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Flake Detox
As part of my Flake- Anonymous treatment,I’m deleting every flake’s # from my iPhone and Blackberrys’ contact lists.
We all(both dudes & dudettes)have residual #’s remaining in our phones which are serving no purpose at all(besides taking up space).In my case,I have about 20 such contacts.
But really though,why keep flakes in your phone?In my experience,once a flake:always a flake(90% of the time).Apart from the obligatory flake(she gets nervous,have doubt,2nd.thoughts,emergencies,bad-hair day,etc.),once a chic flakes 3 times:that should be it!
No flakes in 2012
It’s kind of nonsensical to dismiss a chic after flaking just once.It should be expected that a girl will flake(whether she likes you or not).In fact,the more she likes you,the higher the chances of her flaking initially.
So the serial-flakers should be deleted[those who flaked more than 3 times].
And as part of my Flake Detox,they will be deleted Pronto!!2012 is the year of “No Flakes”.
The Return Of The Throwback SocialKenny[SNL Bandit]
If you’ve been following my blog since last year,you would’ve known that my primary ‘Sticking Point’ has been the dreaded ‘Flake’.In 2011,my flake ratio had been about 8 in 10.Meaning;for every 10 phone #’s I got,8 of them resulted in flakes.That’s a friggin’ staggering 80% fail ratio SMFH!
With that said,I’m making a new proclamation for 2012:A return to my
SNL & “ONS” days!Those unfamiliar with pick-up community jargon:that means Same-Night Lay & One-Night Stand.
*So,I Socialkenny,proclaim that for the remaining quarters of 2012[if the world doesn't destruct],I will NO longer focus my Game on “getting phone numbers”,because #’s lead to nowhere(in my case).
*If a girl asks for my #,I will refuse to give it to her.Point blank!
*No matter how tempted I am,I will NOT pursue her # at all,because #’s lead to flakes(in my case).
Make no mistakes about it,this is not the 1st.time I made such declaration to then backslide into the sphere of “#-Closing”.But this time,I’m serious as a depressed- fat girl at an all-you-can eat buffet.
In 2009,my ‘Lay Rate’ was hovering around 6 in 10.Meaning,for every 10 girls I’d tried seducing,I would end up banging 6 of them.Now that’s fucking Rockstar status almost!!!
I went for the lay the same night.If after trying and the lay just doesn’t materializes,I would get her #.But 6 out of 10 times,I fuck the girl same night or one-nighter.
What has changed in my Game since 2009?I’m no longer going for the ‘BIG win‘,i.e., the pussy.I virtually stagnated myself by settling for a phone #,to then work off that.
I essentially abandoned what was working for me.It’s like an undefeated boxer abandoning what had kept him undefeated,to changing his fight style and now loses 10 in a row.
Why did I abandon the seduction model which was super successful for me(SNL)?
I guess as the pick-up community tilted its focus towards “getting #’s”,I bought into the new hype[I guess].So,as most PUA materials became ‘date & relationship-focused’,I too became focused on dating then sex.So my knack for banging girls the same night had subsided.
With all that said,I’m now re-shifting my Game back to ‘Instant-Sex Game’
And that entails:ridiculously high amounts of KINO(touching),Escalation(plowing and touching),K-Closing(kissing),Flirting,Making her horny,Seductive Eye Contact(bedroom eyes technique),Voice Tonality shift(the Barry White voice) and Leading(taking her from a public location to a seduction location).
Everything I mentioned in the above paragraph was the essence of my Game back in 2009.I rarely got girls’ phone numbers.
If I spotted a girl I liked,chatted her up,let’s say at a bar,she was coming home with me[6 out of 10 times].Or we were shagging outdoors somewhere(park,bushes,someone’s garage,abandoned-crack houses,behind dumpsters…).
Now that my focus has been on phone numbers first(since 2010),my ‘Lays’ has dramatically plummeted to a 1 in 10 chance SMFH!!
The old same-night lay Socialkenny has returned.So mothers,please guard your daughters if need be.
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2 Reasons Why She Didn’t Give It Up And Flaked[Credits to Thundercat]
No Entry Tonight!!!
I was browsing the blog of 1 of my mentors in “Game”, Thundercat,a well-known PUA and dating coach.And I stumbled upon a great-short article entitled:”Reasons why a girl won’t have sex with you “.
One of the greatest points he made was that girls flake,or don’t give up the booty because of her menstrual period,or grooming-related matters.Very eye opening.And I’ll add my 2 cents to Thundercat’s.
