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Field report:”KINO lesson-the Arab way”.
It’s been 3 straight nights of hard-bar game at the same bar I gamed at 2 nights ago[Christmas Eve Field Report(at the bar)].I’m going and going like a damn energizer-bunny!!!
Last night,I entered the bar and spotted a 2 set chubby girls sitting alone at a table waiting on drinks.I wasn’t gonna wait around like an anti-social dude,so I said WTH,I might as well entertain the fatties until some hotter girls rolled in[social proof].So I rolled over to their table[an empty seat was there],time constraint,sat down by saying,”I’m not asking anyone’s permission to sit here.It’s a free world so let’s enjoy the freedom while it lasts”.Cheeky/cocky-funny lines like those are my favorite.They never fail me.I threw it with a sly smile and the girls giggled away at how ballsy I was.
A while later,some Arab dude rolled up to the table,introduced himself,started chatting up the other fatty,grabbed a seat and started gaming lol.Talk about balls.This MOFO had game and exuded an alpha confidence that made me look like a fucking looser!The thing that was surprising about his verbal game(which I over heard via his poor English)was that he used negs and he never held back on saying shit that the average guy would see as ‘forward,disrespectful and inappropriate’.This MOFO natural had game lol!
Most of all:he KINO’d the fuck out of that girl LMAO!!!Right off the bat!!!
It wasn’t loud at all in the venue,but the Syrian-Rico Suave understood KINO and getting close,so he was all up in her ear and on her shoulders.
The girl was totally into him after a while:getting all up into his space.
Doesn’t he look like Fatush from the movie Zohan with the bandana on his head LMAO?
I wasn’t doing much of anything besides waiting for some HB’s to come through.I mean-I was definitely active(verbally)and keeping the vibe up,but I wasn’t engaging my fatty despite talking to me.One more beer and those chubbies probably would be looking like models I would lay,but I just drank a Coors and relaxed.
Funny thing about it though,these girls were fucking buying out their asses!!I never had to spend a dime.Neither did the Syrian dude lol.This guy was awesome in that he didn’t go AFC and buy drinks.These girls were literally slinging drinks at us as if to get us drunk or something!!!They ordered some tacos and pizza for all of us[go figure-they really should not have been eating that shit lol].
About 2 hours in,some HB9′s rolled in so I approached and open at the counter,“Hey,you’re that girl who stood me up the other night[with a smile of course].That was messed up.The 2 set smiled and giggled and denied it was her.The fatter one gravitated to me as if she planned on picking me up.What the fuck is with me and big girls!?They seem to always try re-open me and select me as their targets.
Hot chic in white was my target who I’d hit with the ‘stood me up’ line.
My target was the trim one but the bigger one basically brushed her aside and started engaging me!Fuck!!!So the slimmer one was being chatted up by some AFC dude.I was literally in set for like 45 minutes with this hefty girl(who was mighty cute in the face BTW lol) but she kept pushing comfort/rapport stuff looking for a deep connection by talking to me about having a miscarriage years ago…So I snuck back off to the original fatty-set.The Arab dude was hugged up with his,2 other black dudes were at the table tag teaming the other one.The girls was busting on me for bouncing on them…
The key lesson for all of us(from the Syrian-Rico Suave)is this:
KINO,KINO,KINO!!!And you don’t have to buy girls drinks in order to get some play.Have the girls buy you drinks instead.That’s a more powerful tactic to make her invest.
This dude pecked her on the cheeks,hugged her,touched her waist(after talking about some body tattoos),massaged her arms,tugged on her chubby cheeks like a mom would do to her chubby baby lol.This fucking dude was the quintessential example of an Alpha.His calibration and timing was so ‘ON’ that whenever he’d KINO’d,the girl never recoiled since it wasn’t awkward.
I learned a lot last night from the Arab stallion lol.Who knows what the hell happened.They all left together(while I was engaging some other girls).Maybe they had a fatty 3-some.
I wanna believe KINO is huge in the Middle-East,or at least customary.because the way this guy came off from the gate seems as if it’s something he was born with.
And check out Christmas Eve Field Report.
Christmas-Eve Field Report & Sarge
It’s 2 AM,I’m just strolling in,tipsy as a MOFO,barely made it up my flight of stairs.Hoping I’m sober enough to write this field report without slurring on paper in other words.So forgive me if I get sloppy.
Ok guys,for those who follow me on Twitter,you would’ve known that I was out all night at a new bar.I was supposed to meet up with a Canadian girl(HB9)but she never showed[I showed up too late I believe].But I quickly settled into a rhythm.There were lots of chics strolling the streets outside the bar,so I decided to put my iPhone to whatever good use it has to snap some pics while my buddies game.
