2 Reasons Why She Didn’t Give It Up And Flaked[Credits to Thundercat]

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I was browsing the blog of 1 of my mentors in “Game”, Thundercat,a well-known PUA and dating coach.And I stumbled upon a great-short article entitled:”Reasons why a girl won’t have sex with you “.

One of the greatest points he made was that girls flake,or don’t give up the booty because of her menstrual period,or grooming-related matters.Very eye opening.And I’ll add my 2 cents to Thundercat’s.

#1:She’s on her Period

A regular-female commentor to my blog made this great comment yesterday about why she’d flake:

Roxem commented:”Sooo fuckn true!! Cuz at first we like the guy so we want to make sure we make the best impression & we want everything to go perfectly. So if we have plans but then I get my period, yeah plans canceled!! (keep in mind I have endometriosis so my periods are WAY worse than normal). If I’m severely tired.. cancelled. OMG I have a huge zit?!! Cancelled“!

So Roxem basically confirmed that menstruation is a key reason as to why a girl doesn’t give it up or flake.This is an eye-opener for me(since I wasn’t aware of this prior to reading Thundercat’s post last night).

As I retrospect(look back) on my many flakes of 2011,I used to beat myself up trying to figure out why certain girls flaked.With this new revelation:it makes massive amounts of sense now!

Everyone knows that women are somewhat ashamed to admit that they’re on their periods.They only share such a thing with other chics,because most men are weirded out by the thought of “Period”.

So it makes sense as to why a girl won’t meet up,nor go on a date with a guy she wants to have sex with,since she figures he won’t bang her on her cycle ’cause it would gross him out.

If she does go on the date or meet up(whether at his place,etc.),if the guy tries making a move,she will put up resistance higher than Mt.Everest.Most times,she won’t even say,”I’m on my period”.She’d feel nasty and dirty and just keep rejecting his advances.

This happened to me a ton of times,but I never figured that she could’ve been bleeding,thus embarrassed,so sex won’t happen.

#2:She isn’t(well) groomed/caught off-guard

As the Master Pick-Up Artist Thundercat eluded to in his post,”Grooming”(or lack there of),is a major reason why chics flake or don’t give up the coochie.

Seems fucking humorous,but think about it guy!

If a girl didn’t shave,let’s say her legs today(might’ve forgotten),she will not be comfortable lying with a guy,with the possibility of he carressing her,to then find out that her legs are hairier than his LMAO!

Let’s say she neglected to shave or trim her vajayjay in like 2 months.So it’s pretty scary down there.She’d obviously become self-conscious about it,thus stopping sex from happening(since she doesn’t want to be embarrassed).So she’d either flake,stand him up,or if she does meet up,she would put up major resistance:as we call it in the PUA community LMR(last-minute resistance).

The above 2 examples spill off into “being caught off guard”.The girl never expected to have sex that particular night or week.She never thought she’d have met you.So the sheer fact that she got caught by surprise-she won’t have a choice but to NOT give it up.

Same goes for attempts at SNL’s(Same Night Lays) or ONS(One-Nigh Stands):the girl was caught off guard,so she might not have shaved her legs to perfection,coochie unkempt,pedicure lacking…),so she will not give it up that night.

I can’t see him looking like this!

*Bad-hair day is another classic reason for flakes and why she won’t meet up/no chance of having sex.

We all fucking know that chics are obsessed with their hair.Most sane girls will NOT go on a date with a jacked-up hairdo,stale weave,etc.She’s just not gonna meet up!Period!!

But then again,she’s not gonna tell you the reason as to why she flaked or not willing to meet up.This is essentially Chic-Logics and how women are irrational beings.

Guys,please don’t look at it as bullshit.Imagine if you forgot to brush your teeth,ate some onion-rings,and your date wanted to tongue you down.Of course you won’t fucking do it LMAO!!

Funny story.I remembered once(years ago),I met a girl at the club,seduced her,she invited me to her place(of course via some PUA tactics on my part).When we got there,she insisted that I remove my sneakers before entering the bedroom(some shit about the rug).Not expecting to take a girl home that night,I got careless and I wore a pair of kicks that smelled like an NYC sewer SMFH!So when she told me to remove them,in my head,I was like,”Oh shit,hell NO!!!I’m not about to embarrass myself and have this chic’s crib smelling like a bag of stale-corn chips“!I tried working around it(having sex in the living room instead),but she insisted the bedroom.I eventually gave up,and hit her with some lame excuse as to why I had to leave LMAO.So I essentially didn’t give her the dick she wanted because of stinky feet.

And a lot of us guys who have pride,or are pretty much sane,would’ve done the same to avoid an awkward situation.

Same as a girl who has pride would be embarrassed to remove her shoes to get in bed if her toes were visibly jacked-up.

Same as she would flake or turn you down for sex if she’s on her period.

Just as a girl who gave a shit about her appearance won’t show up on a date on a bad-hair day.

But it’s so ironic after all these years of studying Game,I never thought that flaking and LMR(last-minute resistance) could’ve been results of her Period & Grooming(lack there of).My PUA mentor Thundercat aka Joseph Matthews, was spot on with his observations.

Q & A:Does facial hair matter?

Ok fellaz(& hotties),I’d promised to post a Q&A segment each week(over the past month),but I’ve been too damn lazy & busy to maintain it[come on-it's the Holidays lmao].

For those who haven’t been following,I usually take surveys(Q&A’s)among women from my online-social network:be it Facebook,Twitter to POF,where I ask them interesting questions about dating,seduction and relationships.Feel free to check out my first installment[When should he call the girl?].

Ok,this question has been bugging me for years now.Generally,I’m always well-groomed(100% of the times),but there are times when I feel like, “Fuck it”,I don’t wanna have to rush to the barbershop twice weekly or whip out the old razor just because few whiskers are sprouting.Plus I wanna still look attractive enough to get my game on.

