her that you really want her.

Artist:Dru Hill

Song:In my bed

Lyrics:…”Somebody’s sleeping in my bed and it’s messing up my head[his girl is cheating].I gave you money,and every little thing that you need.I gave you the world cause you were my girl…”

Translation:You should do anything and everything for you girlfriend.Then when she does cheat out of ingratitude and feeling privileged,spoiled and bored,you should throw it in her face that you spent money on her like crazy[in hopes she would feel sorry and take you back,despite she being the cheater].

Artist:Sammie

Song:Crazy things I do for love

Lyrics:…”I’ll put you in the flyest gear making sure you tight.Money ain’t a thing:only if you promise not to game.Kiss me girl and I’ll spend every dollar in my name…”

Translation:Buy buy buy and fucking buy!Buy this strange girl you’d just picked up fine things(high-priced dinners,shoes,etc).Money is no object so she can use you like an ATM.

Synopsis

*The common theme of all the above lyrics was this:Treat women like spoiled fucking kids,entitled to the world in order to get her.

*If she cheats…Fuck it-beg her to stay anyway(since it’s never her fault)!

*The key to a woman’s heart,pussy and a relationship with her is via ‘SPENDING’($$$).Show that you can spend more than the other guy who might be trying to get her by outspending you LMAO.

*Buy her gifts and shit although you don’t know her from Adam.Just put her on a grand pedestal bro’!

Now,for the readers who might be saying,”but men don’t take advice from what they listen on TV,radio and the media”.Bullshit!Of course we do!The #1 dating advisor to men and women is music.Hands fucking down!

Before I got into the pick-up community,R&B music was what advised me on how to get women.Irony was:I never got women from following the advice lmao! I used to spend on women like fucking crazy:shoes,flowers,Teddy bears and chocolate for Valentines…The women would take the gifts but end up fucking Joe Blow who never bought her shit lmao. Was I the only male victim of this massive-social scammery via love music which caters to women?Hell no!Most of my friends(who are AFC’s and Beta’s),their impression of getting women is via ‘Spending,Expensive Dates,Love Poems and Sending her texts messages saying:”you’re the light of my soul.I would go through hell for your love”. No wonder they don’t get laid thus reverting to banging hookers at brothels on weekends lol.

Love songs from every genre:Pop,Rock and R&B need to be eradicated in order for men to start being Alphas and real men. Hopefully that would be a new New Years resolution for us men:to stop catering to women while putting our own needs and wants on the back burner.

Nothing is essentially wrong with listening to beta-male music.Just as long as you don’t take their advice as literal and a guideline to getting and keeping the girl.

Dammit!!I can’t crack this chic!!!

I think that’s her sister on the right.

Fuck fuck fuck!!!

Sorry for the vulgarity but that’s how critical this is.

Every met that one chic whom you just can’t escalate on, take advantage and seal the deal?The type of chic who could be lying butt-ass naked in your bed but you just cannot act!?

Typically,I would’ve already NEXT’d this heffa for indirectly fucking up my game.But it’s not her fault LOL.She’s not the problem.She’s playing her part as far as being available and receptive to being seduced.

Background

She’s a pre-school teacher in her early 20′s.Sexy-ass Island girl.

I don’t usually rate girls as 10′s but she’s a solid HB10 on her worst days!

Anyway,I chatted her up few times,got her # on a separate occasion.

All this was about 9 months ago[let's say a year to be fair].

Sticking Point

I just can’t tap into my reservoir of game and charms to fucking seduce this chic!

Whenever I call her on the phone(mainly to set up a meet),I always flub it up by coming off as weird I guess LMAO.

It’s sought of a nervous energy around us whenever we chat or I happen to run into her(since she lives nearby).

As much as I want to and try to be seductive,charming and sexual-It just doesnt translate!It won’t come out!IDK WTF it is.

It’s rare that I run into a chic who does this to me:essentially throwing off my skills.

Make no mistake about it guys:it isn’t fear,AA(approach anxiety),nor any other inner game flaw.This dilemma is some puzzling Jedi-mind shit!

I think every guy has met a chic like this before or few times over the past years.

She just fucking saps the Alpha/bravery out of you,thus bringing out the AFC’ish side of you.

So far,I’ve charged her to the game by deleting her contact info from my phone(after realizing this won’t be going anywhere:due to my self-blocking).

Then out of the blue,I’d get a text from her 2 weeks down the line asking why haven’t she heard from me?What!!!

Of course I can’t say something cheesy and Beta as,”Well I deleted you since you have me feeling like a pussy”.Nah!That would be a virtual nail in the coffin.

So,I would end up reconnecting with her via phone and text.Whenever she’s in my area(coming from work-school),she’d give me a shout or text.I’d meet her but then get all pussy and wussy by not escalating and trying to lay this girl!

Make no mistakes about it:she is NOT rejecting my advances.Nor is she hard to bang.I can sense it that she’s ripe for the picking.But all I have to do is step it the fuck up.Hit the gas peddle!Easier said than done with this girl.

It beats the shit out of me trying to analyze whats’ really going on that’s freezing my game and preventing me from escalating.

It’s no secret that this chic likes me.She digging me hard!And it’s mutual!!

We chatted about 2 hours ago on a street corner.Flirted,giggly-bubbly vibe as usual.She gives off every IOI in the book which signifies that a girl is attracted to a guy.