*[I fell asleep,just woke up Sunday morning feeling sober].
So before I went in the bar,I was chillin with few friends in a rental car tryna get at some HB’s at the Square[a popular-hussle & bussle area on the island].
A crew of fatties congregating.I guess they all roll in packs or herds[that was a low-blow I know].
My boy Box calls over the slimmest one out the crew to start gaming her.She has a pouch on the tummy.Apart from that:she’s a solid 9.3 in the face and figure.She’s tall as hell though!This chic is like 6’1!!!
HB-Tall’s chubby friend tries pulling the external interrupt by calling her over.Like a good friend-she obliges lol.As I was analyzing,there were major girl coding going on here.But my boy Box stays persistent and bust on her for having her friend control her lol.So he games on.
10 minutes later,my boy Box is still in set-not giving up easily as most guys would.Persistence is key here guys.The girl slowly walks off but Box stays at it LMAO.He was getting good vibes BTW.Just that her 1 fucking fat friend kept sabotaging the set.Most likely cause she wasn’t getting any play.I could’ve occupied the obstacle[to use heavy PUA term] but I was more concerned with breaking down the in-field dynamics.
Ok,Box continued gaming the tall HB all the way down the bloc so we pulled up on 2 chics standing in the fucking street[they do that a lot here-congregate in mid road].1 was super-slim,the other OK.Nothing much happened.
The fellaz stayed outside doing street pick up while I went solo to the bar straight ahead.
My first time in this new bar that just opened last week.No grenades here.The 2 bartenders were hot as furnaces.1 white,the other black.Wow,these girls were drinking on the job.That’s progressive LMAO.
I don’t usually game hired guns(waiters,bartenders,strippers,etc)but I chatted them up a bit.The black one(on the left)is from NY and the snowbunny is from Toronto[Soloist got me using that word hard].
My boys shortly came in,we grabbed a table,few bottles(red wine and Smirnoff) …IDK what the hell I was thinking but I went to the counter and said to the black bartender,”Do you still model”?Lmao must’ve been the alcohol talking to re-open with such a lame/AFC’ish question.She gave me a WTF grimace so I said,”When we chatted earlier,you told me you modeled”.The shit stalled,I C&B(crash and burn)…
Right next to our table was a 4 set.1 fat,other 3 model-figure[no footage though].I opened the set by saying to the chubby one(since she was the leader of the group/alpha female),”Hey,why dont you be a nice girl and take my pic”.You’re taking everyone else’s pic in the damn bar.What happened to me lol”!!?That was good banter line to break the ice[banter is the biggest part to my game].
As expected,she LOLs grabs her cam out her bag and took few photos of me and the boys.Before I got to chat up her friends via introduction[I didn't have a target in mind yet],some orbiter tries AMOG’ing me to lower my value and get me out of the set.But I did the best AMOG destroyer- ignored him[Nice lmao].
Fount out that they were from the NY Tri-State area(Waterbury,Connecticut),down here for the holiday.Before they bounced,they told us to meet up with them at some party or club.The details were vague(probably since they weren’t familiar with the island),so I didn’t even know where the hell to meet them with the boys.
*Key note here:It’s a must that you first open the leader of any set.You cannot open a set by going straight for the target and ignoring the leader of the group.You’ll get blown the fuck out via girl-code.So that’s why I’d opened the fat one since she was the loudest one:in other words leader of the set.So once you win her over,the other girls in her social circle MUST conform.
Conclusion
My boys bounced to the club,I was too tired and had a bit too much red wine so I took my ass home instead.No telling what would’ve transpired with the CT girls(had I went to the club)but fuck it.
“She’s my WHORE-not yours”!!!
Before anyone try crucify me for labeling women as whores…-I can explain lol[BTW,hope I don't lose any valued- female readers].
Plus I didn’t call her a whore-the other guy did!
Ok let’s dive right in!
Hold on!Before I do,I just wanna say that I learned a valuable lesson from this incident.And I see other guys making this same elusive mistake on the regular.
Anyway,few years ago,I went through a massive sexual drought for about 2 months.I mean,I couldn’t lay anything if my life depended on it!I was better off going celibate opposed to virtually killing myself from not getting any coochie[SMDH]!
So what a man to do…?
Start banging Hookers like there’s no tomorrow!!?Naaaaah!BTW, I’m not against purchasing some cheap ass at a whore house-but I opted for a more challenging experience:Search for some quick ass[go fucking figure]!