Let’s get started!

Mz.Redd2012

Mz.Redd2012 is a cool savvy-New Yorker I’d met on POF.Don’t forget sexy lol.

Q.”Hey Mz.Redd,on a scale of 1-10,how important is facial hair?Does it matter”?

A.”No.As long as it looks good on you”.

TastyGabby

Gabby has been a loyal-Twitter follower of mines for a long time now so it’s a must that I include her.

Q.@TastyGaby-”Hey Gab,quick question:on a scale of 1-10,how important is facial hair”?

A.@SocialKenny-”5 , facial isn’t important but if you have it , keep it neat & clean “.

iKarly

iKarly is a cool girl from Kentucky who’s on my Facebook-friend list.I don’t even remember how we met lmao!

Q.”Is a guy who’s tryna get at you with facial hair a turn off”?

A.”nope. i think its cute”.

Bri

Bri is another fun girl I’d met on the POF dating site.She’s spunky.

Q.”Hey Bri,on a scale of 1-10 of attraction,how significant is facial hair on a guy who’s looking to get with you”?

A.”I would say about an 8.
I like facial hair on a man. Without it they look young, weird, or had a shaving malfunction lol, only some can pull off not having any and most of them are gay”.

RussianGirl

Cool-ass Russian-Canadian Who I’d met a while ago on a Hip-Hop website(go figure lmao).I definitely plan on going to Vancouver to hang out with her.

Q.”Hey *****,are men with facial hair turnoffs”?

A.”Not at all.either way…sometimes I like a little scruff”.

So there you have it!Among my online-social circle:having facial hair ISN’T a grave social sin nor a turnoff[Scruffy-facial hair is attractive].

I’ve always seen facial hair as a big NO-NO(since the pick-up community always stresses ‘being well-groomed’).I feel a lot more comfort now to just let it be and get my Wolf-Man Jack on lmao.

Feedback from women in the bloggersphere would be appreciated.Plus:“When should he call”?My female readers will dig this one.

Grooming tip for the weekend:”Dirty Nails”

A while ago,I meant to create a blog category entitled “Grooming Tips”,but it eluded me for months.

Well,it’s the weekend again!Call it what you wanna:wett weekend,wild weekend,freaky weekend,whateva!

If guys are planning on getting their social on,1 key tip to ensure that the girl you’re chatting up wont give you that funny stare,is to “Clean those nails”.

This tip seems so benign and well-common sensical.But a lot of guys actually ignore trimming and cleaning their nails.

I’m a guy!And it’s already well accepted that women are more socially aware and and observant than us.

So if I’m able to spot guys holding their drinks with dirty ass nails at the bar…,imagine the women in the venue.

I generally don’t give advice to my wingmen when were out[some people are adverse to taking advice].But I once had to tell Soul Brother(1 of my wing) that some hotties next to me at the bar were talking shit about his nails being dirty and unkempt.

Simple shit like that can surely fuck up your game before you even think about opening that set of girls.

Hence the true saying in the community:”A girl actually rejects you before you even think about opening your mouth”.

Peace out people!

Getting my Paul Janka on;scruffy-facial hair is attractive

Contrary to popular belief:having some facial hair ‘is’ attractive to women.

I didn’t need a PHD in grooming to reach this conclusion;just friggin’ ask women,it is that simple!

I personally took a survey among my female-Facebook friends,where I’d asked each one of them,”Is facial hair a turn off”?

The answers surprised the shit out of me(lol)!

A whopping 80% of the females said NO!Having some scruffs and stubbles are NOT turn offs.

The remanding 20% were pretty much neutral or undecided.

Prior to my survey,I was totally against the scruffy-look while trying to attract women and get my game on.

But I have to give props to the NYC-dating coach Paul Janka,who was the first pick-up artist to advocate this look.

Prior to Paul’s emergence on the scene as a friggin’ rockstar,most dating coaches and gurus were rocking the traditional goatee or clean-shaven look.

While every pick-up artist was pushing the “must be well-groomed” slogan,Paul Janka was still getting laid in NYC[his mantra]like a wild rabbit with 10 dicks.

If I’m correct,I think RooshV(Rooshv’s Blog),the pick-up artist rocks the scruffy look also.

The human psychology behind this is pretty interesting and quite elementary:

*The rough-facial hair look appeals to womens’ sense of SEX.

Good-dominant sex is akin to rough sex oppose to love making.

When a girl spots a guy she’s sexually attracted to,she isn’t saying to herself,”I wonder what it would be like making love with this guy:preferably in a Pasteur of pink roses well perfumed”.

Lol hell no!!!

She’s saying to herself,”I wonder what it’d be like being banged hard by that fucking stud:preferably untop of the kitchen table.Or somewhere adventurous and steamy where I can smell the pheromones oozing from his sweaty body”!

Ok I exaggerated the hell out of that one.But y’all get the point.

So,what is the correlation between rough sex and a guy having rough/scruffy facial hair?

As I explained above,”the rough look appeals to a woman’s sense of sex,probably more so than a well-groomed look.

This all ties into the “Badboy” persona, which chiccs just go awol over.Think of the Fonz if he had the scruffy-facial hair look to his character.Women would absolutely go nuts over him,eventhough he was already a chick-magnet.

Now I’m not saying that every guy should kick his barber to the curb,or toss his manual razors in the dumpster and start growing some facial hair.

But a key insight for me here is, I don’t have to proverbially kill myself if I happen to miss an appointment with the local barber.

Or if my clippers go missing or some shit,I won’t have to panic as if the world’s about to end.

Nah!

I can still confidently head out to the bar to get my social on,despite looking a bit rough in the face.