‘Want To Know If He’s Cheating’?

I was just lying here in my apartment,gazing around,brainstorming some interesting topics I can blog about.

Now-I’m a man[DUH!],which means I’m NOT too inclined in keeping my bachelor pad in tip-top shape;pants thrown here,boxer-briefs tossed there,dirty Converse all-stars propped up on the old CPU,oily-pizza box from last week staring at me from under the bed[LMAO]…you know-typical male-mess.We tend do get slobby at times.Men who live alone can relate-right?

So I was dialoging with myself,”It’s the Holiday season,eventhough I’m anti-climactic about it,I’m expecting to pull some hot girls back to the pad.My GF and I are sought-of on a break[what's fucking new?],so I betta get this shit in order!

Like a city roach scrambling to take refuge when the lights come on-I did the same shit and scurried to get the pad in order, and some-what clean LOL.

As I’m cleaning,I said to myself,”Look at how easily I could’ve been busted if my girlfriend and I were still exclusive SMH”.

For the guys who aren’t in relationships,nor haven’t been in one recently,this may seem vague to you.I’ll explain a bit later.

It’s generally accepted,or at least in the seduction community,that women are 100 times more perceptive than us men.Women are fucking clairvoyant,which means they can pick up on shit lightning fast,while we men are slow as snails to pick up on things.Thus the social stigma that women are best at cheating(since they rarely get caught compared to men).Women can pick up on: when a guy likes her,when he’s trying to buy his way into her panties,when he’s nervous,etc.Women got that!!They are good at picking up on patterns.

Pertaining to patterns:men tend to get lazy after few months in a relationship, thus falling into a routine(which his GF notices):
*He no longer gets a haircut
*Farts around her
*Lets his guards down
*Lives like a slob
*Isn’t worried about cleaning his pad every single minute just because his girlfriend is coming over.

My point is,it’s common that people(mainly men)fall back into a lazy routine after ‘winning the so-called prize’(the girl).

During the course of my LTR,I settled into the pattern too LOL,”What the hell-that’s my girl!I’m not gonna hire a fucking maid nor become one, just ’cause she’s coming over!So what if the fridge is empty or the cat pissed on the floor:I’ll have her grab some snacks on the way over then clean up the cat mess when she gets here[shrug]“!

It’s normal to operate that way when dealing with your partner.You can relax,be lazy and not worry about impressions.

But do we operate that way when hoping to pull some new ass?Of course not LMAO!!!With the possibility of a new prospect coming over,if the guy has to search Craig’s list for a cat-sitter or bum some money off a buddy to stack his fridge,then he will do it by any friggin’ means!!!Can’t have your date come over and your dirty underwears are sprawling all over the couch,exposing her to your slobbery.

But this is where a lot of cheating guys go wrong.They break their patterns without reasons.This isn’t just related to domestic things as cleaning.This could be a guy who never goes to the gym.Then suddenly,he starts going to the gym often.Yes,he CAN truly want to lose 10 lbs.to gratify himself.But when sudden change of patterns and lifestyles occur,9-10 times,it signals infidelity or the thought of it.

If a guy only tidies his crib once a month,then starts doing it every week(without reason),then it’s crystal clear that he’s doing it for the purpose of picking up women[a new woman].Or appearing presentable to that woman.

People just don’t break patterns and routines for their spouses,partners nor someone they’re already familiar with(relatives,etc.).We generally break patterns to make an impression on people we are NOT familiar with.

Classic Example:My girlfriend used to hound me to fucking death about getting a haircut,cutting my Mohawk…did I do it?Hell no LOL!!!

*She harassed me about a jeans I wore which had a mini-hole in the crotch area.Did I stop wearing it?Lol of course I still wore that shit!

Now that it’s the Holiday season and I’m expecting to see a lot of girls in town from NYC[escaping the Winter to the islands],my GF and I are on a break(as usual-can’t get along),so picking up random hotties is a ‘MUST’.

You can bet a million bucks that I went to the barbershop yesterday!I can guarantee that I won’t be seen wearing those jeans with the hole in the crotch around possible prospects LOL!!!Essentially,my pattern and routine were broken due to possible prospects.

So if you really wanna know if your GF/BF is cheating or looking to cheat:pay attention to their patterns and lifestyle changes.Subtle things as NOT wearing a shirt that they always wore,tidying their apartment outside of their usual allotted time could be red flags.