A regular-female commentor to my blog made this great comment yesterday about why she’d flake:
Roxem commented:”Sooo fuckn true!! Cuz at first we like the guy so we want to make sure we make the best impression & we want everything to go perfectly. So if we have plans but then I get my period, yeah plans canceled!! (keep in mind I have endometriosis so my periods are WAY worse than normal). If I’m severely tired.. cancelled. OMG I have a huge zit?!! Cancelled“!
So Roxem basically confirmed that menstruation is a key reason as to why a girl doesn’t give it up or flake.This is an eye-opener for me(since I wasn’t aware of this prior to reading Thundercat’s post last night).
As I retrospect(look back) on my many flakes of 2011,I used to beat myself up trying to figure out why certain girls flaked.With this new revelation:it makes massive amounts of sense now!
Everyone knows that women are somewhat ashamed to admit that they’re on their periods.They only share such a thing with other chics,because most men are weirded out by the thought of “Period”.
So it makes sense as to why a girl won’t meet up,nor go on a date with a guy she wants to have sex with,since she figures he won’t bang her on her cycle ’cause it would gross him out.
If she does go on the date or meet up(whether at his place,etc.),if the guy tries making a move,she will put up resistance higher than Mt.Everest.Most times,she won’t even say,”I’m on my period”.She’d feel nasty and dirty and just keep rejecting his advances.
This happened to me a ton of times,but I never figured that she could’ve been bleeding,thus embarrassed,so sex won’t happen.
As the Master Pick-Up Artist Thundercat eluded to in his post,”Grooming”(or lack there of),is a major reason why chics flake or don’t give up the coochie.
Seems fucking humorous,but think about it guy!
If a girl didn’t shave,let’s say her legs today(might’ve forgotten),she will not be comfortable lying with a guy,with the possibility of he carressing her,to then find out that her legs are hairier than his LMAO!
Let’s say she neglected to shave or trim her vajayjay in like 2 months.So it’s pretty scary down there.She’d obviously become self-conscious about it,thus stopping sex from happening(since she doesn’t want to be embarrassed).So she’d either flake,stand him up,or if she does meet up,she would put up major resistance:as we call it in the PUA community LMR(last-minute resistance).
The above 2 examples spill off into “being caught off guard”.The girl never expected to have sex that particular night or week.She never thought she’d have met you.So the sheer fact that she got caught by surprise-she won’t have a choice but to NOT give it up.
Same goes for attempts at SNL’s(Same Night Lays) or ONS(One-Nigh Stands):the girl was caught off guard,so she might not have shaved her legs to perfection,coochie unkempt,pedicure lacking…),so she will not give it up that night.
I can’t see him looking like this!
*Bad-hair day is another classic reason for flakes and why she won’t meet up/no chance of having sex.
We all fucking know that chics are obsessed with their hair.Most sane girls will NOT go on a date with a jacked-up hairdo,stale weave,etc.She’s just not gonna meet up!Period!!
But then again,she’s not gonna tell you the reason as to why she flaked or not willing to meet up.This is essentially Chic-Logics and how women are irrational beings.
Guys,please don’t look at it as bullshit.Imagine if you forgot to brush your teeth,ate some onion-rings,and your date wanted to tongue you down.Of course you won’t fucking do it LMAO!!
Funny story.I remembered once(years ago),I met a girl at the club,seduced her,she invited me to her place(of course via some PUA tactics on my part).When we got there,she insisted that I remove my sneakers before entering the bedroom(some shit about the rug).Not expecting to take a girl home that night,I got careless and I wore a pair of kicks that smelled like an NYC sewer SMFH!So when she told me to remove them,in my head,I was like,”Oh shit,hell NO!!!I’m not about to embarrass myself and have this chic’s crib smelling like a bag of stale-corn chips“!I tried working around it(having sex in the living room instead),but she insisted the bedroom.I eventually gave up,and hit her with some lame excuse as to why I had to leave LMAO.So I essentially didn’t give her the dick she wanted because of stinky feet.
And a lot of us guys who have pride,or are pretty much sane,would’ve done the same to avoid an awkward situation.
Same as a girl who has pride would be embarrassed to remove her shoes to get in bed if her toes were visibly jacked-up.
Same as she would flake or turn you down for sex if she’s on her period.
Just as a girl who gave a shit about her appearance won’t show up on a date on a bad-hair day.
But it’s so ironic after all these years of studying Game,I never thought that flaking and LMR(last-minute resistance) could’ve been results of her Period & Grooming(lack there of).My PUA mentor Thundercat aka Joseph Matthews, was spot on with his observations.