In search of a Hood Rat
Few of my buddies[Unit & M***a]were banging a neighborhood rat,so they gave me the plug and the scoop on her.We all met up at a bar and my wingman Unit phoned the chicc to meet us there.
The plan was for me to get some quick ass later on after spitting some mediocre game at her.
The PYT came through,we all chatted,flirted hard,exchanged #’s and all.She told me to call her later that night[YES!!!!].
Finally!I’m gonna satiate this nagging-sexual urge that’s been killing me for 2 months now!
So I thought.
Later that night after the bar:
Called the PYT(Pretty Young Thing)hoodrat.No answer!Phone rang out and went straight to voice mail.
Called again about 10 minutes later.Same shit!
Fuck!!!!!
Called up my wingman Unit:
Me:”Yo,I thought you told me this chicc’s supposed to be free right now”!!
Unit:”That’s what she said at the bar.Don’t sweat it.Ima scoop her up in my ride and meet up with you later”.
That never materialized.
Following night,I’m in beast-mode to the fullest.Pissed off that this b**** would play me like this by not answering ,nor replying.
Called her up Saturday night.Finally:there is a God lol!!!
She hit with me the classic BS,“Oh I fell asleep”.Whateva!
We set up a meet for 8 pm.Trying to not come off as needy and desperate like an AFC-I called a little after 8[wink wink].
Guess what…?
Yep!The b**** screened my called straight to voice mail LMAO!
At that point,I went Charlie Sheen!I couldn’t believe this witch had the proverbial balls to flake on me!
“Doesn’t she know who I am!!?I’m a fucking pick-up artist.I lay hot b****es for a living”!
Note:It’s funny how we guys rationalize things to ourselves when we’re flaked on(smh).
Called her back,no answer.Few hours elapsed,no return call from her.
Called up my wing Unit:”Unit,meet me at Burton’s bar”!
At the bar:
Me:”Man,I can’t believe she played me again.This witch is a known slut in the town but she chooses me to bullshit”!
Unit:”I don’t know what she’s up to but I fucked her again earlier today at the beach”.
Some random dude next to us over heard the convo and chimed in:
“She’s my whore:not yours”!
I thought he had 1 too many fucking Red Stripes[a Jamaican beer]for butting in my shit.
So he went on to say this:“What I mean is…just because a girl is a whore and she sleeps around doesnt mean she’s gonna sleep with you and every guy”.
Wow!How powerful those words I thought!
Long story short:I gladly took that as a loss.
The Lesson:
Just as the random half- inebriated guy at the bar said:Not every girl who sleeps around is gonna sleep with any guy.For whatever reason that girl flaked on me:she had her reasons!
Eventhough that was a few years ago,the lessons from that situation has been hardwired into my brains ever since.
I no longer prejudge certain girls based on their social status[be it low or high].You still may have to work hard to attract and seduce her just as if she were a girl of high social status.
Lesson friggin’ learned.
How does a girl earn drinks from me
Ok guys,if y’all haven’t read part 1 to this topic:click the link Here to check it out
When is it OK to buy her a drink?
As the title suggests;the girl whom you’re chatting up at the bar or club HAS to EARN it.
This is a classic concept in the pick-up community dubbed Rewarding her.
Listen clearly!The only time you should buy her a drink is if she’s worked for it,and you’re essentially REWARDING her.
Do not reward bad behavior!
How many times have we seen a guy chatting up a girl,and she’s clearly not interested(via body language),nor engaged in the chat[i.e.Bad Behavior],yet the he still initiates buying her a drink!
That is essentially rewarding her for bad behavior.Or for anti-social behavior.
Why would you reward someone who hasn’t done anything to deserve it!!?
Women are so used to being rewarded by Beta males when they don’t deserve it,that they virtually expect every guy to do the same.
We can all thank the Betas/nice guys for setting this awful trend(smfh).
Grounds for rewarding her
Ok,the reason guys chat up girls is to get laid(eventually).No secret in that.
Accordingly,whatever the girl does to facilitate the possible lay,or if she’s just enjoying the time y’all are spending.Feel free to reward her with a drink.
The fact that she’s been so receptive and reciprocative to you and the chat(opposed to being a first-class bitch),somewhere during the chat(15 minutes after),I may say to her:
“Hey Marcy,I’m gonna get ‘MYSELF’ a drink.Since you’ve been such a fucking rockstar,I’m gonna get you one too.Let’s go to the bar”!
The subtle beauty in what I said is this:
*I made it clear that ‘I’ was gonna buy ‘MYSELF’ a drink.And I’m in such a good mood that I’m considering getting you on.But I come first.
That is very fucking powerful guys!