Men tend to NOT be readily able to pick up on these subtleties(coming from their girlfriends).However women can spot these changes and break in patterns like friggin’ witchdoctors.Women truly have an innate ability to see through the bullshit.That’s why it’s harder for a man to cheat and get away with it.In the same token,that’s why it’s easier for a girl to cheat and get away with it.Men naturally don’t pick up on patterns.That’s why it’s hard for us to gauge whether a girl likes us or not.While a girl can tell within a blink of an eye that that guy wants to ravishing her.

So guys,if y’all plan on being cheating dogs,remember to not break patterns and routines unless you have plausible reasons.’Cause if you do:she will know it.

Managing A Relationship Like An Alpha Male

Hey guys, I go by the name of Chelios (23 years old from London, UK), a former PUA(Pick-Up Artist) of around 4/5 years.

I was introduced to the world of PUA’s from one of my uncles, a legend in my eyes, (whom I cannot name at this time) I have witnessed great game from him. I was put forward into “gaming” when one of my ex girlfriends dumped me who I was “In love with” and was sopping for weeks and even months.One day my uncle had enough!He gave me a copy of “The Game” and said “Read this and you’ll see”’(At this point I was shocked, I’m not a big reader).A few weeks down the line, I was bored and upset, still thinking about “what if I did this, what if I did that?” (regarding my ex) so I decided then picked up my copy of ‘The Game‘ by Mr. Strauss, I never thought that was the beginning of the end for my whining and moaning like a little 5 year old girl.

I look back now and laugh. I wasn’t in Love. I just loved and enjoyed certain things, which I then learnt I could have so much more and achieve something that I want- and now I have that.

I’ve got to be honest, I have had many highs and just as many lows in the last 5 years:a whole heap of rejections as well as success stories. Most people know but I wish to reiterate the ART and road to succeed in Pickup is trial and error. There really is no perfect PUA. We all have our own ways, our own rules. Make your own rules, abide by whatever works for you. I’ve been speaking to my good friend Kenny for a while about a write up.So now I thought I’d share some of my insight on LTR’s(Long-Term Relationships),seen as I’ve been in one now for sometime and starting a family in the near future.

My first post for Kenny’s blog is just a bit about me and a small chunk of my opinions of how to maintain an LTR, how to increase the chances of an LTR occurring with someone your fond of and into.

What makes us want an LTR? Is it boredom? Isit the thought of regular sex or maybe the comfort and maybe the fear of being alone? I think it’s a mix in most case’s’ and there is nothing wrong with that.

First the key to a relationship becoming serious and long term is to take things slowly, live your life as normal and not be clingy.Nobody wants to feel like they have vermin around them or a stalker 24/7 or thereabouts. Absence makes the heart grow fonder[ that old saying is so true].When we are away from something we enjoy/like/love…the longer that goes by, the more we will enjoy and cherish it next time. It may seem a small thing, but it’s often a school boy error in pua to always want to be around a girl non stop of whom we are feeling, enjoy now but think of the tomorrow and the day after too.

Assess what is OK and what is not OK in your eyes for a relationship. I.e, what you wont accept, what you will, what you want from your woman, the direction you see your future heading in. Your desires will then either bring you together or push you apart, which will be for the best under either circumstance.

Maintain your own life :

Remember when you attract someone, and when they’re attracted to you, you are your own person.So it’s fundamentally important you maintain that, and keep in mind the qualities and actions that brought you together.

Remember the do’s and dont’s .What you can do, what she can do, what is fair, remember compromise, don’t give in to everything. A woman will seriously push and test you (Shit test), especially early on and as the relationship progresses. Just keep a cool and well balanced head.Don’t lose it!Patience is a virtue. If women see themselves getting to you, they will keep pushing your buttons.

For example:

“I’m going out with my friends tonight!” – without asking me to go with her.
She’s receiving SMS messages and doesn’t tell me who text her and stuff.

Remain like a ghost – act like you don’t really care, but maybe in some people’s eyes this isn’t the right decision, but It does work, you’ll then see if she carries on.

I know it’s not too in depth, but I hope some of you have enjoyed this post. I will be posting more in the future.

Feel free to ask any questions and follow me on twitter if you wish @crazy_gooner

Thanks for reading. Much appreciated!

Chelios