With about 100 green lights in my favor to just ravishing this chic like a caveman;I just CANNOT escalate!Fuck!!!

This chic just fucks my game up:by no fault of hers LMAO!

Curious to know if any other guy in the manosphere has had this happen to them before.Where the chic is just totally into you but you cannot pull the trigger.

How does a girl earn drinks from me

Ok guys,if y’all haven’t read part 1 to this topic:click the link Here to check it out

When is it OK to buy her a drink?

As the title suggests;the girl whom you’re chatting up at the bar or club HAS to EARN it.

This is a classic concept in the pick-up community dubbed Rewarding her.

Listen clearly!The only time you should buy her a drink is if she’s worked for it,and you’re essentially REWARDING her.

Do not reward bad behavior!

How many times have we seen a guy chatting up a girl,and she’s clearly not interested(via body language),nor engaged in the chat[i.e.Bad Behavior],yet the he still initiates buying her a drink!

That is essentially rewarding her for bad behavior.Or for anti-social behavior.

Why would you reward someone who hasn’t done anything to deserve it!!?

Women are so used to being rewarded by Beta males when they don’t deserve it,that they virtually expect every guy to do the same.

We can all thank the Betas/nice guys for setting this awful trend(smfh).

Grounds for rewarding her

Ok,the reason guys chat up girls is to get laid(eventually).No secret in that.

Accordingly,whatever the girl does to facilitate the possible lay,or if she’s just enjoying the time y’all are spending.Feel free to reward her with a drink.

The fact that she’s been so receptive and reciprocative to you and the chat(opposed to being a first-class bitch),somewhere during the chat(15 minutes after),I may say to her:

“Hey Marcy,I’m gonna get ‘MYSELF’ a drink.Since you’ve been such a fucking rockstar,I’m gonna get you one too.Let’s go to the bar”!

The subtle beauty in what I said is this:

*I made it clear that ‘I’ was gonna buy ‘MYSELF’ a drink.And I’m in such a good mood that I’m considering getting you on.But I come first.

That is very fucking powerful guys!

It subcommunicates to the girl that “you’re more important than she is”[who's just a stranger].

As we already know,that mindset and frame is a crucial part of the alpha lifestyle.

And women LOVE alphas and men who are dominant and confident with a touch of asshole mixed in there lol.

What I stated to her is what separates real men from boys.

An alpha always puts himself before any random woman.

While betas/wussies put the woman first:aka pedestalling[which is a grave sin in the seduction community].

Women are attracted to dominance and high-valued men!Their panties get super friggin’ drenched by guys who display such behavior!

A guy CANNOT be high value, if he’s going around the club rewarding girls who haven’t invested anything into an interaction.

Women see such actions as weak,supplicative and sly!

So once the girl has invested in the conversation by actually talking for more than 15 minutes,she has essentially earned any good acts you’re willing to perform.

On the contrary,if you’re trying to social and converse with her,but she’s not responding,not talking much,being a bitch,being indifferent,not smiling,obviously not enjoying the time…Why the fuck would you even contemplate rewarding such bitchy behavior!?

And the sickening thing is:Most men would STILL reward her(or attempt to)by buying her a drink[LMFAO]!!!

It’s as if the guy say to himself,”you know what,she’s acting a bit frosty right now,so I’m gonna buy her a drink”.

Hoping that will activate her conversational motors.

Once a woman sees you’re rewarding her shitty behavior,she will take advantage(if she’s that kinda girl).

She will drink your ass out while pretending to be enjoying the chat,just to have your ass running back and forth to the bar like a damn waiter!

Then she’s gonna introduce you to her social group,and you’re gonna find yourself feeling compelled to buy drinks for her girlfriends too LMFAO!!!

Guys,we’ve all seen this shit play out every weekend at venues.

We’ve all probably been there and been that looser guy.

That guy rushing to the bar then returning to the set with 4 cocktails in hands:praying not to spill them.

That sought of behavior is WEAK and a turnoff to women.

And how ironic that 95% of men in clubs and bars act this way:committing such ridiculous social faux-pas.

So you never want to put yourself in a situation where the girl has you buying drinks for her girlfriends:which is quite common nowadays(smh).

That is why I appreciate the pick-up community and our insights so much.

The guru/head coach for RSD (Real Social Dynamics),Tyler Durden,once wrote an article years ago entitled “Secret Society”.

He went on as to say that,”Only 5% of men in the world get laid regularly.And in the club:only 5% of the men in the venue will actually get laid”.

The reality that guys are in the bars and clubs doing dumb shit ,like buying girls drinks when they haven’t earned it.I can picture now what TD meant by that.

Hard Truth In Closing:

Women are 100 times more socially savvy that us.

Women are 100 times more socially aware than us.

Women are 100 times more perceptive than us.

So if you’re scheming, plotting and contemplating buying drinks:Know that the girl knows the only reason you’re doing it is to buy your way into her pants.

Thus,she will either reject you now by turning down your drink proposal.

Or she will accept your drinks, use you all night as her drink-provider,then reject you later.

So we cannot blame women for being gold-diggers.We can only blame the men who readily offer them gold.

Once again,checc out this interesting article about buying drinks from a female’s perspective:imma buy you a drank