Fat-Girl Complex

Disclaimer:

I’m in no way,shape or form writing this article to disrespect plus-sized women,nor to demean anyone by putting forth my insights on the matter at hand.

Ok,let’s get to the meat of the issue.

First off,I have no problems dating big women,nor picking up chubby girl.Matter of fact,I believe big girls are very desirable.

However,over the years,I’ve noticed a weird trend or trait when it comes to big girls:they have a complex which generally pops up in harmless interactions.

For Example:

Me:”So Jasmin,what do you think about Techno music,do you like”?

Jasmin:”Techno is great.I’m feeling Dj Tiesto”.

Me:”Ok cool.Tiesto’s a king.I wanna witness him live in concert one day before I die”.

[Now check out this out of the blue response by her,which seems to hint at her insecurities based on her being overweight]

Jasmin:”Yea I love live concerts too.I’m the type of girl who does what see wanna do without caring what anyone thinks”.

Analysis:

Now,the above scenario was fictional.Nevertheless,it follows a common theme when interacting with ‘big girls’:whether in person or online.

It seems as though they always seek a moment in the chat to insert a quasi dominance proclamation or statement,which most times has no place being there.

Examples:

*”I love myself more than I love anyone else”.

*”I hate when people judge me but I don’t give a shit”.

*”I only care about myself and my relatives.Anyone else can go to hell”.

*”I can be a bitch at times and very aggressive”.

Ok,the above quotes are just examples of what you’d hear coming from a big girl during a chat(usually the first conversation upon meeting).

Big girls always want to be aggressive

This is another true tangent I’ve noticed I’ve the years as well.This is very prevalent during the initial conversation.

Not a minute would go by in the dialogue before a big girl say some random shit like this:”I’m usually seen as a bitch,and a lot of men are intimidated by me and my strong views“.

From my experience,slim girls don’t come off this way.They just don’t say shit like that at random!Even if they do,it would’ve been in context and relevant.

But whenever a big girl makes such remarks,it’s usually coming from a point of ‘insecurity,vanity or LSE(low-self esteem)’.

And if you call them out on it-they will deny deny deny lol!Deny being insecure or having issues with fitting in(socially).

Personal Experience

I was inspired to write this article after a dialogue I had with a BBW over the past 2 days via e-mail.

Me:”So do you find that you’re judged often in social settings”?

BBW:”Used to.But nowadays it’s different”.

Me:”Ok that’s cool.

BBW:”I’m the type of women you’d call a bitch or aggressive just by the way I come off at times”.

Note:The last reply of hers was totally un-called for.Nothing wrong with being genuinely detailed.But that remark was drenched in INSECURITY,as if to try convince me that she’s some ‘big-bad wolf’.

That is where the “Big-Girl Complex” comes in.

It’s no different than a short-man/little-man complex.Usually guys who are shorter than average:perhaps the shortest guy in the office,would often times try to compensate for this social handicap by seeming more aggressive,louder than the others and bolder.

I’ve had thousands of interactions under my belt with fat girls,chubby girls or whatever names best suit them,and the one common denominator is AGGRESSION.

They feign being more aggressive(verbally)than thinner women.

And they also falsely try projecting themselves as being super confident,comfortable and more self-assured than any other women on Earth.

And when put on the spot,it’s always an attitudish rebuttal as if someone has wronged them.

Well perhaps society & the media have wronged them.

But it’s definitely not helping their case by coming off as verbally and emotionally aggressive whenever they’re in social settings or interactions.

Men are generally turned off by women who seem too self-assured,i.e.the female CEO,the professional woman,the female entrepreneur,the independent types.Those women are virtually deemed unapproachable by the average guy.

Women of power,or perceived power,are very friggin lonely,because the positions they hold subcommunicate to men that they are of TOO higher value to approach.

Thus when a plus-sized girl tries coming off as (too) sure of herself,or bitchy,she’s practically digging her own grave[as far as dating is concerned].

With that false mindset,it’s no surprise why big girls are pretty much lonely,or they have major problems with finding decent men who are willing to give them a fair chance at dating.

Yes-it’s a harsh world out there where women are judged by the size of their dresses,or how many stretch marks she has(if any).

But it’s damn sure not helping by pretending to be the HBIC(head bitch in charge).