It subcommunicates to the girl that “you’re more important than she is”[who's just a stranger].
As we already know,that mindset and frame is a crucial part of the alpha lifestyle.
And women LOVE alphas and men who are dominant and confident with a touch of asshole mixed in there lol.
What I stated to her is what separates real men from boys.
An alpha always puts himself before any random woman.
While betas/wussies put the woman first:aka pedestalling[which is a grave sin in the seduction community].
Women are attracted to dominance and high-valued men!Their panties get super friggin’ drenched by guys who display such behavior!
A guy CANNOT be high value, if he’s going around the club rewarding girls who haven’t invested anything into an interaction.
Women see such actions as weak,supplicative and sly!
So once the girl has invested in the conversation by actually talking for more than 15 minutes,she has essentially earned any good acts you’re willing to perform.
On the contrary,if you’re trying to social and converse with her,but she’s not responding,not talking much,being a bitch,being indifferent,not smiling,obviously not enjoying the time…Why the fuck would you even contemplate rewarding such bitchy behavior!?
And the sickening thing is:Most men would STILL reward her(or attempt to)by buying her a drink[LMFAO]!!!
It’s as if the guy say to himself,”you know what,she’s acting a bit frosty right now,so I’m gonna buy her a drink”.
Hoping that will activate her conversational motors.
Once a woman sees you’re rewarding her shitty behavior,she will take advantage(if she’s that kinda girl).
She will drink your ass out while pretending to be enjoying the chat,just to have your ass running back and forth to the bar like a damn waiter!
Then she’s gonna introduce you to her social group,and you’re gonna find yourself feeling compelled to buy drinks for her girlfriends too LMFAO!!!
Guys,we’ve all seen this shit play out every weekend at venues.
We’ve all probably been there and been that looser guy.
That guy rushing to the bar then returning to the set with 4 cocktails in hands:praying not to spill them.
That sought of behavior is WEAK and a turnoff to women.
And how ironic that 95% of men in clubs and bars act this way:committing such ridiculous social faux-pas.
So you never want to put yourself in a situation where the girl has you buying drinks for her girlfriends:which is quite common nowadays(smh).
That is why I appreciate the pick-up community and our insights so much.
The guru/head coach for RSD (Real Social Dynamics),Tyler Durden,once wrote an article years ago entitled “Secret Society”.
He went on as to say that,”Only 5% of men in the world get laid regularly.And in the club:only 5% of the men in the venue will actually get laid”.
The reality that guys are in the bars and clubs doing dumb shit ,like buying girls drinks when they haven’t earned it.I can picture now what TD meant by that.
Hard Truth In Closing:
Women are 100 times more socially savvy that us.
Women are 100 times more socially aware than us.
Women are 100 times more perceptive than us.
So if you’re scheming, plotting and contemplating buying drinks:Know that the girl knows the only reason you’re doing it is to buy your way into her pants.
Thus,she will either reject you now by turning down your drink proposal.
Or she will accept your drinks, use you all night as her drink-provider,then reject you later.
So we cannot blame women for being gold-diggers.We can only blame the men who readily offer them gold.
Once again,checc out this interesting article about buying drinks from a female’s perspective:imma buy you a drank
Why you shouldn’t buy girls drinks!
Hey fellas,another really interesting post which correlates with bar/club game.
Very informative for guys who enjoy going out and having fun in the nightlife.
First off,let’s address the EXCEPTIONS to buying her drinks:
Exceptional Cases
*You already know her,i.e.she’s a relative,former fuck buddy(ex-girlfriend),acquaintant,etc.
*She’s a girl in whom you’re not gaming nor trying to seduce.
*She’s a part of your social circle:which entails the above 2 exceptions.You’re not gaming her(for whatever reason)but she might’ve gone to the club with y’all.
Why is it OK to buy drink(s) for such girls in the above 3 exceptional cases?
SIMPLE!
You’re not expecting anything from them(sexual nor physical).So feel free to get your P.Diddy on and buy the whole damn bar out LMAO!!
Those girls won’t be psycho analyzing you and your intentions,saying to themselves,”Why is he buying me drinks?Is he tryna buy me?Does he think I’m that easy?He might have bad intentions.I gotta be cautious with this muthafucka”!
So it’s all good buying drinks for girls with whom you’re already acquainted,since you’re not trying to pick them up.Therefore,they won’t question your actions of ulterior motives.
The girls you should NOT buy drinks for
This is polar opposite to the girls you MAY buy drinks for.
Simply put…Do not buy drinks for girls you’re trying to pick up!
SIMPLE!
Unless she’s earned it!