Nice guys and Gay men are one in the same to her.
I’ve always noticed that certain women only hang with certain guys.
Certain women only give their #’s to certain guys.
Certain women only lie in bed with certain men,etc.
Certain women only go driving with certain men.
I’ve been aware of this occurrence for years now.And I figured it out,but I’m curious to know if other guys are aware of this tangent.
For Instance:
Girl says that she doesn’t go anywhere with guys.I’d call her later on and she would tell me that she’s going for a drive to the beach with a guy.Cool!!!Contradiction but cool!
So one day,I analyzed the theme which keeps playing out,then realize that:Girls hang out with men whom they know are harmless.
If she knows or sense that you have a chance to lay her or take advantage of her weak frame:She will not give you that chance unless you trick her into it!
It’s the same reason why women enjoy being around gay men/harmless men who will not try to fuck her.She can essentially let down her guard without worrying about being mind fucked and manipulated into being fucked(although she wants that).
Equivalent to the gay guys are guys whom she had LJBF’d(friend zoned).
A chic would lie in bed butt-ass-naked with a guy she had friend zoned LMAO!
Why?
Because she knows he’s virtually harmless.He will not try to bang her,seduce her nor touch her[although she craves those things].
And if that guy-friend does make that fatal mistake to try make a move on her,it’d feel awkward and it’d be his ass!!!
That is why it’s a BAD idea to try friend your way into a girl’s underwears:it won’t happen!Women do NOT fuck their guy friends.Nor do they fuck their gay-male friends.
So essentially,a guy whom she’d befriended is equivalent to a gay man.There is no sexual desire there on her part towards him.
On the contrary,once she knows that she’s sexually attracted to you,and that you can possibly bang her;she will flake on you(few times before meeting),she will test you,shit test you,do shit to intentionally piss you off and throw you off your Game…in hopes that you’d give up[eventhough she doesn't want you to give up].
But she will never do those things with her gay friend,nor with a guy she’d friend zoned.
If her male friend wants to come over and snuggle and talk about her man problems:she will invite him over.
If her male friend want to drive her to the beach during the night to watch the stars:she will never flake on him.
If he wants to take her to a party:she will go(to watch other men).
She would even call him up every so often to drive her here or there.
She absolutely trust that he won’t make a move on her(which he never does BTW).
There was a hot teacher in my neighborhood who liked the shit out of me[I blogged about her right here].I picked her up,got her # and all,but she kept flaking on me(despite her obvious liking for me).Found out that she was flaking on me to go by my neighbor’s to hang and chat.
The dude who she’d go see(we’re pretty cool) told me that they never fucked or anything.He said they were just friends.He tried once but she rejected his sexual advances.He has no reason to lie.
When I thought about it,he most likely made the mistake of befriending her than trying to lay her.
So my point is,she had put him in the harmless basket.So she has no problems with freely going by him to hang out.
She also knows that I’m dangerous,in the sense that I’d lay her in a heartbeat,so she will never give me that opportunity to get close to her unless I trick her in essence to hang out.That’s where good Game comes in.
So guys,if a girl is freely willing to hang out with you without any form of resistance(flake,shit tests,etc.),you may be in the harmless basket and don’t even know it.You might’ve put yourself in the friendzone and not know it.
Remember,if a girl is attracted to you:she WILL and MUST fuck with your Game in order to weed you out as an Alpha(dominant fuck buddy) or Beta(weak friend).
2011 was my worst year ever[with chics & $$].
Bye bye Bastard!2011 can kiss my black ass!!
Why all the ranting and cursing?Just relieved that that wicked year is now behind me.Gloom & Doom pundits talking about 2012 being the end of the world…shit…2011 was the end of my world.My life had turned for the worse on 2 major fronts:Women & Money.
Economics
*I was virtually unemployed for the whole 2011.
*Flat-fucking broke for the most part[thankful that my on & off GF/babymama was generous enough to give me a financial lift at times].
*Weird irony[that's an irony in itself lol]:despite being unemployed the entire year of 2011,I miraculously obtained some cash to buy diapers and to squander at bars and clubs[Ok I know-bad decision to chose to buy booze when I'm broke].
*I was never the odd-job type nor the hustler,but I did a stint of construction(which I hated),home repairing for some old folks in my neighborhood LMAO,painting jobs for my landlord(to make up for owed rent)…
*During the real recession years of 2008,I was actually well-off financially and economically.Was working most of the year,got severed(due to the economical down-turn)then rehired a month later…So during the REAL recession-I was ok.Stalk contrast to 2011 which was supposed to be a post recession year.
Picking up women
Wow!Where the fuck should I start!!?2011 was the equivalent of Armageddon for me when it came to pick up.
*I had more success as a newbie to game as I did as a coach in 2011 LMAO[that's staggering]!
*I’d been flaked on by chics more times in 2011 than the combined years of being in the pick-up community.
*9 out of every 10 girls I #-closed resulted in flakes:be it online or in street pick ups.It was a flakerthon for my ass!Most of my flakes were documented on the pick-up artist forum website.
I can already sense a shifting tide although 2012 hasn’t even began yet[just the first week].
So hopefully 2011 was the worst it could’ve gotten for me on the chic front and financial front.My boy Johnny MILF Quest can relate lol.
Goodbye flakey-ass women!And Adios to unemployment[that's if I manage to find a stable job lmao].
“She’s my WHORE-not yours”!!!
Before anyone try crucify me for labeling women as whores…-I can explain lol[BTW,hope I don't lose any valued- female readers].
Plus I didn’t call her a whore-the other guy did!
Ok let’s dive right in!
Hold on!Before I do,I just wanna say that I learned a valuable lesson from this incident.And I see other guys making this same elusive mistake on the regular.
Anyway,few years ago,I went through a massive sexual drought for about 2 months.I mean,I couldn’t lay anything if my life depended on it!I was better off going celibate opposed to virtually killing myself from not getting any coochie[SMDH]!
So what a man to do…?
Start banging Hookers like there’s no tomorrow!!?Naaaaah!BTW, I’m not against purchasing some cheap ass at a whore house-but I opted for a more challenging experience:Search for some quick ass[go fucking figure]!
In search of a Hood Rat
Few of my buddies[Unit & M***a]were banging a neighborhood rat,so they gave me the plug and the scoop on her.We all met up at a bar and my wingman Unit phoned the chicc to meet us there.
The plan was for me to get some quick ass later on after spitting some mediocre game at her.
The PYT came through,we all chatted,flirted hard,exchanged #’s and all.She told me to call her later that night[YES!!!!].
Finally!I’m gonna satiate this nagging-sexual urge that’s been killing me for 2 months now!
So I thought.
Later that night after the bar:
Called the PYT(Pretty Young Thing)hoodrat.No answer!Phone rang out and went straight to voice mail.
Called again about 10 minutes later.Same shit!
Fuck!!!!!
Called up my wingman Unit:
Me:”Yo,I thought you told me this chicc’s supposed to be free right now”!!
Unit:”That’s what she said at the bar.Don’t sweat it.Ima scoop her up in my ride and meet up with you later”.
That never materialized.
Following night,I’m in beast-mode to the fullest.Pissed off that this b**** would play me like this by not answering ,nor replying.
Called her up Saturday night.Finally:there is a God lol!!!
She hit with me the classic BS,“Oh I fell asleep”.Whateva!
We set up a meet for 8 pm.Trying to not come off as needy and desperate like an AFC-I called a little after 8[wink wink].
Guess what…?
Yep!The b**** screened my called straight to voice mail LMAO!
At that point,I went Charlie Sheen!I couldn’t believe this witch had the proverbial balls to flake on me!
“Doesn’t she know who I am!!?I’m a fucking pick-up artist.I lay hot b****es for a living”!
Note:It’s funny how we guys rationalize things to ourselves when we’re flaked on(smh).
Called her back,no answer.Few hours elapsed,no return call from her.
Called up my wing Unit:”Unit,meet me at Burton’s bar”!
At the bar:
Me:”Man,I can’t believe she played me again.This witch is a known slut in the town but she chooses me to bullshit”!
Unit:”I don’t know what she’s up to but I fucked her again earlier today at the beach”.
Some random dude next to us over heard the convo and chimed in:
“She’s my whore:not yours”!
I thought he had 1 too many fucking Red Stripes[a Jamaican beer]for butting in my shit.
So he went on to say this:“What I mean is…just because a girl is a whore and she sleeps around doesnt mean she’s gonna sleep with you and every guy”.
Wow!How powerful those words I thought!
Long story short:I gladly took that as a loss.
The Lesson:
Just as the random half- inebriated guy at the bar said:Not every girl who sleeps around is gonna sleep with any guy.For whatever reason that girl flaked on me:she had her reasons!
Eventhough that was a few years ago,the lessons from that situation has been hardwired into my brains ever since.
I no longer prejudge certain girls based on their social status[be it low or high].You still may have to work hard to attract and seduce her just as if she were a girl of high social status.
Lesson friggin’ learned.
Chelios PUA