So that fine-ass lass, looking all bored and lonely hovering at the bar, whom you’ve been eyeing all night – “Do not open her up by offering to buy her a drink!
Do not approach her trying to break the ice with,”May I get you a drink”?
1 of 3 things will happen:
A.)She will say, “yea-sure“!Then drink you out for the whole fucking night while pretending to be into you.
Note:She isn’t to be blamed for accepting the drink(s).Your dumb ass should be blamed for buying the drink(s)!
B.)She will say,”Yea-sure”!Get the drink,come up with some clever/bullshit excuse for coming back,”I’m gonna use the restroom for a sec.”.Then she never returns:leaving you like an asshole frozen in time in the middle of the club,while she dodges you all night and tell her friends how much of an looser you are,who thought he could buy buy his way into her ripped jeans!!!
C.)She will just say,”No thanks“.
Note:She would be wise to say no since she doesn’t know you.For all she knows,you’re some creepy fucking stalker looking to date rape her by slipping one in her Mimosa.
So it’s a much safer bet to NOT approach her at all with “buying her a drink line”.
Save you time,cash and esteem.
Sooooooo,what should I do instead?
Do what you’d normally do as an opener.But exclude the ‘drink proposition’.
If she’s earned it(down the line)-feel free to splurge a bit.
It’s that simple!!!
There’s not a worst feeling in the world to a girl,than when a guy subcommunicates his intentions through a drink.
And let’s keep it real guys!How many times had you bought her a drink and saying to yourself,”I hope this bitch gets hammered and pissy drunk and ends up coming home with me”!
If not that exact line,some variation of it.
So to avoid the social stigmas of being a Date-Rapist,Creepy Guy,Charming Guy who makes her weirded out by doing kind acts,just don’t buy her a drink at all(or as yet)!
The insane irony is-“95% of girls WON’T even ask the guy to buy her a drink lol!
So it kills the shit out of me that guys would even suggest buying drinks,as if it’s a prerequisite to convo!!!
Girls with at LEAST an ounce of class or a tinge of dignity ,would feel low and cheap asking a random guy to buy her a drink.
Even the lowest of girls on the social totem pole,would have enough social value to refrain from begging drinks from strange guys at a bar,whom she’s only known for 5 minutes (via chat).
So if the girl herself won’t ask;then guys…WTF are you doing buying!!?
What I’ve witnesses:
I’ve been clubbing hard-non stop for the past 9 years,as if I were a coked-up version of some fist-pumping Guido from the Jersey Shore!
The MOST common theme I see play out[a painful theme at that],is guys buying fucking drinks for random girls(when they haven’t earned it)!!!
Then at the end of the night,they’re going home with whom they came:their buddies or by themselves.
So ultimately,trying to get the girl drunk by feeding her drinks after drinks didn’t pay off.
In Closing:
There are exceptions to every rule in life and between the sexes.
Sure,it does happen where buying drinks may pay off and result in a lay.
But how often?
1 in 10 cases?
For reference sake,let’s say there’s a nightclub:we’ll call it Club X.
Perfect ratio of dicks to vaginas:300 dudes,300 chicks.
Knowing how scared and socially inept men are(compared to women),let’s assume 100 of those men have enough cravats to approach women in Club X.
It’d be rational(from trend)to surmise that 80 of those men would offer to buy drink(s) for the girls they’d approached and chat up.
60 of those girls are crazy,thirsty or broke enough to accept drinks from the random guys.
Now,the 60 out of 300 girls at Club X who’d accepted drinks,how many of them do you think actually go home with the guys who bought them drinks?
Don’t fucking lie guys!I know we’ve all been there so it’s painful to admit.
Any rational guy would assume that not even 5 of those 60 girls,who accepted drinks,actually got laid afterwards by the dreaded Drink-Buyers.
So that’s a WHOPPING 5 out of 300 girls who may actually go home with the drink buyers!
Im no Einstein,but that’s fucking 6%!!!
Only 6% of girls at the club ‘MAY’ go home with a random guy who’d bought her drinks!
And remember,I’m not talking about girls you might’ve known prior nor a girl you’re on a date with.I’m talking about RANDOM strangers who you’d cold approach in the club.
So the lesson here guys is:Don’t buy her drinks unless she’s earned it.
I keep parenthesizing “unless she’s earned it”.
Click the following link to read part 2/continuation to this article,of the 1 TRUE exception to buying a random girl a drink:How does a girl earn drinks from me
And check out this interesting article on drink buying from a female’s perspective.You’ll be surprised guys.Nice article Jamie imma buy you a drank .
Chelios PUA
